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Reife und Charakterbildung

 

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Vincent van Gogh (1853-1890)
niederländischer Maler, Juni 1889

 

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Gewissensbildung – die Kunst des Differenzierens

Um um Gut von Böse unterscheiden zu können,
um reifere von weniger reifen Entwicklungsstadien unterscheiden zu können,
ist ein gewisses Maß an Gewissensbildung (lat. con-scientia = mit-wissen) vonnöten.

 

Stufen der Reifung und Gewissensbildung
Ge-Wissen = göttliches (Gaia) Wissen  ♦  Lateinisch con-scientia = mit-wissen
Frühreifes unentwickelteres Stadium
Außenorientierung (Mehrheit) –
Trennung – Böses
Altgereiftes entwickelteres Stadium
Innenorientierung (Minderheit) –
Interverbundenheit – Gutes
Unausgereiftes Gewissen
Projektion auf Andere
Intaktes Gewissen → Einklang mit der Seele
Gewichtung: HABEN – TUN – SEINGewichtung: SEIN – TUN – HABEN
Orientierung auf NEHMENOrientierung auf GEBEN
Orientierung auf einen scheinbaren äußeren Vorteil und Vorsprung(1) Mit-wissen
(2) Mit-fühlen
(3) Mit-handeln
(4) Mit-wandeln
Egozentriertes skrupelloses HandelnGanzheitsorientierte Freundlichkeit zu allen Lebewesen
Defektiv – ausbeuterisch – fixiertKooperativ – beitragend – flexibel
Reaktiv, unbedacht, rasant, schnellebigReflektiv, bedächtig, kontemplativ, entschleunigt
Verlangsamung äußerer Prozesse – Vertiefung innerer Prozesse
Scheu vor Schattenarbeit, Auseinandersetzung, Vergebung und IntegrationBereitwilligkeit zur Vergebung, Integration und Schattenarbeit, Ambivalenzen und dualistische Positionen zu transzendieren
Gelebtes Konfliktbewusstsein
Außenorientierung
Orientierung auf das äußere Geschehen
Innenorientierung
Orientierung auf innere Entwicklungsprozesse
Mangelnde Ethik hinsichtlich des Großen GanzenAusgeprägte Ethik hinsichtlich vielfältiger Entwicklungsprozesse
Ausgrenzend, das Gesicht hinter vorgehaltenem Arm verbergend möchte der Unreife glauben (machen), dass dadurch
"alles gut" ist, weil er 'brav' die "böse" Wirklichkeit ausgrenzt, die seinem imaginierten Bild von "Licht und Liebe" ohne
Verantwortlichkeit und Konsequenz widerspricht.
Siehe auch: ► Gewissensbildung und ► Lichtnahrung und ► Bewusstsein-Tabellen und ► Sucht-Tabellen

 

Wissen ohne Gewissen ist der Seele Verderb.
François Rabelais (1494-1553) französischer Arzt, Mönch, Dichter,
Gargantua und Pantagruel, Pantagruel, Band 1, 1532

Zitate zum Thema Reife / Maturity

Zitate allgemein

Ich wandte mich und sah, wie es unter der Sonne zugeht, daß zum Laufen nicht hilft schnell zu sein, zum Streit hilft nicht stark sein, zur Nahrung hilft nicht geschickt sein, zum Reichtum hilft nicht klug sein; daß einer angenehm sei, dazu hilft nicht, daß er ein Ding wohl kann; sondern alles liegt an Zeit und Glück. Prediger 9, 11, Luther Bibel, 1912 (AT)

 

Siehe, ich sende euch wie Schafe mitten unter die Wölfe; darum seid klug wie die Schlangen und ohne Falsch wie die Tauben. Matthäus 10, 16 (NT)

 

Persönliche Bekenntnisse

 

Empfehlungen

  • Neque ridere, neque lugere, neque destari, sed intellegere.
    Humanas actiones non ridere, non lugere neque detestari, sed intellegere studui.
    Weder auslachen, noch bereuen, noch verachten, doch verstehen.
    Ich habe mich bemüht, die menschlichen Handlungen nicht zu belachen, nicht zu betrauern und nicht zu verabscheuen, sondern zu verstehen.
Baruch Spinoza (1632-1677) niederländischer Philosoph, posthum veröffentlichtes politisches Traktat Tractatus politicus ['Abhandlungen über Politik'], Teil I, Kapitel 4, 1677, 1678 indiziert, B. Auerbach, 1874

 

  • Auf Rat weil', zur Tat eil'. Inschrift an der Wand des Alten Rathauses von Meßkirch, Baden, Devise über dem Portal einiger deutschen Rathäuser

 

Schlussfolgerungen

  • Wir begegnen uns auf der Grundlage unserer Ähnlichkeiten und wachsen aufgrund unserer Unterschiede. Virginia Satir [Mutter der Familientherapie] (1916-1988) US-amerikanische Sozialarbeiterin, psychotherapeutische Familienstellerin, Autorin, Quelle unbekannt

 

  • Wer in einem gewissen Alter nicht merkt, dass er hauptsächlich von Idioten umgeben ist, merkt es aus einem gewissen Grunde nicht. Curt Goetz (1888-1960) deutscher Schriftsteller, Komödie in drei Akten Ingeborg, 1922, S. 38f., Deutsche Verlags-Anstalt 1952

 

Einsicht

  • Im Wachstum des Lebens hat jede Stufe ihre Vollendung: Die Blüte sowohl als die Frucht. Rabindranath Tagore (1861-1941) indisch-bengalischer Philosoph, Maler, Komponist, Musiker, Dichter, Schriftsteller, Nobelpreisträger für Literatur, 1913, Flüstern der Seele, Hyperion-Verlag, 1. Auflage 1. Dezember 2013
  • [D]ie reifen Menschen:
    Sie behaupten ihre Stellung ohne Mühe.
    Verwirklichen ihre Lehre ohne Worte.
    Sind ein Teil von allen Dingen und übersehen keines.
    Sie erzeugen, ohne jedoch zu besitzen.
    Sie handeln ohne Erwartung.
    Sie vollbringen ohne Anspruch auf Verdienst.
    Fürwahr, weil sie kein Verdienst beanspruchen, wächst es ihnen zu.
Laotse (604-531 v. Chr.) chinesischer Weiser, Philosoph, Begründer des Taoismus, Autor des Tao te King, Vers 2, Chinesisch-Englisch R.L. Wing, 1986, Englisch-Deutsch Peter Kobbe, 1987

 

  • Der edle Mensch hilft seinen Mitmenschen, das Gute in ihnen zur Reife zu bringen, nicht aber das Schlechte. Der niedrig Gesinnte tut das Gegenteil. Konfuzius (551-479 v. Chr.) chinesischer Weiser, Sozialphilosoph, Stifter der chinesischen Staatsreligion, Förderer des Sinns allen Wissens und Lernens in der sittlichen Vollkommenheit, Gespräche des Konfuzius [Lun yu] (475 v. Chr.-220 n. Chr.)

