Geld, Sex, Macht und Tod gelten im menschlichen Zusammenleben als Tabus. Übersetzt spricht dieser Begriff vom Heiligen und zugleich vom Verbotenen. Diese Themen sind im Kollektivbewusstsein mit Scham [BW 20], Schuld [BW 30] und Angst [BW 100] behaftet; doch auf einem spirituellen Weg sind sie wichtige Lernaufgaben, an denen ein Mensch die Gelegenheit hat zu wachsen. Diese Prüfsteine auf unterschiedlichen Stationen des Weges weisen den spirituellen Aspiranten besonders klar und deutlich auf ihre Schatten hin und bringt sie ans Licht.

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Die drei evangelischen Räte

Die so genannten drei evangelischen Räte sind Gelübde

der Armut,
der Keuschheit und
des Gehorsams von zölibatär lebenden Mönchen und Nonnen [früherer Jahrhunderte], die ihr Leben dem Geist geweiht hatten. Sie dienten als ein Mittel, um ihren Ego-Impulsen entgegen zu steuern.
Diesen Weg zur Umgehung 'heißer Eisen' wählte auch der indische hinduistische Heilige Ramakrishna (BW 620). Er nahm nur junge Männer als Schüler an, die ein armes und keusches Leben zu führen hatten. Ramakrishna war strikt gegen den Umgang mit Geld und die Ausübung von Sex. Er grenzte die belasteten Themen einfach aus.

Hawkins, in zweiter Ehe verheiratet, ehemals gut verdienender Leiter der größten psychiatrischen Praxis in USA und nach Weisung des Geistes zeitweise Mistbaron und Einsiedler kommentierte dazu, dass ein wahrhaft spirituell Lebender sich heutzutage auch dem ausgewogenen Umgang mit Geld und Sexualität widmet, statt diese Themen auszublenden oder zu negieren.

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Coolidge-Effekt

Präsident Calvin Coolidge und seine Gattin besuchten auf einer Rundreise einige Farmen. Als der Landesherr sich außer Sichtweite befand, zeigte der Farmer der First Lady einen Hahn. Er erklärte seinem Gast stolz:

"Dieser Hahn kann jeden Tag stundenlang mit den Hennen kopulieren".

Die Gattin des Präsidenten bat den Landwirt, ihrem Mann dies ebenfalls mitzuteilen, was er gern tat. Präsident Coolidge überlegte kurz und fragte dann:

"Mit der gleichen Henne?"

"Nein, Sir",

antwortete der Farmer.

"Sagen Sie das bitte Mrs. Coolidge",

erwiderte der Präsident trocken.

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Die radikale Wahrheits-Übung

In seinem 2-stündigen Vortrag zum Thema Sexualität und Sexsucht, aufgenommen 1986, erläutert Hawkins die radikale Wahrheits-Übung, die er generell als Antwort auf Suchtverhalten, Krankheit und Schmerzen empfiehlt.

Höre auf, über deine Empfindungen (deinen Drang) zu grübeln (mentieren) und sie mit Namen (Diagnosen, Urteilen) zu versehen.
Leiste deinen Empfindungen keinen Widerstand mehr. Und erlaube, dass sie über ihr örtliches Vorhandensein hinauswachsen und sich in deiner Aura verteilen.
Übe dich in der Haltung Mögen noch mehr von diesen Empfindungen auftauchen.
Nimm sie ganz an und erlaube, dass sie sich im Prozess der Übergabe vollständig auflösen.

Die 4 Schritte zur Loslösung von Notstandsgefühlen im nichtintegeren Bereich lassen sich beispielsweise anwenden

bei sexueller Begierde, Hungergefühlen oder Verlangen sonstiger Art, bei aufkommden Krankheiten und Schmerzen (wie bspw. auch bei Operationen ohne Narkose)
bei Schuld- und Schamgefühlen und Angst wegen des Verlangens,
bei Stolz, nachdem man seiner Begierde nachgegeben hat und kurzfristige Befriedigung dadurch spürte
und bei weiteren illusionären Gefühlszuständen.

Wer loslässt, wächst über seine wollüstigen Begierden und Gefühle der Scham, Schuld, Angst, Wut und des Stolzes hinaus und erreicht einen gelassenen, nicht verhafteten Zustand, in dem er gleichermaßen in Frieden ist, ob nun das Verlangen vorhanden ist oder nicht, ob es auftaucht oder verschwindet. Der Gelöste betrachtet sein Verlangen aus der Haltung der Harmlosigkeit und weiß, wann es angemessen ist und wie es angemessen zu befriedigen ist.

Um eine BW-Stufe hinter sich lassen zu können,
muss man sie sich in Gänze zu eigen gemacht haben.

Beschleunigen: Die Haltung, dass die anstehenden Schatten-Empfindungen noch stärker auftauchen mögen, ist eine beschleunigte Form, '100 Prozent Verantwortung zu übernehmen' für das, was da ist. Man anerkennt seine Empfindungen vollständig und führt sie nicht (mehr) aus. Die Vorstellung, dass das Verlangen endlos sei, gibt man ebenfalls auf. Es stellt sich heraus, dass es im Prozess der Übergabe austrocknet und irgendwann einfach aufhört.

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Personal avowals

Seduction [...] so many of the gurus you read on the Internet today fall for seduction. And I warn people, when you get in the high 500s you emanate an energy field of love that is entrancing to people. They fall in love with you. Back east one week I remember seven different women came up and asked to go to bed. "I know this is going to sound strange that we haven't even met yet, but I [...]". Over and over again. It's not love. So they misinterpret spiritual love, the energy field, as personal love. Also because of the attraction, power over others. To exploit others, usually monetarily. Power over others, specialness, [...] exploitation of people, teachers who try to tell you what to do, your sex life, your marriage, this kind of thing. It becomes an inflated egotism. And a truly enlightened being has no interest in controlling anyone or anything, [...] much less your sex life. Sedona Satsang Q&A, 2 CD set, 10. January 2007

⚠ Achtung Siehe Power vs. Truth (engl.) Januar 2013

The temptation, the weakness of the 500s, is love-and-seduction. Source unknown

Throughout history and up to current time, there have been a number of well known „gurus“ who became addicted to sex, power and money, and who covered up their actions with clever rationalizations. Those who exhibit wealth, a veneer of spiritual trappings, and who approve of sexual acting out attract many followers. Source unknown

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Contrasting pairs of emotions, feeling states, and attitudes on the issue of sexuality In alphabetical order

Positive (strong) response (above 200) – Negative (weak) response (below 200)

Attractive – Seductive
Carefree – Frivolous
Devoted – Possessive
Erotic – Lustful
Loyal – Chauvinistic

Power vs. Force. The Hidden Determinants of Human Behavior, chapter 9 Power Patterns in Human Attitudes, S. 146-147, Hay House edition, February 2002

Junges Mädchen, das sich gegen Eros Pfeil wehrt
Maler: William-Adolphe Bouguereau, 1880

Denying basic biological needs and instinctual drives is futile. Blocking normal sexual outlets merely results in abnormal sexual outlets. The solutions that have power are the ones realistically based at the level of Acceptance (350) rather than condemnation (150, the level of Anger). In Amsterdam, one section of the city is traditionally designated as a red-light district, quiet and serene with a pastoral atmosphere; its streets are safe. In Buenos Aires, parts of parks are set aside for lovers. The police patrol these areas to protect rather than harass, and all is peaceful. Power vs. Force. The Hidden Determinants of Human Behavior, chapter 11 Power in the Marketplace, S. 168, Hay House edition, February 2002

Question: Sex and money are the temptations that are emphasized by many spiritual groups as the traps to be avoided?
Answer: That tradition has value but also ambigous results. First, it creates an aversion and a sense of sin or guilt about the issues. It also inflates their importance, thereby creating a fear. It is not sex and money that are the problems but the attachments to them. In the nonattached state, there is neither attraction nor aversion. Teachers such as Ramakrishna forbade both sex and money to his young male students. He held that they could be contaminated by even just the energy of sex or money. Inasmuch as greed and desire calibrate below 200 [125], avoidance was an attempt to forestall attachment. However, the desire for sex or money stems from within and can remain within the ego, even though it is not indulged or acted upon. At beginning levels of spiritual training, avoidance may well be the best course, because desires are so strong. The mere willingness to sacrifice sensual pleasure or wordly gain is already of value in learning how to transcend attractions and instinctual drives, and the intensity of spiritual commitment is enhanced. I. Reality and Subjectivity, S. 239, 2003

Whether to eat meat or have sex or work for money are all classic life koans (puzzles, paradoxes) which present themselves to the spiritual initiate. They are valuable because they unearth numerous belief systems for examination. They involve looking at meaning, significance, values, propositions, and attachments. It is rewarding to give up the attachment to the glamour of "being spiritual", "holy", or "special". I. Reality and Subjectivity, chapter 22, S. ?, 2003

The core of the ego is a rebellious anarchist, atheist, and exhibitionist that expects life to be an endless Roman orgy, including intoxicating abandon and polymorphous, perverse sexuality that permits abuse of the naive and vulnerable. Truth vs. Falsehood. How to Tell the Difference, chapter 13 "Truth: The Pathway to reedom", S. 253, 2005

Emotionality of infatuation releases adrenaline and sex hormones, and the much-celebrated phenomenon calibrates amazingly enough at only 145, which reveals that its origin is primarily the mating instinct from the animal nature. In contrast, the consciousness level of Love is accompanied by the release of endorphins. The frantic nature of the mating instinct is a reflection of nature’s way of propagating the species, and very often, after a temporary mating, a couple parts, although some species, such as swans, mate for life. Love also appears in the animal kingdom as an accompaniment to the wagging tail of the dog and the purr of the cat, and it also expresses as maternal love in its self-sacrificial nature. Transcending Levels of Consciousness. The Stairway to Enlightenment, S. 247-248, 2006

The 'lure' of the world is not innate to the world but is instead a projection of desire by the ego that ascribes inflated value to that which is linear and transitory. Discovery of the Presence of God. Devotional Nonduality, chapter 12 The Devotee, S. 206, 2007

Sex⇔Love	LoC	Realm	Tree Field	Orientation Expression	Experience
SEX Desire, Wanting, Craving	145	HELL Separation Duality	Tree of Good and Evil Expulsion from Paradise	Disowned carnal sexuality "out there"	*Shortlived driven satisfaction* Sadness, loss, incompletion, lack, guilt, shame, frustration, anxiety, neuroticism, dysfunctionality
LOVE EMBRACE Lovingness Letting go of desiringness	600+	INFINITE Peace Oneness Nonduality	Tree of Life Garden of Eden	Reowning one's sexuality "in there"	*Longterm emerging contentment* Spontaneous unfolding, aliveness, goodness, eroticism of the heart, sense of innocence, sense of rejoining with oneness, awareness of truth, joy, gratitude, sacredness, subtlety, mystical state, "greatest human experience", completion
Compiled from Healing and Recovery, chapter 6 Sexuality, S. 192-197, 2009
See also stage 1 and 4 here: Three mating drives Helen Fisher ∞ Three types of integration of Yin and Yang Lao Tzu Three stages ✏ ONEness – 1 ✏ 1,000

People are the source of their own sexuality. Healing and Recovery, chapter 6 Sexuality, S. 190, 2009

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universal man and universal woman are mutually attractive and transformative.

Out of lovingness emerges the desire to experience the other person's energy. In that clear space, masculinity and femininity are mutually attractive. It is as though universal man is with universal woman, transcending the personality. Healing and Recovery, chapter 6 Sexuality, S. 190, 2009

When that sense of oneness occurs, it is as if we transcend all of time, as if we have been all of men forever and all of women forever. We own the source, we are that out of which the experience arises. We are no longer at the effect of it, but the expression of it, with its incredible sacredness and beauty. Healing and Recovery, chapter 6 Sexuality, S. 195, 2009

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Recontextualizing problems in regard to sexuality

Returning to the joy of our innocence

Recontextualization settles the problems that man has talked about having to do with sexuality because, in the subtlety of that inner experience is the reconnection with the joy of our innocence. The whole question of whether God approves of sex disappears.
In the experience of that aliveness, oneness, and joy as one moves up to an infinite state of inner peace and completion (because completion is peace), it is found that peace is that sense of absolute oneness and the rejoining with oneness. Within the sexuality that arises out of the heart is the return to the experience of being complete. It is the mystical quality of transcendence, a sense of unlimited everywhereness. Healing and Recovery, chapter 6 Sexuality, S. 195, 2009

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Transcending homosexuality

One can pray about the matter. Biologically 6% of males are born with a homosexual orientation. It occurs in primitive societies. […] It seems to be biologically based. […] It also occurs in animals to a small percentage. What you do is you try to move it up to the highest level of love and you will eventually transcend it. Audio interview The True Meaning of Healing and Recovery, presented by VoiceAmerica 7th Wave Channel, Talk Radio Program 'Align Shine Prosper', host Doreen Agostino, prweb.com/releases, MP3, aired 23. September 2009 – Radio interview (September 23 2009), minute 41:51, YouTube film, 42:46 minutes duration, posted 22. March 2011

Approaching sexuality from the viewpoint of desire itself [...] we saw that desire has sort of a negative energy field. And the negative energy field seems to bring in the propensity for all of these negative energy fields to come in. So that it isn't just the desiringness, but it seems to bring with it a whole negative energy field which makes us prone to the guilt and the apathy, the grief, the fear, the anger, the pridefulness, the anxiety about performance. When we're free of desire, therefore, we're released from guilt. We're released from remorse. We're released from anticipation, from maybe it won't happen. All of these energies arising then, almost en mass, almost as a unit. We begin, we let go worrying about what's going to happen with sexuality as we get older. The whole question about 'are you over the hill' when you're 40, 50, 60, whatever 'over the hill' means in your cultural group. The anxiety about giving and getting, the desire to keep, to own, to hold, to manipulate, to control. All of that disappears. If the orientation now is coming from the heart, if one is let go of desiringness, then it is only another way of being with another person. And we find that sexuality continues on into old age unimpaired. Archival Office Visit Series Sexuality, A-4, 1 CD / DVD, 1980s

Geburt der Venus; Maler: Sandro Botticelli

I noticed that the skin, and that one's energy – overall available energy, one's libido, one's erotic interest in life – is more than sex. It's an interest, a pleasurable, joyous interest in all of life. Farmingdale, New York, Seminar Giving Up Illness and not Recognizing Death through A Course in Miracles, sponsored by The Bridgebuilders, CD 1 of 3, 11. June 1983

There's enough unconscious as well as conscious sexual guilt to give everybody a case of herpes, right? I mean, who doesn’t walk around in this Protestant ethic without all kinds of sexual guilt? Farmingdale, New York, Seminar Giving Up Illness and not Recognizing Death through A Course in Miracles, sponsored by The Bridgebuilders, CD 2 or 3 of 3, 11. June 1983

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Pop bisexuality

Pop bisexuality represents degeneracy in civilization. Video/Audio lecture with muscle testing demonstration Power vs. Force, Volume |, 2 DVD set, 1996

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Childhood sexual abuse memories

US American psychoanalyst Jeffrey Moussaieff Masson (*1941) debunked Freud's seduction theory in his book The Assault on Truth. Freud's Suppression of the Seduction Theory, 1984.
See also: Confabulation

Childhood sexual abuse memories are false 80% of the time. They're mostly unconscious fantasies. Freudian theories are closer to the truth about it than modern pop psychology. Video/Audio lecture with muscle testing demonstration Power vs. Force, Volume I, 2 DVD set, 1996

The satanic can take the form of sexual seduction ("Sex is holy."). Sedona Seminar Realization of the Self: Final Moments, 3 DVD set, 14. December 2002

Sex, money, eating and other expressions necessary for physical survival calibrate at 200-205. They're basically neutral with little, if any, power. The intentions behind them can have major consequences. Sedona Seminar Perceptions and Positionality, 3 DVD set, 19. June 2004

You project your own animal lust onto someone else and you think they have sex appeal. It is a hard one to get rid of when you are young (transcending sexual desire). Sedona Seminar God, Religion and Spirituality, 3 DVD set, 10. December 2005

Who doesn't walk around in this Protestant ethic without all kinds of sexual guilt? Sedona Seminar God, Religion and Spirituality, 3 DVD set, 10. December 2005

Recognize the biologic nature of sex, and it will help you release some of the guilt. Sedona Seminar Spiritual Practice and Daily Life, 3 DVD set, 21. October 2006

Question: My ego is going through turmoil. Some attachments are difficult to work with. I have been trying to let them go, but it is hard.
Answer: Look to see, if there are building blocks below. What are your attachments?
Reply: Sexual pleasure.
Answer: Sensual attachments are very common and hard to overcome. Try to be without and you will find that you don't need it. Be with the cravingness. For example you can go without food for days. Live it (the attachments) out. They will burn out. You are really addicted to sensory pleasure. Letting go of it will teach you that there are no sensory needs. These are animal instincts. You can be happy living in a box with only an apple to eat. What you need karmically will be provided. Sedona Satsang Q&A, 2 CD set, 8. November 2006

Women are more non-linear than men! That should increase compatibility of the sexes. [Calibrated as true.] Sedona Seminar Is the Miraculous Real?, 3 DVD set, 9. December 2006

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Homosexuality – biological fact

Answer: I view homosexuality as biologic and gentle. When it creates a dilemma it utilizes all of one's psychological and spiritual understandings to try to understand what it is. [Homosexuality] is no more of a bond than heterosexuality, which is an addiction.
What you try to do is: Let go the addiction part of sexuality. So that you are not run by it and reach a platonic state. To me that's ideal.
The fulfillment of that potential / pathway is unconditional platonic love. So that you almost get to the point that you would die for them [the loved one] out of an intense spiritual love. […] You turn it to a pathway. Addiction serves as a pathway, a fast way to God. […] You either get it or die. Sedona Satsang Q&A Golden Word Book Signing hour, CD 2 of 3, track 5, minute 1:20-4:30, 13. January 2007

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Masturbation

Masturbation is not that big of a problem as it's not really hurting anyone. It's been demonized and people used to say it caused mental illness. Attachment and lust can be blocks to higher states. [Paraphrased.] Sedona Seminar The Human Dilemma, 3 DVD set, 18. August 2007

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Sex addiction: Extinguishing the tempting and triggering mental pictures

In today's world it is hard to do [extinguishing the tempting and triggering mental pictures].
Lust is paraded across the television set night after night, lust in one form or another. It's like an obsession.
A school principal can't appear to tell us about […] She's got to have cleavage down to here. [Points at his lower chest.] What does she need cleavage for to tell us about the problems she's having with her kindergarden? If I were the producer of that show I would tell her, "Get a big safety pin and button the damn thing up, for God's sake. We are not running a whorehouse here, we are running a television program." The parade of lust is just endless. Sedona Seminar Belief, Trust and Credibility, 3 DVD set, 14. June 2008 – The Cravingness Of Desires, YouTube film, minute 1:25, 3:10 minutes duration, posted by SpiritualBuzz 19. May 2012

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Homosexuality is genetic.

