Wenn das Böse dir gegenüber steht, dann schau ihm fest ins Auge.
Schaue solange hin, bis du im Spiegel der Augen deines Feindes dein eigenes Böses erkennen kannst.
Und dann ziehe dich zurück. Und schaue deinem eigenen Bösen fest ins Auge.
Schaue solange hin, bis du hinter ihm dein verletztes Gutes erkennen kannst.
Dann schließe sie beide, das verletzte Gute und das verteidigende Böse
so fest in die Arme deines Herzens wie du kannst
und kümmere dich nicht um den Feind.
Danke ihm im Stillen und lass ihn seine Wege gehen.
Sie werden die deinen nicht mehr kreuzen.
Solange du jedoch im Bewusstsein deines Rechts verharrst, wird dein Feind dein Feind bleiben.
Safi Nidiaye, deutsche Zeitschriften- und TV-Journalistin, Schriftstellerin, Dichterin, Meditationslehrerin,
Die Stimme des Herzens. Der Weg zum größten aller Geheimnisse, Bastei Lübbe, 9. Auflage, 25. April 2000

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Was Macht hat, mich zu verletzen, ist nur halb so stark wie mein Gefühl, verletzt werden zu können. William Shakespeare [BW 465] (1564-1616) englischer Dramatiker, Bühnendichter, Lyriker, Schauspieler

Das Zurückgewinnen des verletzten Kindes in Ihnen erinnert an ein Zen-Erlebnis. Kinder sind von Natur aus Zen-Meister, ihre Welt entsteht in jedem Augenblick wieder völlig neu. Für das nicht verletzte Kind ist das Staunen natürlich. Das Leben ist ein Mysterium, das gelebt werden will. Die Heimkehr ist die Wiederherstellung des Natürlichen. Eine solche Wiederherstellung ist nicht grandios oder dramatisch, sondern zeigt einfach nur, wie das Leben sein sollte. John Bradshaw [BW 460] (*1933) US-amerikanischer Philosoph, Theologe, Psychologe, Autor, Das Kind in uns. Wie finde ich zu mir selbst, S. 87, Droemer Knaur Verlag, München, 14. August 2000

Ein Krieger des Lichts glaubt. Weil er an Wunder glaubt, geschehen auch Wunder. Weil er sich sicher ist, dass seine Gedanken sein Leben verändern können, verändert sich sein Leben. Weil er sicher ist, dass er der Liebe begegnen wird, begegnet ihm diese Liebe auch. Manchmal wird er enttäuscht, manchmal verletzt. Aber er weiß, dass es sich lohnt. Für jede Niederlage gibt es zwei Siege. Alle die glauben, wissen das. Paulo Coelho (*1947) brasilianischer esoterischer Schriftsteller, Bestseller-Autor, Krieger des Lichts, Umschlagtext, Diogenes Verlag, 11. Auflage, März 2001

Tiefgreifende Veränderungen anstreben, heißt, Lösungen zu suchen, die v e r l e t z l i c h machen – und genau das lehnen die meisten Menschen ab. [...] Paradoxerweise wirkt genau das, was scheinbar zu nichts führt. [...] Die Ermutigung, sich anderen Menschen gegenüber verletzlich zu zeigen, bietet einen Ausweg aus der Scham. Patrick Carnes, Ph.D. C.A.S., führender US-amerikanischer Sexsuchtexperte und -therapeut, Minneapolis, Wenn Sex zur Sucht wird, S. 254, Kösel-Verlag, 1992

Geh dorthin, wo du verletzt bist, wo deine Sehnsucht sitzt, wo du Schmerz spürst. Bleibe damit, mach keine Bewegung davon weg. Geh nicht in die Gedanken; bis es zu einem totalen Stillstand in dir kommt. Dann findet dort eine neue Bewegung statt. Lass den Schmerz, die Sehnsucht, das Verletztsein sich ausweiten in dir. Du kannst nichts tun. Geh dorthin, wo du hilflos bist, wo du ohnmächtig bist, lass dich tragen, habe Vertrauen. Wenn es ganz ausgeweitet ist, wenn alles Platz hat, ist die Liebe da. Lass sie zu dir kommen, lass sie da sein. Du hast sie ein Leben lang gesucht, überall, mit allen Mitteln, in den Beziehungen, im Sex, in der Sucht, in der Arbeit. Samuel Widmer (*1948) Schweizer Arzt, Psychiater, Psychotherapeut, Autor