 

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Auf der Schwelle zur Individuation und mutigen Integrität

  • Der erste Schritt zur Individualität ist die Ablösung des Einzelwesens von der Ununterschiedenheit und Unbewusstheit der Herde. Es ist die Vereinsamung des reifen Menschen, der nicht mehr von den Werturteilen seiner Umwelt abhängt, sondern in seiner Beziehung zum Selbst fest verankert ist. Carl Gustav Jung (1875-1961) Schweizer Psychiater, Psychoanalytiker, Gründer einer Schule der analytischen Tiefenpsychologie, Autor, Quelle unbekannt

 

  • Der Charakter ist weiter nichts als eine langwierige Gewohnheit. Plutarch [Lucius Mestrius Plutarchus] (45/46-120/125 n. Chr.) griechisch-römischer Historiker, Priester im Apollontempel in Delphi, Mittelplatoniker, Biograf, Schriftsteller, J.F.S. Kaltwasser, Übersetzer, Moralisch-philosophische Werke, Band 1, S. 9, Franz Haas, 1796

 

  • Die reife Persönlichkeit setzt sich mit den Gegebenheiten der tatsächlichen Wirklichkeit auseinander, die unreife mit Konzepten und Vorstellungen über die Wirklichkeit. Ronald D. Laing (1927-1989) britisch-schottischer Psychiater, Quelle unbekannt

 

 

  • Das Erwachsenwerden ist mit Recht auch als lebenslanger Trauerprozess beschrieben worden. Denn immer wieder gilt es, sich von etwas zu lösen und sich in den verschiedenen Phasen des Älterwerdens mit seiner Einsamkeit auseinanderzusetzen. Margarete Mitscherlich-Nielsen (1917-2012) deutsche Psychoanalytikerin, Medizinerin, Autorin, zitiert in: Hans Jürgen Schultz, Herausgeber, Einsamkeit, S. 215, Kreuz Verlag, Stuttgart, 1980, Neuauflage Februar 1994

 

  • Fachidioten und Leistungssportler kann man durch Wettbewerb erzeugen, aber nicht umfassend gebildete, vielseitig kompetente und umsichtige, vorausschauend denkende und verantwortlich handelnde, in sich ruhende und starke, beziehungsfähige Persönlichkeiten. Prof. DDr. Gerald Hüther gerald-huether.de (*1951) deutscher Neurobiologe, Professor für neurobiologische Grundlagenforschung, Universität Göttingen, wissenschaftlicher und populärwissenschaftlicher Referent, Autor, Was wir sind und was wir sein könnten. Ein neurobiologischer Mutmacher, S. Fischer, 12. Auflage 5. Mai 2011

 

  • Lebensklugheit bedeutet: Alle Dinge möglichst wichtig, aber keines völlig ernst zu nehmen. Arthur Schnitzler (1862-1931) österreichischer Erzähler, Dramatiker, Lebensweisheit

 

  • Den Charakter eines Menschen erkennt man erst dann, wenn er Vorgesetzter geworden ist. Erich Maria Remarque (1898-1970) deutscher Schriftsteller, Quelle unbekannt

Literaturzitate

General quotes

Personal avowals

  • I live in that solitude which is painful in youth, but delicious in the years of maturity. Albert Einstein (1879-1955) German-born US American theoretical physicist, developer of the theory of general relativity, Nobel laureate in physics, 1921, unsourced

 

 

 

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Bastardized generalized net version

"We do what we do until we know better. When we know better, we do better."

  • I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better. TV interview with Maya Angelou (1928-2014) US American historian, actress, producer, educator, civil-rights activist, director, playwright, poet, bestselling black author, source The Powerful Lesson Maya Angelou Taught Oprah, host Oprah Winfrey (*1954) US American actress, talk show host, billionaire entrepreneur, visionary philanthropist, aired October 2011

 

  • Taking to the road – by which I mean letting the road take you – changed who I thought I was. Gloria Steinem gloriasteinem.com (*1934) leading US American feminist of the new women's movement, visionary and political activist, founder and editor of the feminist US magazine "Ms", journalist, writer, My Life on the Road, Random House, 1st edition, 27. October 2015

 

  • And then, you know, when I hit 60, I didn't want to live laterally. I wanted to live vertically and go deep and slow down. I know it's hard for you to understand this. Before we went on air, Larry said he doesn't know how to relax, neither does Ted. But I wanted – I wanted to go deep into life. And I wanted to really – he was a man that I wanted to show up for. I had been afraid of intimacy all my life. And I worked real hard on myself to get over that, and to get over the disease to please. And I wanted to bring my whole self to the table with this man that I wanted to spend the rest of my life with. And he couldn't take it. TV Interview with Jane Fonda (*1937) Academy Award-winning US American actress, political activist, philanthropist, writer, presented by US American TV station CNN, Larry King Live, talkshow host Larry King, 6. April 2005

 

  • I tear down comfort zones because they stifle growth.
    You can grow wealth, but not much wisdom in a comfort zone.
    You can grow strong opinions, but not empathy in a comfort zone.
    You can become competent, and yet lose compassion in a comfort zone.
    A successful mental comfort zone is a comfortable slow stagnation.
Annette Jahnel (*1962) South African photographer, artist, world traveller offering the project "Searching for Galileo", public speaker, author, Searching for Galileo, posted in Facebook, 20. March 2016

 

Definition

  • Integrity is
    ➤ choosing courage over comfort,
    ➤ choosing what’s right over what’s fun, fast or easy,
    ➤ and practicing your values not just professing your values.
That’s integrity – in nonjudgement.
Video presentation by Brené Brown, Ph.D., LMSW (*1965) US American shame, vulnerability, empathy researcher, Graduate College of Social Work, University of Houston, public speaker, author, Brené Brown: The Anatomy of Trust, presented by the US American TV station Supersoul TV, host Oprah Winfrey (*1954) US American actress, talk show host, billionaire entrepreneur, visionary philanthropist, UCLA Campus, Los Angeles, California, minute 17:46, 24:08 minutes duration, posted October 2015

 

Recommendations

 

  • He [those of us] who attempt to act and do things for others or for the world without deepening our own self-understanding, freedom, integrity, and capacity to love, will not have anything to give others. We will communicate to them nothing but the contagion of our own obsessions, our agressivity, our ego-centered ambitions, our delusions about ends and means. Thomas Merton (1915-1968) Anglo-American Catholic Trappist monk, mystic student of comparative religion, social activist, poet, writer, Contemplation in a World of Action, S. 178-179, Image, 1973, University of Notre Dame Press; restored, corrected, reprinted edition 15. February 1998

 