Homosexuality is genetic. It is not a personal failure or a moral issue.
6% of the population is born homosexual. It also exists in the animal kingdom. [Paraphrased.] Cottonwood Seminar Spiritual Life in Today's World, 3 DVD set, 16. October 2010

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Sex addiction

Formerly published by reuniting.info Recovery and Withdrawal

One thing a sex addiction does to our character is deprive men of their power. Many addictive behaviors are an attempt to regain personal power, and this is especially so with sexual addictions. A man can escape their feelings of powerlessless by masturbating to fantasy or porn or they can pursue validation from a woman by achieving sex with her. These acts fall short of truly empowering yourself as a man. If this behavior goes unchecked, a man can have serious problems asserting his genuine needs to a woman and will remain unfulfilled in gaining true intimacy. Self-doubt, weakness, and depression can take over a man's character and render him incompetent in meeting the demands of life and any fulfilling relationship. By giving our addictions so much power, we are throwing our power away to women at every step. This is unnatural for a man to do as a man, by nature, is a leader and protector. A woman does not want to see a groveling worm with no self control and a wishy washy nature. They require that a man have a strong core. If a woman is attracted to a worm, she is sick, and she will undoubtedly reinforce 'wormy' behaviors in him, which he will more than willingly do for the sake of meeting his sexual desires.
As long as we stay active in our sexual addictions, we will remain emotional children in men's bodies and never experience the feeling of living up to our adult nature. It's a form of emotional retardation and can only produce depression as we are not living according to our nature and not exercising our true talents and capacities. Sedona Seminar What is Real?, 3 DVD set, 16. June 2007

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Es ist nicht gut, dass der Mensch allein sei. 1. Mose 2, 18 (AT)

Wisst ihr nicht: Wer der Hure anhängt, ist ein Leib [mit ihr]? Denn "es werden“, heißt es, "die zwei ein Fleisch sein.“ Wer aber dem Herrn anhängt, der ist ein Geist [mit ihm]. Flieht die Unzucht! Jede Sünde, die ein Mensch begeht, ist außerhalb des Leibes. Wer aber Unzucht treibt, sündigt gegen seinen eigenen Leib. Oder wisst ihr nicht, dass euer Leib ein Tempel des Heiligen Geistes ist, der in euch ist und den ihr von Gott habt, und dass ihr nicht euch selbst gehört? Denn ihr seid teuer erkauft; darum preist Gott mit eurem Leib. Apostel Paulus, 1. Korinther 6, 16-20 (NT)

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Weibliche Sexsklaven von "erleuchteten" tibetisch buddhistischen Lamas

Meine Einwilligung, in eine geheime sexuelle Beziehung einzutreten, basierte vor allem auf der Verpflichtung zu Hingabe und Gehorsam, die für alle, die in der nächsten Umgebung des Lamas lebten, von zentraler Bedeutung ist. Ausserdem machte die Forderung, den Lama als göttlich anzusehen, es mir praktisch unmöglich, sein Urteilsvermögen bezüglich aller Fragen, die meine eigene spirituelle Entwicklung betrafen, anzuzweifeln. June Campbell (*~1945) schottische Religionswissenschaftlerin, akademische Feministin, ehemalige Kagyu-Nonne, persönliche Übersetzerin des tibetischen Lamas Kalu Rinpoche, Göttinnen, Dakinis und ganz normale Frauen. Weibliche Identität im tibetischen Tantra, S. 165, Theseus, 1997

Tatsächlich jedoch lief das, was geschah, den ursprünglich eindeutig egalitären tantrischen Vorstellungen völlig zuwider, da ich mit Forderungen konfrontiert wurde, in denen weder Achtung meinem Körper und meiner Person gegenüber zum Ausdruck kam, noch Rücksicht auf meine Gefühle genommen wurde [...] irgendwann sah ich mich dann nicht mehr in der Lage, weiterhin eine Beziehung zu einer angesehenen Autoritätsperson [Kalu Rinpoche] aufrechtzuerhalten, die ständig meine Persönlichkeitsgrenzen verletzte und von mir bedingungslose Unterwerfung erwartete. June Campbell (*~1945) schottische Religionswissenschaftlerin, akademische Feministin, ehemalige Kagyu-Nonne, persönliche Übersetzerin des tibetischen Lamas Kalu Rinpoche, Göttinnen, Dakinis und ganz normale Frauen. Weibliche Identität im tibetischen Tantra, S. 166, Theseus, 1997

Der Körper des Mannes gehört der Frau, der Körper der Frau gehört dem Mann. "Paarregel" nach Hildegard von Bingen (1098-1179) deutsche Äbtissin des Benediktiner-Ordens, Gelehrte, Heilkundige, Mystikerin, Schriftstellerin, Komponistin

Die Objektwahl des geschlechtsreifen Individuums wird auf das gegenteilige Geschlecht eingeengt, die meisten außergenitalen Befriedigungen als Perversionen untersagt. Die in diesen Verboten kundgegebene Forderung eines für alle gleichwertigen Sexuallebens setzt sich über die Ungleichheiten in der angeborenen und erworbenen Sexualkonstitution der Menschen hinaus, schneidet eine ziemliche Anzahl von ihnen vom Sexualgenuss ab und wird so die Quelle schwerer Ungerechtigkeit. Sigmund Freud [BW 499] (1856-1939) österreichischer Neurologe, Tiefenpsychologe, Begründer der Psychoanalyse, Religionskritiker

Liebe und Sex gesunder Menschen ist, obwohl sie häufig Gipfel großer Ekstase erreichen, nichtsdestoweniger auch den Spielen von Kindern und jungen Tieren vergleichbar. Sie sind fröhlich, humorvoll und verspielt. Abraham H. Maslow [BW 475] (1908-1970) US-amerikanischer transpersonaler Psychologe, Glücksforscher, Motivation und Persönlichkeit, S. 228, Rowohlt Verlag, Reinbek bei Hamburg, 2002

Häufig wird die Exklusivität der erotischen Liebe mit dem Wunsch verwechselt, vom anderen Besitz zu ergreifen. Man findet oft zwei "Verliebte", die niemanden sonst lieben. Ihre Liebe ist dann in Wirklichkeit ein Egoismus zu zweit; es handelt sich dann um zwei Menschen, die sich miteinander identifizieren und die das Problem des Getrenntseins so lösen, dass sie das Alleinsein auf zwei Personen erweitern. Erich Fromm (1900-1980) deutsch-amerikanischer Sozialpsychologe, Psychoanalytiker, humanistischer Philosoph, Sozialpsychologe, Die Kunst des Liebens

Wirkliche Erotik kann nur wachsen zwischen Gleichen und nicht zwischen Ungleichen. Alice Schwarzer (*1942) führende deutsche Feministin, Journalistin, EMMA-Herausgeberin, Und ewig zittere das Weib (Artikel) und Alice im Männerland. Eine Zwischenbilanz, Buch Kiepenheuer & Witsch, 2002

Sex, Geld und Tod sind die größten Tabus in unserer heutigen Zeit. Bernard Lietaer (*1942) ehemaliger belgischer Zentralbankier, Erfinder der Euro-Währung, professioneller Währungsspekulant, visionärer Ökonom

Der Sündenfall unserer Spezies liegt in der Abkehr von der Tradition der Verehrung des Weiblichen und der weiblichen Sexualität und von allem, was Sexualität für uns bedeutete. Naomi Wolf (*1962) US-amerikanische Literaturwissenschaftlerin, politische Aktivistin, führende Sprecherin der Dritten Welle des Feminismus, Schriftstellerin, Vagina. Eine Geschichte der Weiblichkeit, S. ?, Rowohlt-Verlag, Reinbek bei Hamburg, 2. Mai 2013

Die kulturelle Wahrnehmung der Vagina prägt das weibliche Gehirn. Wenn eine Frau also ein Leben lang hört, dass ihre Vagina als 'klaffende Wunde' oder 'Schlitz' bezeichnet wird, wird sich diese Wahrnehmung ihrer Vagina neural in ihrem Gehirn verankern; hört sie dagegen regelmäßig die Bezeichnung 'Jadetor', werden Gehirn und Wahrnehmung von dieser einfühlsameren Metapher entsprechend geprägt.
In der chinesischen Han-Dynastie (206 v. Chr. bis 220 n. Chr.) oder im Indien des 5. oder im Japan des 13. Jahrhunderts, als die Vagina als allerheiligster Ort im allerheiligsten Tempel eines heiligen Universums galt, fasste auch das weibliche Gehirn die Vagina als heilig auf. Als die Kultur des mittelalterlichen Europa die Vagina während der Hexenverfolgungen als Tummelplatz des Teufels und Tor zur Hölle brandmarkte, dürfte sich eine Frau in ihrem Kern beschämt gefühlt haben.
Eine Frau im elisabethanischen England, wo die Vagina als 'Loch' beschrieben wurde, dürfte innerlich Leere oder Wertlosigkeit empfunden haben; und nach Freud, als die Kultur zumindest in Deutschland, England und Amerika die vaginale Erregbarkeit zum Test für Weiblichkeit erhebt, empfindet sich die Frau womöglich als unzureichend weiblich. Wenn die Kultur, der eine Frau angehört – wie heute in der sexuellen Hochglanz-Athletik des Westens –, das Idealbild der Vagina als Produzentin auf Knopfdruck abrufbarer multipler Orgasmen vermittelt, wird die Frau das Gefühl haben, einer ständigen Prüfung unterworfen zu sein, die sie nicht bestehen kann. Naomi Wolf (*1962) US-amerikanische Literaturwissenschaftlerin, politische Aktivistin, führende Sprecherin der Dritten Welle des Feminismus, Schriftstellerin, Vagina. Eine Geschichte der Weiblichkeit, S. ?, Rowohlt-Verlag, Reinbek bei Hamburg, 2. Mai 2013

Begehre, wen du willst, aber vergewissere dich immer, dass die Entscheidung deine eigene ist. Wirklich frei sind wir erst, wenn wir unser Leben und unsere Sexualität nicht von Zeiterscheinungen diktieren lassen. Jean-Claude Guillebaud (*1944) algerisch-französischer Schriftsteller, Essayist

Das Verhältnis der Geschlechter ist der unsichtbare Mittelpunkt aller Handlungen. Arthur Schopenhauer (1788-1860) deutscher Philosoph, Hochschullehrer, Autor, Metaphysik der Geschlechtsliebe

Für mich ist der Körper der Tempel der Seele und Sex ein Geschenk Gottes. Der Moment, in dem wir einen Orgasmus haben, ist dem der religiösen Ekstase ähnlich. Paulo Coelho (*1947) brasilianischer esoterischer Schriftsteller, Bestseller-Autor

Nun beweisen gerade Menschen mit Sexualangst, die sie nicht durch Abstumpfung und Flucht nach vorne überspielen können, dass sie die geschlechtliche Hingabe als ein ganzheitliches, leib-seelisches Sich-füreinander-Öffnen und In-sich-Eindringen betrachten, sonst hätten sie ebensowenig Angst vor der Sexualität wie vor dem Essen und Trinken als bloßer Bedürfnisbefriedigung. Ohne es zu wissen, haben sie also die richtige Auffassung von der Sexualität und beweisen gerade durch ihre Angst eine größere Begabung zur Liebe als andere, die diese Angst nie wahrgenommen haben. Sie sehen nicht nur die erotische Hingabe richtiger, sondern auch die damit verbundenen Schwierigkeiten. Sie überspielen diese Schwierigkeiten nicht in einer abgespaltenen, einseitig auf körperliche Spannung und Entspannung ausgerichteten Sexualität, sondern müssen nun beginnen, sich in den vielfältigen Formen der Hingabe an das Du zu üben, unter anderem auch in der Sexualität. Peter Schellenbaum (*1939) Schweizer Psychoanalytiker, Sachbuchautor, Das Nein in der Liebe. Abgrenzung und Hingabe in der erotischen Beziehung, Kreuz Verlag, Stuttgart, 5. Auflage, August 1992, S. 98, Deutscher Taschenbuch Verlag, 1. Februar 1993

Tiefgreifende Veränderungen anzustreben, heißt, Lösungen zu suchen, die verletzlich machen – und genau das lehnen die meisten Menschen ab. […] Paradoxerweise wirkt genau das, was scheinbar zu nichts führt. […] Die Ermutigung, sich anderen Menschen gegenüber verletzlich zu zeigen, bietet einen Ausweg aus der Scham. Patrick Carnes, Ph.D. C.A.S., führender US-amerikanischer Sexsucht-Therapeut, Minneapolis, Wenn Sex zur Sucht wird, S. 254, Kösel-Verlag, 1992

Scham und Heimlichkeit waren mitverantwortlich für die Entstehung der Sexsucht und Scham und Heimlichkeit (Sicherheit in der Anonymität) und behindern auch ihre Überwindung. Patrick Carnes, Ph.D. C.A.S., führender US-amerikanischer Sexsucht-Therapeut, Minneapolis, Wenn Sex zur Sucht wird, S. 431, Kösel-Verlag, 1992

Wir müssen den Kindesmissbrauch und die Ausbeutung verletzlicher Erwachsener offen benennen. Patrick Carnes, Ph.D. C.A.S., führender US-amerikanischer Sexsucht-Therapeut, Minneapolis, Wenn Sex zur Sucht wird, Kösel-Verlag, 1992, S. 435

Sigmund Freud hatte 1896 frühzeitig erkannt, dass zahlreiche Kinder, in erster Linie Mädchen von Familienangehörigen und hier hauptsächlich von ihren Vätern sexuell missbraucht wurden. Diese Entdeckung war hochexplosiv und mochten seine FachkollegInnen nicht akzeptieren, so dass Freud geschnitten und isoliert wurde. Als S. Freud seine «irrtümliche» Auffassung aufgegeben hatte, bekam er wieder Zugang zur medizinischen Fachwelt, von der er zuvor geschnitten worden war. Freud widerrief 1905 öffentlich die Verführungstheorie (d.h. sexueller Kindesmissbrauch), und schon 1908 hatten sich ihm angesehene Ärzte angeschlossen: Paul Federn, Isidor Sadger, Sandor Ferenczi, Max Eitington, Carl Gustav Jung, Ludwig Binswanger, Karl Abraham, Abraham Brill und Ernest Jones. Psychoanalytiker waren nicht besonders interessiert an Freuds Motiven seines Gesinnungswandel, auch wenn sie mit ihm überzeugt waren und sind, dass die Psychoanalyse sich nur in der Absage an die «Verführungstheorie» entwickeln konnte. Rudolf Sponsel, Erlangen, Der Widerruf der Missbrauchstheorie ("Verführungstheorie") durch Sigmund Freud, bzgl. Jeffrey M. Massons Forschungsergebnissen

Wenn Sex richtig verstanden wird, gibt es bald keine Persönlichkeits- und Machtprobleme mehr zwischen Paaren. Wir realisieren gar nicht, wie kraftvoll Sexualität ist und wie sie unseren Alltag und unsere Partnerschaft beeinflusst. Diana Richardson, südafrikanische Buchautorin, http://www.sattundgluecklich.de/diana-richardson.htmlPionierin der sexuellen Evolution

Wie die meisten Psychiater habe ich geglaubt, dass niemand seine homosexuelle Orientierung verändern kann. Ich habe nun erkannt, dass dies falsch ist. Hochmotivierte Homosexuelle können heterosexuell werden! Robert L. Spitzer (*1932) US-amerikanischer Professor für Psychiatrie