Verletzlichkeit ist irgendwie sexy in spirituellen Kreisen, weshalb ich Hilflosigkeit verwende. Hilflosigkeit ist brutal. Interview Abdi Assadi, US-amerikanischer Akupunkteur, Heiler, spiritueller Berater, New York City, Die Fallen der Spiritualität, Zeitschrift Sein, April 2011

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Menschen, die einmal verletzt wurden, können gefährlich sein, denn sie wissen, dass man überleben kann. Lèos Carax (*1960) französisch-amerikanischer Filmregisseur, Gesellschaftskritiker, Schriftsteller, Filmzitat aus: Die Liebenden vom Pont Neuf, 1991

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Angriff aus feinstoffliche Ebenen

Spirituell hoch entwickelte Menschen bilden eine ernsthafte Gefahr für jene Kräfte, die Gott entgegenwirken. Daher kann es sein, dass sie feinstofflich angegriffen werden an Stellen, wo sie verletzlich sind und bei Positionalitäten, denen sie noch anhaften. Dr. David R. Hawkins, Quelle unbekannt

Die Hauptstützen des Egos sind Stolz / Unwissenheit, Wunsch seinen Fortbestand sicherzustellen und Angst vor dem Tod. Von diesen ist die Angst die ursprünglichste, weil die Verletzbarkeit des Egos darin besteht, dass seine scheinbare Wirklichkeit illusorisch ist und daher als Illusion entlarvt werden kann. Dr. David R. Hawkins, Licht des Alls, S. 283, 2005

Realität ist radikal und schmeichelt nicht solchen Verhaltensweisen, die als Nett-Sein beschrieben werden. Das Zen der Wahrheit ist direkt und konfrontiert betrügerische Falschheit auf eine sehr präzise Weise. […] Die Straße zur Erleuchtung ist nicht für blökende Schafe geeignet. Dr. David R. Hawkins, Licht des Alls, S. 431, 2005

Wenn man sich verletzt fühlt, zeigt das, dass man sich verteidigt, was selbst wiederum das Festhalten an Unwahrheiten offenbart. Wahrheit benötigt keine Verteidigung und ist deshalb keine defensive Haltung. Wahrheit hat nichts zu beweisen und ist nicht verletzbar, wenn man sie um eine Antwort fragt. Dr. David R. Hawkins, Licht des Alls, S. 431, 2005

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If I asked you about women you'd probably give me a syllabus of your personal favorites. You may have even been laid a few times. But you can't tell me what it feels like to wake up next to a woman and feel truly happy. [...] you've never looked at a woman and been totally vulnerable. Knowing someone could level you with her eyes. Feeling like God put an angel on earth just for you [...] who could rescue you from the depths of hell. And you wouldn't know what it’s like to be her angel and to have that love for her to be there forever. Through anything. Through cancer. You wouldn't know about sleeping sittin’ up in a hospital room for two months holding her hand because the doctors could see in your eyes that the term visiting hours don't apply to you. Transcripted from the movie Good Will Hunting, written by Matt Damon and Ben Affleck; scene: psychiatrist Sean and young genius Will sitting together on a park bench in Boston.
Good Will Hunting – Park Scene, YouTube film, minute 1:20, 4:46 minutes duration, posted 23. July 2007

Vulnerability or invulnerability is the result of your own thoughts. Nothing except your thoughts can attack you. Nothing except your thoughts can make you think you are vulnerable. And nothing except your thoughts can prove to you this is not so. A Course in Miracles (ACIM) work book [LoC 600], Lesson 26

Everybody is vulnerable. The real risk is to sabotage yourself.

Caroline Myss (*1952) Myss.com (*1952) US American spiritual teacher, mystic, medical intuitive, five-time New York Times bestseller author, lecturer, keynote address, Living a Fearless Life: Why Not Risk It All?, part 2 of 2, presented by Omega conference WMA, New York, 31. March-2. April 2006

Don't tell yourself you're sick, you're wounded. Get over it.
Caroline Myss (*1952) Myss.com (*1952) US American spiritual teacher, mystic, medical intuitive, five-time New York Times bestseller author, lecturer, keynote address, Living a Fearless Life: Why Not Risk It All?, part 2 of 2, presented by Omega conference WMA, New York, 31. March-2. April 2006

