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Zitate zum Thema Trauer / Sadness and grief

Zitate von D. Hawkins

⚠ Achtung Siehe Power vs. Truth (engl.) Januar 2013

Quotes by D. Hawkins

⚠ Caveat See Power vs. Truth, January 2013

Personal avowals

  • Grief – it is such a common experience. All of mankind experience grief. Look in the new book [TLC] for the answer! Allow it to flow and don’t resist it. There is something coming up. Don’t label it. Don’t call it grief. Don’t call it anything. I had grief for ten days one time. You are releasing all of the accumulation of all of that. Sedona Seminar God, Religion and Spirituality, 3 DVD set, 10. December 2005
⚠ Caveat See Power vs. Truth, January 2013

 

  • Grief: This is the level of sadness, loss and dependency. Most of us have experienced it for periods of time, but those who remain at this level live a life of constant regret and depression. [...] Part of the syndrome of Grief is the notion of the irreplaceability of what's been lost or that which it symbolized. There is a generalization from the particular so that the loss of a loved one is equated with the loss of love itself. [...] Although grief is the cemetery of life, it still has more energy to it than Apathy does. Thus when a traumatized, apathetic patient begins to cry, we know they're getting better. Once they start to cry, they will eat again. Power vs. Force. The Hidden Determinants of Human Behavior, chapter 4, S. 79, Hay House, Februar 2002

 


 

  • Grief – How long are you going to hold onto that? I'll tell you how long to keep it  – about one second. Let it go the instant it happens  – just let it go (snaps). Surrender it completely and totally to God the instant it happens.
    Why? Because you develop the capacity to do that. So the reason for spiritual training then is you develop a powerful capacity to let go of anything and you never know when it's going to come up.
    'So and so just died'. (claps hands once). You just let it go the minute the phone message comes in  – you let it go (snaps). Sedona Seminar Devotion: The Way to God Through the Heart, DVD 1 of 3, minute ~40:40, 27. September 2002

 

  • When the ego doesn’t get all it wants, it goes into grief. It sees it as a loss, a loss of wantingness. If you give up wanting, how would you suffer from anything. Sedona Seminar Emotions and Sensations, 3 DVD set, 17. April 2004

 

  • The experiencer edge of the ego milks for the juice and doesn’t want to let it go. That is the primary obstacle. Give up the self-indulgence of drama, the juice you get out of the fear of the future and the grief of the past. The worse the stories, the more ego thrives. Sedona Seminar Transcending Obstacles, 3 DVD set, 3. September 2005

 

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Letting go the stack of grieving over losses over lifetimes

  • Question [Posed by a mother who had lost her father and her only son]: I ask God to relieve the pain. Trying to relieve the pain. It has been there since three years.
    Answer: What are you getting out of the grief?
    Reply Questioner: I can’t let him go.
    Answer: You have a program that says you can't let him go. It means you won't. If I said to you, "If you don’t let go of it, I am going to kill you this instant!" […] You would let it go. You are working it for all the juice you are getting out of it. You are feeding off the grief. You are getting hooked on it. You are living off of that juice of that grief. I want you to give it up. Surrender the grief to God so you can be of service. […] your narcissistic self-indulgence. It is normal, but it is also normal to reach a state of satiation and say, "I have got to do something now for other people." What is the best way to bless that situation except to say, "In His name, I will alleviate the grief of others." What you do in their name […] forget the Memorial Services and all that crap. Do something for others instead of being selfish and self-centered. Do something for someone else in their grief. Dedicate your life in the name of that child to others […] your willingness to surrender that to God […].
    If God said from Heaven, "I WANT YOU TO LET GO OF THAT NOW! SAY, 'I HAVE HAD ENOUGH!'" There is more than one lifetime on this. You have had lifetimes of losses. Let it just continuously run. Let it run. Let go resisting it. Let go labeling it "grief." You feel inner sensations and emotions. Don't label it "grief." You are feeling a painful feeling. It doesn’t need a name on it. It is just a painful feeling. Sit with the painful feeling. Be at one with that feeling without resisting it. Just be with it completely, 100%, and that is how you eventually disappear the stack. Then you have the energy to work on other things. This is a stack coming up from not just this lifetime. You say, "It is because I am a parent." Everyone is a parent! In previous times, losing most of your kids was routine. I would say these are stacks suppressed from other lifetimes. Sit with it and let it go. Loss is part of the human condition. It is biological. Elephants feel it. It is a biological instinct going way back in time. Elephants push the bones of their former mate around, grieving. I have had to sit on stacks for months or years that just ran and ran. Then it suddenly lets go and I am a free man. Sedona Satsang Q&A, Creative Life Center, 2 CD set, 13. September 2006