  • Always dream and shoot higher than you know you can do.
    Don't bother just to be better than your contemporaries or predecessors.
    Try to be better than yourself.
Interview with William Faulkner (1897-1962) US American essayist, writer, Nobel Prize laureate, 1949, William Faulkner, The Art of Fiction No. 12, presented by The Paris Review, Jean Stein, 1956, republished as Malcolm Cowley, editor, Writers at Work. The Paris Review Interviews, First Series, 1958

 

  • You have to temper the iron. Every hardship is an opportunity that you are given, an opportunity to grow. To grow is the sole purpose of existence on this planet Earth. You will not grow if you sit in a beautiful flower garden, but you will grow if you are sick, if you are in pain, if you experience losses, and if you do not put your head in the sand, but take the pain as a gift to you with a very, very specific purpose. Elisabeth Kübler-Ross, M.D. (1926-2004) Swiss US American psychiatrist, death and dying researcher, founder of Near-death studies, author, Death Is of Vital Importance: On Life, Death, and Life After Death, Station Hill Press, 1st Thus edition September 1995

 

  • Write bad things that are done to you in the sand,
    but write good things that are done to you on a piece of marble.
    Arabic proverb

 

Appeals

  • We must encourage thought, free and creative.
    We must respect privacy.
    We must observe taste by not exploiting our sorrows, successes, or passions.
    We must learn to know ourselves better through art.
    We must rely more on the unconscious, inspirational side of man.
    We must not enslave ourselves to dogma.
    We must believe in the attainability of good.
    We must believe, without fear, in people.
Leonard Bernstein (1918-1990) US American composer, conductor, pianist, music lecturer, author, cited in: Jay Allison, Dan Gediman, This I Believe. The Personal Philosophies of Remarkable Men and Women, S. 21, Macmillan, 3. October 2006

 

  • The evolution of our species does not force species to mature psychospiritually, and individual maturation, in general, does not cause our species to evolve. But, in our time, if we do not mature as individuals (and consequently as societies), the entire arc of human evolution might soon come to an end. We are in danger of extinction – along with the extinction we have already wrought upon thousands of other species. The continuation of our human arc depends on which circle – egocentric or soul centric – we embrace. Bill Plotkin, Ph.D., US American depth psychologist, wilderness rites guide, ecotherapist, author, Nature and the Human Soul. Cultivating Wholeness and Community in a Fragmented World, New World Library, 28. December 2007

 

  • No one can build you the bridge on which you, and only you, must cross the river of life.
    There may be countless trails and bridges and demigods who would gladly carry you across; but only at the price of pawning and forgoing yourself.
    There is one path in the world that none can walk but you. Where does it lead?
    Don’t ask, walk! Friedrich Wilhelm Nietzsche (1844-1900) German classical scholar, critic of culture, philologist, philosopher of nihilism, writer Untimely Meditations [Unzeitgemässe Betrachtungen], 1873-1876, E. W. Fritsch, Leipzig, 1874

 

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30 percent rule

  • I've seen it in action repeatedly: no matter who you are, no matter what you do, no matter who your audience is:
    • 30 percent will love it,
    • 30 percent will hate it,
    • and 30 percent won’t care.
Stick with the people who love you and don't spend a single second on the rest. Life will be better that way. James Altucher (*1968) US American hedge fund manager, entrepreneur, author, Choose Yourself, CreateSpace Independent Publishing Platform, 3. June 2013

 

Conclusions

 

  • We all begin the process before we are ready, before we are strong enough, before we know enough; we begin a dialogue with thoughts and feelings that both tickle and thunder within us. We respond before we know how to speak the language, before we know all the answers, and before we know exactly to whom we are speaking. Clarissa Pinkola Estés (*1945) US American Jungian psychoanalyst, post-trauma specialist, poet, writer, Women Who Run With the Wolves. Myths and Stories of the Wild Woman Archetype, Ballantine Books, 1st edition November 1992, updated, with new material 27. November 1996

 

  • We need four hugs a day for survival.
    We need eight hugs a day for maintenance.
    We need twelve hugs a day for growth.
Virginia Satir [Mother of Family Therapy] (1916-1988) US American social worker, family constellations therapist, author, source unknown

 

  • When you know yourself you are empowered. When you accept yourself you are invincible. Tina Lifford, US American film and television actress, Twitter message, 4. November 2015

 

Future outlook

  • Mankind will reach maturity on the day it learns to value diversity. Gene Roddenberry [Eugene Wesley "Gene" Roddenberry] (1921-1991) US American television screenwriter, producer, futurist, best known for creating the American science fiction series Star Trek, source unknown

 

Insights

  • Any person who has made a deep connection to nurturing or sustaining others, any person who has been through vulnerability and suffering and has learned some wisdom from it, can embrace their later years with a depth of understanding that is of value to us all. Audio interview with Jean Shinoda Bolen, M.D. jeanbolen.com, US American Jungian analyst, proactive women researcher and supporter, crone, spiritual teacher, author, Embracing Crone Wisdom, presented by the US American web radio station New Dimensions, host Michael Toms, ~60 minutes duration, aired 27. August 2003

 

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Godfrey Camille

Emotionally crippled and a lonely youngster, exhibited negative coping styles that did not allow him to truly connect to others. Retired medical doctor with his own practice, he was a devoted husband and an exemplary father.

  • People develop over time, inexorably, and as they do it, empathy, and also self-comfort and joy increase.
    There are two pillars of adult development and joy: One pillar is love, the other is finding an empathic way of coping with difficulties that does not push love away and perhaps most importantly remembering to take that love inside and not devaluing it. Video presentation by George Vaillant, Ph.D. (*1934) US American professor of psychiatry, Harvard Medical School, third director of the Grant Study of Adult Development, Harvard University, From emotionally crippled to loving personality, presented by TED Talks TEDxAmsterdam 2014, YouTube film, minute 18:06, 19:14 minutes duration, posted 28. November 2014

 

  • A good character is the best tombstone. Those who loved you and were helped by you will remember you when forget-me-nots have withered. Charles Spurgeon [Prince of Preachers] (1834-1892) British Particular Baptist preacher, source unknown

 

  • Maturity is achieved when a person postpones immediate pleasures for long-term values. Joshua Loth Liebman (1907-1948) US American rabbi, author, source unknown

 

  • It is sad to grow old but nice to ripen. Brigitte Bardot (*1934) former French actress singer, animal rights activist, fashion model, bestknown sex-symbol of the 1960s
  • A man watches his pear-tree day after day, impatient for the ripening of the fruit. Let him attempt to force the process, and he may spoil both fruit and tree. But let him patiently wait, and the ripe pear at length falls into his lap! Abraham Lincoln (1809-1865) assassinated 16th US President (1861-1865), abolisher of slavery, source unknown

 

 


Red Cayenne pepper

 