You have two choices. Get bitter or get better.
Caroline Myss (*1952) Myss.com (*1952) US American spiritual teacher, mystic, medical intuitive, five-time New York Times bestseller author, lecturer, keynote address, Living a Fearless Life: Why Not Risk It All?, part 2 of 2, presented by Omega conference WMA, New York, 31. March-2. April 2006

"Click accelerators" for connecting with people are:
1. Vulnerability
  Open up about topics that capture people’s attention and enable them to empathize with you. People will reciprocate and open up as well. Appearing strong and in control is no means to click.
2. Proximity
  Being close to your community. Show up at events. Due to multiple exposures people are going to like you better.
3. Resonance / Flow
  Be and stay present and flow. Ask questions, express genuine interest.
4. Similarity
  Similarity is hard wired into the human psyche. Discover about seven or eight topics of joint similar interest.
5. Safe place / Environment
  Belong to a clearly defined community. The context ‘we are in it together’ is a critical factor.
6. Engagement
7. Chemistry / Magic

Video interview with Ori Brafman, Israeli US American entrepreneur in business, government, and the nonprofit sector, How To Click With People Audio MP3, presented by web radio podcaster Mixergy, host Andrew Warner, 57:04 minutes duration, posted 17. June 2010

The thing that I have learned is that vulnerability is at the center of fear and shame, but it is also at the center of joy and gratitude and love and belonging. If we continue to wake up every day and put our game faces on and think that invulnerability is the way to be [...] then we pay the price, because I don't know that we would ever fully experience joy and love and belonging. Brené Brown, Ph.D., LMSW brenebrown.com, US American shame, vulnerability, empathy researcher, lecturer, Graduate College of Social Work University of Houston

We need to share with those who have earned the right to hear it and people who are invested in the friendship. Social media has given us this idea that we should all have a posse of friends when in reality, if we have one or two really good friends, we are lucky. Sharing and hearing intimate stories is also not most people's "default setting," since we tend to self-protect from hurtful things. If someone drops a shame bomb on me, I am likely to give a non-compassionate response if my own resources feel scarce. Brené Brown, Ph.D., LMSW brenebrown.com, US American shame, vulnerability, empathy researcher, lecturer, Graduate College of Social Work University of Houston, Author Brené Brown Discusses Embracing Our Ordinariness, Huffington Post, 21. February 2011

Our secrets definitely keep us addicted, which is probably why there are online sites where people can divest themselves of their secrets, anonymously. But because shame happens between people, there is no substitute for telling on ourselves, so to speak, to someone else and making ourselves vulnerable. Vulnerability is the birthplace of connection and the path to the feeling of worthiness. If it doesn't feel vulnerable, the sharing is probably not constructive. Brené Brown, Ph.D., LMSW brenebrown.com, US American shame, vulnerability, empathy researcher, lecturer, Graduate College of Social Work University of Houston, Author Brené Brown Discusses Embracing Our Ordinariness, Huffington Post, 21. February 2011

We need to share with those who have earned the right to hear it and people who are invested in the friendship. Social media has given us this idea that we should all have a posse of friends when in reality, if we have one or two really good friends, we are lucky. Sharing and hearing intimate stories is also not most people's "default setting," since we tend to self-protect from hurtful things. If someone drops a shame bomb on me, I am likely to give a non-compassionate response if my own resources feel scarce. Brené Brown, Ph.D., LMSW brenebrown.com, US American shame, vulnerability, empathy researcher, lecturer, Graduate College of Social Work, University of Houston, Author Brené Brown Discusses Embracing Our Ordinariness, Huffington Post, 21. February 2011

Vulnerability is our most accurate measurement of courage. Video presentation by Brené Brown, Ph.D., LMSW brenebrown.com, US American shame, vulnerability, empathy researcher, lecturer, Graduate College of Social Work, University of Houston, Listening to shame, presented by TED Talks, YouTube film, minute 4:56, 20:38 minutes duration, posted 16. March 2012

Vulnerability is the birthplace of innovation, creativity and change. Video presentation by Brené Brown, Ph.D., LMSW brenebrown.com, US American shame, vulnerability, empathy researcher, lecturer, Graduate College of Social Work, University of Houston, Listening to shame, presented by TED Talks, YouTube film, minute 5:58, 20:38 minutes duration, posted 16. March 2012

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Note: All humans and societies are vulnerable and imperfect.