 

  • Fear, anger, resentment, getting even, suing the hell out of them, carrying placards "Down with whatever". You just have to get off the juice of whatever that positionality is – hatred, anger, self-pity, grief. There are people who hang out with grief for someone who died forty years ago. Why are they doing that? Because they are getting juice out of it. Look at poor me. Juicing it, juicing it, juicing it. So you don't have to give up grief, you have to get off the juice you are getting out of that stuckness. Sedona Satsang Q&A, CD 2 of 2, 10. January 2007

Zitate von anderen Quellen

Bekenntnisse

  • Wir Sioux sind kein einfaches Volk — wir sind sehr kompliziert. Wir schauen alles immer aus verschiedenen Blickwinkeln an. Für uns ist in der Freude Schmerz und im Schmerz Freude, genauso wie wir einen Clown gleichzeitig als lustige und tragische Figur empfinden. Alles ist Teil desselben Ganzen — der Natur, die weder traurig ist noch glücklich: Sie ist einfach da. Lame Deer [John Fire] (1900/1903-1976) Mineconju-Lakota Sioux Medizinmann, Heyoka, Quelle unbekannt

 

Empfehlungen

  • Bei Trauer bringe man sein ganzes Leid zum Ausdruck, aber man übertreibe nicht. Konfuzius [BW 590] (551-479 v. Chr.) chinesischer Weiser, Sozialphilosoph, Stifter der chinesischen Staatsreligion

 

  • Bedenke, dass die menschlichen Verhältnisse insgesamt unbeständig sind, dann wirst du im Glück nicht zu fröhlich und im Unglück nicht zu traurig sein. Sokrates [BW 540] (469-399 v. Chr.) altgriechischer vorchristlicher Philosoph, Quelle unbekannt

 

  • Höre nie auf zu lächeln, auch dann nicht, wenn du sehr traurig bist, denn du weißt nicht, wer sich vielleicht in dein Lächeln verliebt. Gabriel García Márquez (*1927) kolumbianischer Schriftsteller, Journalist, Literaturnobelpreisträger, Quelle unbekannt

 

  • Wenn deine Grundsätze dich traurig machen, verlass' dich drauf: Sie sind falsch. Robert Louis Stevenson (1850-1894) schottischer Dichter, Essayist, Roman- und Reiseschriftsteller, Quelle unbekannt

 

  • Lernt, aus der Trauer Energie für das Leben zu gewinnen. Unausgedrückte, verleugnete verschleppte Trauer wirkt sich im Untergrund und ohne unser Wissen zerstörerisch aus. Der heilsame Weg besteht darin, Trauerenergie umzuwandeln und durch diesen Prozess Versöhnung zu erfahren – mit dem Verlorenen, mit der Umwelt, mit uns selbst. Dr.phil. Jorgos Canacakis (*1935) deutscher Diplompsychologe, Psychotherapeut, Buchautor, Ich sehe deine Tränen, Kreuz-Verlag, 2002
  • Unter allen Leidenschaften der Seele bringt die Trauer am meisten Schaden für den Leib. Thomas von Aquin [Doctor Universalis] [BW 570, Werk 730/460] (1225-1274) italienischer katholischer Heiliger, Dominikaner-Priester, Theologe der scholastischen Tradition, bedeutender Philosoph, Kirchenlehrer, Summa Theologica [BW 730/460] (1265-1274) Erstausgabe 1485

 


Schwarzer Trauerschmuck
  • Auch das glücklichste Leben ist nicht ohne ein gewisses Mass an Dunkelheit denkbar und das Wort "Glück" würde seine Bedeutung verlieren, hätte es nicht seinen Widerpart in der Traurigkeit. Carl Gustav Jung [BW 520/540] (1875-1961) Schweizer Psychiater, Psychoanalytiker, Gründer einer neuen Schule der analytischen Tiefenpsychologie, Autor, Quelle unbekannt

