Hawkins / Kinder
Wenn ein Kind gelobt wird, lernt es, sich selbst zu schätzen.
Wenn ein Kind gerecht behandelt wird, lernt es, gerecht zu sein.
Wenn ein Kind geborgen lebt, lernt es, zu vertrauen.
Wenn ein Kind anerkannt wird, lernt es, sich selbst zu mögen.
Text aus einer tibetischen Schule
Animal brain surfacing in childhood
Peer culture and disrespect for parents
Programming of an innocent child
Childhood sexual abuse memories
US American psychoanalyst and critical author on Sigmund Freud's theoretical concepts and psychoanalysis Jeffrey Moussaieff Masson, Ph.D. (*1941) debunked Freud's seduction theory in his book The Assault on Truth. Freud's Suppression of the Seduction Theory, 1984.
Nattürliches Staunen [awe]
Building a Culture of Empathy and Compassion Obama Empathy Speech Index
After relating his patient's memory of having been raped by her father at age two Freud cited Goethe's poem:
Early childhood experiences to the development of the brain:
post-industrial capitalist societies scapegoat their teachers.
ADHD is suffering from childhood in a conformist patriarchy.
2011 study: More single men than women want to have children.
Cultural shift in family building and relating patterns:
Paradoxical brace: freedom and responsibility
Learning about the importance of fatherhood "through its absence"
Universality of incest
The nightmare of childhood
Cruelty applied to infants
Growing up in a "culture of cruelty"
|Historical period||Spiral Dynamics Color / expression||Time frame||Childrearing mode||Personality type||Parenting style|
|~7000 BC||Early Infanticidal||Schizoid||Infanticide of most newborn, maternal incest, tight swaddling, abandonment, routine battering and rape|
|Before AD||Late Infanticidal||Narcissistic4||Infanticide, child sacrifice, swaddling, impulsive beating, killing nurses, pederasty, rape, fosterage, genital mutilation, torture as hardening|
|~400AD||Abandoning5||Masochistic6||Tight swaddling, beating and torture for discipline, foundling, apprentice and monastery abandonment|
|~1250||Ambivalent||Borderline||Infanticide frowned upon, swaddling remains, beating for sins, rape illegal, education expanded|
|~1680||Intrusive||Depressive||No infanticide, no swaddling, hitting to control child's emotions, girls educated, separate child beds|
|~1800||Socializing||Neurotic||Threats and light spanking rather than beating to socialize child to parents' goals, mothers enjoy rather than fear children, fathers begin parenting|
|~1920||Helping||Individuated||Parents help child reach own goals, explain rather than punish, unconditional love, trust and support, fathers share parenting|
Infanticide, mutilation and abandonment of children
|Historical period||Time•frame||Childrearing mode||Personality type||Historical manifestations|
|Tribal||~7000 BC||Early Infanticidal||Schizoid||Child sacrifice to the gods and early infanticide among tribal societies (Mesoamerica Inca, Assyrian and Canaanite religions, Phoenicians, Carthaginians, Spartans)|
|Antiquity||Before AD||Late Infanticidal||Narcissistic||Greeks and Romans exposed some of their babies, i.e. "late" infanticidal childrearing.|
|Early Christian||~400 AD||Abandoning||Masochistic||Infanticide is replaced by abandonment. Surviving children don't internalize a murderous superego. |
Longer swaddling, fosterage, outside wetnursing, oblation of children to monasteries and nunneries, and apprenticeship.
|Middle Ages||~1250||Ambivalent||Borderline||The later Middle Ages ended abandonment of children to monasteries. |
Early beating, shorter swaddling, mourning for deceased children, a precursor to empathy
|Renaissance||~1680||Intrusive||Depressive||Unswaddling the infant, early toilet training, repression of child's sexuality, hell threats turned into the Puritan child (see early modern childrearing literature); Ending wet-nursing and swaddling triggered the explosive modern takeoff in scientific advance.|
|Modern||~1800||Socializing||Neurotic||Use of guilt, "mental discipline", humiliation, rise of compulsory schooling, delegation of parental unconscious wishes, diminishing parental injections, child rearing is less conquering and more training; The socializing psychoclass built the modern world.|
|Post-modern||~1920||Helping||Individuated||Children's rights movement7, deschooling, free schooling, natural childbirth, taking children seriously, abandonment of circumcision|
| Inspired by source: |
► Free ebook and audiobook by Lloyd deMause psychohistory.com (*1931) US American social scientist, lay psychoanalyst, director of The Association for Psychohistory, president of the International Psychohistorical Association, editor of The Journal of Psychohistory, The Origins of War in Child Abuse, transcript chapter 3, 21. November 2010, The Psychology and Neurobiology of Violence, FDR 1133, YouTube film, 1:11:11 duration, posted 14. December 2012, MP3 podcast, presented by US American Freedomain Radio, narrated by Stefan Molyneux, posted 3. September 2008
|Reference: ► Wikipedia.en entry: Psychogenic mode|
► Spiral Dynamics maps – Ken Wilber
► From conception to birth – Stanislav Grof
► Three archetypal wounds in trust and love – Mario Martinez
| Source: Khalil Gibran (1883-1931) Lebanese American painter, philosopher, poet, |
The Prophet, 1980, Rupa (Educa Books), 14. April 2003
|25 good manners||Description|
|1. Manner||When asking for something, say "Please."|
|2. Manner||When receiving something, say "Thank you."|
|3. Manner||Do not interrupt grown-ups who are speaking with each other unless there is an emergency.|
They will notice you and respond when they are finished talking.