In cruel societies missing out on human dignity vulnerability is seen as weakness, imperfection is seen as inadequacy. Many humans buy into the idea to be "less than", not worthy of belonging.

It is the struggle for worthiness and belonging that leads to bullying. […]
[A]s our fear, uncertainty, and feelings of vulnerability increase, cruelty becomes an acceptable way for us to discharge our pain and discomfort. Rather than doing the difficult work of embracing our own vulnerabilities and imperfections, we expose, attack, or ridicule what is vulnerable and imperfect about others. […] We must open our hearts and minds to a new way of thinking about vulnerability and imperfection. Vulnerability may be at the core of fear and uncertainty, but it is also the birthplace of courage and compassion – exactly what we need to help us stop lashing out. Brené Brown, Ph.D., LMSW brenebrown.com, US American shame, vulnerability, empathy researcher, lecturer, Graduate College of Social Work University of Houston, The Cruelty Crisis. Bullying Isn't a School Problem, It's a National Pastime. Exclusion, humiliation, gossiping, and name-calling – we can't get enough!, Ordinary Courage. The road to authenticity, presented by Psychology Today. 31. October 2010

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Programmed for fake invincibility

[Women] were falling in love with men who appeared to be invulnerable.
The ability to kill always requires the vulnerability of being exposed to being killed.
The irony of male allegeability is that it is created by vulnerability that is masked as invulnerability. And to this day this is the male tragedy. Audio interview with Warren Farrell, Ph.D. Farrell.com (*1943) US American political scientist, author, spokesman of men's liberation, men's rights activist, former director of the National Organisation for Women, on The Myth of Male Power, part 8 of 19, presented by Simon & Schuster Audio, host Tom Howard, minute 0:05, 10:01 minutes duration, posted 10. July 2008

Our vulnerability allows us to be hurt. But our vulnerability allows us to be loved. If we were tough and totally in control there is no space for love, no intimacy, no softness. The same vulnerability that allows us to be hurt allows us to be intimate, connected and loved. Fred Luskin, Ph.D., US American health psychologist, director of the Stanford University Forgiveness Projects, author of Forgive for Good on The Choice to Forgive, presented by Greater Good Science Center, YouTube film, 3:22 minutes duration, posted 11. August 2010

We're never so vulnerable than when we trust someone – but paradoxically, if we cannot trust, neither can we find love or joy. Walter Anderson (*1944) US American Chairman and CEO of Parade Publications (2000-2009)

Shame makes us vulnerable and what makes us vulnerable makes us beautiful.
When I feel shame and really stay with it makes me much more connected to what we need.
Sharing what is shameful for me, in a vulnerable way, makes me available and I have learned that being vulnerable is being safe.
We can not decide to run away from shame without at the same time running away from joy, unity and creativity. Interview with Liv Larsson, Swedish certified trainer in Nonviolent Communication, The Center for Nonviolent Communication, April 2011

Love anything, and your heart will certainly be wrung and possibly broken. If you want to make sure of keeping it intact, you must give your heart to no one, not even to an animal. Wrap it carefully round with hobbies and little luxuries; avoid all entanglements; lock it up safe in the casket or coffin of your selfishness. But in that casket-safe, dark, motionless, airless – it will change. It will not be broken; it will become unbreakable, impenetrable, irredeemable. To love at all is to be vulnerable. C. S. Lewis [LoC 390] (1898-1963) British scholar, novelist

I do not believe that sheer suffering teaches. If suffering alone taught, all the world would be wise, since everyone suffers. To suffering must be added mourning, understanding, patience, love, openness and the willingness to remain vulnerable. Anne Morrow Lindbergh (1906-2001) pioneering US American aviator, author, spouse of fellow aviator Charles Lindbergh

Few really get to the core of their wounding and work through it because of what such an undertaking asks of them, not the least of which is the courage to fully be in a state of prerational or preverbal vulnerability. Robert Augustus Masters, Ph.D., US American psychologist, psychotherapist, Facebook comment, 20. December 2011

Write straight into the emotional center of things. Write toward vulnerability. Don’t worry about appearing sentimental. Worry about being unavailable; worry about being absent or fraudulent. Anne Lamott, US American bestselling author, recovering conversed alcoholic, Bird by Bird. Some Instructions on Writing and Life, Anchor, 1st edition, 1. September 1995

