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Wenn das Begehren nicht erfüllt wird, entsteht Frustration, und daraus Zorn. Zorn kann ein sehr mächtiger Antrieb sein und unter Umständen dabei helfen, einen Menschen auf die nächsthöheren BW-Ebenen zu katapultieren, sofern er konstruktiv genutzt wird. Oft äußert sich Wut und Zorn allerdings lediglich in zerstörerischem Verhalten und in der Einstellung Was ich nicht haben kann, sollen andere auch nicht haben. Zorn als dauerhaftes Lebensgefühl macht Menschen reizbar, nörglerisch, cholerisch und verbittert. Wer zornig ist, ist oft nicht in der Lage, seine Bedürfnisse auf konstruktive Weise zu formulieren. Der Schritt aus Scham, Schuldgefühl oder Apathie in den Wutbereich ist ein enormer Fortschritt und fühlt sich für die Betroffenen sehr gut und machtvoll an, so wie sich grundsätzlich jede BW-Ebene im Vergleich zu den darunter liegenden Ebenen gut anfühlt.

Viele Menschen schaffen den Sprung von Angst zu Zorn, wenn ihnen das Wenige genommen wird, das sie noch hatten. Angst haben kann nur, wer etwas zu verlieren hat, und sei dieses Etwas noch so gering; geht es verloren, so gibt es einerseits Menschen, die weiter absinken in Apathie und Hoffnungslosigkeit und andererseits können Menschen, die nichts mehr zu verlieren haben, ihre Angst überwinden und im Zorn beachtliche Energien mobilisieren. Revolutionen begannen des Öfteren durch Frauen, die daheim nicht einmal mehr das Nötigste hatten, um ihre Kinder zu ernähren, und die dann vor die Paläste der Reichen zogen, die in großem Luxus lebten, um Brot zu fordern.

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Gefahr erkannt – benannt – gebannt

Hexenhaus, das Hänsel und Gretel anlockte

Die Müllerstochter/Königin, deren Kind gefährt war, erfährt sie von einem Boten, dass ein Männchen in einem kleinen Haus in der Ferne wohnt, das nachts um ein Feuer tanzt und singt:

Heute back ich, morgen brau ich,
übermorgen hol ich der Königin ihr Kind;
ach, wie gut dass niemand weiß,
dass ich Rumpelstilzchen heiß!

Nun kennt sie das Rätsel, den geheimen Namen ihres Peinigers. Als sie den Poltergeist Rumpelstilzchen damit überrascht, dass er selbst sein Geheimnis ausgesprochen hatte, zerreißt sich aus lauter Wut selbst. Sein Leben endet er mit den Worten:

Das hat dir der Teufel gesagt!

I am glad that nobody knew that the name I am called is Rumpelstiltskin!

Once Rumpelstiltskin's secret name is revealed his spell and control by fear is over.
Agasp Rumpelstiltskin tore himself apart – out of sheer anger.

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Zitate zum Thema Wut – BW 150 / Anger

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Zitate von D. Hawkins

⚠ Achtung Siehe Power vs. Truth (engl.) Januar 2013

Ein ärgerlicher Mensch betrachtet das, was seinem Ego nicht dient, als Feind. Erleuchtung ist möglich. Wie man die Ebenen des Bewusstseins durchschreitet, S. 151, 2008

Ärger wird vom Ego als Ersatz für Mut benutzt, der natürlich erfordert, dass jemand entschlossen, geradlinig und seinen Verpflichtungen folgend lebt. Das Ego pustet sich durch Ärger auf wie ein primitives Tier und versucht unbewusst, stark und großartig zu erscheinen. Erleuchtung ist möglich. Wie man die Ebenen des Bewusstseins durchschreitet, S. 153, 2008

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Quotes by D. Hawkins

⚠ Caveat See Power vs. Truth, January 2013

People love to hate. It's known as competition (as in sports or in war). Source unknown

