Hawkins / Ebene20
Metzgerladen mit Flucht nach Ägypten, 1551
Scham ist dem Tod (Tod = Null) nahe. Wer sich schämt, möchte am liebsten im Boden versinken und unsichtbar sein. Scham äußert sich bei vielen Menschen in Schüchternheit und Introvertiertheit oder auch in äußerst rigiden Moralvorstel-
In vielen Kulturen war die schrecklichste Strafe jene der Verbannung, denn Menschen, die von der Gemeinschaft ausge-
|See also: ► Stolz|
|Inspiriert durch: ► D. Hawkins, Erleuchtung ist möglich. Wie man die Ebenen des Bewusstseins durchschreitet, S. 47f, 2008|
Energy Level 20 Shame
Eternal hopelessness at the bottom of hell
Scham sitzt an den Kreuzungspunkten von Individuum und Gesellschaft.
'Ich bin ungenügend.' – Unter dem Schein der Grandiosität verbirgt sich Scham.
Das Mittel gegen epidemische Scham ist Empathie.
|See also: ► Quotes on shame – Brené Brown and ► Empathy: Quotes by Brené Brown and ► Vulnerability: Quotes by Brené Brown|
Public slut-shaming worldwide pushed Lewinsky to the brink of death – compassion helped her out of the shame trap.
Paradox of shame
Most primitive human emotion
Share shame with trusted confidents and friends
Unable to language shame
Shame is correlated with addiction, violence, aggression, bullying.
Tell your story! Receive confessions!
Shame is a universal experience.
'Not enough' shame is lingering below grandiosity.
Secretiveness – ensuring addictiveness
Empathy is the antidote to epidemic shame.
|See also: ► Empathy: Quotes by Brené Brown and ► Vulnerability: Quotes by Brené Brown|
|Siehe auch: ► Zitate über Scham – Brené Brown|
The painful feeling of shame is believing one is flawed and therefore unworthy of acceptance and belonging.
Shame is self focused (being – passive): I am bad.
Guilt is behavior focused (doing – active): I did something bad.
| Source: ► Video presentation by Brené Brown, Ph.D., LMSW (*1965) US American shame, vulnerability, empathy researcher, |
Graduate College of Social Work, University of Houston, public speaker, author, Is shame good?, YouTube film,
minute 00:39, 3:12 minutes duration, posted 2. March 2008
|See also: ► Guilt|
| Sources: |
► Paul W. Efthim, Maureen E. Kenny, James R. Mahalik, Boston College, Boston, 2001 study abstract Gender Role Stress in Relation to
Shame, Guilt, and Externalization, presented by Journal of Counseling and Development JCD, Questia, September 2001
► Metaanalysis by James R. Mahalik, Ph.D., US American professor of counseling, developmental and educational psychology, Boston
College, Boston, presented by the peer-reviewed academic journal Psychology of Men and Masculinity, Vol 4(1), pp. 3-25, January 2003
► Metaanalysis by A. Higgins, C. Allison, LC Morton, Gender differences in self-conscious emotional experience: a meta-analysis, presented
by the free MEDLINE database PubMed, published in the bimonthly peer-reviewed academic journal Psychological Bulletin, issue 138,
|Critical assessment: ► Blog article CMNI – Misandry in Psychological Research, presented by MenAreGood, 20. September 2013|
|See also: ► Gender research and ► Relationship tips and ► Pride and ► Humiliation and ► Dignity|
|Source: ► by Dave Pamah, 'Why Men Frighten Women, And Women Shame Men'', 31. August 2013|
|See also: ► Fear and ► Pride|
| Source: ► Study by James R. Mahalik, Ph.D., US American professor of counseling, developmental and educational psychology, |
Boston College, Boston, presented in Psychology of Men & Masculinity, Vol 4(1), pp. 3-25, January 2003
|Critical assessment: ► Article CMNI – Misandry in Psychological Research, presented by Men Are Good, 20. September 2013|
|See also: ► Relationship tips and ► Pride and ► Gender norms within male dominated systems|
Briefly before US American speaker and bestselling author Marianne Williamson was about to start her lecture she was informed:
Williamson wondered if she would bog down or give her speech regarding her view on then current US president ⚡ George W. Bush's politics whatsoever.
She decided to honor her stance even when facing an awkward situation.
She took care to refrain from personally demonizing the sitting President Bush or embarrassing his wife in public.
At the end of her talk shortly before shaking hands she was about to say to Laura Bush that she felt sorry, if she had offended
her in any way. Laura Bush stopped her before she could open her mouth and repeated twice,
|Source: ► Video presentation by Marianne Williamson (*1952) US American spiritual teacher, political activist, visionary, lecturer, author, Marianne Williamson – CMED guest 2006, part 7 of 7, presented by CMED Free Media, 1:00 minute duration, posted January 2006|
|See also: ► Courage to stand up for one's beliefs|
|Siehe auch: ► Mut, in einer prekären Lage die eigene Überzeugung vorzutragen|
|See also: ► Dignity and ► Guilt and ► Grief and ► Anger and ► Pride|
Pride attaches undue importance to the superiority of one's status in the eyes of others.
| Source: ► Lao Tzu (604-531 BC) Chinese sage, philosopher, founder of Daoism, |
Tao Te Ching [The Book of the Way], verse 13, 800-200 BC
|See also: ► Lao Tzu and ► Pride and ► Level 30 – Guilt|
Excerpt from Brené Brown's new psychoeducational shame-resilience curriculum; the destructive nature of shame and the healing power of empathy
Research indicates that guilt (linked with empathy) is the more adaptive emotion as it can motivate people to behave in a moral, caring, socially responsible manner. Shame (about the self) (linked with aggression) can easily go awry.
Shame effects women and men differently.
1 Scientific paper by Mahalik, J.R., Morray, E.B., Coonerty-Femiano, A. et al., Development of the Conformity to Feminine Norms Inventory, presented by the peer-reviewed scientific journal published by Springer Sex Roles, volume 52, issue 7, S. 417-435, April 2005 ⇑