The average child gets 432 negative messages to 32 positive messages every single day.
We are buffeted with that kind of violence – the negative messages.
Once you become vulnerable truly you become very potent, very powerful because you don't have anything to hide.
We are programmed not to feel good about ourselves. We generally don't [...] love ourselves because we are programmed not to.
Cynicism is a way to protect ourselves. [...] It is almost like we have become warriors and have an armor.
Audio interview with Dr. Stan Dale (1929-2007) US American sex, love and intimacy expert, founder of Human Awareness Institute on Intimacy [i.e. "into me you see"], 2003

Vulnerability, humility, softness, and resignation are vital. If you try to hang on to what you believe to be true about yourself, it hurts. In the end, you have to agree to your death and resurrection. That’s the journey of the initiate. Stuart Wilde stuartwilde.com (*1946) British writer on metaphysics and consciousness, essayist, scriptwriter, lyricist, music producer, humorist, lecturer

Narcissistic personality disorder is a mental disorder in which people have an inflated sense of their own importance and a deep need for admiration. They believe that they’re superior to others and have little regard for other people’s feelings. But behind this mask of ultra-confidence lies a fragile self-esteem, vulnerable to the slightest criticism. Definition by Mayoclinic.com

It is childhood trauma ? that makes individuals most vulnerable to unhealthy levels of narcissistic traits, and that allows narcissistic behavior to take hold and flourish. The incidence of childhood trauma has increased by more than 40 percent over the past twenty years, and as a result, we are all feeling the effects of a generation with deep narcissistic wounds. Dr. Drew Pinsky, US American addiction medicine specialist, S. Mark Young, Ph.D., US American professor of accounting and management, journalism and communication, The Mirror Effect. How Celebrity Narcissism Is Seducing America, pg. 143, Harper, 1st edition, 17. March 2009

Using another as a means of satisfaction and security is not love. Love is never security; Love is a state in which there is no desire to be secure; It is a state of vulnerability. Jiddu Krishnamurti [Fallen LoC 175] (1895-1986) Indian spiritual teacher, philosopher, theosophist, author

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Sensitiveness reveals one's weakness.

Anything one is sensitive about is something one hasn't acknowledged yet. Dr. David R. Hawkins, source unknown

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Psychic attacks are pointed to vulnerable spots.

Highly spiritually advanced people become a serious threat to the God opposing forces. That's why they can experience psychic attacks in their vulnerable spots and positionalities still held. Dr. David R. Hawkins, source unknown

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Shame

People at the emotional level [of Shame ] are vulnerable to all the other negative emotions. They wish they were invisible. Banishment is a traditional accompaniment. It is destructive to health. Shame leads to cruelty to self and others and often results in paranoia, delusions, and psychosis. Dr. David R. Hawkins, source unknown

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Pride

Pride is defensive and vulnerable because it's dependent on external conditions, without which it can suddenly revert to a lower level. The inflated ego is vulnerable to attack. [...] Pride is divisive and gives rise to factionalism; the consequences are costly. [endless wars] [...] The downside of Pride is arrogance and denial. These characteristics block growth. Dr. David R. Hawkins, Power vs. Force. The Hidden Determinants of Human Behavior, chapter 4, S. 82-83, Hay House edition, February 2002

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The anarchist ego the attack the vulnerable.

The core of the ego is a rebellious anarchist, atheist, and exhibitionist that expects life to be an endless Roman orgy, including intoxicating abandon and polymorphous, perverse sexuality that permits abuse of the naive and vulnerable. Dr. David R. Hawkins, Truth vs. Falsehood, chapter "Truth: The Pathway to Freedom", S. 253, 2005

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The trap of desiringness

Vulnerability persists as long as there are still desires for gain, pride, vanity, control, wealth, or sensual pleasure. With spiritual maturity, perception is replaced by vision that reflects essence and spiritual truth, resulting in the capacity to see through self deceptions. Vision is associated with spiritual wisdom, which makes clear that exploitation leads to loss and descent rather than progressive ascendancy. Dr. David R. Hawkins, Transcending the Levels of Consciousness, S. 316, 2006

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Divisive pride and ego are defensive and vulnerable.

Pride feels good only in contrast to the lower levels. Because "Pride goeth before a fall;" it is defensive and vulnerable as it is dependent upon external conditions, without which it can suddenly revert to a lower level. The inflated ego is vulnerable to attack. Pride remains weak because it can be knocked off its pedestal into Shame, which is the threat that fires the fear of loss of pride. Pride is divisive and gives rise to factionalism, resulting in costly consequences. Man has habitually died for Pride for which armies still regularly slaughter each other. Dr. David R. Hawkins, Discovery of the Presence of God, chapter 8, S. 147, 2007 also Transcending Levels of Consciousness, chapter 8, S. 147, 2006

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Externalized happiness leaves you vulnerable.