Wer Sex hat, lebt länger und besser. Männer, die oft ejakulieren, leiden seltener an Prostatakrebs und Infarkten. Bei Frauen dagegen kommt es darauf an, wie zufrieden sie mit ihrem Sexleben sind – es wirkt sich stressdämpfend aus und führt zu niedrigeren Brustkrebsraten. Interview mit Ann-Marlene Henning, deutsche Neuropsychologin, Sexologin, Jeder ist für seinen Orgasmus selbst verantwortlich, Spiegel online, 23. Mai 2012

Sexueller Missbrauch von Kindern ist eine sexuelle Handlung eines Menschen an einem Kind, wobei der Erwachsene seine eigenen Bedürfnisse nach Intimität, Nähe, Macht und Kontrolle auf Kosten des Kindes auszuleben sucht. Dr. Suzanne M. Sgroi, US-amerikanischer Internistin, 1982

Einsamkeit und das öffentliche Eingeständnis von Einsamkeit ist das größte Tabuthema der Welt. Vergiss Sex oder Politik oder Religion. Ja sogar Niederlagen. Sprich von Einsamkeit und du bist allein im Raum. Douglas Coupland, Miss Wyoming

Frauen messen die Qualität der Partnerschaft daran, ob sie mit ihrem Partner über alles sprechen können, für Männer hingegen ist Spaß und Sex erstrangig. Manfred Hassebrauck (*1953) deutscher Professor für Sozialpsychologe, Universität Wuppertal

Es gibt keine gute Sexualität, keine endgültige, beruhigende, revolutionäre Lösung in der Liebe. Pascal Brucker, Alain Finkielkraut, Die neue Liebesunordnung, Hanser Verlag, S. 55, Rowohlt Tb., 96. Auflage, 1989

Sex mit Liebe ist das Größte, aber Sex ohne Liebe ist auch nicht schlecht. Mae West (1893-1980) US-amerikanische Filmschauspielerin, Drehbuchautorin, Sexsymbol

Eine Frau, die sich auf eine neue Beziehung einlässt, erwartet Romantik und Liebe, Sex ist für sie nur eine Folgeerscheinung. Bei Männern dagegen beginnt eine Beziehung häufig mit Sex, und erst danach entscheiden sie, ob daraus eine Beziehung werden kann oder nicht. Allan und Barbara Pease, australisches Bestsellerautorenpaar, Warum Männer nicht zuhören und Frauen schlecht einparken. Ganz natürliche Erklärungen für eigentlich unerklärliche Schwächen, S. 363, Ullstein Verlag, Juli 2000, 15. Auflage 2002

Prostituierte sind ja die Mülldeponie der Gesellschaft. […] Zu der Zeit, als ich eingestiegen bin, war Prostitution ja das Allerletzte. Dann war es noch das Vorletzte und heute tun mindestens viele so, als sei es nicht mehr das Letzte. Domenica Niehoff (1945-2009) ehemals Deutschlands prominenteste Prostituierte, Domina, Streetworkerin, 1996

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It is not good for the human being to be alone. Genesis 2, 18 (OT

And the two will become one flesh. So they are no longer two, but one. Mark 10, 8 (NT) NIV, 1984

(Or) do you not know that anyone who joins himself to a prostitute becomes one body with her? For "the two," it says, "will become one flesh." But whoever is joined to the Lord becomes one spirit with him. Avoid immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the immoral person sins against his own body. Apostle Paul, 1. Corinthians 6, 16-18 (NT)

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Two becoming ONE

Paraphrasing the Apostle Paul, 1. Corinthians 6, 16-18 (NT)

There is more to sex than mere skin to skin. Sex is as much spiritual mystery as physical fact. As written in Scripture, “The Two Shall Become One.” […] We must not pursue the kind of sex that avoids commitment and intimacy, leaving us more lonely than ever – the kind of sex that can never “become one.” There is a sense in which sexual sins are different from all others. In sexual sin we violate the sacredness of our own bodies, these bodies that were made for God-given and God-modeled love, for “becoming one” with another. Eugene Peterson (*1932) US American pastor, scholar, author, poet, The Message. The Bible in Contemporary Language, NavPress, 11. October 2005

Sexual fantasies are distortions of perception by definition. They are a means of making false associations, and obtaining pleasure from them. Man can do this only because he IS creative. But although he can perceive false associations, he can never make them real except to himself. As was said before, man believes in what he creates. If he creates a miracle, he will be equally strong in his belief in that. The strength of his conviction will then sustain the belief of the miracle receiver.
NO fantasies, sexual or otherwise, are true. Fantasies become totally unnecessary as the Wholly satisfying nature of reality becomes apparent. The sex impulse IS a miracle impulse when it is in proper focus. One individual sees in another the right partner for "procreating the stock", and also for their joint establishment of a creative home. This does not involve fantasy at all. If I am asked to participate in the decision, the decision will be a Right one, too.
In a situation where you or another person, or both, experience inappropriate sex impulses, KNOW FIRST that this is an expression of fear. Your love toward each other is NOT perfect, and this is why the fear arose. Turn immediately to me by denying the power of the fear, and ask me to help you to replace it with love. This shifts the sexual impulse immediately to the miracle-impulse, and places it at MY disposal.
Then acknowledge the true creative worth of both yourself AND the other one. This places strength where it belongs. Note that sexual fantasies are ALWAYS destructive (or depleting), in that they perceive another in an inappropriate creative role. Both people are perceived essentially as "objects" fulfilling THEIR OWN pleasure drives. This dehumanized view is the source of the DEPLETING use of Freud's description is purely NEGATIVE, e., as a release from the UNPLEASANT. He Freud also observed that the tension from id impulses never completely abates.
What he should have said is that the shift from miracle-impulses to sexual impulses was debilitating in the first place, because of the level-confusion involved. This set up a state in which real release was impossible. Note also that Sigmund Freud's notion of sex was as a device for inducing RELAXATION, which he confused with PEACE.
Inappropriate sex relaxes only in the sense that it may induce physical sleep. The miracle, on the other hand, is an ENERGIZER. It always strengthens, and never depletes. It DOES induce peace, and by establishing tranquillity (not relaxation) it enables both giver and receiver to enter into a state of Grace. Here his miracle-mindedness, (not release from tension) is restored.
Tension is the result of a building-up of unexpressed miracle-impulses. This can be truly abated only by releasing the miracle-drive, which has been blocked. Converting it to sexual libido merely produces further blocking. Never foster this illusion in yourself, or encourage it in others. An "object" is incapable of release, because it is a concept which is deprived of creative power. The recognition of the real creative power in yourself AND others brings release because it brings peace. ACIM Urtext, chapter 1, section 3

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God-consciousness is 100 million times more blissful than sexual experience. Sri Ramakrishna Paramahamsa [LoC 620] (1836-1886) Indian Hindu saint

Let me point out the connection between the opening of the parasympathetic nervous system, the rising of the kundalini, and orgasm. Only a brain can have an orgasm. An orgasm is when your energy goes from crotch to crown. Not when you have a muscular spasm.
Many things in life are miniorgasms. [...] It's a cognition. It's when the body and the mind agree about something. That's an opening of the first [chakra] center. Audio presentation by Rev. Rosalyn Bruyere (*1946) US American spiritual teacher, clairvoyant energy healer, white medicine woman, Lecture, presented by The Asilomar Conference Center, Pacific Grove California, availed by TheLastOutpost.com, MP3, minute 6:57, 83:18 minutes duration, 7. August 1988

Sex is like fire or water. Fire and water can aid a man [...] or kill him. Taoistic teaching

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Sexuality is the universal “partnership principle” in Nature, which is the basis of every interchange. It is not restricted to reproduction and cohabitation.

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Mankind has thought of sex in terms of a relation between the opposite sexes in organic living systems, never for a moment including sex relations in the mineral kingdom, in hot suns, or the ice caps of the poles of planets. We used such terms as cohabitation and sex relation as though the sex relation is entirely separate and apart from other relations, and as though its reproductive effect is limited to living things that die or decay.
From now on, sex will be regarded in our new perspective as being expressed continuously and perpetually in all things. Instead of thinking in terms of cohabitation and human sexual relationships, sex should be thought of as the interchange between pairs of oppositely unbalanced conditions for the purpose of balancing these conditions in every effect of motion in the entire universe. “Good effects” are those in which the interchange is balanced – and “bad effects” are those in which balance is not complete. Walter Russell (1871-1963) US American polymath, natural philosopher, mystic, architect, painter, sculptor, builder, author (unified theory in physics and cosmogony), Lao Russell (1904-1988) English visionary philosopher, coauthor, Home Study Course in Cosmic Consciousness, unit 3, lesson 10, 1950, revised edition 2001

Sex is the creative principle. It is the dual desire force in Mind for expressing its One Idea. Without a division of the one unconditioned Light into two seemingly conditioned lights, Creation could not be. Sex is not a thing, it is a condition of a thing.
An electrically balanced condition of anything is sexless whether it be a man, woman, electric battery, or the atmosphere. A sexed condition is an unbalanced condition. An electric battery which is fully charged is dually unbalanced by the opposite electric pressures of compression and expansion. These two opposite unbalanced conditions violently desire to return to the oneness of balance from which they were divided into two. A short circuit between the two poles of the battery will give it that balance. We then say it is dead, for it will no longer perform work by expressing its desire for balance. Walter Russell (1871-1963) US American polymath, natural philosopher, mystic, architect, painter, sculptor, builder, author (unified theory in physics and cosmogony), The Secret of Light, S. 100, University of Science and Philosophy, 3rd edition, 1994

We understand people of normal sexuality to be those who have no sexual conflicts of any kind. Sexual energy is divided into three distinct types.
1. First: the energy having to do with the reproduction of the race and the health of the physical body in general.
2. Second: the energy having to do with the spheres of thought, feeling and will.
3. Third: the energy that is found related with the Divine Spirit of man.

Indeed, sexual energy is without a doubt the most subtle and powerful energy normally produced and transported through the human organism. Everything that a human being is, including the three spheres of thought, feeling and will, is none other than the exact outcome of distinct modifications of sexual energy. Samael Aun Weor (1917-1977) Columbian founder of the Universal Christian Gnostic Movement, lecturer, author, The Perfect Matrimony. Why Sex and Religion are Inseparable, essay Normal Sexuality, Glorian Publishing, 1950, 1. May 2012

We display outrageously and obsessively that which we do not fully possess or have deeply at our disposal. If we are displaying sex with unseemly exaggeration and preoccupation, then we have not found the heart of sex and made it a fully integrated part of individual and social life. Sigmund Freud [LoC 499] (1856-1939) Austrian neurologist, founder of psychoanalysis, deep psychologist

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Fuck or kill impulse

When men first meet a person, their deepest internal instinct is fuck it or kill it. [Paraphrased.] Ken Wilber [LoC 490] (*1949) US American transpersonal philosopher, consciousness researcher, thought leader of the 3rd millennium, developer of Integral Theory, author, Sex, Ecology, Spirituality. The Spirit of Evolution, S. ?, Shambhala, Boston, 1995, 2nd revised edition, 2. January 2001

The erotic has often been misnamed by men and used against women. It has been made into the confused, the trivial, the psychotic, the plasticized sensation. For this reason, we have often turned away from the exploration and consideration of the erotic as a source of power and information, confusing it with its opposite, the pornographic. But pornography is a direct denial of the power of the erotic, for it represents the suppression of true feeling. Pornography emphasizes sensation without feeling.
The erotic is a measure between the beginnings of our sense of self and the chaos of our strongest feelings. It is an internal sense of satisfaction to which, once we have experienced it, we know we can aspire. Audre Lorde (1934-1992) Caribbean-American writer, poet, activist, Bonzani Camille, coauthor, The Uses of the Erotic. The Erotic as Power, Kore Press, 1. January 2000

The act of sexuality between humans, who have stabilized to some degree in that realization, is simply the bodily re-enactment of the eternal recognized unity of consciousness and light. There is not actually consciousness and light; it is conscious light, a luminous cognizance. David Deida (*1958) US American author, independent researcher, teacher, cited in: Arjuna Ardagh, The Translucent Revolution, New World Lib, 15. June 2005

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Who coined the term SEXISM?

Nineteenth-century American spiritualists coined the word sexism long before its modern incarnation¹ in order to refer to a complex of ideas about human sexuality and reproduction that were consonant with the general advancement of women's rights. J. B. Buescher, More lurid than lucid: the spiritualist invention of the word sexism, Journal of the American Academy of Religion, S. 561-592, vol. 70, issue 3, 2002

Interviewer: Why don't men require any foreplay?
Daniel Amen, M.D.: Because they are always ready [...] one of God's tricks on us. The part responsive to testosterone is 2.5 times bigger in men than in women.
Daniel G. Amen, M.D. US American child and adult psychiatrist, self-help advisor, author, medical director of the Amen Clinic, Differences Between the Male and Female Brain – On The Psychology of Men, presented by TV14 ABC, program The View, minute 2:22, 7:55 minutes duration, posted 17. October 2007

Masturbation: the primary sexual activity of mankind. In the nineteenth century it was a disease; in the twentieth, it's a cure. Thomas S. Szasz (*1920) Hungarian US-American professor emeritus of psychiatry, State University of New York Health Science Center, Syracuse, New York, social critic of the moral and scientific foundations of psychiatry and scientism

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Female sexuality:

Female sexuality is complex. One in seven women are unable to climax.

For women to orgasm it's like we need a series of catalysts to get us over the mountain. There are a lot of women who experience difficulty with orgasm. It doesn't mean they don't enjoy sex, though. For us as women it's not the goal of orgasm, it's the goal of pleasure or a connection. Danielle Hannington, Australian Perth-based clinical psychologist, sex therapist, Secrets of the female orgasm, presented by Stuff.co.nz, 10. November 2010

Activities such as caressing, kissing, hugging, gazing, and orgasm can replenish the chemical bond of love in the brain. Louann Brizendine, Ph.D., M.D. louannbrizendine.com (*1952) US American neuropsychiatrist, professor in neurobiology, UC Berkeley, founder of the first US clinic to study and treat women's brain functions, lecturer, author, The Female Brain, Broadway, 1st reprint edition, 7. August 2007

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Men's caving in tendency:

Orthodox Judaism calls for two weeks of abstention per menses cycle.

After intimacy man goes into cave [...] and don't bother him until he comes out! John Gray (*1951) US American relationship counselor, lecturer, author

Sex addiction is an intimacy disorder. Sex addicts feel so alone, so ashamed and so unworthy of intimacy and love. Drew Pinsky, M.D. (*1958) US American board-certified internist, radio and TV personality, addiction medicine specialist, assistant clinical professor, Keck USC School of Medicine

In Love and Survival, Dean Ornish makes the point that love and intimacy are more powerful determinants of health than improved diet, stopping smoking, genetic make-up, more exercise, or prescription drugs. Marnia Robinson, US American former corporate lawyer, researcher and author on ancient sacred-sex prescriptions, Biology's Mandate to Separate, 28. July 2005

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The addictive culture of dominance keeps triggering repeated sex scandals of men in power position.

Question: Eliot Spitzer, Dominique Strauss-Kahn and most recently Herman Cain. Why do we keep hearing about powerful men in politics and sex. What's the connection?
Answer: Dominance has been sexualized. If we could eroticize equality in a deep way we would create revolution. Because the various kinds of patriarchal cultures have subordinated women in order to control reproduction then the normal idea of sexuality is dominance and passivity instead of cooperation and mutual pleasure. They got born into a culture that told them that sexuality was about dominance and they had the right to dominate women. And they are hooked on it. It's like a drug. Video interview with Gloria Steinem gloriasteinem.com (*1934) leading US American feminist of the new women's movement, visionary and political activist, writer, journalist, Women and the Financial Crisis, presented by TV station Bloomberg Television, host Stephanie Ruhle, YouTube film, minute 2:09, 3:59 minutes duration, posted 8. November 2011

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Honeymoon duration less than a year:

Confirmed true by a 2009 study at Ohio State among the most well-adjusted couples.

The honeymoon lasts less than a year. US American saying.

Sex is governed by a primitive part of the brain known as the reward circuitry […] the 'temptation center,' as its biological function is to drive us to act impulsively when confronted with activities or substances that once furthered our ancestors' survival or the passing on of their genes. (Sadly for modern man, this same center of the brain is very susceptible to temptations with which our ancestors never had to cope: fast food, Internet porn, recreational drugs, and readily available alcohol, to name a few.)
The reward circuitry is dominated by a neurochemical known as dopamine. It's associated with all addictions. […] We're likely to feel like we're 'in love' when it's high. When it drops, we 'fall out of love.' […] perfect love may cast out fear, but fertilization-driven love engenders it. […]
Yet statistics show that intimate relationships with trusted companions both increase longevity and protect health, which suggests that overcoming our biological imperative may indeed be wise. Marnia Robinson, US American former corporate lawyer, researcher and author on ancient sacred-sex prescriptions, Open Letter to Gnostic Scholars, undated

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Past the big O:

The neurochemical hangover after an orgasm is resulting in (mood swings) in the limbic system.