Although Anger can lead to homicide and war, as an energy level it's much further removed from death than those below it. Anger can lead to either CONstructive or DEstructive action. As people move out of Apathy and Grief to overcome Fear as a way of life, they begin to want; Desire leads to frustration, which in turn leads to Anger. Thus Anger can be a fulcrum by which the oppressed are eventually catapulted to freedom. Fury over social injustice, victimization, and inequality has created great movements that led to major changes in the structure of society. But Anger expresses itself most often as resentment and revenge, and is, therefore, volatile and dangerous. Anger as a lifestyle is exemplified by irritable, explosive people who are oversensitive to slights and become "injustice collectors", quarrelsome, belligerent or litigious. Power vs. Force. The Hidden Determinants of Human Behavior, chapter 4 "Levels of Consciousness", S. 82, Hay House, February 2002

Rationality is further undermined by the biological fact that the old reptile and animal brain is still anatomically and functionally present, and its atavistic activity continues to exert a pervasive animal instinct that strengthens predatory tendencies and aggressions. All the instincts of the animal persist and influence or even dominate much of the behavioral and feeling states. The emotions of the animal are ever present and close to the surface. The Eye of the I From Which Nothing is Hidden, S. 51, 2001

[Paraphrased] Righteous anger and indignation are moralistic inflations of positionalities and expectations of others. I, Reality and Subjectivity, chapter 12, S. 197, 2003

From history as well as consciousness calibration, we see that passivity [LoC 145] encourages aggression and thus represents weakness and not moral superiority. Historically, passivity has resulted in the deaths of tens of millions of innocent citizens for which the pacifist bears moral and karmic responsibility. Thus, passivity is primarily due to ignorance, plus often a narcissistic self-aggrandizement and pseudo-spiritual pose that, unfortunately, frequently has fatal consequences. Truth vs. Falsehood. How to Tell the Difference, S. 323, 2005

[H]atred […] is foreign to either intellectual or spiritual truth. Truth vs. Falsehood. How to Tell the Difference, chapter 18 "Summary and Resolution", S. 404, 2005

Anger increases heart rate, blood pressure, and sodium retention and is a substitute for courage, which requires being resolute, determined and committed. Transcending the Levels of Consciousness. The Stairway to Enlightenment, S. 137, 2006

The positionalized ego fears admitting a mistake and avoids responsibility to forestall the anger's turning inward. A major defense of the ego is to protect a punitive conscience (its 'superego') onto the outer world and then live in fear of it in the form of fears of vengeance. Thus, the angry ego fears truth, honesty, and balance, which reduce its dominance, and therefore considers forgiveness or seeing the innocence of others as anathema. The angry person's ego sees relationships as a battleground for dominance, control, and primitive attitudes and actions. Thr resistance to giving up pejorative attitudes is that, subjectively, the ego extracts pleasure from negativity, which propagates and motivates the personalities that calibrate below 200. Transcending The Levels of Consciousness. The Stairway to Enlightenment, chapter 7 "Anger", S. 138, 2006

The fallacy of milking the past is indicated by its low calibration level, which is due to the fact that in actuality the past no longer exists. One can actually only 'know' the present, and at best, that is only a fleeting perception because truth is a consequence of not only linear content but also of context. Transcending The Levels of Consciousness. The Stairway to Enlightenment, chapter 7 "Anger", S. 139, 2006

A variety of the lifestyle is seen in the clinical expression as the 'explosive personality disorder', as well as 'borderline personality disorder', where rages can be triggered by seeming trivialities. Transcending The Levels of Consciousness. The Stairway to Enlightenment, chapter 7 "Anger", S. 139, 2006

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Compilation on toxic managers:

Classification of Corporate Psychopaths, presented by softpanorama.org, Dr. Nikolai Bezroukov, service to the UN Sustainable Development Networking Programme (SDNP), updated 3. December 2011

[...] the angry, impatient person and the psychopathic personality do not suffer from low self-esteem, as commonly believed but, on the contrary, have inflated egos. Transcending The Levels of Consciousness. The Stairway to Enlightenment, chapter 7 "Anger", S. 140, 2006