  • Once you've reached a certain age, the idea of wasting any opportunity – particularly the opportunity to love – is seen as the blasphemy it is. You might as well just spit at God as turn away from the chance to really love. And that's why love burns brightly at midlife; you're no longer under the delusion that the sparks that are flying here fly along every day. Marianne Williamson (*1952) US American spiritual teacher, political activist, visionary, lecturer, author, The Age of Miracles. Embracing the New Midlife, 1. April 2009

 

  • Even the strongest current of water cannot add a drop to a cup which is already full. The most difficult subjects can be explained to the most slow-witted man if he has not formed any idea of them already; but the simplest thing cannot be made clear to the most intelligent man if he is firmly persuaded that he knows already, without a shadow of doubt, what is laid before him. Leo Tolstoy (1828-1910) Russian playwright, essayist, novelist, writer, The Kingdom of God Is Within You, chapter 3, 1894

 

  • Times of heroism are generally times of terror, but the day never dawns in which this element is without value. Latent inner power is what we call Character, a reserved force which acts directly by presence, and without means. It is conceived of as a certain indemonstrable force, a Familiar of Genius, by whose impulses the hero is guided, but whose counsels he cannot impart. Character is of a stellar and in-diminishable greatness. Ralph Waldo Emerson (1803-1882) US American philosopher, Unitarian, lecturer, poet, essayist, Essays. First Series, "Heroism", 1841, Charles E. Merrill Co., New York, 1907 Wiki.Heldenreise

 

  • [F]or a conscious being,
    ➤ to exist is to change,
    ➤ to change is to mature,
    ➤ to mature is to go on creating oneself endlessly.
    Henri Bergson (1859-1941) influential French philosopher, Nobel laureate in literature, 1927, Creative Evolution ['L'Évolution créatrice', French edition 1907], Arthur Mitchell, translator, The Evolution of Life – Mechanism and Teleology, chapter 1, Henry Holt and Company, New York, English edition 1911

 

  • Emotional discomfort, when accepted, rises, crests and falls in a series of waves. Each wave washes a part of us away and deposits treasures we never imagined.
    ➤ Out goes naivete, in comes wisdom;
    ➤ out goes anger, in comes discernment;
    ➤ out goes despair, in comes kindness.
No one would call it easy, but the rhythm of emotional pain that we learn to tolerate is natural, constructive and expansive. The pain leaves you healthier than it found you. Martha N. Beck (*1962) US American sociologist, therapist, life coach, author, aphorism, source unknown

 

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"Cult of immaturity" pervading U.S. culture and policies

  • The USA lacks a maturity of mind and soul.
    Maturity is not the same thing as intelligence. Americans suffer no lack of intelligence, if only in the classical sense of the word: access to education and information, of which they have a surfeit. But if we do not read deeply enough in the newspaper [...] and if we do not listen between the lines of the blaring television lead stories to see paterrners of meaning, all that information serves us not at all. The failure of Americans to process the information they have is a problem of materity. [...]
    [T]he American mind suffers from a deadening superficiality.
Jessica Murray (*1951) US American astrologer, psychologist, Jungian analyst, linguist, cultural commentor, writer, Soul-sick nation, AuthorHouse, 6. October 2006, S. 45, Jessica Murray Mothersky Press, 28. February 2008

 

 

  • As you lower your entropy in consciousness you get more power, more ability to have an effect.
    Lowering entropy by improving the organization (profitability) of accumulated experiences increases the energy / power / information available to the evolving entity.
    Lowering entropy, spiritual growth, increasing the quality of consciousness, evolving one's consciousness, and growing up are all different expressions for the same thing. Video presentation by Thomas Campbell (*1944) US American physicist, consciousness researcher, sponsored by and at London School of Economics, Physics, Metaphysics & the Consciousness Connection, part 9 of 18, YouTube film, minute 0:05, 9:00 minutes duration, filmed 22. February 2008, posted 13. April 2008

 

  • Love is defined as the fundamental state of a low entropy consciousness. It is not that a low entropy consciousness is loving. A low low entropy consciousness fundamentally is love. Video presentation by Thomas Campbell (*1944) US American physicist, consciousness researcher, sponsored by and at London School of Economics, Physics, Metaphysics & the Consciousness Connection, part 9 of 18, YouTube film, minute 0:22, 9:00 minutes duration, filmed 22. February 2008, posted 13. April 2008

 

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Personal mastery

  • When personal mastery becomes a discipline […] it embodies two underlying movements.
    1. The first is continually clarifying what is important to us.
    2. The second is continually learning how to see current reality more clearly.
People with high levels of personal mastery are continually expanding their ability to create the results in life they truly seek. From their quest for continual learning comes the spirit of the learning organization.
Peter Senge (*1947) US American scientist, director of the Center for Organizational Learning, MIT Sloan School of Management, author, The Fifth Discipline. The Art and Practice of the Learning Organization, S. ?, Doubleday/Currency, 1st edition 1990, 2nd edition 2006

 

  • Though no one notices at the time, in-loveness obliterates the humanity of the beloved. One does a curious kind of insult to another by falling in love with him, for we are really looking at our own projection of God, not at the other person. If two people are in love, they tread on star dust for a time and live happily ever after – that is so long as this experience of divinity has obliterated time for them. Only when they come down to earth do they have to look at each other realistically and only then does the possibility of mature love exist. If one person is in love and the other not, the cooler one is likely to say, "We would have something better between us if you would look at me rather than at your image of me." Robert A. Johnson (*1921) US American Jungian analyst, lecturer, author, Owning Your Own Shadow. Understanding the Dark Side of the Psyche, Harper Collins, San Francisco, 1991, reprint edition 5. March 1993, Harper One, 9. June 2009

 

  • The psychology of the mature human being is an unfolding, emergent, oscillating, spiraling process marked by progressive subordination of older, lower-order behavior systems to newer, higher-order systems as man's existential problems change. Clare W. Graves, Ph.D. (1914-1986) US American professor of psychology, originator of a theory of adult human development, author, Introductory quote on the clarewgraves.com homepage

 

  • The mature personality provides a means for bringing relations of reciprocity and willing amity to the entire family of human beings. The mature provides for the interchange and utilization of the entire experiences of humankind. He or she lives in a moral world which tears down manmade barriers of law and custom widening the means of communication and cooperation between humans.
    The mature is a committed person, committing self to continuous self-development, and to intimate relations and cooperation with all people. He or she is one who believes in face to face interaction and assessment, one who believes friendly eyes are the indispensable mirror for reflecting what is. He or she believes in an absolutely open society where every nook, every corner is exposed to anyone who is curious. He or she behaves so as to demonstrate that every person may be freely heard. Clare W. Graves, Ph.D. (1914-1986) US American professor of psychology, originator of a theory of adult human development, author, Conceptions of the Mature Personality from Dr. Graves' Research. Nodal FS, undated

 