All the negative energy fields are based on placing the source of our happiness externally. This results as being vulnerable and also being the potential, hopeless victim. Being a victim means perceiving a cause as being outside of ourselves. […] It is only by owning ourselves as the source of happiness, as the experience of our existence, independent and beyond that which happens within the world, that we become immune to depressive episodes. Dr. David Hawkins, Healing and Recovery, chapter 12 Depression, S. 366-367, 2009

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Humor enhances the maturation process.:

Humor is important to the maturation process, whereby we learn how to not take ourselves so seriously and to laugh at ourselves, thus decreasing narcissistic defensiveness. To be prone to "hurt feelings" is egocentric and a form of social paranoia. When we admit our downside and learn to laugh at it, we are no longer vulnerable to slights and insults. Dr. David R. Hawkins, Along the Path to Enlightenment. 365 Reflections from David R. Hawkins, edited by Scott Jeffrey, S. ?, Reflection of August 9th, January 2011

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Exploitable innocence

The most exploitable product or aspect of life is man's intrinsic innocence. The real charlatan knows that within the person there is that vulnerability of innocence and all they have to do is figure out how to get to it. Interview Dr. David R. Hawkins, A Conversation with Knowingness, part I of II, presented by Four Corners Magazine, Pamela Becker, April/May 2007

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Positionalities held are targets of psychic attacks.

Highly spiritually advanced people become a serious threat to the God opposing forces. That's why they can experience psychic attacks in their vulnerable spots and positionalities still held. Dr. David R. Hawkins, Seminar Title unknown, month and year unknown

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Not taking bullying personally

Recontextualizing the human condition expressed as inconsiderate behavior

To quit taking things personally means to become detached. That allows your perception of the person to be corrected. Also, it dawns on you they're not being that way with you, they are are just being that way because that's who they are. They are that way with themselves. You stop feeling being hurt because they are that way. Some people are gruff, mean and horrid. They don't mean anything by it. They are just gruff, mean and horrid. [Ha ha.] Dr. David R. Hawkins, Sedona Seminar Positionality and Duality: Transcending the Opposites, 3 DVD set, April 2002 – Stop Taking Events In The World Personally, YouTube film, minute 4:36, 13:59 minutes duration, posted by StudyYourself 19. April 2012

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Love is open and vulnerable.

Lovingness is a condition. It's a way of being. [...] What love is is an openness and a vulnerability. […] Part of love is trust. The more loving we are, the more capable we are of trust. That's the way we get out of the negative. Dr. David R. Hawkins, Sedona Seminar Perception and Illusion, 3 DVD set, 4. May 2002 – Az addikcióról [About addiction], YouTube film, minute 4:56, 9:48 minutes duration, posted 20. March 2012

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Owning one's [projected on] downside

If someone calls you a liar, tell 'em, 'Ya I am, I’m the best liar on the planet. Ya wanna hire me? I'm worth a fortune.' […] 'Every time I wake up in the morning I call 911 because I’m so ugly.' Hahaha […]. You see, when you accept the possible downside of everything, nothing can offend you. 'You're greedy.' 'Ya I'm greedy, I'm Mr. Greedy, man. Give me what I want.' No what I mean, just become what people say you are. 'You're impervious.' 'There is nothing you can say. Uh huh.' So we can not make neurotism the law of the land. You're not going to be able to not offend somebody. See. Because some people are going to be offended if you do and some people will be offended if ya don’t. Consequently, you're always going to offend somebody. So live with it. Hahaha […]. Dr. David R. Hawkins, Sedona Seminar Devotion: The Way to God Through the Heart, 3 DVD set, 27. September 2002

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Vulnerable linear love

Only 4% of the population ever gets to 500 or beyond. Beyond 500, love is no longer an emotion. Before 500, love is dualistic – the source and happiness are "out there". Therefore, before 500 love is vulnerable, can be lost. At 500 love becomes a way of BEING, the way we ARE with the world and with ourselves. We don’t allow others to abuse us, and we don’t abuse ourselves. Dr. David R. Hawkins, Houston, Texas, Seminar The Realization of the Presence of God, 11. October 2003

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Psychic attacks

In highly advanced states, when you start to become a serious threat to those forces opposed to God, you can experience psychic attacks. They'll look for anything potentially vulnerable in you, some chakra out of balance, some positionality still held. Dr. David R. Hawkins, Sedona Seminar Thought and Ideation, 3 DVD set, 28. February 2004

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Forceful entities and people are attracted to the vulnerable.