Transcendence requires the willingness to surrender primary positionalities:
1. Harboring chronic resentments and milking "injustices".
2. Unrealistic expectations of the world and relationships, including expectations of conveniences, agreement, approval, compliance, and others.
3. Surrendering self-centeredness as a lifestyle and focusing on changing oneself instead of the world. [...]
4. Willingness to surrender the residual infantile expectations (of age two) of self, others, and the perceived imperfect world.
5. Taking responsibility for bringing inner infantile attitudes to the surface and subordinating them to mature and essentially more gratifying processes, such as reason, balance and concern for others.
6. Realize that resentment or anger is not about what others "are" but about what they "are not". [...]
7. Accepting human fallibility and limitation that, in a portion of the population, is due to an inborn incapacity to be self-honest.

Inspired by Transcending The Levels of Consciousness. The Stairway to Enlightenment, chapter 7 "Anger", chart "The Dualities of Anger", S. 142, 2006

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Anger ⇔ transcending anger

An individual acting out tries to hold on to the status quo. They feel a need to puff up, self-vindicate, dramatize, emotionalize, condemn, get even, punish, intimidate, blame, threaten, and gang up on others.
A self controlled thoughtful individual tends to keep to oneself, to remain calm and to reason. They are willing to accept, let go and forgive. Inspired by Transcending The Levels of Consciousness. The Stairway to Enlightenment, chapter 7 "Anger", chart "The Dualities of Anger", S. 145, 2006

[...] to disassemble anger may require the willingness to surrender the pride that underlies that anger, which in turn depends on surrendering a desire. This means surrendering the fear that energized the desire, which in turn depends on surrendering a desire. This means surrendering the fear that energized the desire, which again is related to the undoing of imaginary loss, and so forth. Motivations are thus intertwined and mutually interactive, and operationally surrendering them leads to the next levels, which are comprised of dualities. The deeper layers, therefore, tend to surface one’s beliefs about God, programmed spiritual expectations, and belief systems. Spiritual work is therefore a matter of exploration that transcends mentalized concepts, such as those of cause and effect. Discovery of the Presence of God. Devotional Nonduality, S. 64, 2007

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Competitive religious wars based on a god image of retaliation

[In] Anger [LoC 150], we see those positions that promote anger, conflict, hatred, and religious wars because they are competitive and usually champion a politicized god of retaliation. Because it is a polarized position, it is always viewed that God will punish the non-believers, which is usually one of the traditional teachings. It is important to know where this calibrates on the scale so we can se how it correlates with those things that are truthful. Healing and Recovery, chapter 5 "Spiritual First Aid", S. 153-154, 2009

A person who is familiar with this will feel the compressed energy and begin to release it without waiting for the mind to create an excuse that justifies it's release. The more sophisticated mind does not need an outside event to release it's angriness. It just knows that it is building up some suppressed angriness and sits down and says, "I had better look at this." It then starts letting go of the energy of it before the mind gets around and creates something 'out there' to relieve itself. It is as though the events in our lives are almost like safety or release valves, providing a way to decompress this energy tank. Healing and Recovery, chapter 3 "Handling major crisis", S. 241, 2009

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Antidotes to anger and expectations

The best defense against the development of anger is
- to see others as equals,
- lessen expectations, and,
- via humility, surrender the fulfillment of one's wants to God.

With progressive detachment and relinquishment of the ego's demands and expectations, anger diminishes. Along the Path to Enlightenment. 365 Reflections from David R. Hawkins, edited by Scott Jeffrey, Reflection of March 16th, January 2011

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Processing anger:

The processing out of anger requires inner honesty and the willingness to surrender what is lacking integrity and essentially unworkable, and replace it with self-confidence. Compensatory attitudes that are far more powerful than anger are dedication, reason, humility, gratitude, perseverance, and tolerance. Along the Path to Enlightenment. 365 Reflections from David R. Hawkins, edited by Scott Jeffrey, Reflection of March 24th, January 2011