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Systems thinking

  • Systems thinking also needs the disciplines of building shared vision, mental models, team learning, and personal mastery to realize its potential.
    ➣ Building shared vision fosters a commitment to the long term.
    ➣ Mental models focus on the openness needed to unearth shortcomings in our present ways of seeing the world.
    ➣ Team learning develops the skills of groups of people to look for the larger picture beyond individual perspectives.
    ➣ And personal mastery fosters the personal motivation to continually learn how our actions affect our world.
Peter Senge (*1947) US American scientist, director of the Center for Organizational Learning, MIT Sloan School of Management, author, The Fifth Discipline. The Art and Practice of the Learning Organization, S. 12, Doubleday/Currency, 1st edition 1990, 2nd edition 2006

 

  • The boss in the herd can be referred to as the alpha horse. [...] The alpha horses are generally off by themselves because the other horses don't want to be around them. [...] The leader is generally an older mare – in a wild herd. Stallions come and go, but mares stay for life. It's not necessarily going be the bossy mare. It's going to be the one with all life experience. It's the leader that can be trusted. Whether it's with people or with horses
    ➣ the way to develop trust is through consistency.
    ➣ If you're consistent then you're dependable.
    ➣ If you're dependable you become trustworthy.
    ➣ If you're trustworthy the horse will be at peace with you.
    ➣ And if the horse is at peace with you then they can become soft.
Softness comes from the inside of the horse or the person. Lightness is just on the outside. You can achieve lightness through training. [...] With lightness the things that are trained into the horse are available when things are going relatively well. With softness everything is available all the time. Mark Rashid, US American horse trainer, clinician, cited in: Video documentary The Path of the Horse, presented by OurHorses.org, YouTube film, minute 3:09, 1:01:08 duration, posted 15. October 2012

 

  • Maturity is the ability to live fully and equally in multiple contexts; most especially, the ability, despite our grief and losses, to courageously inhabit the past the present and the future all at once. The wisdom that comes from maturity is recognized through a disciplined refusal to choose between or isolate three powerful dynamics that form human identity: what has happened, what is happening now and what is about to occur.
    Immaturity is shown by making false choices: living only in the past, or only in the present, or only in the future, or even, living only two out of the three.
    Maturity is not a static arrived platform, where life is viewed from a calm, untouched oasis of wisdom, but a living elemental frontier between what has happened, what is happening now and the consequences of that past and present; first imagined and then lived into the waiting future.
    Maturity calls us to risk ourselves as much as immaturity, but for a bigger picture, a larger horizon; for a powerfully generous outward incarnation of our inward qualities and not for gains that make us smaller, even in the winning. David Whyte (*1955) US American poet, writer, Consolations. The Solace, Nourishment and Underlying Meaning of Everyday Words, Many Rivers Press, 1. January 2015

 

  • Maturity beckons also, asking us to be larger, more fluid, more elemental, less cornered, less unilateral, a living conversational intuition between the inherited story, the one we are privileged to inhabit and the one, if we are large enough and broad enough, moveable enough and even, here enough, just, astonishingly, about to occur. David Whyte (*1955) US American poet, writer, Consolations. The Solace, Nourishment and Underlying Meaning of Everyday Words, Many Rivers Press, 1. January 2015

 

Original split version

  • Great people talk about ideas.
    Average people talk about things.
    Small people talk about other people.
    Unknown

Corrected version
Basic (body-oriented) people talk about things.
Mental (mind-oriented) people talk about ideas.
Relational (heart-centered) people talk about other people.
Maturing (integrating) people consider interrelatedness.
Hence, they tend to address all three levels of existence and wholesomeness.
Elfriede Ammann


 

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Blaming ⇔ accountability

 

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Emotional Maturity – Polarity of slow cognition and fast cognition of emotions

  • Fast cognitive awareness, our real-time emotion and real-time emotional awareness, happens before a slow cognition (thought-reflex) triggers a line of reasoning, interpretation, beliefs to 'make sense' of real-time experience.
    The Vago Maps (Integral),
    Four Quarter Archetypes (Shadow-work),
    Metacognition/ Metamemory (Mindfulness) of mnemonic strategies,
all illustrate slow-cognition processes in order to help improve one's thinking once thought-reflexes are triggered.
Emotion, emotional awareness and emotional maturity are the fast-cognitive, just prior to when a thought reflex is going to be triggered. There is a clear moment of real-time (fast cognitive) awareness that happens just prior to when you 'choose' to believe (react/interpret) in a standard, auto-habit of thinking.
It is in that moment that a choice can innately be made, a person simply needs to learn fundamentals about human emotion. The learning is detailed at first, but no more difficult to learn than Vago maps, meditation and metacognition skills. Learning about emotion and fast-cognitive processes is the only way to develop emotional maturity. There are no slow-cognitive theories that can teach you fast-cognitive lessons.
A clear description of 'fast-cognitive' experience was provided almost 2000 years ago in Buddha's description of the Five Aggregates1, which turns out to be the same description medical science provides of our optic nerve to brain sequence in 'Recognizing a Face'.
Other experiences of fast-cognition that people are familiar with include entering a room of strangers and without hearing a voice or seeing a face, you accurately sense the 'mood', first-responders who need to 'sense' details of urgency over a long distance (similarly, sharing of prayer for people in crisis, far away), and even sensing how a loved one is doing in real-time, when he/she is a thousand miles away.
Developing awareness of fast-cognitive requires attention and study in the same way you learn about four-quarter archetypes. The difference between the end result, after the two studies is, after learning archetypes you will recognize categories of slow-cognitive interactions. And after studies of fast-cognitive you will understand real emotion and creatively handling of feelings. Rodger Hyodo (*1957) Canadian miraculous brain injury healee, personal coach, author, Adjusting Though Reflex. Romancing Zen, AuthorHouse, 4. February 2010

 

  • Immaturity can stimulate a lot of virtual scenarios that play out in a person's head. Doubts and insecurities can add their own list of expectations, therefore disappointments, to a plan. […]
    Emotional maturity is taking personal responsibility for the different hormone releases and inhibitions we set into motion. Fortunately, too much slow cognition thinking (doubts and fears), is easily balanced with increased fast cognition (empathic intuitive knowing), when one decides it's time to do so. Rodger Hyodo (*1957) Canadian miraculous brain injury healee, personal coach, author, Facebook comment, 20. March 2016

 

  • You have, which is a rare thing, that ability and the responsibility to listen to the dissent in yourself, to at least give it the floor, because it is the key – not only to consciousness – but to real growth. To accept duality is to earn identity. And identity is something that you are constantly earning. It is not just who you are. It is a process that you must be active in. It’s not just parroting your parents or the thoughts of your learned teachers. It is now more than ever about understanding yourself so you can become yourself. Joss Whedon (*1964) US American screenwriter, film and television producer, director, actor, composer, comic book author, Be All Your Selves. Embracing Our Inner Contradictions, 181st Commencement Address, Wesleyan University, 26. May 2013