 

  • Unaufhörlich wird aus dem Grund seiner Seele der Ennui [Langeweile] aufsteigen, die Schwärze, die Traurigkeit, der Kummer, der Verzicht, die Verzweiflung. Blaise Pascal [BW 465] (1623-1662) französischer Mathematiker, Physiker, Philosoph, Literat, Quelle unbekannt

 

 

  • Die Schwermütigen [Depressiven, Melancholiker] leben Wand an Wand mit Gott. Romano Guardini (1885-1968) italienischer katholischer Religionsphilosoph, Theologe, Autor, Quelle unbekannt

 

  • Nichts tut der Seele besser, als jemandem seine Traurigkeit abzunehmen. Paul Verlaine (1844-1896) französischer Lyriker des Symbolismus, Quelle unbekannt

 

  • Melancholie ist die Freude an der Traurigkeit, die man empfindet, wenn man einen Sonnenuntergang betrachtet und weiß, dass dieser Moment gleich vorbei sein wird. Alexander Belicanski, Quelle unbekannt

 

  • Da ist niemand, der traurig oder zornig ist; schau einfach zu, wie es geschieht als Teil der Göttlichen Hypnose. Ramesh Balsekar [BW 760⇒≤200] (1917-2009) indischer Advaitalehrer, Schüler von Sri Nisargadatta Maharaj [BW 720], Quelle unbekannt

Literatur-Zitate

  • Seit ich glücklich bin, bin ich öfter traurig. Hubertus Meyer-Burckhart (*1956) deutscher Fernsehproduzent, Manager in der Medienbranche, Talkshow-Moderator, Journalist, Schriftsteller, Roman Meine Tage mit Fabienne, S. 101, Bastei Lübbe AG, Köln, 2016

Quotes by various other sources

Personal avowals

  • Sometimes I forget completely what companionship is. Unconscious and insane, I spill sad energy everywhere. My story gets told in various ways: a romance, a dirty joke, a war, a vacancy.
    Divide up my forgetfulness to any number, it will go around. These dark suggestions that I follow, are they part of some plan? Friends, be careful. Don't come near me out of curiousity, or sympathy. Jalal ad-Din Muḥammad Rumi [LoC 550] (1207-1273) Persian Muslim Sufi mystic, jurist, theologian, poet, source unknown

 


Muslim cemetery at sun set, Marrakesh, Morocco

Recommendations

  • You will hurt. You will cry and you will be scared. You will miss and long and ache and look for their fingerprints on the life you’re going to lead without them. You will swear you heard, if only for an instant, the sound of their laughter or the timbre of their voice. This is ok, and more than that, this is beautiful.
    Hold onto the sadness you feel like a trophy. Hoist it high above your head and shout to the photo that is not being taken of you that you loved them, you will always love them and you are proud of the tears that roll down your face. They live inside the memories that give shape to those tears and you must never apologize for your sorrow, nor your joy when it too returns to your days.
Tyler Knott Gregson, US American professional photographer,  poet, author, Words For Those That Remain, excerpt of Typewriter Series #690, 2011

 

Insights

  • Grief can take care of itself: but to get the full value of joy you must have somebody to divide it with. Mark Twain [Samuel Langhorne Clemens] [Work LoC 465] (1835-1910) US American humorist, Freemason, author, non-fiction travelogue Following the Equator [English title: More Tramps Abroad], chapter 48, American Publishing Company, 1897

 

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Balanced approach to life

Happiness [LoC 500] – sadness [LoC 75] – equanimity – patience

  • There are many nights as days, and the one is just as long as the other in the year’s course. Even a happy life cannot be without a measure of darkness, and the word 'happy' would lose its meaning if it were not balanced by sadness. It is far better to take things as they come along with patience and equanimity. Carl Gustav Jung [LoC 520/540] (1875-1961) Swiss psychiatrist, psychoanalytist, founder of a new school of depth psychology, author, source unknown

 