|4. Manner||If you do need to get somebody's attention right away, |
the phrase "excuse me" is the most polite way for you to enter the conversation.
|5. Manner||When you have any doubt about doing something, ask permission first.|
It can save you from many hours of grief later.
|6. Manner||The world is not interested in what you dislike.|
Keep negative opinions to yourself, or between you and your friends, and out of earshot of adults.
|7. Manner||Do not comment on other people's physical characteristics unless, of course,|
it's to compliment them, which is always welcome.
|8. Manner||When people ask you how you are, tell them and then ask them how they are.|
|9. Manner||When you have spent time at your friend's house,|
remember to thank his or her parents for having you over and for the good time you had.
|10. Manner||Knock on closed doors – and wait to see if there's a response – before entering.|
|11. Manner||When you make a phone call, introduce yourself first and|
then ask if you can speak with the person you are calling.
|12. Manner||Be appreciative and say "thank you" for any gift you receive.|
In the age of e-mail, a handwritten thank-you note can have a powerful effect.
|13. Manner||Never use foul language in front of adults.|
Grown-ups already know all those words, and they find them boring and unpleasant.
|14. Manner||Don't call people mean names.|
|15. Manner||Do not make fun of anyone for any reason.|
Teasing shows others you are weak, and ganging up on someone else is cruel.
|16. Manner||Even if a play or an assembly is boring, sit through it quietly and pretend that you are interested.|
The performers and presenters are doing their best.
|17. Manner||If you bump into somebody, immediately say "Excuse me."|
|18. Manner||Cover your mouth when you cough or sneeze, and don't pick your nose in public.|
|19. Manner||As you walk through a door, look to see if you can hold it open for someone else.|
|20. Manner||If you come across a parent, a teacher, or a neighbor working on something,|
ask if you can help. If they say "yes," do so – you may learn something new.
|21. Manner||When an adult asks you for a favor, do it without grumbling and with a smile.|
|22. Manner||When someone helps you, say "thank you."|
That person will likely want to help you again. This is especially true with teachers!
|23. Manner||Use eating utensils properly. If you are unsure how to do so,|
ask your parents to teach you or watch what adults do.
|24. Manner||Keep a napkin on your lap; use it to wipe your mouth when necessary.|
|25. Manner||Don't reach for things at the table; ask to have them passed.|
|Source: ► David Lowry, Ph.D., 25 Manners Every Kid Should Know By Age 9, originally published in Parents magazine, March 2011|
presented by yahoo.com, 3. May 2011
Seven months before his death at age 87 Russian Jewish American psychiatrist and “scientific father of ADHD” Leon Eisenberg, M.D., D.Sc. (1922-2009) confessed in his last interview:
Die beste Art des Lernens für Kinder anhand der Beziehungsforschung von Gordon Neufeld
Behütet-frei un"ver"schult begeistert lernend
Siehe auch: Beichte auf dem Sterbebett: ADHS gibt es garnicht!, präsentiert von meinungsverbrechen.de, Winston Smith, 4. August 2012
Collusion between Big Pharma drug companies and regulatory FDA watchdogs; millions of children forced onto pharmaceutical drugs for commercial rather than scientific reasons
Article on the conference by TVOParents.org
Raising extraordinary child: prodigy, disabled kid, criminal
Parental stress and its negative impact on children; autism and ADHD Minute 4:07 and Minute 6:38
ADHD i.e. absent-mindedness as a coping mechanism, active recall and implicit memory, counter-will
1 Dan Kindlon, Michael Thompson, Raising Cain. Protecting the Emotional Life of Boys, S. 72, Ballatine Books, New York, 1999 ⇑
2 Lewis DO, Shanok SS, Pincus JH, et al. Violent juvenile delinquents: psychiatric, neurological, psychological, and abuse factors, Journal of American Academic Child Psychiatry, #18, pp. 307-319, PubMed, 1979 ⇑
3 Richard Rhodes, Why They Kill. The Discoveries of a Maverick Criminologist, S. 206, Alfred A. Knopf, New York, 1999 ⇑
4 Sam Vaknin samvak (*1961) Israeli journalist, editor-in-chief of the website Global Politician, publisher, author of DSM V Gets Narcissistic Personality Disorder Partly Right, YouTube film, 9:03 minutes duration, posted 13. October 2012
See also: ⇑
6 Sam Vaknin samvak (*1961) Israeli journalist, editor-in-chief of the website Global Politician, publisher, author of Malignant Self-love. Narcissism Revisited, Narcissus Publications, Czech Republic, revised edition, July 2001, Masochistic Personality Disorder (Masochism), YouTube film, 3:27 minutes duration, posted 7. November 2012
The Masochistic personality disorder appeared last in the DSM III-TR and was removed from the DSM IV and from its text revision, the DSM IV-TR. ⇑
7 The United Nations Convention on the Rights of the Child has 54 articles, each outlines a different right (on survival, protection, development and participation). The United Nations Convention on the Rights of the Child has outlined a standard premise for the children's rights movement and has been accepted by all nations of the world but two states – the United States and Somalia.
Chapter IV Human Rights. 11. Convention on the Rights of the Child, New York, 20 November 1989, presented by United Nations Treaty Collection ⇑