Anger is binding, not freeing. It connects us to another person and holds them in our life pattern. We are stuck in the negative pattern until we let go of the energy of anger and its little payoffs of righteous indignation, feeling wronged, and the desire for revenge. It may not be the exact same person who constantly recurs in our life. If not that person, then others will appear who have the same quality that triggers our anger and resentment. This will keep recurring until we handle our inner angriness. Then, suddenly, people with that quality disappear from our life. Letting Go. The Pathway of Surrender, S. 136-137, October 2012

Let go resisting the anger coming up in you. If you do, you will see it and see what it’s about. You are angry for a reason. You will start to see it. Just let it come up and you will see what it’s about. The more you let go resisting it, the more it will come up. Then you will run it out eventually. It’s not limitless. It has to be fed all the time and something is feeding it. Maybe you feel you are being blamed about something. There is probably some karmic propensity there. Maybe you are angry about being back here on Earth again and are angry at God. You are probably scared to be angry at God! We don’t want to see that consciously. Sedona Seminar God vs. Science. Limits of the Mind, 3 DVD set, 17. February 2007

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Tenet of the 12-step programs

"Justified resentments"

The Twelve Step Programs teach that there is no such thing as a justified resentment. All that was yesterday. You don't get to bask in feeling sorry for yourself. Prescott Seminar Overcoming Doubt, Skepticism and Disbelief, 3 DVD set, 9. August 2008

Question: What can you do when you get angry about another person?
Answer: Ask God to forgive you for being angry. Ask God to show you the innocence of that person. Sedona Seminar Practical Spirituality, 3 DVD set, 25. October 2008

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Zitate von anderen Quellen

Zürnet, und sündiget nicht; lasset die Sonne nicht über eurem Zorn untergehen. Epheser 4, 26 (NT)

Sei nicht schnellen Gemütes zu zürnen; denn Zorn ruht im Herzen eines Narren. Prediger 7, 9 (AT)

Schlussfolgerung

Das ärgerliche am Ärger ist, dass man sich schadet, ohne anderen zu nützen. Kurt Tucholsky (1890-1935) deutscher Satiriker, Journalist, Schriftsteller, Aphorismus

Am Zorn festzuhalten, ist als ob man eine glühende Kohle anfasst mit der Absicht, einen anderen damit zu bewerfen. Dabei ist man selbst derjenige, der sich verbrennt. Gautama Buddha [BW 1000] (563-483 v. Chr.) indischer Avatar, Lehrer der Erleuchtung, Zentralfigur des Buddhismus, Quelle unbekannt

Nicht für deinen Zorn wirst du bestraft, sondern wegen deines Zorns. Gautama Buddha [BW 1000] (563-483 v. Chr.) indischer Avatar, Lehrer der Erleuchtung, Zentralfigur des Buddhismus, Quelle unbekannt

Niemals in der Welt hört Hass durch Hass auf, Hass hört durch die Liebe auf. Gautama Buddha [BW 1000] (563-483 v. Chr.) indischer Avatar, Lehrer der Erleuchtung, Zentralfigur des Buddhismus, Quelle unbekannt

In der Wut verliert der Mensch seine Intelligenz. H.H. 14th Dalai Lama Tenzin Gyatso [LoC 570] (*1935) Tibetan monk, leader of the Gelug or "Yellow Hat" branch of Tibetan Buddhism, Nobel Peace Prize laureate, 1989, Quelle unbekannt

Das Gewahrwerden – die bewusste Wahrnehmung – ist ein wenig wie Magie; es ist die Alchemie, die die niederen Metalle in Gold verwandelt.
Wenn du wütend bist, so verdränge deinen Zorn nicht; versuche ihn einfach wahrzunehmen. Ich bin wütend, ich bin wütend, ich bin jetzt die Wut. Das Wunderbare daran ist, dass Wut und Gewahrsein nicht gleichzeitig existieren können. Die Wut verschwindet. Denn nur wo Unbewusstheit herrscht, kann es Wut geben; das gilt auch für die Mordlust. Es hat sich in den letzten Jahrtausenden gezeigt, dass es nicht viel nützt, den Leuten das Morden abgewöhnen zu wollen, indem man ihnen die zehn Gebote predigt. Moses hätte seinem Volk lieber Methoden der bewussten Wahrnehmung beibringen sollen, um zu erreichen, dass sie mit dem Töten aufhören. Günter Nitschke, The Silent Orgasm. Liebe als Sprungbrett zur Selbsterkenntnis, S. 53, Taschen Verlag, Köln, 1995