Events occurring in the brain when we are in love have similarities with mental illness. The Science of Love, presented by BBC

Love is an amalgam of seemingly incompatible and ungovernable mood swings. Frank Tallis, British clinical psychologist, author of Love Sick, cited in: It's official: love drives you crazy, presented by The Telegraph US, John Preston, 1. March 2004

The situation is complicated by the fact that orgasm itself creates a drug-like high. [This was observed, while viewing scans of men ejaculating. The brain scans of men ejaculating are comparable to the brain scans of people shooting heroin.] Gert Holstege, Dutch scientist, Brain activation during human male ejaculation, PubMed, 8. October 2003

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Male model of sexual expression: Orgasmic obsession

Man is sexually obsessed. He can't get it out of his head. And he feeds that obsession. The only way to get rid of that obsession is to start to starve it, not to suppress it because it ruins man's life, it ruins woman's life, it ruins everybody's life – sex. Video interview with Barry Long (1926-2003) Australian editor, press secretary, writer, spiritual and tantra teacher, part 3, YouTube film, minute 1:28-2:27, issued 1996

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Zitate (engl.) – Frederick Philip Lenz, III [Rama]

Personal avowals

I believe that sexuality is essentially unimportant in the spiritual process. Yet people seemed to make it awfully important. I believe that love is totally important in the spiritual process – in any form, because it is the spiritual process. Frederick Philip Lenz, III, Ph.D. [Rama] (1950-1998) US American Buddhist spiritual teacher, Sophisticated sexuality, minute 50:55, 73 minutes duration, recorded 1983

Love is something that we don't control. We have to be ourselves. You can be sexual, nonsexual, asexual, bisexual, or trisexual and it really doesn't have a lot to do with enlightenment. Frederick Philip Lenz, III, Ph.D. [Rama] (1950-1998) US American Buddhist spiritual teacher, Sexuality, presented by ramaquotes.com, Sophisticated sexuality, minute 61:50, 73 minutes duration, recorded 1983

A number of gurus feel that there is something wrong or sick about being gay. I think it really doesn't matter what your sexual preference is; what matters is the quality of your love. Frederick Philip Lenz, III, Ph.D. [Rama] (1950-1998) US American Buddhist spiritual teacher, Sexuality, presented by ramaquotes.com, Sophisticated sexuality, minute 54:30, 73 minutes duration, recorded 1983

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Both genders fear sexuality.

Men fear impotence, women fear an overflow of sexuality.

Men are terrified of their sexuality. They're all afraid of impotence. Women are terrified of their sexuality because they've got so much of it. And we live in a society that says they don't. And it's very incongrent because women are are told that they don't have sexuality, that men are sexual and women basically are not and actually quite the opposite is true in terms of the kundalini and the structure of the subtle physical [bodies]. Women are much more sexual – as Masters and Johnson have discovered – than men are and people are very put off by that. Frederick Philip Lenz, III, Ph.D. [Rama] (1950-1998) US American Buddhist spiritual teacher, Sophisticated sexuality, minute 65:36, 73 minutes duration, recorded 1983

Sexuality is neither good nor bad. It depends how you approach it. Change is necessary. The most basic change that we make has to do with our sexual identity. Sex does not matter. It's not important, unless you make it important. People place much too great a charge on sexuality. It's not necessary to be celibate to attain enlightenment. It's necessary to be yourself. There will come a time though when you will probably be celibate for a while on your way to enlightenment in one incarnation or another. […] Then you'll return to relationships or sexuality perhaps when you have sufficient detachment so that it won't be sex anymore. When you're with someone it will be a giving, a pure self-effacement, pure giving, a transfer of energy. There won't be any desire. There will be no concern for the personal self or physical satisfaction. Then it can't be harmful. Your emotions won't get wrapped up. Every action will be service and self-giving. Frederick Philip Lenz, III, Ph.D. [Rama] (1950-1998) US American Buddhist spiritual teacher, Audio lectures by Frederick Philip Lenz, III, Ph.D. [Rama] (1950-1998) US American Buddhist spiritual teacher, talk Women / Men and Self Realization, The Lakshmi Series, 1 of 30 talks, presented by FrederickLenzFoundation.org, minute 15:18 and minute 43:35, 54:16 minutes duration, recorded 1982-1983

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Karmic transfer during sex

If you are having sex with someone who is not on the same frequency that you are on, it can be very problematic. The greatest karmic transfer occurs in having sex with someone. Frederick Philip Lenz, III, Ph.D. [Rama] (1950-1998) US American Buddhist spiritual teacher, Sexuality, presented by ramaquotes.com

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Caution:

Choosing an intimate partner

Human beings are confused, deluded and generally un-awakened. So as a person who seeks to increase their energy, you have to be very careful about who you have intimate contact with. Frederick Philip Lenz, III, Ph.D. [Rama] (1950-1998) US American Buddhist spiritual teacher, Sexuality, presented by ramaquotes.com

The first sexual experience is a significant imprinting of attention. Frederick Philip Lenz, III, Ph.D. [Rama] (1950-1998) US American Buddhist spiritual teacher, Sexuality, presented by ramaquotes.com

We play in the jungle gym of sexuality until our spirit takes us out into a clear field where we can see the stars, the ten thousand radiances of enlightenment. One of those radiances is the dance of sexuality. Frederick Philip Lenz, III, Ph.D. [Rama] (1950-1998) US American Buddhist spiritual teacher, Sexuality, presented by ramaquotes.com

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Then the bridegroom came down to the bride. [...] Since that marriage is not like the carnal marriage, those who are to have intercourse with one another will be satisfied with that intercourse. And as if it were a burden they leave behind them the annoyance of physical desire. [...] [Once] they unite [with one another], they become a single life. [...] For they were originally joined to one another when they were with the Father before the woman led astray the man, who is her brother. This marriage has brought them back together again and the soul has been joined to her true love. Jesus, Sacrament of the Bridal Chamber, Exegesis on the Soul [lust-free intercourse], cited in: James M. Robinson, The Nag Hammadi Library in English, ed., pp. 195-6, Harper Collins, 1988

In the physical union of male and female there may be a soul communion of great power. Alice Bunker Stockham M.D. (1833-1912) US American obstetrician, gynecologist, fifth woman to be made a doctor in the United States, promoting gender equality and Karezza, Karezza. Ethics of Marriage, S. 13, first issued 1902, Kessinger Publishing, reprint, 26. July 2004

Men and women practicing Karezza [gentle, conscious lovemaking without conventional orgasm] attest that their very souls in union take on a procreating power, and that it seems to have an impregnating force, far transcending in power and intelligence any ordinary thought force. Alice Bunker Stockham M.D. (1833-1912) US American obstetrician, gynecologist, fifth woman to be made a doctor in the United States, promoting gender equality and Karezza, Karezza. Ethics of Marriage, S. 104, first issued 1902, Kessinger Publishing, reprint, 26. July 2004

The ordinary hasty spasmodic method of cohabitation is deleterious both physically and spiritually, and is frequently a cause of estrangement and separation. Alice Bunker Stockham M.D. (1833-1912) US American obstetrician, gynecologist, fifth woman to be made a doctor in the United States, promoting gender equality and Karezza, Karezza. Ethics of Marriage, S. 23, first issued 1902, Kessinger Publishing, reprint, 26. July 2004

The technique is not based on control. During intercourse you are not seeking to avoid orgasm or to manipulate your bodily energies; you are merely closing your eyes, feeling those energies stream into your heart, head and genitals and those of your lover, and allowing them to circulate […]. You are always relaxing, falling back into the heart. Effortless awareness is the key. All your energies will be drawn upward, diffused throughout the body […]. As this takes place, lustful tendencies will be transmuted into feelings of love and the need for conventional orgasm will lessen. Alice Bunker Stockham M.D. (1833-1912) US American obstetrician, gynecologist, fifth woman to be made a doctor in the United States, promoting gender equality and Karezza, cited in: James N. Powell, Energy abd Eros. Teachings on the Art of Love, S. 182, William Morrow and Company, Inc., 1985

Church father Augustine of Hippo (b. 354 CE) is well known for his prayer, “Grant me chastity and continence […] but not yet!” Less well known is his conclusion that because sex is a consequence of the “animal” in man – and animals have no interest in using sex to foster love or unity – the proper use of sex in marriage is strictly for breeding. […]
Augustine’s error has been used to fend off some of sex’s most uplifting gifts. In the last century, when Belgian and French Catholics discovered that gentle intercourse without orgasm was a “means of achieving a more perfect, more spiritual conjugal love,” the pope condemned it. Marnia Robinson, US American researcher, author, Intercourse vs. Orgasm, presented via Huffingtonpost.com, 16. October 2009

Seek the experience of the pure embrace [also translated as "undefiled intercourse"]; it has great power. Jean-Yves Leloup (*1950) French writer, philosopher, theologian, orthodox priest, The Gospel of Philip. Jesus, Mary Magdalene, and the Gnosis of Sacred Union, L.60, Inner Traditions, Rochester, Vermont, 16. August 2004

We are reborn by the Christ two by two. In his Breath, we experience a new embrace; we are no longer in duality, but in unity. Jean-Yves Leloup (*1950) French writer, philosopher, theologian, orthodox priest, The Gospel of Philip. Jesus, Mary Magdalene, and the Gnosis of Sacred Union, L.74, Inner Traditions, Rochester, Vermont, 16. August 2004

Christ comes again to heal this wound [which Adam began when he engaged in procreative sex], to rediscover the lost unity, to enliven those who kill themselves in separation, reviving them in union. Man and woman unite in the bridal chamber, and those who have known this sacred embrace will never be separated. Jean-Yves Leloup (*1950) French writer, philosopher, theologian, orthodox priest, The Gospel of Philip. Jesus, Mary Magdalene, and the Gnosis of Sacred Union, Sacrament of the Bridal Chamber, LL 78-79, Inner Traditions, Rochester, Vermont, 16. August 2004

[The] embrace that incarnates the hidden union [...] is not only a reality of the flesh, for there is silence in this embrace. It does not arise from impulse or desire; it is an act of will. Jean-Yves Leloup (*1950) French writer, philosopher, theologian, orthodox priest, The Gospel of Philip. Jesus, Mary Magdalene, and the Gnosis of Sacred Union, L. 122, Inner Traditions, Rochester, Vermont, 16. August 2004

Sex is very close to soul. […] [It only satisfies] when it unites souls, not merely copulates bodies for a thrill. J. William Lloyd (1857-1940) US American individualist anarchist, author, The Karezza Method. Magnetation, The Art of Connubial Love, Forgotten Books, first published 1931, reprinted 7. May 2008

As you acquire the habit of giving your sexual electricity out in blessing to your partner from your sex-organs, hands, lips, skin, eyes and voice, you will acquire the power to satisfy yourself and her without an orgasm. Soon you will not even think of self-control, because you will have no desire for the orgasm, nor will she. J. William Lloyd (1857-1940) US American individualist anarchist, author, The Karezza Method. Magnetation, The Art of Connubial Love, S. 31, Forgotten Books, first published 1931, reprinted 7. May 2008

Karezza makes marriage more delicious than courtship, more romantic than wooing, and maintains an endless, satisfying honeymoon. […] Nothing else known makes the course of true love run so smooth as Karezza. J. William Lloyd (1857-1940) US American individualist anarchist, author, The Karezza Method. Magnetation, The Art of Connubial Love, Forgotten Books, first published 1931, reprinted 7. May 2008

Two souls and bodies seem as one, supported and floating on some divine stream in Paradise. […] This is the real ideal and end of Karezza. You will finally enter into such unity that in your fullest embrace you can hardly tell yourselves apart and can read each other’s thoughts. You will feel a physical unity as if her blood flowed in your veins, her flesh were yours. For this is the Soul-Blending Embrace. J. William Lloyd (1857-1940) US American individualist anarchist, author, The Karezza Method. Magnetation, The Art of Connubial Love, S. 48, 32, Forgotten Books, first published 1931, reprinted 7. May 2008

In successful Karezza the sex-organs become quiet, satisfied, demagnetized, as perfectly as by the orgasm, while the rest of the body of each partner glows with a wonderful vigor and conscious joy […] tending to irradiate the whole being with romantic love; and always with an after-feeling of health, purity and well-being. We are most happy and good-humored as after a full meal. J. William Lloyd (1857-1940) US American individualist anarchist, author, The Karezza Method. Magnetation, The Art of Connubial Love, S. 13, Forgotten Books, first published 1931, reprinted 7. May 2008

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Hangover after orgasm:

(especialley for men)

It is the common experience that there is a sense of loss, weakness, and dispelled illusion, following quickly on the first grateful feeling of relief. There has been a momentary joy, but too brief and epileptic to make much impression on consciousness, and now it is gone, leaving no memory. The lights have gone out, the music has stopped. The weakness is often so severe as to cause pallor, faintness, vertigo [dizziness], dyspepsia [indigestion], disgust, irritability, shame, dislike, or other pathological or unloving symptoms. This especially on the man’s part, but perhaps to some extent on the woman’s part too. Even if no more, there is lassitude, sudden indifference, a wish to sleep. A wet blanket has fallen, for the time at least, on the flame of love. Romance drops and crawls like a winged bird. J. William Lloyd (1857-1940) US American individualist anarchist, author, The Karezza Method. Magnetation, The Art of Connubial Love, Forgotten Books, first published 1931, reprinted 7. May 2008

See full text and The Soul-blending Embrace

The wine of sex may sometimes go to the head and lead to a preoccupation with sex bordering on satyriasis or nymphomania, just as any other passion may become an emotional intoxication. He notes that love and the thrill of sex are delightful, but if continued too long the inevitable result is that the nerves become powerless to appreciate or respond. […] and finally may end by devitalizing love and sex themselves. J. William Lloyd (1857-1940) US American individualist anarchist, author, The Karezza Method. Magnetation, The Art of Connubial Love, Forgotten Books, first published 1931, reprinted 7. May 2008

See full text and The Soul-blending Embrace

The more frequently [orgasm] is employed, the more love dies, romance evaporates, and a mere sexuality, a matter-of-fact relation, or plain dislike, takes the place of the glamour of courtship days. […]
As women learn [Karezza’s] transcendent importance to their happiness and health, they will demand it and refuse all men that cannot supply that demand. That will be a force that cannot be withstood.
Woman is by birth the Queen of Love and will certainly assume her inheritance and control in her own sphere and realm. Prediction on the Women’s Movement of J. William Lloyd (1857-1940) US American individualist anarchist, author, The Karezza Method. Magnetation, The Art of Connubial Love, Forgotten Books, first published 1931, reprinted 7. May 2008

See full text and The Soul-blending Embrace

We need more sex, not less, but we need sex with soul. Thomas Moore, Ph.D. careofthesoul.net, US American professor of theology, monk, psychotherapist, musician, writer, The Soul of Sex, Bantam Books Ltd., 1992, 4. August 2003

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Cited in:

Marnia Robinson, US American former corporate lawyer, researcher, author on ancient sacred-sex prescriptions, Von Urban's "Sex, Perfection and Marital Happiness. A Taste of Heaven", 11. July 2005

The story of original sin is not without basis; it is a fable which conceals some true traditions. One of these has to do with the procreation of the bodies of human beings. [...]
The naive story covers a history of disquieting results. The use of the procreative power was the "original sin." The result following the procreative act was to give to the human race the tendency to unlawful procreation; and this tendency was one of the means of bringing on ignorance and death in the world. The penalty of the original sin of [humans] is that they are now dominated by that which they originally refused to govern [the sexual urge]. When they could govern they would not; now that they would govern, they cannot. One proof of that ancient sin is present with every human in the sorrow that follows an act of mad desire which, even against his reason, he is driven to commit. [...]
The origin of the story of original sin was when [man, as originally created] in his perfect body was in the Realm of Permanence. There, in the trial test for bringing its [male and female] into balanced union, it failed. Therefore it came into this world of birth and death, and it periodically re-exists in a man body or in a woman body.
Harold Waldwin Percival (1868-1953) British West Indian author, Thinking and Destiny, S. 59-60, S. 386, The Word Foundation, Inc., reprint, 1974

Once plighted, no man would not go whoring,
They'd stay with the one they adore,
If women were half as alluring
After the act as before!
Greek Anthology

If you are not in a hurry to finish the act, the [...] sex organs melt into each other. A deep silent communion happens between two body energies, and then you can remain for hours together. […]
There is a natural slowing down when any act is done with awareness. […]
Woman can feel immediately if a man has intention behind his touch, and this very often closes down her body. Drop your agendas and programming when you are with a woman. Just be present in yourself and in your heart, sharing your being, touching and caressing with love.[…]
[A loving penis] can begin to "catalyze" what has accumulated in the female body and allow her to relax and transform into pure love – the true quality of woman. […]
Anger and frustration levels reduce dramatically when hot sex and ejaculation are avoided or reduced.
Diana Richardson, South African pioneer of the sexual evolution, Tantric Sex for Men. Making Love a Meditation Destiny Books, Destiny Books, 18. June 2010

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Heart sex

Heart sex brings us closer together. It allows us to relax in the comfort of a partner we love. We don’t have to worry about orgasms and can enjoy the pleasures that come from being closely bonded. It also relieves stress and allows us to make love much more often. We don’t have that feeling of distance that often comes after orgasm or that feeling that we must “do it again, and again, and again.”
- Bigger, better, faster isn’t always the best way to live and to love.
- Deeper, slower, easier has a lot to be said for it.