 

  • To make mistakes is human;
    to stumble is commonplace;
    to be able to laugh at yourself is maturity.
    William Arthur Ward (1921-994) US American writer, unknown source

 

  • The mark of the immature man is that he wants to die nobly for a cause,
    while the mark of a mature man is that he wants to live humbly for one.
    Wilhelm Stekel (1868-1940) Austrian physician, psychologist

 

  • Real maturity is the ability to imagine the humanity of every person as fully as you believe in your own humanity. Tobias Wolff (*1945) US American short story writer, memoirist, novelist, source unknown

 

  • Youth condemns; maturity condones. Amy Lowell (1874-1925) US American poet of the imagist school from Brookline, Massachusetts, Pulitzer Prize laureate for poetry, 1926

 

  • Maturity implies otherness. [...] The art of living is the art of living with. Julius Gordon (1926-1929) US American rabbi, Growing Up Jewishly, CCAR, 1952

Literary quotes

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Bekenntnis - Literatur - Reife

  • I have no right to call myself one who knows. I was one who seeks, and I still am, but I no longer seek in the stars or in books; I'm beginning to hear the teachings of my blood pulsing within me. My story isn't pleasant, it's not sweet and harmonious like the invented stories; it tastes of folly and bewilderment, of madness and dream, like the life of all people who no longer want to lie to themselves. Hermann Hesse (1877-1962) German-born Swiss poet, novelist, Demian. A Dual-Language Book Two Worlds, S. 5, 1923

 

 

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Dilemma of primacy effect vs. recency effect

  • I used to say to our audiences: "It is difficult to get a man to understand something, when his salary depends upon his not understanding it!" Upton Sinclair (1878-1968) US American author, Pulitzer Prize recipient, 1943, novel I, Governor of California, and How I Ended Poverty, S. 109, 1934, University of California Press, reprint 1994

Song lines

  • Do not seek too much fame in this world, but do not live in obscurity.
    Be proud, but do not remind the world of your deeds.
    Excel when you must, but do not excel the world or those suffering in it.
    Listen, many heroes are not yet born, and many have already died.
    To be alive to hear this song, that is a victory.
    To be alive at the end of a storm, that is a victory.
    Song from West-Africa

Black humor

  • Women age, but men mature. Gloria Steinem gloriasteinem.com (*1934) leading US American feminist of the new women's movement, visionary and political activist, founder and editor of the feminist US magazine "Ms", journalist, writer, source unknown

Quotes – Movie As Good As It Gets

                It takes a mad man to know one's kind.                
Melvin Udall to a group of depressed psychiatric patientsWhat if this is as good as it gets?
Source: ► YouTube movie excerpt As Good as it Gets, Psychiatrist Scene, minute 1:32, 1:41 minutes duration, posted 27. May 2015

 

                A man breaking his feelings to a woman, exposing his vulnerability.                
Melvin.UdallI've got a really great compliment for you, and it's true.
Carol·ConnellyI'm so afraid you're about to say something awful.
Melvin.UdallDon't be pessimistic, it's not your style. Okay, here I go: Clearly, a mistake.
I've got this, what – ailment? My doctor, a shrink that I used to go to all the time, he says that in fifty or sixty percent of the cases, a pill really helps. I hate pills, very dangerous thing, pills. Hate. I'm using the word "hate" here, about pills. Hate.
My compliment is, that night when you came over and told me that you would never... all right, well, you were there, you know what you said. Well, my compliment to you is, the next morning, I started taking the pills.
Carol·ConnellyI don't quite get how that's a compliment for me.
Melvin.UdallYou make me want to be a better man.
Carol·Connelly[…] That's maybe the best compliment of my life.
Melvin.UdallWell, maybe I overshot a little, because I was aiming at just enough to keep you from walking out.
Source: ► Movie excerpt As Good as It Gets (8/8) Movie CLIP – The Greatest Woman Alive (1997) HD,
YouTube film, 2:30 minutes duration, posted 25. October 2012

 

                 A woman's futile wish for having a normal boyfriend                
Carol ConnellyWhy can't I have a normal boyfriend? Just a regular boyfriend, one that doesn't go nuts on me!
Beverly ConnellyEverybody wants that, dear. It doesn't exist.
Source: ► YouTube movie excerpt As Good As It Gets – Jack Nicholson & Helen Hunt:
Why can't I just have a normal boyfriend?
, minute 0:34, 1:08 minute duration, posted 23. March 2007

 

                A man acknowledging a woman whose enneagram type is # 1                
Melvin UdallI got a great compliment for you. [...]
I might be the only person on the face of the earth that knows you're the greatest woman on earth.
I might be the only one who appreciates how amazing you are in every single thing that you do, and in every single thought that you have, and how you say what you mean, and how you almost always mean something that's all about being straight and good.
I think most people miss that about you, and I watch them, wondering how they can watch you bring their food, and clear their tables and never get that they just met the greatest woman alive. And the fact that I get it makes me feel good, about me.
Source: ► YouTube movie excerpt As Good as It Gets (1997), minute 2:24:17, 2:27:29 duration, posted 12. November 2016

 

Source: ► American romantic comedy film As Good As It Gets, starring Jack Nicholson and Helen Hunt, 1997
A single mother/waitress, a misanthropic author, and a gay artist form an unlikely friendship after the artist is assaulted in a robbery.
See also: ► Nine types of the enneagram – exemplified and ► Madness and ► Vulnerability and ► Authenticity Woman and ► Depression

Quotes by David R. Hawkins

⚠ Caveat See Power vs. Truth, January 2013

  • It is very immature to expect others to live up to one’s own standards or ideals. Let us not overlook that
    • the majority of people have no reason other than to ‘take what they can get’. Seventy-eight percent of the people on the planet calibrate below the level of Integrity at 200.
    • They are not committed to spiritual truth [LoC 500], which to them is fiction or idealistic nonsense.
    • Fairness, consideration, honesty, and ethics do not prevail at consciousness levels below 200. When they do, it is the exception rather than the rule.