Neurobiologisch gelten Zorn und Wut schon seit den alten Römern und Indern als eine vorübergehende Geistesstörung und psychische Fehlhaltung. Stress, Belastungssörungen, fehlende Resilienz bieten den Nährboden für Wut. Dann werden Adrenalin und Noradrenalin als Stresshormone freigesetzt und die negative Spirale setzt sich fort.
"Wut macht blind", heisst es zurecht.
Wenn die Glückshormone (Dopamin, Serotonin, Noradrenalin, Endorphine, Oxytocin, Phenethylamin (PEA)) nicht vorhanden sind, entstehen psychische Krankheiten, bei denen die Symptome Wut, Zorn, Hass, Aggression, Intoleranz das Resultat sind. Es ist ein gesamtgesellschaftliches Problem. Deshalb brauchen wir eine breite gesellschaftliche Debatte über Werte, Kultur, Glücksforschung, Bildung und Stressmanagement. Joachim Nusch, deutscher Philosoph, Philantrop, Mentaltrainer, Redner, Autor, Facebook-Kommentar, 3. September 2018

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Quotes by various other sources

Make no friendship with an angry man; and with a furious man thou shalt not go. Lest thou learn his ways, and get a snare to thy soul. Proverbs 22, 24-25 (OT)

Be ye angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath: Neither give place (opportunity) to the devil. Ephesians 4, 26 (NT)

Be not hasty in thy spirit to be angry: for anger resteth in the bosom of fools. Ecclesiastes 7, 9 (NT)

Personal awovals

I am aware of my anger, and i am aware that I embrace it with mindfulness. Video interview with Thich Nhat Hanh, Vietnamese Zen master, peace activist, on Embracing Anger with mindfulness, sponsored by the "State of the World Forum", host Ram Dass [Richard Alpert] (*1931) US American professor of psychology, spiritual teacher, September 1995, YouTube film, 9:42 minutes duration, posted 29. May 2007

I personally believe that 99.99% of all cocaine and meth use in men is about one thing: sex.
And 99.99% of that sex is about one thing: rage. Video Meth keynote address by Kevin McCauley, M.D., US American addiction researcher and therapist, The Institute For Addiction Study, Is Addiction Really a Disease? Dr. Kevin McCauley, sponsored by the Meth Action Coalition Meth Summit, 2007, minute 1:08:40, 1:12:13 minutes duration, posted 25. June 2015

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Angry men

Sadly, there is an enormous amount of angry men. [...] Women always want to know what male anger is about. I can tell you that when a man explodes with his partner in a relationship it's almost never about her or anything she ever said. Men get triggered. Their old stuff [...] literally stuffed down in their psyches, for 10, 20, 30, even 40 years. They stuff that pain, instead of dealing with it, because that's how they grow up thinking they were supposed to deal with it. Every time somebody says something that remotely triggers it they explode. I had a terrible temper. [...] none of us are particularly angry men anymore. Audio interview with Dave Talamo, US American founder of men's circles, Wilderness Reflections, presented by Coaching the Life Coach, episode 8, presented by the US American free web audio channel Personal Life Media, program Living Dialogues, host Jason McClain, excerpts minute 24:27f, date unknown

I see anger as the guardian of boundaries. I see a lot of people caught in spiritual bypassing as having such poor boundaries they cannot say a clear NO. They are overly attached to being nice, and sweet, and go to look positive. There is this addiction to being positive. And, they are, in a sense, being negative about their negativity. Audio interview with ⚡ Robert Augustus Masters, Ph.D. robertmasters.com (*1947) Canadian psychologist, psychotherapist, cult leader of Xanthyros community, author, What Really Matters, presented by the US American web radio station New Dimensions, program #3392, host Michael Toms, 60 minutes duration, recorded 23. November 2010