Jed Diamond, Ph.D., US American psychotherapist, Hot sex is how you got here in the first place. Heart sex is how to stay together., 9. December 2012

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Zitate (engl.) – Transcendent Sex by Dr. Jenny Wade

Research suggests that conservatively this kind of sex will happen at least once to one out of every eight people. Dr. Jenny Wade, US American developmental psychologist, author, Transcendent Sex. When Lovemaking Opens the Veil, Paraview Pocket, original edition, 6. April 2004

Transcendent sex is not limited to “true love,” nor is it a sign of it. Dr. Jenny Wade, Transcendent Sex. When Lovemaking Opens the Veil, Paraview Pocket, original edition, 6. April 2004

Transcendent sex is breathtakingly powerful. [It] can be destabilizing. Transcendent sex is to sex what near-death experiences are to dying. Dr. Jenny Wade, Transcendent Sex. When Lovemaking Opens the Veil, Paraview Pocket, original edition, 6. April 2004

Transcendent sex can result in:
- Becoming whole and shedding a lifetime of shame and guilt about sexuality.
- Healing from sexual trauma and abuse to enjoy making love.
- Acquiring paranormal abilities for healing or psychic gifts.
- Creating healthier lives, especially leaving dysfunctional relationships and careers.
- Becoming a spiritual seeker after a lifetime of atheism, doubt, or a religion that did not fit.

Dr. Jenny Wade, Transcendent Sex. When Lovemaking Opens the Veil, Paraview Pocket, original edition, 6. April 2004

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Transcendent sex vs. the most intense "regular" sex.

Transcendent sex involves altered states that seem to come out of nowhere and overcome one or both lovers. The term “transcendent sex” comes from the sense of transcending (going beyond or breaking through) the usual sense of space, time or self that constitute normal, waking consciousness. For instance, a person might suddenly be out of body, hovering over the bed, or traveling back in time to a past life, or expanding to include the consciousness of all living creatures.
In transcendent sex, there is a pervasive sense that these events participate in, or come from, a supernatural force, which people usually associate with Spirit, however understood. Whether it’s stepping into another reality, seeing visions, being possessed by a power animal or imploding into the utter emptiness of the Void, most people attribute a numinous quality to the events, even if they consider themselves atheists or agnostics. They feel they have been given a glimpse of the Greater Reality, the Absolute, Truth, God.
Transcendent sex involves relationship, even if it occurs when a person seems to be alone. It is rooted in the ground created by the lovers, even when one person is taken so far beyond reality that the partner and the lovemaking recede into infinity. Or, in some cases, even when the partner is not human or appears not to be "real" in the ordinary sense.
Dr. Jenny Wade, Transcendent Sex. When Lovemaking Opens the Veil, Paraview Pocket, original edition, 6. April 2004

Ecstasy of St Theresa, 1652, Santa Maria Della Vittoria,
Cornaro chapel, Rome, sculptor Gian Lorenzo Bernini (1598-1680)

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Unio mystica

The 'unio mystica' state has long had sexual connotations. Being one with God was likened to sexual union with one's beloved. This was not the result of the mystic believing the union was sexual or seeing sexuality where it did not exist, but instead, it was the way the mystic herself described the experience.

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The sculptor Gian Lorenzo Bernini executed Teresa's description of her mystical union with God. 1647-1652

"Beside me on the left appeared an angel in bodily form. [...] He was not tall but short, and very beautiful; and his face was so aflame that he appeared to be one of the highest ranks of angels, who seem to be all on fire. [...] In his hands I saw a great golden spear, and at the iron tip there appeared to be a point of fire. This he plunged into my heart several times so that it penetrated my entrails. When he pulled it out I felt that he took them with it, and left me utterly consumed by the great love of God.
The pain was so severe that it made me utter several moans. The sweetness caused by this intense pain is so extreme that one can not possibly wish it to cease, nor is one's soul content with anything but God. This is not a physical but a spiritual pain, though the body has some share in it – even a considerable share." Teresa of Ávila [LoC 715] (1515-1582) Spanish Carmelite nun, Roman Catholic saint, mystic, theologian

"I was taken up beyond my body and the warmth of the sun on my skin and the clear blue sky until I went in that golden sunlight and cerulean blue. Then I shot out beyond it into the vastness of space where all was silence and the blackness lit by stars. Everything there looked clear and beautiful and cold, yet I could feel the life pulsating through it, the fierce fires of the distant suns and burning stars. It was beauty and it was love and there I was in the middle of this universe stretching forever. I wanted to stay there always. Rachel cited in Dr. Jenny Wade, Transcendent Sex. When Lovemaking Opens the Veil, Paraview Pocket, original edition, S. 111, 6. April 2004

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Unio mystica

My awareness of her [becomes] intermittent. [...] It's as though I'm moving through her to something beyond her, beyond me. That's the religious part. She's a conduit, but then in that state, bodies become irrelevant, and in a way, she does, too, I'm embarrassed to say.
I'm actually opening myself to God and surrendering to God and feeling God entering into me. The energies are so strong. [...] It's something which is only articulated for me in the language of feeling. [...] This takes me beyond the edges of language. It's a combination of yearning, giving way to surrender, a tremendous joy, and it explodes into God in a way that doesn't even have any content. Feeling God's rays streaming into you, being lit up by that. Blake cited in Dr. Jenny Wade, Transcendent Sex. When Lovemaking Opens the Veil, Paraview Pocket, original edition, S. 183, 6. April 2004

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Faces of God

The remarkable insight which some mystics, both Christian and otherwise, have understood was that the face of God was in reality [...] their own face, their self-hood.

The same staggering realization reverberates throughout the reports of lovers during transcedent sex. [...] The moment of recognition for one man was "[...] the purest ecstasy and awakening." [...] "It's real, he insisted". [...] I can embody all my spirit, and it is divine. [...]" "Was there a face to God? No. Or a presence? The presence was us. We were just there. It just was." Dr. Jenny Wade, Transcendent Sex. When Lovemaking Opens the Veil, Paraview Pocket, original edition, S. 189, 6. April 2004

It's like nectar, you know. You just drip with nectar, and people want to suckle. Doesn't matter if they're men or women, they want to. Woman cited in Dr. Jenny Wade, Transcendent Sex. When Lovemaking Opens the Veil, Paraview Pocket, original edition, S. 208, 6. April 2004

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Some choose comfort, others seek ultimate mystical union in their sexual quests.

I can live without sex [...] but I cannot live without intimacy. [...] (However,) sex in the right situation with a person is not just about sex, not about that moment, but about what's going on in their lives. Mike cited in Dr. Jenny Wade, Transcendent Sex. When Lovemaking Opens the Veil, Paraview Pocket, original edition, S. 228, 6. April 2004

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Effects of transcendent sex

After transcendent sex, one may become more spiritual but not necessarily more religious.
Religious beliefs had no relationship to the production of altered states.
Out-of-body experiences were one exception and occurred mostly after sex.

[Transcendent sex events] led to "increase an individual's inclination to spirituality but outside the confines of most formal religious ideologies." Dr. Jenny Wade, Transcendent Sex. When Lovemaking Opens the Veil, Paraview Pocket, original edition, S. 285, 6. April 2004

More sources:
► Transcendent Sex: When Lovemaking Opens the Veil, by Jenny Wade, Ph.D., 2004, reviewed by primal-page.com, John A. Speyrer, 2004
► Article Transcendent Sex. Pioneering psychologist Jenny Wade’s surprising study of mystical experiences in the bedroom, Enlightenment Next magazine, host Elizabeth Debold, March-May 2009
► Audio interview with Dr. Jenny Wade, US American psychologist, Sex That Transcends, presented by US LA Talk Radio Loveology, host Wendy Strgar, minute 11:01, 50:22 minutes duration, aired 1. September 2010, posted 10. September 2010
► Audio interview with Dr. Jenny Wade, US American psychologist, Transcendent Sex: When Lovemaking Opens the Veil, presented by US American web radio station Extatica, host Ellen Eatough, aired December 2004
Segment 1, Segment 2, Segment 3

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Zitate (engl.) – Internet Pornografie-Sucht / Internet pornography addiction

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Personal avowal of a Net-porn addict:

Rothbart describes his own experience of having to fake orgasm with a woman, because his overuse of porn had made reaching climax during intercourse nearly impossible.

[S]cientists speculate that a dopamine-oxytocin combo is released in the brain during orgasm, acting as a "biochemical love potion," as behavioral therapist Andrea Kuszewski calls it. It's the reason after having sex with someone, you're probably more inclined to form an emotional attachment. But you don't have to actually have sex in order to get those neurotransmitters firing. When you watch porn, "you're bonding with it," Kuszewski says. "And those chemicals make you want to keep coming back to have that feeling." Which allows men not only to get off on porn but to potentially develop a neurological attachment to it. They [Men] can, in essence, date porn. Davy Rothbart, US American writer; cited in: Does Men's 'Bond' with Porn Ruin Them for Real-Life Sex?, Time.com, Maia Szalavitz, 9. February 2011

[I]t's certainly possible that porn is affecting men's libidos in deleterious ways and that this is, consequently, hurting their partners as well. But whatever's going on, the problem with porn isn't that men are bonding with it. It's that opportunities to satisfy the lust for variety have never been more available — while there is more stress than ever on loving relationships. Does Men's 'Bond' with Porn Ruin Them for Real-Life Sex?, Time.com, Maia Szalavitz, 9. February 2011

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Funnel of sexual arousal

KastlemanFunnel PDF

The sexual stimulation of pornography floods directly into the male brain stem where higher reasoning is eliminated and automatic response or animal instinct takes over. Mark Kastleman, US American former pornography addict, recovered after 25 years, author of The Drug of the New Millennium. The Science of How Internet Pornography Radically Alters the Human Brain and Body, 2001, co-founder of Candeo, The Funnel of Arousal, presented by netnanny.com

Addictiveness [of i.e. Internet pornography] is not a metaphor. All addiction involves long-term, sometimes lifelong, neuroplastic change in the brain. [...] The same surge of dopamine that thrills us also consolidates the neuronal connections responsible for the behaviors that led us to accomplish our goal. Norman Doidge, M.D., normandoidge.com, Canadian US American psychiatrist, psychoanalyst, brain researcher, essayist, author, The Brain That Changes Itself. Stories of Personal Triumph from the Frontiers of Brain Science, S. 106-108, Viking Adult, 1st edition, 15. March 2007

Pornography is a drug. The Internet has made pornography the crack cocaine of visual addictions. [...] Social science research shows that pornography really harms a person no matter what their religious perspective or non-perspective is. It harms their relationships, it harms the ability to form emotion, to think, to feel. Numerous studies have shown this. But still, people in denial can act out in pornography thinking it won't hurt them. It will. 100 percent of the time. Video presentation by Donald L. Hilton Jr., MD, US American neurological surgeon, University of Texas Health Sciences Center, San Antonio, Pornography and its impact on the Brain, presented by SA Lifeline Foundation, YouTube film, minute 9:53, 13:23 minutes duration, posted 8. September 2010

The global reach of explicit pornography creates addicts, desensitizes men and degrades, debases, dehumanizes and objectifies women. [Paraphrased.] Video interview with Gail Dines, US American professor of sociology and women's studies, Wheelock College, Boston, anti-pornography campaigner, The pitfalls of porn, presented by AlJazeera English TV, host Riz Khan, YouTube film, 22:33 minutes duration, posted 16. September 2010

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Reference to:

Percentage given in an article published by Adult Video News, pornography industry publication

One in five men who look at [Internet] pornography are [porn] addicted. Audio interview with Gail Dines, US American professor of sociology and women's studies, Wheelock College, Boston, anti-pornography campaigner, author of Pornland. How Porn has hijacked Our Sexuality, 29. June 2010 and Melinda Tankard Reist on Has porn hijacked our sexuality?, presented by US web radio program ABC RN Late Night Live, host Phillip Adams, minute 24:16, 55 minutes duration, aired 27. October 2010

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Zitate (engl.) aus dem Film My Dinner with Andre, 1981

ANDRÉ GREGORY: In the sexual act there's that moment of complete forgetting which is so incredible, and in the next moment you start to think about things – work on the play, what you've got to do tomorrow. [...] I think it must be quite common. The world comes in quite fast. Now, that may be because we don't have the courage to stay in that place of forgetting, because that is again close to death. Like people who are afraid to go to sleep. In other words, you interrelate, and you don't know what the next moment will bring. And to not know what the next moment will bring, I think, brings you closer to a perception of death. So that, paradoxically, the closer you get to living, in the sense of relating constantly, I guess the closer you get to this thing that we're most afraid of. Transcript of movie My Dinner With André, 1981, My Dinner With Andre, part 12, YouTube film, minute 6:26, 8:47 minutes duration, posted 2. December 2008

ANDRÉ GREGORY: I think that's why people have affairs. [...] It's a good feeling. But then that feeling goes very quickly. [...] Well, have an affair and up to a certain point you can really feel you're on firm ground. There is a sexual conquest to be made. There are different questions: does she enjoy the ears being nibbled? How intensely can you talk about Schopenhauer at an elegant French restaurant, or whatever nonsense it is. It's all I think to give you the semblance that there's firm earth. But have a real relationship with a person that goes on for years – well, that's completely unpredictable. Then, you've cut off all your ties to the land, and you're sailing into the unknown, into uncharted seas. Transcript of movie My Dinner With André, 1981, My Dinner With Andre, part 12, YouTube film, minute 6:59, 8:47 minutes duration, posted 2. December 2008

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Zitate (engl.) von Anne Moir, David Jessel – Brain Sex. The Real Difference Between Men and Women

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On the biology of gender, the biological differences between men and women
Chapter	Chapter titles Topics	Description
One	The differences	The truth is that virtually every professional scientist and researcher into the subject has concluded that the brains of men and women are different. There has seldom been a greater divide between what intelligent, enlightened opinion presumes — that men and women have the same brain — and what science knows — that they do not.
Two	The birth of difference	It is not until six or seven weeks after conception that the unborn baby 'makes up its mind', and the brain begins to take on a male or a female pattern. What happens at that critical stage in the darkness of the womb, will determine the structure and organisation of the brain: and that, in turn, will decide the very nature of the mind. It is [...] a story largely unknown, but now, at last, beginning to unfold in its entirety.
Three	Sex in the brain	What we are, how we behave, how we think and feel, is governed not by the heart, but by the brain. The brain itself is influenced, in structure and operation, by the hormones. Given that brain structure and hormones are different in men and women men and women will behave in different ways. Understanding the exact relationship between brain structure, hormones and behavior would take us a long way to discovering the answer to some of humanity's most exasperating riddles.
Four	Childhood differences	Each sex has a mind of its own at birth. Innate differences in brain structure mean that from infancy and through childhood, the male and female paths increasingly diverge. Biology – accentuated by social attitudes which may themselves have a biological base – makes the destiny of men and women different, gives them different priorities, ambitions, and behavior.
Five	The brains come of age	With the onset of puberty, the human mechanism is past the blueprint stage. Now the hormones take on their second role, fuelling, powering, and informing the brain and our subsequent behavior as human beings. [...] Before puberty, in spite of all those infant sexual differences we have already documented, girls and boys have the same kinds of hormones circulating at the same levels in their bodies. Once the hormone levels increase, however, the changes are dramatic. In girls, at around the age of eight the level of female hormones begins to rise. [...] The hormones of boys come on stream about two years later than girls.
Six	The ability gap	Just as puberty dramatically sorts out the girls from the boys in their behavior and social attitudes, the hormones play their part in accentuating differences in mental abilities and aptitudes. The chemistry largely dictates the structure of our brains and the disposition of the functions in it. It should not be surprising, then, to find that differences in the organ of thought affect the things we choose to think about, and how well we apply our minds to them.
Seven	Hearts and minds	Physically, men and women are generally attracted to each other because of their differences. Ask any group of men from any culture to assess the attractiveness of a female, and they will tend to opt for the figure which curves where they are flat, is soft where they are strong and – though this may be a matter for aesthetic as much as scientific debate – swells where they are narrow. The same, in reverse, is true of women, who will tend to express a preference for men with broad shoulders tapering to narrow hips. [...] Yet in every other respect, we expect the sexes to be attracted to each other because of their similarities. Any computer-dating questionnaire will try to match intellectual like with like.
Eight	Like minds	The hormonal theory [of sexual deviancy] would explain why sexual deviancy is so much more common in men. Men have to go through a hormonal process to change their brains from the natural female pattern present in all of us, whatever our eventual sex, from the first weeks of our life in the womb; they have to be soaked in extra male hormone and restructured – so in the process of reconstruction the chance of mistakes is much greater than in the female, who doesn't need any reconstruction of her brain.
Nine	The marriage of two minds	Our new knowledge of what makes us tick, and tick to different rhythms, is not of itself going to revolutionise the complex design of marriage – we will present no new marital blueprint. We believe that much of the stress in this most vital of relationships stems from the misconception that men and women are essentially the same people. The contradiction between this assumption and the facts can lead to exasperation, bitterness and recrimination.
Ten	Why mothers are not fathers	Nothing is said to bring men and women closer to each other than the shared experience of parenthood. The truth more often is that, because of the different perspective each partner brings to it, few things more dramatically define the difference between men and women. However disappointing the fact may be to a devoted father, there is something unique in the relationship between a mother and a baby. No known society replaces the mother as a primary provider of care.
Eleven	Minds at work	We live in a world where we are no longer surprised to find a female prime minister, a female judge, a female rabbi or a female pilot. But there are still remarkably few women in top jobs, considering the large increase in the number of well-educated women. That is likely to remain the case.
Twelve	Bias at work	The Wall Street Journal once spoke of female careers being 'sabotaged by motherhood', demonstrating, in a few words, several misconceptions. First, many women do not see their retirement from the world of paid work as a disaster – home and family are a fulfilling and rewarding occupation. Secondly, motherhood is a career in itself, as any single-parent journalist will soon find out; and finally, even the most reluctant mothers, holding their new-born baby, find the notion that they have been somehow 'sabotaged' simply does not arise. If there is any question of sabotage, it is women who sabotage their own self-esteem. Too often they have defined career success and achievement in male terms.

