Grief – it is such a common experience. All of mankind experience grief. Look in the new book [TLC] for the answer! Allow it to flow and don’t resist it. There is something coming up. Don’t label it. Don’t call it grief. Don’t call it anything. I had grief for ten days one time. You are releasing all of the accumulation of all of that. Sedona Seminar God, Religion and Spirituality, 3 DVD set, 10. December 2005

Grief: This is the level of sadness, loss and dependency. Most of us have experienced it for periods of time, but those who remain at this level live a life of constant regret and depression. [...] Part of the syndrome of Grief is the notion of the irreplaceability of what's been lost or that which it symbolized. There is a generalization from the particular so that the loss of a loved one is equated with the loss of love itself. [...] Although grief is the cemetery of life, it still has more energy to it than Apathy does. Thus when a traumatized, apathetic patient begins to cry, we know they're getting better. Once they start to cry, they will eat again. Power vs. Force. The Hidden Determinants of Human Behavior, chapter 4, S. , Hay House, Februar 2002

One might say that anybody who gets depressed has been addicted to placing their survival on something outside of themselves. Healing and Recovery, chapter 12 Depression, S. 370, 2009

Grief – How long are you going to hold onto that? I'll tell you how long to keep it – about one second. Let it go the instant it happens – just let it go (snaps). Surrender it completely and totally to God the instant it happens.
Why? Because you develop the capacity to do that. So the reason for spiritual training then is you develop a powerful capacity to let go of anything' and you never know when it's going to come up.
'So and so just died'. (claps hands once). You just let it go the minute the phone message comes in – you let it go (snaps). Sedona Seminar Devotion: The Way to God Through the Heart, DVD 1 of 3, approx. minute 40:40, 27. September 2002

When the ego doesn’t get all it wants, it goes into grief. It sees it as a loss, a loss of wantingness. If you give up wanting, how would you suffer from anything. Sedona Seminar Emotions and Sensations, 3 DVD set, 17. April 2004

The experiencer edge of the ego milks for the juice and doesn’t want to let it go. That is the primary obstacle. Give up the self-indulgence of drama, the juice you get out of the fear of the future and the grief of the past. The worse the stories, the more ego thrives. Sedona Seminar Transcending Obstacles, 3 DVD set, 3. September 2005

Question (from a woman who had lost her father and her only son): I ask God to relieve the pain. Trying to relieve the pain. It has been there since 3 years.
Answer: What are you getting out of the grief?
Reply Q: I can’t let him go.
Answer: You have a program that says you can’t let him go. It means you won’t. If I said to you, “If you don’t let go of it, I am going to kill you this instant!” […] You would let it go. You are working it for all the juice you are getting out of it. You are feeding off the grief. You are getting hooked on it. You are living off of that juice of that grief. I want you to give it up. Surrender the grief to God so you can be of service. […] your narcissistic self-indulgence. It is normal, but it is also normal to reach a state of satiation and say, “I have got to do something now for other people.” What is the best way to bless that situation except to say, “In his name, I will alleviate the grief of others.” What you do in their name […] forget the Memorial Services and all that crap. Do something for others instead of being selfish and self-centered. Do something for someone else in their grief. Dedicate your life in the name of that child to others […] your willingness to surrender that to God […] If God said from Heaven, “I WANT YOU TO LET GO OF THAT NOW! SAY, ‘I HAVE HAD ENOUGH!’” There is more than one lifetime on this. You have had lifetimes of losses. Let it just continuously run. Let it run. Let go resisting it. Let go labeling it “grief.” You feel inner sensations and emotions. Don’t label it “grief.” You are feeling a painful feeling. It doesn’t need a name on it. It is just a painful feeling. Sit with the painful feeling. Be at one with that feeling without resisting it. Just be with it completely, 100%, and that is how you eventually disappear the stack. Then you have the energy to work on other things. This is a stack coming up from not just this lifetime. You say, “It is because I am a parent.” Everyone is a parent! In previous times, losing most of your kids was routine. I would say these are stacks suppressed from other lifetimes. Sit with it and let it go. Loss is part of the human condition. It is biological. Elephants feel it. It is a biological instinct going way back in time. Elephants push the bones of their former mate around, grieving. I have had to sit on stacks for months or years that just ran and ran. Then it suddenly lets go and I am a free man. Sedona Satsang Q&A, 2 CD set, 13. September 2006

Fear, anger, resentment, getting even, suing the hell out of them, carrying placards "Down with whatever". You just have to get off the juice of whatever that positionality is – hatred, anger, self-pity, grief. There are people who hang out with grief for someone who died forty years ago. Why are they doing that? Because they are getting juice out of it. Look at poor me. Juicing it, juicing it, juicing it. So you don't have to give up grief, you have to get off the juice you are getting out of that stuckness. Sedona Satsang Q&A, CD 2 of 2, transcribed by Jon Kalman, Estland, 10. January 2007

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Bei Trauer bringe man sein ganzes Leid zum Ausdruck, aber man übertreibe nicht. Konfuzius [BW 590] (551-479 v.Chr.) chinesischer Weiser, Sozialphilosoph, Stifter der chinesischen Staatsreligion

Unter allen Leidenschaften der Seele bringt die Trauer am meisten Schaden für den Leib. Thomas von Aquin [Doctor Universalis] [BW 570] (1225-1274) italienischer katholischer Heiliger, Dominikaner-Priester, Theologe der scholastischen Tradition, bedeutender Philosoph, Kirchenlehrer

Bedenke, dass die menschlichen Verhältnisse insgesamt unbeständig sind, dann wirst du im Glück nicht zu fröhlich und im Unglück nicht zu traurig sein. Sokrates [BW 540] (469-399 v. Chr.) altgriechischer vorchristlicher Philosoph