Recommentations

Our attitude is to take care of anger. We don't suppress or hate it, or run away from it. We just breathe gently and cradle our anger in our arms with the utmost tenderness. Thich Nhat Hanh [LoC 460] (*1926) Vietnamese France based Buddhist monk, peace activist, teacher, author, poet, Anger. Wisdom for Cooling the Flames, Riverhead Books, 3. September 2002

Honor your anger. But before you express it, sort out the righteous from the unrighteous. Immediately after a storm, the water is muddy; rage is indiscriminate. It takes time to discriminate, for the mud to settle.
But once the stream runs clear, express your outrage against any who have violated your being. Give the person you intend to love the gift of discriminating anger. Sam Keen, Ph.D. samkeen.com (*1931) US American professor of religion and philosophy, Harvard University, Princeton University, author, Fire in the Belly. On Being a Man, S. 194, Bantam, April 1991, reissued paperback 1. March 1992

Conclusion

I imagine one of the reasons people cling to their hates so stubbornly is because they sense, once hate is gone, they will be forced to deal with pain. James Baldwin (1924-1987) US afroamerican social critic, playwright, essayist, short story writer, novelist, article titled Me and My House, presented by the US American monthly magazine Harper's Magazine, November 1955, republished in the non-fiction book Notes of a Native Son, Beacon Press, 1955

Insights

No one is born hating another person because of the color of his skin, or his background, or his religion. People must learn to hate, and if they can learn to hate, they can be taught to love, for love comes more naturally to the human heart than its opposite. Nelson Mandela (1918-2013) leading South African anti-apartheid activist, prisoner for 27 years during apartheid, first black president of South Africa (1994-1999), Long Walk to Freedom. The Autobiography of Nelson Mandela, Little, Brown and Company, London, 1994, Back Bay Books, 2. June 2008

The predominance of aggression in our behavior and language is more than a curious trend. Aggression only moves in one direction – it creates more aggression. We quickly become locked into a deteriorating cycle of increasing rage and violence. Caught in fear and anger, we lose the capacity to respond in any other way. We strike out ever more fiercely, thus creating more frightening reactions from those we oppose.
Aggression is inherently destructive of relationships. People and ideologies are pitted against each other, believing that in order to survive, they must destroy the opposition. Article by Margaret J. Wheatley, Ed.D. margaretwheatley.com (*1941) US American associate professor of management, researcher on organizational behavior, leadership consultant, co-founder and president emerita of the global charitable foundation The Berkana Institute, speaker, author, Geoff Crinean, Solving, not Attacking, Complex Problems. A Five-State Approach Based on an Ancient Practice, 2004

Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one getting burned. Buddha [LoC 1000] (563-483 BC) Indian Avatar, teacher of enlightenment, central figure of Buddhism, source unknown

You will not be punished for your anger; you will be punished by your anger. Buddha [LoC 1000] (563-483 BC) Indian Avatar, teacher of enlightenment, central figure of Buddhism, source unknown

It is better to be violent, if there is violence in our hearts, than to put on the cloak of nonviolence to cover impotence. Mahatma Gandhi Mohandas Karamchand [LoC 760] (1869-1948) Indian sage, spiritual activist leader, humanitarian, lawyer, nonviolent freedom fighter, source unknown

Prisoners never committed a crime. And you know what? They didn't. If you work with them for very long you can see a second aura hanging out over them. And if you make them mad enough then the second aura replaces the first aura. And that's who you deal with. And if they calm them back down then they are back. Audio presentation by Rev. Rosalyn L. Bruyere (*1946) US American spiritual teacher, energy healer, aura reader, presented by "The Asilomar Conference Center", Pacific Grove California, deleted MP3, minute 28:04, 83:18 minutes duration, 7. August 1988

Anybody can become angry – that is easy. But to be angry with the right person, and to the right degree, and at the right time, and for the right purpose, and in the right way – that is not within everybody's power and is not easy. Aristotle [LoC 498] (384-322 BC) classical Greek pre-Christian philosopher, physician, scientist, misogynist, source unknown