Male lust is blind. High testosterone acting on the male brain increases the narrow focus and "single-minded" approach to the "object" of his desires. After orgasm, testosterone levels subside and the male brain starts to receive a wider input of information without the "narrowing" effect of larger amounts of testosterone present during arousal.

Source:
► Anne Moir (geneticist) and David Jessel (journalist), Brain Sex.The Real Difference Between Men and Women, first published by Michael Joseph (a division of Penguin), 1989, Delta, 1. August 1992

See also:
► Funnel of sexual arousal – KastlemanFunnel PDF Mark Kastleman, US American former pornography addict, recovered after 25 years, author of The Drug of the New Millennium. The Science of How Internet Pornography Radically Alters the Human Brain and Body, 2001, co-founder of Candeo, The Funnel of Arousal, presented by netnanny.com

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Love embrace ⇔ conventional sexual intercourse

Sex⇔Love	LoC	Realm	Tree Field	Orientation Expression	Experience
SEX Desire Wanting Craving	145	HELL Separation Duality	Tree of the Knowledge of Good and Evil Expulsion from Paradise	Disowned carnal sexuality "out there"	*Shortlived driven satisfaction* Sadness, loss, incompletion, lack, guilt, shame, frustration, anxiety, neuroticism, dysfunctionality
LOVE EMBRACE Lovingness Letting go of desiringness	600+	INFINITE Peace Oneness Nonduality	Tree of Life Garden of Eden	Reowning one's sexuality "in there"	*Longterm emerging contentment* Spontaneous unfolding, aliveness, goodness, eroticism of the heart, sense of innocence, sense of rejoining with oneness, awareness of truth, joy, gratitude, sacredness, subtlety, mystical state, "greatest human experience", completion
Compiled from Healing and Recovery, chapter 6 Sexuality, S. 192-197, 2009
See also stage 1 and 4 here: Three mating drives Helen Fisher ∞ Three types of integration of Yin and Yang Lao Tzu Three stages ✏ ONEness – 1 ✏ 1,000

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Sex – keywords

And the two will become one flesh.
So they are no longer two, but one. Mark 10, 8 (NT) NIV, 1984

Sex is

a spiritual mystery
an ingrown physical fact.
a function of survival and procreation calibrating at 200-205.
a means of pleasure.
biological in nature.
a classic life koan.
nonintegrous [LoC 145].
Tree of the knowledge of good and evil.
a projection of animal lust onto another.
"out there".
oblivious about love.
desirous, wanting, craving, lusting.
incomplete.
dysfunctional, neurotic.
will find abnormal outlets when blocked in its normal expression.
prone to attachment.
addicting.
impatient.
demanding.
shortlived driven satisfaction.
frustrated, sad, grieving loss.
aggressive, violent.
possessive.
goal oriented (orgasm, power over another).
pursues ardently for its own sake.
insists to get release.
indulging in excitement.
infatuous.
emotionalized.
guilt laden.
can be interrupted.
can be satanic seduction.
more than mere skin to skin.
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Sexuality as imbued by the Old Testament

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Coupling

Human are social beings and pair bonders by nature.

It is not good for the human being to be alone. Genesis 2, 18 (OT)

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Celebration of intimacy and sex

The Song of Solomon [Song of Songs] celebrates the physical intimacy between a man and a woman.

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Sex and virility in old age

Abraham's menopausal wife Sarah contemplates having sex with her elder husband.

So she [Sarah] laughed silently to herself and said, "How could a worn-out woman like me enjoy such pleasure, especially when my master [my husband] is also so old?" Genesis 18, 12 New Living Translation, 2007 (OT)

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Sexual infidelity

Adultery – concerning more than a third of modern populations – is held as a capital crime in the Old Testament.
King Solomon was a bigamist. He had 700 wives and 300 concubines.

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Sexual abuse

Sexual abuse defies that all human beings were created in the image and likeness of the divine. Sexual violence undermines extended families, societies and whole cultures. Also King David himself committed this crime. Revenge taken on the perpetrator of sexual abuse leads to more abuse, to war, to death.

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Homosexuality vs. sexual violence (attempted rape)

Genesis 19 claims that all male Sodomites sought to "know" i.e. have sex with the two visitors.
Now this was the sin of your sister Sodom: She and her daughters were arrogant, overfed and unconcerned; they did not help the poor and needy. Ezekiel 16, 49 (OT)

In the story of Sodom and Gomorrah the prophet Ezekiel does not condemn Sodom for homosexuality but for pride, gluttony, and neglect and for failing to take care of the poor.

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Zitate (engl.) – Lao Tzu on three types of Yin ∞ Yang integration and sacred sexuality around 300 CE

Although most people spend their entire lives following the biological impulse, it is only a tiny portion of our beings. If we remain obsessed with seeds and eggs, we are married to the fertile reproductive valley of the Mysterious Mother but not to her immeasurable heart and all-knowing mind.
If you wish to unite with her heart and mind, you must integrate yin and yang within and refine their fire upward. Then you have the power to merge with the whole being of the Mysterious Mother. Lao Tzu [LoC 610] (604-531 BC) Chinese sage, philosopher, founder of Daoism, Hua Hu Ching, paragraph 65, translated by Brian Walker, Harper SanFrancisco, 1995

Three types of integration
1. The first integration of yin and yang is the union of seed and egg within the womb.
2. The second integration of yin and yang is the sexual union of the mature male and female.
  Both of these are concerned with flesh and blood, and all that is conceived in this realm must one day disintegrate and pass away.
3. It is only the third integration which gives birth to something immortal.
  In this integration, a highly evolved individual joins the subtle inner energies of yin and yang under the light of spiritual understanding. Through the practices of the Integral Way he refines his gross, heavy energy into something ethereal and light. This divine light has the capability of penetrating into the mighty ocean of spiritual energy and complete wisdom that is the Tao. The new life created by the final integration is self-aware yet without ego, capable of inhabiting a body yet not attached to it, and guided by wisdom rather than emotion. Whole and virtuous, it can never die. Lao Tzu, Hua Hu Ching, paragraph 66, translated by Brian Walker, Harper SanFrancisco, 1995

The result of this is improved health, harmonized emotions, the cessation of cravings and impulses, and, at the highest level, the transcendent integration of the entire energy body. Lao Tzu, Hua Hu Ching, paragraph 67, translated by Brian Walker, Harper SanFrancisco, 1995

Because higher and higher unions of yin and yang are necessary for the conception of higher life, some students may be instructed in the art of dual cultivation, in which yin and yang are directly integrated in the tai chi of sexual intercourse. […] If genuine virtue and true mastery come together […] the practice can bring about a profound balancing of the student's gross and subtle energies [otherwise it can have a destructive effect]. Lao Tzu, Hua Hu Ching, paragraph 67, translated by Brian Walker, Harper SanFrancisco, 1995

A person's approach to sexuality is a sign of his level of evolution. Unevolved persons practice ordinary sexual intercourse. Placing all emphasis upon the sexual organs, they neglect the body's other organs and systems. Whatever physical energy is accumulated is summarily discharged, and the subtle energies are similarly dissipated and disordered. It is a great backward leap.²
Where ordinary intercourse is effortful, angelic cultivation is calm, relaxed, quiet, and natural.
Where ordinary intercourse unites sex organs with sex organs, angelic cultivation unites spirit with spirit, mind with mind, and every cell of one body with every cell of the other body.
Culminating not in dissolution but in integration, it is an opportunity for a man and woman to mutually transform and uplift each other into the realm of bliss and wholeness. Lao Tzu, Hua Hu Ching, Hua Hu Ching, paragraph 69, translated by Brian Walker, Harper SanFrancisco, 1995

The cords of passion and desire weave a binding net around you. [...] The trap of duality is tenacious. Bound, rigid, and trapped, you cannot experience liberation.
Through dual cultivation [bonding subtle sexual intercourse] it is possible to unravel the net, soften the rigidity, dismantle the trap.
Dissolving your yin energy into the source of universal life, attracting the yang energy from that same source, you leave behind individuality and your life becomes pure nature. Free of ego, living naturally, working virtuously, you become filled with inexhaustible vitality and are liberated forever from the cycle of death and rebirth. Lao Tzu, Hua Hu Ching, paragraph 70, translated by Brian Walker, Harper SanFrancisco, 1995

Understand this if nothing else: spiritual freedom and oneness with the Tao are not randomly bestowed gifts, but the rewards of conscious self-transformation and self-evolution. Lao Tzu, Hua Hu Ching, paragraph 65, translated by Brian Walker, Harper SanFrancisco, 1995

Note:
► "The peak orgasm" – It is the goal of conventional sex. One applies force and effort to rush to the summit and collapses into a prolonged phase of recovery. Dopamine levels peak and crash accordingly.
► "The valley orgasm." – Taoists taught a non-orgasmic practice. Unconventional sex is very peaceful, ecstatic, extended, merging experience. One reaches a state of non-attachment and deep union while exchanging Divine power. It cannot be forced. It does not trigger high-dopamine spurts.

Quoted from Into the Realm of Bliss and Wholeness by Marnia Robinson,
US American former corporate lawyer, researcher and author on ancient sacred-sex prescriptions, 11. May 2005

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Developmental stages of sexual union – Lao Tzu

Three types of integrating Yin and Yang

Stage _____ Quality	Expressing Divinity Divine Mother	Location __________ Quality of union	Type of integration of Yin and Yang __________ Action	Biblical commandment __________ Results	Status
1. _____ LoC 145 Nonin- tegrous	Fertile reproductive valley	Mother's womb __________ Ordinary intercourse	Biological impulse Union of sperm and egg __________ Effortful Diffusing	Be fruitful!	Mortality Transitory
2. _____ LoC 250 Integrous	Fertile reproductive valley	Biological impulse Male sex organ and female sex organ __________ Ordinary intercourse	Biological impulse Sexual union of mature male and female partners __________ Effortful Diffusing	Multiply!	Mortality Transitory
3. _____ LoC 500 Nonlinear	Immeasurable heart Allknowing mind __________ Allness	Inner being of the refined individual Yin and Yang fired upward __________ Union of spirit with spirit, mind with mind, every cell with every cell of both bodies __________ Angelic mutual cultivation³	Practice of the integral way Selfawareness without ego Refining of gross energy to subtle light energy In the body, not attached to it __________ Calm, relaxed, quiet, natural Integrating	Be(come) stewards of the Earth! –––––––––– Improved health, Harmonized emotions, Healing of addictions Appeasing of negative impulses Transcendent integration of the entire energy body Mastery, Whole, virtuous __________ Mutual uplifting and transformation, bliss	Immortality Imperishable Timelessness Field for the conception of higher life

See also:
► Lao Tzu [LoC 610] (604-531 BC) Chinese sage, philosopher, founder of Daoism, On sacred sexuality, Hua Hu Ching around 300 CE
► Quotes on Karezza

Three known / brain researched stages of mating and bonding
Stage	Expression	Brain chemicals	Legend
1 LoC 145	Lust No relationship	Testosterone Estrogen	"These hormones get you out looking for anything." Dr. Helen Fisher
2 LoC 250	Attraction Shortterm relationship	Monoamines: Dopamine – also activated by cocaine and nicotine Norepinephrine [adrenalin] – triggers sweating, heart racing Serotonin – most important love chemical, may trigger temporary insanity	Love-struckness, losing appetite, needing less sleep, obsessive daydreaming about the new lover
3 LoC 250	Attachment Commitment Long-term relationship	Oxytocin – released by the hypothalamus gland during intimate exchange, orgasm, child birth, breast feeding, builds strong bond between mother and child Vasopressin – controls the kidneys [see also prairie vole]	Attachment is the bond that keeps couples with children together.
The Science of Love, presented by BBC

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Variety of transcendent sexual experiences

Mystical sexuality in its diverse expression

Altered transcendent sexual experiences cannot be forced.
Those who have suffered severely from childhood trauma have a higher probability
of having nonordinary altered states of consciousness.

% Females	% Males	Experience	Description
47% Females	50% Males	Merging with the partner	Actual dissolving of each partner's bodies into the other but not with other physical objects in the locale is mentioned more frequently than any other.
38% Females	29% Males	Kundalini	Many mystical experiencers refer to the serpent power that consists primarily of feeling particularly powerful energy fields (heat, light, being turned into liquid) based in and arising from the base of the spine.
32% Females	26% Males	Third presence	An invisible intelligent force field which develops between the partners seemingly arises "from their mutuality." It seems like the Holy Ghost or a state of grace and produces beatific feelings.
25% Females	25% Males	Out-of-body experiences	Characterized by surprise as one learns that they feel outside of their body. The view is usually from above one's body or it may be a change from the indoors to outdoors. Going through walls becomes a possibility. Most often this was felt after sex; not during or before.
21% Females	24% Males	Past lives	Some believed to be reliving the lives of their ancestors. The visions and biographical elements were detailed.
22% Females	13% Males	One with nature	The experiencer feels a sense of being united with all of creation, including all life forms and inaminate objects, such as planets, mountains and animals.
25% Females	Only 3% Males	Visions	Other beings, other entities appear. Often they just felt a strong presence. 14% of the experiencers went beyond this and had actual visions. They were thought to be angels, demons or greater or lesser gods.
6% Females	11% Males	Clairsentience	A feeling of suddenly becoming aware of an important truth, such as, having a profound insight or a spiritual or religious revelation. That is the origin of many new and old religions! It is clearly descending understanding of the reason of existence; the purpose of one's life, etc, but don't ask the experiencer to explain, as many of the truths cannot be put into words. Yet some can and do write down their detailed revelations; they feel compelled to do so.
8% Females	5% Males	Trepasso	Seeing another head or succession of heads (perhaps, inhuman) on the lover's body.
6% Females	5% Males	Deity possession	A feeling of being possessed by various deities; some evil, some good such as Jungian archetypals.

Source: Jenny Wade, Ph.D., US American developmental psychologist, researcher, lecturer, consultant,
Transcendent Sex. When Lovemaking Opens the Veil, Pocket, original edition, 6. April 2004

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Online study of sexual desire (2011) – Ogas and Gaddam

Alfred Kinsey's study to systematically document the sexual interests surveyed 18,000 middle-class Caucasians in the 1950s.

Combining online behavioral data (related to erotica, porn, and other sexually-related materials) with cutting edge neuroscience Ogi Ogas and Sai Gaddam's online study of sexual desire 2011 comprises the analysis of a billion web searches, a million web sites, a million erotic videos, a million erotic stories, millions of personal ads, and tens of thousands of digitized romance novels consumed by millions of unwitting anonymous Internet users.

Online study of the expressions of sexual desire of the genders 2011
Aspects	Men's sexual interests	Women's sexual interests
General result	The male sexual brain differs much more from the female sexual brain than is commonly believed.
Body and psyche	With men physical arousal and psychological arousal are united.	Women’s psychological arousal is separated from their physical arousal.
Sexual patterns	Men's sexual interests are formed during adolescence and rarely change.	Women's sexual interests are dynamic, plastic and change frequently throughout their lives.
Dominance submission	80 and 60% of men are aroused by dominance cues. 20 and 40% of men are aroused by submission cues. Most men prefer to play a dominant role in the bedroom.	80 and 60% of women are aroused by submission cues. 20 and 40% of women are aroused by dominance cues. Most women prefer to play a submissive role in the bedroom.
Sexual brain	The male sexual brain resembles a reckless hunter.	The female sexual brain resembles a cautious detective agency.
Cues / Stimuli⁴	The male sexual brain can be aroused by a single stimulus.	The female sexual brain requires multiple simultaneous stimuli ("all over the map") to become aroused.
Visual / Imaginary	Male arousal is 90% due to visual images.	Women like stories. Women enjoy writing and sharing erotic stories with other women. Preferred themes: two heterosexual men having sex
Age preference	The majority of men prefer erotic images and videos featuring middle aged women (40s, 50s, and 60s).
Figure preference	Men prefer overweight women to underweight women to get sexually aroused.
Gay men	Except preferring males, the sexual brain of gay men is virtually identical to that of straight men.
Pornography	98% of paid online pornography is watched by men.	2% of paid online pornography is watched by women.