  • Just the opposite of how it feels, tears and sadness feel like the worst way, but are the best way to break us into liminality and transformation, frankly because the old consciousness can’t work anymore. Do you understand the old problem-solving consciousness? It doesn’t suffice. Until you let go of that consciousness where everything has got to be 2+2 = 4, you cannot break through to what I think all of our religions would call enlightenment or transformation. Father Richard Rohr O.F.M. (*1943) US American Franciscan friar ordained to the priesthood in the Roman Catholic Church in 1970, Sadness, PDF, Yale University Address to Medical Students, presented by Malespirituality.org, November 2005

 

  • In every culture […] there was one universal element in historic initiation – grief work. The young male had to be taught somehow the way of tears. He had to be taught how to cry. In fact, if I were to sum up this whole spirituality of initiation in a one liner, it would be this; the young man who cannot cry is a savage, the old man who cannot laugh is a fool. Father Richard Rohr O.F.M. (*1943) US American Franciscan friar ordained to the priesthood in the Roman Catholic Church in 1970, Sadness, PDF, Yale University Address to Medical Students, presented by Malespirituality.org, November 2005

 

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'Sadder, but wiser'

  • One of the functions of sadness is when we feel sad we turn our attention inward. Our heart rate slows down. We slow down, the world seems to slow down. We stop paying as much attention to what's going on around us and we look internally. We reflect and take stock. We actually become more accurate. And there's a phrase 'sadder, but wiser'. And in experimental studies we can make people sad. And when we make people sad they're actually more accurate in the estimates they make and they are less prone to stereotypes and they are seeing the world in a sense more clearly. Video TV interview with George A. Bonanno, Ph.D., US American professor of clinical psychology, Teachers College, Columbia University, trauma researcher, author, George Bonanno on the Value of Grief and Grieving, presented by Canadian TV station TVO, Ontario, host Steve Paikin (*1960) Canadian journalist, author, documentary producer, YouTube film, minute 7:41, 17:00 minutes duration, posted 5. April 2010

 

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The energy of the crone aspect: Grief and letting go, and the dragon energy

 

  • At the most basic level forgiveness is on a continuum with grief. There needs to be for almost everyone some of grief before forgiveness. Fred Luskin, Ph.D., US American health psychologist, director of Forgiveness Projects, Stanford University, author of Forgive for Good, The Resolution of Grief, presented by Greater Good Science Center, YouTube film, 7:38 minutes duration, posted 11. August 2010

 

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Original French quote:

"Sur les ailes du Temps la tristesse s'envole."

 

  • You cannot prevent the birds of sadness from passing over your head, but you can prevent them from nesting in your hair. Swedish proverb

Literary quotes

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See also:

This too shall pass

  • This, too, shall pass. William Shakespeare [LoC 465, work LoC 500] (1564-1616) English actor, playwright, dramatist, lyricist, tragedy Hamlet, act 1, scene 2, ~1602

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Englische Werke

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Links zum Thema Trauer / Sadness and grief

Literatur

Literature (engl.)

Externe Weblinks


  • (IADC/EMDR) mit Verstorbenen, grenzüberschreitende Trauer-Therapie Induzierte-Nach-Tod-Kommunikation (INTK) [Induced After-Death Communication], eingeführt von dem US-amerikanischen klinischen Psychologen Allan Botkin seit 1995, präsentiert von der deutschen grenzwissenschaftlichen Zeitschrift NEXUS Magazin, Heft 8, Dezember-Januar 2006

External web links (engl.)

  • Wikipedia entries Grief

Audio- und Videolinks

Audio and video links (engl.)

Depression requires psychotherapeutic and medicated help.

Human beings coping with loss, trauma and other forms of extreme adversity

"There isn't one thing that predicts resilience. It's not two things. It is not necessarily in us."

Movie and documentary links

  • Animated and narrated lesson A brief history of melancholy, presented by TED-Ed, educator Courtney Stephens, animator Sharon Colman Graham, YouTube film, 5:28 minutes duration, posted 2. October 2014
  • Canadian documentary on terminal care featuring Stephen Jenkinson, MTS, MSW, Canadian theologian, storyteller, spiritual activist, farmer, founder of the Orphan Wisdom School, griefwalker, teacher, author,  GRIEFWALKER, directed by Tim Wilson, produced by National Film Board of Canada, presented by Culture Unplugged, 70:09 duration, 2008

 

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