Vulnerability is very attractive to force. The history of Western wars is that one side uses Marquis of Queensbury rules and the other side uses street rules. Dr. David R. Hawkins, Sedona Seminar Identification and Illusion, 3 DVD set, 14. August 2004

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Avoidance of questionable energies

When you work with people with questionable energies, they will sense for your vulnerability, whichever chakra it is, whatever is involved with your karma. As Jesus taught, avoid these energies. Dr. David R. Hawkins, Sedona Seminar Witnessing and Observing, 3 DVD set, 16. October 2004

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Tears, a relief valve of the changing brain

Question: When I am in the presence of beauty or love, often tears come up. Is there a line between that and emotionality?
Answer: No, it’s a stage you go through and it may last for years. It has nothing to do with gender. You can look at two people looking at each other with a loving look and you begin to cry – or a beautiful aria from an opera – any kind of stunning beauty. It's a sensitivity to beauty that arises, and as you get in the 500s, it becomes almost continuous. You have to desist from certain activities because you break down and cry all the time. It may last some years. If people at work ask about it, just tell them the truth – that beauty makes you cry. It's normal. It's not emotion – because neurologically your brain changes. There's a concept called neuroplasticity. Experience changes the chemistry of your brain physiology. The neuronal connections are always constantly changing. So crying is part of that shift of the energy balance and your brain is putting out endorphins. If you are loving, you put out endorphins. Someone who is upset all the time is putting out adrenalin. You walk into a great cathedral and you break into tears. You see what it took to create it. Dr. David R. Hawkins, Sedona Satsang Q&A, CD 2 of 2, 10. January 2007

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Nine behaviorial patterns that make one vulnerable – Matthieu Ricard

The Buddhist monk Matthieu Ricard is known as 'The Happiest Man in the World'. The former geneticist, humanitarian and bestselling author names nine attitudes that keep us from living our potential:

Cultivating an exacerbated sense of self-importance.
Ruminating on the past.
Being anxious about the future.
Being unable to remain in the present moment.
Pinning all our hopes on the outer conditions of happiness [physical appearance, wealth, fame, and power].
Neglecting to cultivate the inner conditions of happiness [inner peace, inner freedom, altruistic love and compassion].
Seeking happiness only for ourselves, and not for others.
Being overly concerned with gain and loss, praise and criticism, fame and anonymity.
Distorting reality by allowing our prejudices to interfere our objectivity.

Qualities That Make Us Vulnerable, presented by The Big Life, 30. September 2010

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Anyway – Attitudes of imperturbability

Paradoxical Commandments

People are illogical, unreasonable, and self-centered.
Love them anyway.
If you do good, people will accuse you of selfish ulterior motives.
Do good anyway.
If you are successful, you will win false friends and true enemies.
Succeed anyway.
The good you do today will be forgotten tomorrow.
Do good anyway.
Honesty and frankness make you vulnerable.
Be honest and frank anyway.
The biggest men and women with the biggest ideas can be shot down
by the smallest men and women with the smallest minds.
Think big anyway.
People favor underdogs but follow only top dogs.
Fight for a few underdogs anyway.
What you spend years building may be destroyed overnight.
Build anyway.
People really need help but may attack you if you do help them.
Help people anyway.
Give the world the best you have and you'll get kicked in the teeth.
Give the world the best you have anyway.

Kent Keith, 1968
Mother Teresa changed the original somewhat and had it engraved
at the wall of her children home in Calcutta, India.
Since then the poem has been adjudged.

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Links zum Thema Verletzlichkeit / Vulnerability

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Literatur

Safi Nidiaye, Die Stimme des Herzens. Der Weg zum größten aller Geheimnisse, Bastei Lübbe, 9. Auflage, 25. April 2000
Paulo Coelho, Krieger des Lichts, Diogenes Verlag, 11. Auflage, März 2001

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Literatur (engl.)