A feminism that approaches the bedroom on equal footing and then proceeds mutually through asymmetrical power roles would be a sexually healthy form of feminism. One that needs to maintain equal power roles in the bedroom would limit sexual satisfaction. Ogi Jonathan Ogas (*1971) US American cognitive neuroscientist

Source: Ogi Jonathan Ogas (*1971) US American cognitive neuroscientist, Dr. Sai Gaddam, Bachelor of Technology Boston University, A Billion Wicked Thoughts. What the World's Largest Experiment Reveals about Human Desire, A Billion Wicked Thoughts, Dutton Adult, 5. May 2011

See also counter article: Rethinking Ogas and Gaddam's 'A Billion Wicked Thoughts' Does Internet porn reveal our sexual desires – or alter them?, presented by psychologytoday.com, Cupid's Poisoned Arrow, Marnia Robinson, US American former corporate lawyer, researcher, author on ancient sacred-sex prescriptions, 26. July 2012

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Sexualität – Tabelle mit BW-Werten kalibriert von D. Hawkins

Sexualität in diversen Ausprägungen

Zwingend linear – unter BW 200: ohne Liebe, Wahrheit, Kraft
Integer linear – über BW 200: verbunden mit Liebe, Wahrheit, Kraft
Integer nichtlinear – über BW 500: wahre Liebe und Spiritualität

BW-Wert	Sexbezogene Handlung / Thema
5	Hersteller/Vertreiber Herstellung/Vertrieb von sadistischer Kinderpornografie⁵
14	Zuhälter / Zuhälterei (Sexverkauf durch andere)⁶
35	Sexueller Sadist / Sadismus⁷
60	Sexuell motiviertes Stalking⁸
60	Pornografie im Internet (mit Kindern)⁹
65¹⁰-135	Pädophilie
75	Pornografie im Internet (für/mit Erwachsene/n)¹¹
80	Bestrebungen, Sexualkontakte zwischen Erwachsenen mit Jugendlichen zu liberalisieren/legalisieren (Sh. USA: North American Man/Boy Love Association (NAMBLA)), seit 1978¹²
95	Neotantra, angeboten in Form von neuzeitlichen Gruppenseminaren
105	Pornografie (als Aktmalerei)¹³
125	Haltung der Katholischen Kirche zur Pädophilie katholischer Geistlicher¹⁴
135	Polygame Sekten(strukturen)
135	Pädophilie¹⁵
140	Prostitution¹⁶
145	Polygamie¹⁷
145	"Wahnsinnig" verliebt sein
145	Possessives sexuelles Begehren (Passion)
160	Ehebruch – Sexuelles Fehlverhalten¹⁸
180	Theologische Theorie über und die Haltung der röm.kath. Kirche zur Verhütung¹⁹
200	Anfang des Liebens
200	Diverse Sexpraktiken zur Gewährleistung des Überlebens und des Fortbestands der Spezies
200-499	Liebe zu (einem) Partner/n/Mitmenschen in progressiv verlaufenden Übungsstadien (mit und/oder ohne Sex)
ca. 205	Menschlicher Körper²⁰
205	Empfängnisverhütung und Verhütungsmittel²¹
235	Pro-Abtreibungs-Haltung (US-amerikanische Gesellschaft)²²
250	Integer praktizierte Sexualität (Liebesakt)²³
250	Massage²⁴
250	Anti-Abtreibungs-Haltung (US-amerikanische Gesellschaft)²⁵
265	Gesetz zur Eheschließung unter Homosexuellen (im US-amerikanischen Staat Massachussetts)²⁶
310	Playboy Magazin²⁷
335	Gesetz zur nichtehelichen Lebensgemeinschaft (US-amerikanisches Gesellschaftsleben)
405	Gesellschaftlicher Status von Frauen/Kindern in USA²⁸
425	Gesellschaftlicher Status von Männern in USA²⁹
500+	Authentisches Lieben eines/mehrerer Mitmenschen eines/mehrerer Lebewesen und von Teilen der Schöpfung
500+	Spiritualität
515	Buddhistisches Tantra
540+	Bedingungslose Lieben aller Menschen aller Lebewesen sowie der gesamten Schöpfung
560+	Mitgefühl (Com-Passion)

Zusammen gestellt aus diversen Quellen u.a.:
Truth versus Falsehood. How to Tell the Difference, S. 94, 95, 104, 106, 122, 149, 181, 183, 188, 2005
Audiointerview ohne Titel, präsentiert vom US-amerikanischen Webradiosender Beyond the Ordinary, Minute 54, 10. Juni 2003

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Sexuality (Diagram) – LoC calibrations by D. Hawkins

Various expressions of sexuality and bonding

Force driven linear realm – Below LoC 200: Lacking power, truth, love
Integrous linear realm – Above LoC 200+: Associated with power, truth, love
Integrous nonlinear realm – Above LoC 500+: Expression of true love and spirituality

LoC	Sex related action / Topic
5	Sadist child pornographer/pornography³⁰
14	Pimp / pimping and pandering³¹
35	Sexual sadist / sadism³²
60	(Sexually motivated) Stalking³³
60	Internet pornography (including children)³⁴
65³⁵-135	Pedophilia
75	Internet pornography (adults)³⁶
80	Advocacy for liberalizing / legalizing sexual contact between adults and minors (See US pedophile and pederasty organization: 'Man/Boy love'), since 1978³⁷
95	Neotantra as offered in modern group seminars
105	Nude painting (Pornography)³⁸
125	Attitude of the Catholic Church in regard to the pedophilia of their clergymen
135	Polygamous i.e. polyamorous cult (structures)
140	Prostitution³⁹
145	Polygamy⁴⁰
145	"Madly" fallen in love
145	Possessive sexual desire / covetousness (Passion)
160	Adultery – Sexual misconduct⁴¹
180	Theological theory of the attitude of the Catholic Church in regard to contraception
200	Beginning of learning to love
200	Various sexual practices to assure sustenance and survival of the species
200-499	Learning to express love (for) a/more partner/s/fellow beings in progressively growing stages (including and/or without sex)
ca. 205	Human body⁴²
205	Contraception⁴³
235	Pro-abortion attitude / legalized abortion (USA)⁴⁴
250	Integrously practiced sexuality (lovemaking)⁴⁵
250	Massage⁴⁶
250	Anti-abortion attitude (USA)⁴⁷
265	Gay Marriage law (US American law in Massachussetts)⁴⁸
310	'Playboy' Magazine⁴⁹
335	Cohabitation / Common-law marriage (US American law)
405	Position of women / children in USA⁵⁰
425	Position of men in USA⁵¹
500+	True love / authentically loving one/more fellow humans/beings and parts of creation
500+	Spirituality
515	Buddhist tantra
540+	Unconditional love / unconditionally loving all fellow humans/beings and parts of creation
560+	Compassion (com-Passion)

Excerpted from various sources such as:
Truth versus Falsehood. How to Tell the Difference, S. 94, 95, 104, 106, 122, 149, 181, 183, 188, 2005
Untitled audio interview presented by US American web radio station Beyond the Ordinary, minute 54, 10. June 2003

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LoC calibrations (engl.): Sexuality

Downward spiral of pornography

LoC 310 – 'Playboy' magazine
LoC 105 – Nude painting (Stationary pornography)
LoC 80 – Advocacy for liberalizing / legalizing sexual contact between adults and minors
LoC 75 – Internet pornography movies (adults)
LoC 65-135 – Pedophilia
LoC 60 – Internet pornography movies (including children)
LoC 5 – Production, producer, actors of sadist child pornography movies

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Index: Sexualität / Sexuality – Bücher von D. Hawkins

Das All-sehende Auge, S.
Licht des Alls, S.

Englische Werke

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Index: Audio- und Videomedien (engl.) von und mit D. Hawkins

Video Archival Office Visit Series Sexuality, A-4, 1 CD / DVD, 1980s – David R Hawkins on Sexuality, YouTube film, 10:05 minutes duration, 1. September 2011 Deleted due to objection of Veritas publishing
- Alternative source: David R Hawkins on Sexuality, YouTube film, 10:04 minutes duration, posted by StudyYourself 17. January 2012
  Audio presentation Sexuality, YouTube film, 10:54 minutes duration, posted by StudyYourself 17. January 2012
  Sex and spiritual conflict (guilt, religion, programming, social belief systems)
  Low-energy and high-energy sex
  Overcoming impotence and lack of response
  Transcending desire so that one is not at the effect of it
  Sex and gender, Yin and Yang energies
  Owning one's "opposite" within oneself
  The love of sex, sexual energy of the love relationship
  Dysfunctional sexuality: a key to understanding the problem in the relationship, a projection of distorted self-image
  Does God approve of sex?
  Sex and age; does it get better the older one becomes?
Video Sedona Seminar God: Transcendent and Immanent, November 2002 – On sex, money and other attachments, YouTube film, 3:51 minutes duration, posted 5. May 2011
Video Sedona Seminar Enlightenment, 3 DVD set, August 2003 – Is Celibacy Necessary To Transcend A Level , YouTube film, 4:22 minutes duration, posted 5. January 2012

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Extinguishing the tempting and triggering mental pictures

Sedona Seminar Belief, Trust and Credibility, 3 DVD set, 14. June 2008 – The Cravingness Of Desires, YouTube film, 3:10 minutes duration, posted by SpiritualBuzz 19. May 2012
Sedona Seminar Belief, Trust and Credibility, 3 DVD set, 14. June 2008 – Role Of Sexuality In Life, YouTube film, 4:08 minutes duration, posted by StudyYourself 8. November 2012

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Literatur

Julie Henderson, US-amerikanische Tantralehrerin, Die Erweckung des Inneren Geliebten, Ansata, Interlaken. 2. Auflage, März 1997
Sam Keen, Königreiche der Liebe. Die sieben Stufen der Ekstase, Frankfurt/M; Berlin, Ullstein, 1992
1. Besitz 2. Spiel 3. Macht 4. Herz 5. Reinigung 6. Licht 7. Gnade
Jack Morin, Erotische Intelligenz, Goldmann, 1999
Tor Nørretranders / Noerretranders (*1955) dänischer Professor für Wissenschaftsphilosophie, Wissenschaftsjournalist, Sachbuchautor, Homo generosus. Warum wir Schönes lieben und Gutes tun, Rowohlt, Reinbek, Gebundene Ausgabe, 2004
- Über die Entstehung von Sex durch generöses Verhalten. Warum wir Schönes lieben und Gutes tun, Taschenbuchausgabe, Rowohlt, 2006
Marnia Robinson, US-amerikanische ehemalige Firmenanwältin, Autorin zu der Thematik heiliger Sex, Das Gift an Amors Pfeil. Von der Gewohnheit zum Gleichgewicht in sexuellen Beziehungen, Arbor Verlag, 520 Seiten, 20. April 2010
Naomi Wolf (*1962) US-amerikanische Literaturwissenschaftlerin, politische Aktivistin, führende Sprecherin der Dritten Welle des Feminismus, Schriftstellerin, Vagina. Eine Geschichte der Weiblichkeit, Rowohlt-Verlag, Reinbek bei Hamburg, 2. Mai 2013

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Literatur (engl.)

Rudolf von Urban, M.D. (1879-1964) Austrian psychiatrist, Sex Perfection and Marital Happiness, Rider & Co, (excerpts), 1949, 1952, The Dial Press, Inc., second printing, edition 1955
Norman O. Brown (1913-2002) Mexican US American emeritus professor of humanities, classicist, University of California, Santa Cruz, author, Love's Body, University of California Press, 1966, reprint edition, 12. September 1990
Dennis R. MacDonald, US American professor of theology, There Is No Male or Female. The Fate of a Dominical Saying in Paul and Gnosticism, Harvard Dissertations in Religion, Philadelphia, Fortress Press, 1987
Charlotte S. Kasl, Ph.D., Women, Sex, and Addiction. A Search for Love and Power, Harper Paperbacks, 1st edition, 5. July 1990
Douglas Wile, Ph.D., The Art of the Bedchamber. Chinese Sexual Yoga, State University of New York Press, February 1992
Jack Morin, The Erotic Mind. Unlocking the Inner Sources of Passion and Fulfillment, Harper Paperbacks, 2. August 1996
Ronald F. Levant, US American professor of psychology, Harvard University, editor, Gary R. Brooks, editor, Men and Sex. New Psychological Perspectives, Wiley, 1st edition, October 1997
Dean Ornish M.D., US American professor of medicine Love and Survival. 8 Pathways to Intimacy and Health, Harper, 1st edition, 17. February 1999
Julie Henderson, US American tantra teacher, THE LOVER WITHIN. Opening to Energy in Sexual Practice, Barrytown/Station Hill Press, updated edition, 1. August 1999
Prof. Dr. Judith Orloff, US American assistant professor of psychiatry, UCLA, Los Angeles, USA, Dr. Judith Orloff's Guide to Intuitive Healing. 5 Steps to Physical, Emotional, and Sexual Wellness, Three Rivers Press, March 2001
Audre Lorde (1934-1992) Caribbean-American writer, poet, activist, Bonzani Camille, coauthor, The Uses of the Erotic. The Erotic as Power, Kore Press, 1. January 2000
Marnia Robinson, US American former corporate lawyer, researcher, author on ancient sacred-sex prescriptions, Peace Between the Sheets. Healing with Sexual Relationships, Frog Books, 17. November 2003
Google excerpt: Peace Between the Sheets
Dr. Jenny Wade, US American psychologist, Transcendent Sex. When Lovemaking Opens the Veil, Pocket, original edition, 6. April 2004
Interviews with 91 people who spontaneously experienced transcendent awarenesses during sexual encounters
Diana Richardson, South African pioneer of the sexual evolution, Tantric Orgasm for Women, Destiny Books, 10. May 2004
Leonard Shlain, M.D. sextimeandpower.com (1937-2009) US American associate professor of surgery, UC San Francisco, chairman of laparoscopic surgery, researcher, writer, Sex, Time, and Power. How Women's Sexuality Shaped Human Evolution, Penguin, July 2004
Tor Nørretranders / Noerretranders (*1955) Danish author of popular science, The Generous Man. How Helping Others is the Sexiest Thing You Can Do, Da Capo Press, 1st translated edition, 29. September 2006
Robert Weiss, LCSW, CSAT-S, US American founding director of The Sexual Recovery Institute, Jennifer P. Schneider, M.D., Ph.D., US American internal physician, expert in addiction medicine, Untangling the Web. Breaking Free from Sex, Porn, and Fantasy Addiction in the Internet Age, Alyson Press, New York, 1. November 2006
Robert Jensen, US American professor of journalism, University of Austin, Texas, Getting Off. Pornography and the End of Masculinity, South End Press, 1st edition, 1. September 2007
Donna Freitas Ph.D., US American Catholic assistant professor of religion, Boston University, Sex and the Soul. Juggling Sexuality, Spirituality, Romance, and Religion on America's College Campuses, Oxford University Press, 11. April 2008
John William Lloyd (1857-1940) US American author, The Karezza Method. Magnetation, The Art of Connubial Love, Forgotten Books, first published 1931, reprinted 7. May 2008
Daniel G. Amen M.D., US American neuropsychiatrist, The Brain in Love. 12 Lessons to Enhance Your Love Life, Scribd excerpt Three Rivers Press, reprint edition, 14. July 2009
Marnia Robinson, US American former corporate lawyer, researcher, author on ancient sacred-sex prescriptions, Cupid's Poisoned Arrow. From Habit to Harmony in Sexual Relationships, North Atlantic Books, 23. June 2009
Diana Richardson, South African pioneer of the sexual evolution, Tantric Sex for Men. Making Love a Meditation Destiny Books, Destiny Books, 18. June 2010
Review by Marnia Robinson, US American former corporate lawyer, researcher and author on ancient sacred-sex prescriptions, Tantric Sex for Men'', 12. November 2010
Diana Richardson, South African pioneer of the sexual evolution, Slow Sex. The Path to Fulfilling and Sustainable Sexuality, Destiny Books, 27. January 2011
Naomi Wolf (*1962) US American former political consultant, political activist, social critic, leading spokesperson of the third wave of the feminist movement, author, Vagina. A New Biography, Ecco, first edition, 11. September 2012

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Wikipedia-Einträge Karezza, Ödipuskonflikt, Sexualität, Verführungstheorie Sigmund Freud stellte Mitte der 1890er Jahre diese Theorie auf, die er bald verwarf, jedoch erst 1906 öffentlich widerrief.]