 

  • Certainty is the consequence and the fulfillment of the requirements of subjectivity. The quality of "realness" is itself a purely subjective condition. Therein, however, lies the trap of illusion. The central problem of illusion is not that it is unreal or fallacious, but that it seems real, as noted by Socrates twenty-five hundred years ago. Thus, even certainty is a primary illusion that is often clung to out of fear, doubt, or uncertainty. On the other hand, with maturity, doubt can be accepted and reconceptualized as being necessary to progress and therefore a useful tool for investigation and growth.
    The closed mind is seemingly comfortable because it often only represents a state of maturational arrest. Denial, on the other hand, is only a temporary fix because it is based on a vulnerable premise. The difficulty with a closed mind is that it is innately prideful.
    Maturity entails the capacity to live with the unanswered and uncertainty and take pleasure from the fact that it is a stimulus to learning and further growth and leads to progressive discovery.
    The mature mind knows that it is evolving and that growth and development are satisfying and pleasurable in and of themselves. Maturity implies that one has learned how to be comfortable with uncertainty and has included it as a legitimate ingredient. Uncertainty leads to discovery, whereas skepticism is stultifying. Dr. David R. Hawkins, Truth vs. Falsehood. How to Tell the Difference, chapter 8 Fact Versus Fiction: Reality and Illusion, S. 74, 2005

 

  • Humor is important to the maturation process whereby we learn how to not take ourselves so seriously and learn to laugh at ourselves, thus decreasing narcissistic defensiveness. To be prone to "hurt feelings" is egocentric and a form of social paranoia. When we admit our downside and learn to laugh at it, we are no longer vulnerable to slights and insults. It is beneficial to list all of one's human foibles and limitations and make peace with them in order to be at peace with oneself. Dr. David R. Hawkins, Truth vs. Falsehood. How to Tell the Difference, chapter 9 Social Structure and Functional Truth, S. 112, 2005

 

 

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Cross-fertilization among likeminded people

  • In highly motivated, spiritually-disciplined groups, approximately fifty to fifty-five percent of the people in the group reach the goal of Unconditional Love. […] The advantage of experience with mature, genuine spiritual groups or companions is the value of examples, insights and information that is shared, and the inspiration that occurs by cross-fertilization. Rather high levels of consciousness are also exhibited by organizations that are not spiritually committed in a formal manner but act on the level of unconditional mercy, such as Doctors Without Borders (cal. 500) who minister without reference to which side of the conflict a soldier may have been on. Dr. David R. Hawkins, Transcending the Levels of Consciousness. The Stairway to Enlightenment, chapter 15, S. 258, 2006

 

 

Englische Texte – English section on Maturity

Stages of psychological development – Richard Barrett

Maturing along the seven stages of life – 10 years each
༺༻Evolutionary·stageFocusExpressionAge
1.SurvivingSatisfactionStaying alive and healthy in the best possible conditions0-10
2.ConformingSatisfactionKeeping safe and secure by staying loyal to one's family, kin and culture10-20
3.DifferentiatingSuccessDistinguishing oneself from the crowd by honing one's skills and talents20-30
4.IndividuatingTransformationLetting go of the aspects of one's parental and cultural conditioning
that no longer serve oneself
30-40
5.SelfactualizingMeaningBecoming more fully who one is by leading a values- and purpose-driven life 40-50
6.IntegratingMeaningAligning with others who share the same values and purpose to create a better world50-60
7.ServingMeaningFulfilling one's destiny by caring for the well-being of humanity and/or the planet60-70
Source: ► Video dialogue with Richard Barrett, FRSA valuescentre.com (*1945) British social commentator, speaker, author on the evolution
of leadership and human values in business and society, Evolutionary Coaching, the Power of Trust, and High Trust Cultures,
presented by Barrett Values Centre, host Michelle Clarke, US American social entrepreneur, executive coach,
YouTube film, 48:26 minutes duration, posted 15. April 2014

Features of character – signs of wisdom

Characteristics of wisened maturity
༺༻Mature behaviorComment
1.Character in solitudeThe truest mark of human character is best revealed in private.
2.Contentment in circumstanceFor both the rich and the poor contentment remains elusive. Finding contentment in any given circumstances expresses maturity.
3.Courage during adversityCourage – action in the face of fear – is revealed in predicaments, when tested, during tough times.
4.Faithfulness in commitmentThose who hold true to their promises or oaths (handshake, contract, marriage) are commendable.
5.Generosity in abundanceAbundance is not material possessions. Generous giving of physical wealth is a sign of character.
6.Graciousness towards othersExtending grace to others is a sign of maturity.
7.Gratitude despite circumstanceFinding the positive in any circumstance by expressing gratitude is healing.
8.Honesty in deprivationDishonesty is used to gain. Authenticity, especially when under stress, reveals high esteem of integrity.
9.Hope during heartacheWhen heartache cuts deep level hope from a greater source can emerge.
10.Humility in accomplishmentDeflecting praise in accomplishment is a sign of maturing. Take no credit, take no blame.
11.Inspiration in relationshipNobody is an island. Inspiring others may result in deepening the bonding.
12.Integrity in the detailsThose who act integrously in the little things of life will typically display it in the bigger things as well.
13.Kindness to nobodies, minorities (weak)Kindness is not an investment. Acts of kindness extended to weak members of the society who are unable to directly repay them are given truly.
14.Love for enemiesTo extend love towards those who treat one unjustly requires a mature character. It is easy to love friends and friendly people.
15.Encouraging the potential in othersSeeing the good in everyone may bring out the best in others.
16.Perseverance in failureFailure is part of human experience. To persevere humbly in the face of failure is a matter of character.
17.Purity in opportunityPurity vs. corruption is revealed when faced with opportunity.
18.Respect for authorityHealthy authority represents sacred order hierarchy. It brings reason and order.
19.Responsibility for mistakeForegoing to pass the blame and accepting responsibility for mistakes allows one to learn from them.
20.Self-control in addictionRetaining self-control in the face of a multi-addictive society possessed by substances, material wealth, or entertainment requires maturity.
Inspired by ► Blog article 20 New Ways to Judge Others, presented by becomingminimalist.com, Joshua Becker, 13. September 2011

Differentiating mature from immature people


Basic traits of an unsafe person ⇔ a safe person
༺༻Unsafe immature [wetiko bugged] peopleSafe maturing people
1.Think "they have it all together" instead of
admitting their weaknesses
Can admit their weaknesses
2.Are fundamentalistic [religious] instead of
aware [spiritual]
Are aware [spiritual] instead of fundamentalistic [religious]
3.Are defensive instead of open to feedbackAre open to feedback
4.Are self-righteous instead of humbleAre humble
5.Only apologize instead of changing their behaviorCan change behaviors and apologize, forgive
6.Avoid working on their problems instead of
dealing with them
Are willing to do their healing work, dealing with problems
7.Believe they are perfect instead of admitting their faultsDon’t expect others to be perfect, yet maintain discerning self-protection and healthy boundaries
8.Demand trust, instead of earning itTrust appropriately
9.Do not respect boundariesCan set boundaries with others who are not safe
10.Blame others instead of taking responsibilityTake responsibility for their own issues
11.Lie instead of telling the truthTell the truth instead of lying to others or themselves
12.Are stagnant instead of growingContinue to grow in awareness and maturity
13.Tend·to·cheat,·apply·the·"quick·and·dirty"·approachCan be in this world but not of it and still maintain
warmth and connection
14.Tend to demand and argueCan communicate effectively and know how to ask for
what they want and need
Source: ► Dr. Henry Cloud, US American  clinical psychologist, Dr. John Townsend, US American Christian self help author
Safe People. How to Find Relationships That Are Good for You and Avoid Those That Aren't, Zondervan, 1995