Each egoic structure is a containment of consciousness. Anger contains the strength of your being. Don't try to get rid of the anger. Rather recognize it as a container. Acknowledging the container, bringing love to it, causes it to dissipate. This is alchemy. Pamela Wilson, South African US American Advaita teacher, source unknown

Anger is like gasoline. If you spray it around and somebody lights a match, you've got an inferno. [But] if we can put our anger inside an engine, it can drive us forward. Video presentation by Scilla Elworthy (*1943) Scottish peace builder, founder of the NGO Oxford Research Group for effective dialogue between nuclear weapons policy-makers worldwide and their critics, 1982, executive director of the ORG (1982-2003), member of the World Future Council, Fighting with non-violence, presented by TEDxExeter Talks, Exeter, Devon, England, minute 7:21, 15:48 minutes duration, filmed April 2012, posted August 2012

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Anger – "90 Seconds Rule":

Dr. Jill Bolte Taylor has recovered miraculously from a rare stroke after eight years. She who has become more compassionate than in her first life shares on the "90 Seconds Rule" and the physiological wiring of anger. Being angry is a loop, a circuitry inside the brain, restimulated by one's angry thoughts.

It takes 90 seconds for any emotion to come into your body, flush through your body and surge out of your body. Any emotion.
If you feel yourself becoming angry I encourage people to 'Don't get hooked up in your anger, but feel the anger in your body, and then look at your watch, and then recognize that after 90 seconds it is totally gone from your body. And yet if you stay angry for longer than 90 seconds it is because you have consciously chosen to think the thoughts that bring you back into running the anger loop. [...]
I call it the 90 Seconds Rule. People are always shocked on it. It's absolutely amazing. [...] And actually it works. [...]
You are biologically designed to experience the moment, experience a thought, experience an emotion. Surge it through your body for 90 seconds, have your reactivity, and then move on to something else, come back to the present moment. Audio interview with Jill Bolte Taylor, M.D. drjilltaylor.com (*1959) US American neuroanatomist, expert in the postmortem investigation of the human brain, A Brain Scientist's Personal Journey – My Stroke of Insight, presented by the Bennie Randall Show, host Bennie Randall, minutes 48:15-53:10, 5. October 2007

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Outrage differentiated from rage – conscious leadership

A new consciousness leader also knows the difference between outrage and rage.
- I think of outrage as holy anger – strong emotional responsiveness to the pain of others, to injustice, to ignorance.
  Outrage is fierce but it never dehumanizes. It fills a leader's sails with the winds of action but it also fills her heart with compassion and discernment.
- Rage on the other hand is like a forest fire. It burns everything in its path. It is impatient and vindictive and shortsighted. A new consciousness leader uses the energy of outrage to persuade and guide and include and create.

Video key note speech by Elizabeth Lesser, US American cofounder and senior advisor of the Omega Institute for Holistic Studies and Omega Women’s Leadership Center, author, Women & Power. Our Time to Lead Conference, transcript The New Leadership Story sponsored by the US American non-profit educational retreat center Omega Institute for Holistic Studies, 24-26 September 2010, Vimeo video, minute 30:33, 41:08 minutes duration, posted July 2011

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Psychology – Acting out anger

[M]ost research now says that catharsis – "letting it all out" – isn't helpful and, in fact, may increase a person's hostility. Brad J. Bushman, Ph.D., US American professor of psychology and mass communication, Ohio State University, and colleagues, study results (1999) presented by the monthly peer-reviewed APA scientific journal Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, Volume 76, No. 3 cited in: Jennifer Daw Holloway, Advances in anger management, presented by APA online, Volume 32, No. 3, March 2003