Auch das glücklichste Leben ist nicht ohne ein gewisses Mass an Dunkelheit denkbar und das Wort "Glück" würde seine Bedeutung verlieren, hätte es nicht seinen Widerpart in der Traurigkeit. Carl Gustav Jung [BW 540] (1875-1961) Schweizer Psychiater, Psychoanalytiker, Tiefenpsychologe

Wir Sioux sind kein einfaches Volk — wir sind sehr kompliziert. Wir schauen alles immer aus verschiedenen Blickwinkeln an. Für uns ist in der Freude Schmerz und im Schmerz Freude, genauso wie wir einen Clown gleichzeitig als lustige und tragische Figur empfinden. Alles ist Teil desselben Ganzen — der Natur, die weder traurig ist noch glücklich: Sie ist einfach da. Lame Deer [John Fire] (1900/1903-1976) Mineconju-Lakota Sioux Medizinmann, Heyoka

Unaufhörlich wird aus dem Grund seiner Seele der Ennui [Langeweile] aufsteigen, die Schwärze, die Traurigkeit, der Kummer, der Verzicht, die Verzweiflung. Blaise Pascal [BW 465] (1623-1662) französischer Mathematiker, Physiker, Philosoph, Literat

Tränen reinigen das Herz. Fjodor Michailowitsch Dostojewski [BW 465] (1821-1881) russischer Romanschriftsteller

Die Schwermütigen [Depressiven] leben Wand an Wand mit Gott. Romano Guardini (1885-1968) katholischer Religionsphilosoph, Theologe

Nichts tut der Seele besser, als jemandem seine Traurigkeit abzunehmen. Paul Verlaine (1844-1896) französischer Lyriker des Symbolismus

Höre nie auf zu lächeln, auch dann nicht, wenn du sehr traurig bist, denn du weißt nicht, wer sich vielleicht in dein Lächeln verliebt. Gabriel García Márquez (*1927) kolumbianischer Schriftsteller, Journalist, Literaturnobelpreisträger

Wenn deine Grundsätze dich traurig machen, verlass‘ dich drauf: Sie sind falsch. Robert Louis Stevenson (1850-1894) schottischer Roman- und Reiseschriftsteller, Dichter, Essayist

Melancholie ist die Freude an der Traurigkeit, die man empfindet, wenn man einen Sonnenuntergang betrachtet und weiß, dass dieser Moment gleich vorbei sein wird. Alexander Belicanski

Da ist niemand, der traurig oder zornig ist; schau einfach zu, wie es geschieht als Teil der Göttlichen Hypnose. Ramesh Balsekar (1917-2009) indischer Advaitalehrer, Schüler von Sri Nisargadatta Maharaj

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Sometimes I forget completely what companionship is. Unconscious and insane, I spill sad energy everywhere. My story gets told in various ways: a romance, a dirty joke, a war, a vacancy.
Divide up my forgetfulness to any number, it will go around. These dark suggestions that I follow, are they part of some plan? Friends, be careful. Don't come near me out of curiousity, or sympathy. Jalal ad-Din Muḥammad Rumi [LoC 550] (1207-1273) Persian Muslim poet, Sufi mystic, jurist, theologian

Just the opposite of how it feels, tears and sadness feel like the worst way, but are the best way to break us into liminality and transformation, frankly because the old consciousness can’t work anymore. Do you understand the old problem-solving consciousness? It doesn’t suffice. Until you let go of that consciousness where everything has got to be 2+2 = 4, you cannot break through to what I think all of our religions would call enlightenment or transformation. Father Richard Rohr O.F.M. (*1943) US American Franciscan friar, Sadness, Yale University Address to Medical Students, presented by Malespirituality.org, November 2005

In every culture […] there was one universal element in historic initiation – grief work. The young male had to be taught somehow the way of tears. He had to be taught how to cry. In fact, if I were to sum up this whole spirituality of initiation in a one liner, it would be this; the young man who cannot cry is a savage, the old man who cannot laugh is a fool. Father Richard Rohr O.F.M. (*1943) US American Franciscan friar, Sadness, Yale University Address to Medical Students, presented by Malespirituality.org, November 2005

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Wikipedia-Einträge Trauer

Induzierte-Nach-Tod-Kommunikation (INTK), Induced After-Death Communication (IADC/EMDR) mit Verstorbenen, grenzüberschreitende Trauer-Therapie des klinischen Psychologen Allan Botkin seit 1995, NEXUS Magazin, Ausgabe 8, Dez-Jan 2006

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Video presentation / satsang by Burt Harding, Canadian Advaita Vedanta teacher, founder of the Awareness Foundation in Vancouver, YouTube film
- Most spiritual seekers suffer sadness, part 1 of 2, 9:14 minutes duration, posted 19. September 2007
- From sadness and fear to joy, part 2 of 2, 9:12 minutes duration, posted 20. September 2007
Video interview with Katherine Shear, US American professor of psychiatry, psychotherapy research, Columbia University School of Social Work, Current insights on dying, panick attacks, depression, grieving and bereavement, presented by Big Think, interviewed by Austin Allen, 32:26 minutes duration, recorded 3. November 2009, aired 18. November 2009
"Grief itself is a natural healing] response." Depression requires psychotherapeutic and medicated help.
Video interview with Susan Piver, US American intuitive, innovative thinker, How to Mend a Broken Heart, presented by TV station US.News, YouTube film, 5:14 minutes duration, posted 14. January 2010
Video presentation by Fred Luskin, Ph.D., US American health psychologist, director of the Stanford University Forgiveness Projects, author of Forgive for Good on The Resolution of Grief, presented by Greater Good Science Center, YouTube film, 7:38 minutes duration, posted 11. August 2010