Mature undivided love ⇔ immature divided romance

       Indiviual means undivided.       
That's the meaning of the word. When a person gets to a place of fulfillment [influence, leadership] they are supposed to be undivided. 'The undivided person will act in the interest of the community unity rather than the interest of dividing into factions. So one way to critique the people on top – if they have the opportunity to use power and they are not using it to create unity and benefit for other – [is to say that] they are not truly an individual [as] they are still divided and they are acting out that inner division.
Source: ► Audio radio interview with Michael Meade Mosaicvoices.org US American storyteller, scholar of mythology, psychology, anthropology, ritualist, spokesman in the Men's Movement, author, The Pathless Path, MP3, presented by US American web radio
station KBOO, Portland, program Radiozine, host Ralph Coulson, minute 14:39, 29:24 minutes duration, aired 13. May 2013

 

       Immature love              Mature love       
Infantile love follows the principle:
"I love because I am loved."
Mature love follows the principle:
"I am loved because I love."
Immature love says:
"I love you because I need you."
Mature love says:
"I need you because I love you."
Source: ► Erich Fromm (1900-1980) US American social psychologist, psychoanalyst, sociologist,
humanistic philosopher, author, The Art of Loving, Harper & Brothers, 1956

 

       Romance              Love       
Romance can be defined as [two] fractional people who are looking for the rest of themselves. The gender roles make us into fractional people instead of whole people.
It's very intense because you're looking for the rest of yourself in someone else.
But it's doomed because nobody can be you.
Love is two whole people.
Romance is wanting the other person. It's about possession.Love is wanting what's best for the other person.
Source: ► Vimeo video presentation by Gloria Steinem gloriasteinem.com (*1934) leading US American feminist of the new women's movement, visionary and political activist, founder and editor of the feminist US magazine "Ms", journalist, writer, Perspectives on Equality
and Community – Common Hour
, sponsored by Franklin & Marshall College, Lancaster, Pennsylvania, 9. September 2010,
minute 33:00, 53:54 minutes duration, posted 10. September 2010

 

       Romance              Love       
There is a difference between romance and love.
Romance might die, while true love does not. Love is easy when romance still lights everything in shades of pink, when the experience of a relationship is like the canvas of a sweet Impressionistic painting.Often the true path of love begins only when romance has begun to taper off, for love is the capacity to see light when darkness has begun to eclipse it. Once the reality of our wounding reveals the darkness still lurking in all of us, romance might die, while true love does not.
Source: ► Marianne Williamson (*1952) US American spiritual teacher, political activist, visionary, lecturer, author,
Illuminata. A Return to Prayer, Riverhead Trade, 1. November 1995

 

       Selfishness              Love       
Selfishness demands, "What's in it for me?"while Love asks, "What can I give?"
Source: ► Seth Adam Smith, US American editor-in-chief, Marriage Isn’t For You, presented by Forward Walking, 2. November 2013

Building conscience

Two major phases in conscience formation
Precocious juvenile ('evil') stage
Less evolved phase
Matured ('good') stage
More evolved phase
Externalized ♦ Projecting ♦ SeparatedInternalized ♦ Congruent ♦ Interconnected
Immaturely built conscience
Ego projecting onto other/s
Maturely and soundly built conscience
Congruent with one's soul
Personal gain
Ensuring seeming external advantages
(1) Joint knowing
(2) Joint feeling
(3) Joint action
(4) Joint transformation
Quantity – expressed as rapid policiesQuality – expressed as slowing down
Self-serving, down-quick-and-dirty approachDeepening soul and inner development
Avoiding shadow work, conflict resolution,
and integration
Conflict management skills applied
Impatience ◊ Avoiding accountability
Inability to postpone short-lived satisfaction
PatienceResponsibility ◊ Holding (leaders) accountable
Willingness to bear with and transcend ambiguities
Missing out on ethics and integrityDeveloping an ethical standard based on integrity
Rugged individualism
Insensitive to the common Good of All
Personal growth
Taking the overall whole into account
See also:
Correlating the right hemisphere with the left hemisphere
Leadership ⇔ management – High ground ⇔ low ground
Four categories of friendship, love and truth
Conscience and ► Consciousness-Tables
Soul and ► Ego and ► Duality and ► Interdependence and ► Maturity and ► Whole purpose

 

Slowing downwards to the roots of one's being
'Slow' and 'down' are modes of the soul; they are connective modes, ways of keeping connected to oneself and to one’s environment. 'Slowing downwards' refers to more than simply moving slowly, it means growing down towards the roots of one’s being. Instead of outward growth and upward climb, life at times must turn inward and downward in order to grow in other ways. There is a shift to the vertical down that re-turns us to root memories, root metaphors, and timeless things that shape our lives from within. Slowing downwards creates opportunities to dwell more deeply in one’s life, for the home we are looking for in this world is within us all along. The lost home that we are seeking is ourselves; it is the story we carry within our soul. Michael Meade Mosaicvoices.org, US American storyteller, scholar of mythology, psychology, anthropology, ritualist, spokesman in the Men's Movement, author, Why the World Doesn't End. Tales of Renewal in Times of Loss, 30. October 2012

 

It’s not good versus evil; it’s that which is more evolved versus that which is less evolved.
Dr. David R. Hawkins, Sedona Seminar Emotions and Sensations, 3 DVD set, 17. April 2004

Recommendations by the stoics

Habits to improve the quality of one's life
RecommendationRemark
Events don't upset you. Beliefs do.Only the end of the world is the end of the world.
Control what you can. Ignore the rest.Worrying never fixed anything.
Accept everything. Don't be passive.Denial is not recommendable. Accept. And then do something.
Choose whose child you will be."What would Batman do in this situation?"
Morning and evening rituals are essential.Plan for the day, then reflect on the day.
Source: ► Blog article Ancient Wisdom Reveals 6 Rituals That Will Make You Happy,
presented by Barking up the Wrong Tree, Eric, September 2016

Chinese human body energy clock

Source: ► comfytummy.com, presented by comfytummy.com, undated

 

Links zum Thema Reife / Maturity

Literatur

Literature (engl.)

The Way It Is, enlightened parable, eigth and final book of the series

Externe Weblinks


External web links (engl.)


  • Article collection , presented by personalitygrowth, undated

Audio- und Videolinks

Audio and video links (engl.)

  • Audio presentation by Alan Watts (1915-1973) British philosopher, speaker, writer, Life Is Like Potty Training, YouTube film, 11:49 minutes duration, posted by StudyYourself 24. February 2013

 

Interne Links

Englisch Wiki

Hawkins

 

 

1 The five aggregates are: material form, feelings, perception, volition (sometimes translated as mental formations), and sensory consciousness.

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