Dr. Brené Brown, US American shame, vulnerability, empathy researcher and lecturer, University of Houston, Women & Shame. Reaching Out, Speaking Truths and Building Connection, 3C Press, 1. May 2004
Laura Kipnis, The Female Thing. Dirt, envy, sex, vulnerability, Paperback, Vintage, 9. October 2007
Dr. Brené Brown, US American shame, vulnerability, empathy researcher and lecturer, University of Houston, Thought It Was Just Me (but it isn't). Telling the Truth About Perfectionism, Inadequacy, and Power, Gotham, 27. December 2007
Dr. Drew Pinsky, US American addiction medicine specialist, Dr. S. Mark Young, The Mirror Effect. How Celebrity Narcissism Is Seducing America, Harper, 1st edition, 17. March 2009
Ori Brafman, Rom Brafman, Click. The Magic of Instant Connections, Broadway Business, 8. June 2010
"Click accelerators" are: vulnerability, proximity, flow, similarity, environment, engagement, a little magic

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Audio- und Videolinks (engl.)

Video presentation by June Tangney, professor of psychology, George Mason University, Fairfax, Virginia, USA on Shame and Guilt: The Good, the Bad, and the Ugly, presented by George Mason University and Research Channel The Vision Series, YouTube film, 1:12:12 duration, posted 9. February 2008
Research indicates that guilt (linked with empathy) is the more adaptive emotion as it can motivate people to behave in a moral, caring, socially responsible manner. Shame (about the self) (linked with aggression) can easily go awry.
Video presentation by Frederic Luskin, director of the trailblazing Stanford University Forgiveness Projects, author of Forgive for Good on The Choice to Forgive, presented by Greater Good Science Center, YouTube film, 3:22 minutes duration, posted 11. August 2010
Letting go of grudges
Video presentation by Frederic Luskin, director of the trailblazing Stanford University Forgiveness Projects, author of Forgive for Good on The Sea of Vulnerability, presented by Greater Good Science Center, YouTube film, 6:48 minutes duration, posted 11. August 2010

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Audio- und Videolinks (engl.) – Dr. Brené Brown

Video presentation by Dr. Brené Brown, US American shame, vulnerability, empathy researcher and lecturer, University of Houston, Graduate College of Social Work, Shame and Empathy, YouTube film, 8:39 minutes duration, posted 17. April 2007
Excerpt from Brené Brown's new psychoeducational shame-resilience curriculum; the destructive nature of shame and the healing power of empathy
Video interview with Dr. Brené Brown, US American shame, vulnerability, empathy researcher and lecturer, University of Houston, Shame and Guilt, presented by Living Smart, #404, Houston PBS, host Patricia Gras, Google video, 26:39 minutes duration, posted 29. April 2008
Audio interview with Dr. Brené Brown, US American shame, vulnerability, empathy researcher and lecturer, University of Houston, Blog Ordinarycourage.com, 1/13, presented by Blogtalk radio show Creating Healthy Balance Everyday, host Elizabeth Irvine, 30 minutes duration, posted 13. January 2009
Video presentation by Dr. Brené Brown, US American shame, vulnerability, empathy researcher and lecturer, University of Houston, Big Webs and Small Boxes of Shame, Vimeo film, 7:07 minutes duration, filmed 2007, posted 12. May 2009
Gender-related shame
Video presentation by Dr. Brené Brown, US American shame, vulnerability, empathy researcher and lecturer, University of Houston, Defining shame, Vimeo film, 10:01 minutes duration, filmed 2007, posted 12. May 2009
Video presentation by Dr. Brené Brown, US American shame, vulnerability, empathy researcher and lecturer, University of Houston, Shame, Empathy & Vulnerability, presented by The Up Experience, Houston, Texas, USA, 24:44 minutes duration, filmed 15. October 2009, posted 23. May 2010
Video presentation by Dr. Brené Brown, US American shame, vulnerability, empathy researcher and lecturer, University of Houston, The Price of Invulnerability, presented by Livestream.com TEDxKC, 16:45 minutes duration, posted 12. August 2010
Video presentation by Dr. Brené Brown, US American shame, vulnerability, empathy researcher and lecturer, University of Houston, , presented by TEDxTalks, University of Houston, June 2010, YouTube film, 20:45 minutes duration, posted 6. Oktober 2010
Wholeheartedness emerges from "I'm enough", loving without guarantee, acting from authenticity and worthiness, cultivating courage, compassion, and the connection needed to embrace one's imperfections.