Liebe, wie ist sie möglich?, Essay von Frank Amberland, 2005
Marnia Robinson, US-amerikanische ehemalige Firmenanwältin, Autorin zu der Thematik heiliger Sex, Warum ziehen sich Liebende nach dem Sex voreinander zurück?, Runiting.info, 20. Oktober 2006
Marnia Robinson, US-amerikanische ehemalige Firmenanwältin, Autorin zu der Thematik heiliger Sex, Der Coolidge-Effekt, 21. Oktober 2006
Walter Last, Biochemiker, Sexuelle Energie für Gesundheit und Heilung, Teil 1 von 2, präsentiert von Nexus Magazin, Ausgabe 11, Oktober 2009
Interview mit Jose Cabezon, Schwul/Hetero, Mann/Frau, Selbst/Anderer. Was hätte wohl der Buddha zur Schwulen- und Lesbenbefreiung zu sagen gehabt?, WIE-Magazin, Amy Edelstein, Ausgabe 11, Oktober 2009
Frauen, die mit ihren Gurus schlafen … und warum sie es gerne tun, WIE-Magazin, Jessica Roemischer, Ausgabe 14, 2010
David Schnarch, Ph.D., US-amerikanischer klinischer Psychologe, Eheberater, Sextherapeut, Intimität und Verlangen. Sexuelle Leidenschaft wieder wecken, Klett-Cotta, 1. Auflage, Februar 2011
Die Vagina. Tore zum Paradies, präsentiert von derstandard.at, 4. Mai 2013
Buchbesprechung von: Naomi Wolf (*1962) US-amerikanische Literaturwissenschaftlerin, politische Aktivistin, führende Sprecherin der Dritten Welle des Feminismus, Schriftstellerin, Vagina. Eine Geschichte der Weiblichkeit, Rowohlt-Verlag, Reinbek bei Hamburg, 2. Mai 2013

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Wikipedia entries Freud's seduction theory Sigmund Freud posited this hypothesis in the mid-1890s and covered up his abandonment of this theory until 1906., Oedipus complex

Walter Last, biochemist, medical researcher, Sexuality, Health-science-spirit.com
Walter Last, biochemist, medical researcher, Spiritual sexuality, Health-science-spirit.com
Barry Long (†), Australia, Transforming Sex into Love, CD excerpt, 2005
Marnia Robinson, US American former corporate lawyer, researcher, author on ancient sacred-sex prescriptions, Lust and the Primitive Brain, 2. September 2006
Study by Coreen Farris, Teresa A. Treat, Richard J. Viken and Richard M. McFall, Indiana University, Bloomington, USA, Perceptual Mechanisms That Characterize Gender Differences in Decoding Women's Sexual Intent, Psychological Science, Vol. 19, issue 4, pp. 348–354, April 2008
Sexual coercion and the misperception of sexual intent, Clinical Psychology Review, volume 28, issue 1, pp 48-66, January 2008
Marnia Robinson, US American former corporate lawyer, researcher, author on ancient sacred-sex prescriptions, Will Orgasms Keep You in Love? A steady drip of oxytocin may help sustain relationship harmony., presented by Psychology Today, 1. November 2011
WTF: Pope Benedict XVI Suggests Pedophilia Was Acceptable in 1970s, submitted by Michael Allen, 13. November 2011

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Audio- und Videolinks (engl.)

Audio interview with Dr. Daniel Amen, on Sex on the Brain, presented by Talk to Tara.com, host Tara, MP3, 30:30 minutes duration, date unknown
Video presentation by Helen Fisher (*1945) Canadian-American research professor in biological anthropology, human behavior researcher, Center for Human Evolutionary Studies, Rutgers University, expert on romantic love, chief scientific adviser to Chemistry.com, on Find out why we're addicted to love, Interview transcript, PDF, presented by The Science Network (TSN), co-founding director and host Roger Bingham (*1948) British science communicator, writer, public television producer, 1:54:00 duration, 9. June 2006
"Romantic love is not an emotion, but a drive."
Audio interview with David M. Buss, US American professor of psychology, The University of Texas at Austin, Evolved Sexuality, presented by Culturesnob.com, MP3, 9.25 MB, 26. October 2006
Overturned myths of social sciences during Buss' research:
1. Universality of the sex differences between men and women.
2. Importance placed on love as a human universal in longterm mate selection.
3. Ubiquity of sexual conflict.
TV interview with Dr. Daniel Amen, Amen Clinic for Behavioral Medicine, Sex on the Brain, presented by NBC TV station, YouTube film, 5:36 minutes duration, posted 17. October 2007
Video presentation by Ken Wilber [LoC 490] (*1949) US American transpersonal philosopher, consciousness researcher, Erogenous Zones of Life, Light, and Emptiness, YouTube film, 8:41 minutes duration, posted 12. November 2006
Physical body (Life); subtle body (Light); causal body (Emptiness)
Dr. Lana Holstein and Dr. David Taylor, US America sexexperts, The Seven Dimensions of Love, YouTube film, 1:22 minutes duration, posted 14. March 2007
1. Biology, 2. Sensuality, 3. Desire / Mating, 4. Heart Love / Commitment, 5. Intimacy / Trust / Truth, 6. Appreciation / Revealing Radiance 7. Ecstasy / God Union

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Audio- und Videolinks (engl.) – Marnia Robinson

Neither John Gray (waiting it out in the cave) nor Dr. Ruth Westheimer (firing it up) can offer a viable solution to 14 days of neurochemical hangover (mood swings) in the limbic system past the big O.

"Events occurring in the brain when we are in love have similarities with mental illness." BBC

"Love is an amalgam of seemingly incompatible and ungovernable mood swings." Frank Tallis, clinical psychologist

"The situation is complicated by the fact that orgasm itself creates a drug-like high." [This was observed, while viewing scans of men ejaculating. The brain scans of men ejaculating are comparable to the brain scans of people shooting heroin.] Gert Holstege, Dutch scientist, Brain activation during human male ejaculation, PubMed, 8. October 2003

Video presentation by Marnia Robinson, US American former corporate lawyer, researcher and author on ancient sacred-sex prescriptions, Biology Has Designs on Your Love Life, RVTV series presented by Reuniting.info, issued first July 2005
- The Mandate to Separate, WMV format, ? minutes duration
  - Transcript on biologically built-in relationship problems Biology's Mandate to Separate, 28. July 2005
- Sexologists of the Past, WMV format, ? minutes duration
  Three sages who advised the middle path of lovemaking – Lao Tzu, Jesus, and A.B. Stockham, MD.
Video presentation by Marnia Robinson, US American former corporate lawyer, researcher and author on ancient sacred-sex prescriptions on The Hidden Factor in Relationship Disharmony, presented by Reuniting.info, 43:26 minutes duration, posted 15. February 2009
Video presentation by Marnia Robinson, US American former corporate lawyer, researcher, author on ancient sacred-sex prescriptionsHealing with Sexual Relationships, YouTube film, 9:18 minutes duration, posted 10. May 2009
Audio interview with Marnia Robinson, US American former corporate lawyer, researcher, author on ancient sacred-sex prescriptionsMP3, presented by Jefferson Public Radio, program Jefferson Exchange, host Keith Hente, 14 minutes duration, 3. June 2009
Audio interview with Marnia Robinson, US American former corporate lawyer, researcher, author on ancient sacred-sex prescriptions Cupid's Poisoned Arrow: From Habit to Harmony in Sexual Relationships, host Deborah Harper, web radio station Psychjourney, 36:31 minutes duration, 7. July 2009
TV interview with Marnia Robinson, US American former corporate lawyer, researcher and author on ancient sacred-sex prescriptions, The truth about orgasms, presented by View from the Bay, posted 25. August 2009
Audio interview with Marnia Robinson, US American former corporate lawyer, researcher, author on ancient sacred-sex prescriptions, Do Orgasms Lead to Divorce?, MP3, presented by web Energy Talk Radio, program Divorce Guru, host Kim Hess, aired 24. November 2009
Audio interview with Marnia Robinson, US American former corporate lawyer, researcher, author on ancient sacred-sex prescriptions, Cupid's Poisoned Arrow. From Habit to Harmony in Sexual Relationships, presented by web radio station KBOO Portland, program Pathways, host Tom Park, 27:11 minutes duration, aired 14. February 2010
Video presentation by Marnia Robinson, US American former corporate lawyer, researcher, author on ancient sacred-sex prescriptionsRomance for Women, presented by TV station View from the Bay, 6:34 minutes duration, aired ? month, 2010
Audio interview with Marnia Robinson, US American former corporate lawyer, researcher, author on ancient sacred-sex prescriptions on Orgasmless Sex, presented by web Women's Radio Network Women, Sexuality & Romance, hosts Al Cole and Art Noble, Hosts of Cole, 48:25 minutes duration, aired 21. September 2010
Audio interview with Marnia Robinson, US American former corporate lawyer, researcher, author on ancient sacred-sex prescriptions, Cupid's Poisoned Arrow: From Habit to Harmony in Sexual Relationships, MP3, presented by LA Talk Radio, The Art of Love, host Lucia, 60 minutes duration, aired 31. July 2011
Video TV interview with Marnia Robinson, US American former corporate lawyer, researcher, author on ancient sacred-sex prescriptions, What Really Bonds is Less Orgasms and More Intercourse, presented by Private Matters Productions, episode 24, host Max J. Van Praag, San Rafael, YouTube film, 27:18 minutes duration, posted 27. December 2012

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Audio- und Videolinks (engl.) – Leonard Shlain

Audio interview with Leonard Shlain, M.D. sextimeandpower.com (1937-2009) US American chairman of laparoscopic surgery, associate professor of surgery, UC San Francisco, researcher, writer of Art and Physics, The Alphabet vs. the Goddess, Sex, Time, and Power, Leonard Shlain Interview, MP3, University of Toronto’s CIUT, presented by US American web radio station Massive Change, host Jennifer Leonard, 54:24 minutes duration, aired 7. October 2003
Evolution of female sexuality and its relationship to both the human brain and size of our pelvis, the difference between Western and Eastern notions of time, and the difference between our current visual culture and previous text-based cultures
Video presentation by Leonard Shlain, M.D. sextimeandpower.com (1937-2009) US American associate professor of surgery, UC San Francisco, chairman of laparoscopic surgery, researcher, author of Art and Physics, The Alphabet vs. the Goddess, Sex, Time, and Power, Sex, Time and Power, YouTube film, 49:48 minutes duration, posted 1. November 2012
Due to profound alterations in female sexuality the big-brained Homo sapiens suddenly emerged 150,000 years ago.
Video presentation by Leonard Shlain, M.D. sextimeandpower.com (1937-2009) US American chairman of laparoscopic surgery, associate professor of surgery, UC San Francisco, researcher, writer, "The Big O", delivered in Hawaii, YouTube film, 53:56 minutes duration, posted 1. November 2012
Women want iron to cover their menstrual blood loss – Humans spent 99% of their experience as hunters/gatherers (tribes consisted of 150-225 persons; hunting parties consisted of 9-12 men in their prime) – Female Orgasm – G-Spot as the antedote to birth pain – Humans exhibit the most expressive homosexuality for extra? – Youth, health and beauty [subcutaneous fat, pheromenes] most attracts men to women

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Audio- und Videolinks (engl.) – Sex addiction * Patrick Carnes

Video interview with Patrick Carnes Ph.D. C.A.S., leading US American sex addiction specialist on Addictive society, sex addiction, Internet Porn, YouTube film, posted 4. June 2010
Pine Grove Hospital, Hattisburg, Mississippi, USA offers a 6-week residential program (30-task-model) for addiction treatment.
- Pine Grove's Gentle Path, part 1 of 3, 7:35 minutes duration
- Pine Grove's Gentle Path, part 2 of 3, 6:51 minutes duration
- Pine Grove's Gentle Path, part 3 of 3, 7:29 minutes duration

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Audio- und Videolinks (engl.) – Internet pornography addiction * Dr. Gail Dines

Video interview with Gail Dines, US American professor of sociology and women's studies, Wheelock College, Boston, anti-pornography campaigner, author of Pornland. How Porn has hijacked Our Sexuality, 29. June 2010 on Pornland, YouTube film, 11:54 minutes duration, posted 6. August 2010
Video interview with Gail Dines, US American professor of sociology and women's studies, Wheelock College, Boston, anti-pornography campaigner, on Crusade Against Porn, sponsored by Book TV, presented by MOXNews.com, C-SPAN2, 4. September 2010, YouTube film, posted 6. September 2010
Social and cultural impact of pornography in American society. Boys first view porn at the average age of 11.5 years resulting in an unhealthy understanding of sexuality.
- One Woman's Crusade Against Porn, part 1 of 3, 13:24 minutes duration
- One Woman's Crusade Against Porn, part 2 of 3, 14:48 minutes duration
- One Woman's Crusade Against Porn, part 3 of 3, 6:58 minutes duration
Video interview with Gail Dines, US American professor of sociology and women's studies, Wheelock College, Boston, anti-pornography campaigner, on The pitfalls of porn, presented by AlJazeera English TV, host Riz Khan, YouTube film, 22:33 minutes duration, posted 16. September 2010
The global reach of explicit pornography creates addicts, desensitizes men and degrades, debases, dehumanizes and objectifies women.
Audio interview with Gail Dines, US American professor of sociology and women's studies, Wheelock College, Boston, anti-pornography campaigner, author of Pornland. How Porn has hijacked Our Sexuality, 29. June 2010 and Melinda Tankard Reist, Has porn hijacked our sexuality?, presented by web radio program ABC RN Late Night Live, host Phillip Adams, 55 minutes duration, aired 27. October 2010
One in five men who look at [ Internet ] pornography are [porn] addicted. Article in Adult Video News (pornography industry publication) Minute 24:16

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Audio- und Videolinks (engl.) – Internet pornography addiction * Gary Wilson et al.

Video documentation on Pornography addiction, a health hazard that western culture, written and directed by Jonathan Schneider, YouTube film
Internet pornography is NOT harmless. Interviews with sociologists, psychologists, scientists and law enforcement officials detail the negative side effects of pornography consumption.
- A Drug Called Pornography. Understanding, part 1 of 7, 6:59 minutes duration, posted 3. October 2007
- A Drug Called Pornography. Understanding, part 2 of 7, 6:02 minutes duration, posted 12. November 2007
- A Drug Called Pornography. Understanding, part 3 of 7, 6:59 minutes duration, posted 12. November 2007
- A Drug Called Pornography. Understanding, part 4 of 7, 8:06 minutes duration, posted 12. November 2007
- A Drug Called Pornography. Understanding, part 5 of 7, 9:28 minutes duration, posted 12. November 2007
- A Drug Called Pornography. Understanding, part 6 of 7, 8:44 minutes duration, posted 12. November 2007
- A Drug Called Pornography. Understanding, part 7 of 7, 6:58 minutes duration, posted 12. November 2007

Animated video series by Gary Wilson, US American science teacher, presented by BodyWisdomVideos on the relationship between pornography and brain circuits, YouTube animation, posted 6. June 2010
- Things You Didn't Know About Porn, part 1 of 3, 9:24 minutes duration
- Things You Didn't Know About Porn, part 2 of 3, 9:49 minutes duration
- Things You Didn't Know About Porn, part 3 of 3, 7:30 minutes duration
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Video presentation directed to Youth and Parents by Donald L. Hilton Jr., MD, neurological surgeon, Pornography and its impact on the Brain, presented by SA Lifeline Foundation, YouTube film, 13:23 minutes duration, posted 8. September 2010

Video Series by Gary Wilson, US American science teacher, Your Brain On Porn, YouTube films, posted 31. December 2010
- Orgasm and libido occur in the brain, part 1 of 2, 10:57 minutes duration
- Dopamine: molecule of addiction, part 2 of 6, 13:43 minutes duration
- Your Brain On Porn: Porn Addiction; no specific subtitle, part 3 of 6, 13:54 minutes duration
- Binge mechanism, part 4 of 6, 12:04 minutes duration
- Your Brain On Porn: Porn Addiction; no specific subtitle, part 5 of 6, 11:28 minutes duration
- Reboot: Restore reward circuit sensitivity, part 6 of 6, 7:06 minutes duration
Video presentation by Gary Wilson, US American science teacher on Erectile Dysfunction and Porn, YouTube film, presented by BodyWisdomVideos, posted 10. and 11. February 2011
Physiology of erections, ED, virtual overstimulation, recovery from Internet porn
"Love is an addiction based on porn."
- Erectile Dysfunction and Porn, part 1 of 4, 12:46 minutes duration
- Erectile Dysfunction and Porn, part 2 of 4, 11:53 minutes duration
- Erectile Dysfunction and Porn, part 3 of 4, 12:46 minutes duration
- Erectile Dysfunction and Porn, part 4 of 4, 9:46 minutes duration

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¹ See Betty Friedan (1921-2006) US American writer, activist, feminist, The Feminine Mystique, published 1963. This book made known the term "sexism" known to the public debate and as a consequence issued laws to strenghten women's position in society ⇑

² Marnia Robinson, US American former corporate lawyer, researcher and author on ancient sacred-sex prescriptions, Your Brain on Sex, reuniting.info, 25. June 2005 ⇑

³ Quotes on Karezza ⇑

⁴ Funnel of sexual arousal – KastlemanFunnel PDF Mark Kastleman, US American former pornography addict, author, co-founder of Candeo, The Funnel of Arousal, presented by netnanny.com ⇑

⁵ Truth versus Falsehood. How to Tell the Difference, S. 183, 2005 ⇑

⁶ Truth versus Falsehood. How to Tell the Difference, S. 188, 2005 ⇑

⁷ Truth versus Falsehood. How to Tell the Difference, S. 183, 2005 ⇑

⁸ Truth versus Falsehood. How to Tell the Difference, S. 183, 2005 ⇑

⁹ Truth versus Falsehood. How to Tell the Difference, S. 181, 2005 ⇑

¹⁰ Truth versus Falsehood. How to Tell the Difference, S. 183, 2005 ⇑

¹¹ Truth versus Falsehood. How to Tell the Difference, S. 181, 2005 ⇑

¹² Truth versus Falsehood. How to Tell the Difference, S. ?, 2005 ⇑

¹³ Truth versus Falsehood. How to Tell the Difference, S. 104, 2005 ⇑

¹⁴ Truth versus Falsehood. How to Tell the Difference, S. 337, 2005 ⇑

¹⁵ Truth versus Falsehood. How to Tell the Difference, S. 337, 2005 ⇑

¹⁶ Truth versus Falsehood. How to Tell the Difference, S. 95, 2005 ⇑