Anger is the deepest form of compassion, for another, for the world, for the self, for a life, for the body, for a family and for all our ideals, all vulnerable and all, possibly about to be hurt. Stripped of physical imprisonment and violent reaction, anger is the purest form of care, the internal living flame of anger always illuminates what we belong to, what we wish to protect and what we are willing to hazard ourselves for. What we usually call anger is only what is left of its essence when we are overwhelmed by its accompanying vulnerability, when it reaches the lost surface of our mind or our body’s incapacity to hold it, or when it touches the limits of our understanding. What we name as anger is actually only the incoherent physical incapacity to sustain this deep form of care in our outer daily life; the unwillingness to be large enough and generous enough to hold what we love helplessly in our bodies or our mind with the clarity and breadth of our whole being. David Whyte (*1955) US American poet, writer, Consolations. The Solace, Nourishment and Underlying Meaning of Everyday Words, Many Rivers Press, 1. January 2015

What we have named as anger on the surface is the violent outer response to our own inner powerlessness, a powerlessness connected to such a profound sense of rawness and care that it can find no proper outer body or identity or voice, or way of life to hold it. What we call anger is often simply the unwillingness to live the full measure of our fears or of our not knowing, in the face of our love for a wife, in the depth of our caring for a son, in our wanting the best, in the face of simply being alive and loving those with whom we live.
Our anger breaks to the surface most often through our feeling there is something profoundly wrong with this powerlessness and vulnerability. […] Anger in its pure state is the measure of the way we are implicated in the world and made vulnerable through love in all its specifics. David Whyte (*1955) US American poet, writer, Consolations. The Solace, Nourishment and Underlying Meaning of Everyday Words, Many Rivers Press, 1. January 2015

Anger truly felt at its center is the essential living flame of being fully alive and fully here; it is a quality to be followed to its source, to be prized, to be tended, and an invitation to finding a way to bring that source fully into the world through making the mind clearer and more generous, the heart more compassionate and the body larger and strong enough to hold it. What we call anger on the surface only serves to define its true underlying quality by being a complete but absolute mirror-opposite of its true internal essence. David Whyte (*1955) US American poet, writer, Consolations. The Solace, Nourishment and Underlying Meaning of Everyday Words, Many Rivers Press, 1. January 2015

Humility doesn't come easily to selfish, self-centered, self-absorbed, narcissistic men. [...]
1. It's right to be wrong.
2. It is wrong to be right.
3. I'm better off being wrong, because when I am right I am dangerous.

Video interview with Newton Hightower, US American psychotherapist, director of the Center for Anger Resolution (for Men), 1993, Anger Resolution for Men, presented by Houston PBS, program "Living Smart", #202, host Patricia Gras (*1960) US American television anchor, reporter, journalist, recorded ~July 2006, YouTube film, minute 13:23, 26:50 minutes duration, posted 21. March 2011

[Paraphrased] Men have much higher suicide rates than women do and that suicide rates increase dramatically as men age. Men between the ages of 65 and 85 killed themselves almost 10 times more frequently than do women of the same age. Further, unlike women, men often "act out" their depression and become more aggressive and sometimes violent. The comedian Elayne Boosler captured these male/female differences when she observed, "When women are depressed, they eat or go shopping. Men invade another country. It's a whole different way of thinking." Jed Diamond, Ph.D., US American psychotherapist, author, The Irritable Male Syndrome. Understanding and Managing the 4 Key Causes of Depression and Aggression, Rodale Books, 11. August 2005

All too often, anger becomes an alluring substitute for grieving, promising agency and control when one’s real situation does not offer control. […] Anger is often well-grounded, but it is too easy for it to hijack the necessary mourning process. Martha Nussbaum (*1947) US American law and ancient Greek/Roman philosophy professor, University of Chicago, specialized in political philosophy, feminism, ethics, animal rights, author, Anger and Forgiveness. Resentment, Generosity, Justice, Oxford University Press, 2. May 2016

Anger is not always, but very often, about status-injury. And status-injury has a narcissistic flavor: rather than focusing on the wrongfulness of the act as such, a focus that might lead to concern for wrongful acts of the same type more generally, the status-angry person focuses obsessively on herself and her standing vis-à-vis others. […]
We are prone to anger to the extent that we feel insecure or lacking control with respect to the aspect of our goals that has been assailed – and to the extent that we expect or desire control. Anger aims at restoring lost control and often achieves at least an illusion of it. To the extent that a culture encourages people to feel vulnerable to affront and down-ranking [rankism] in a wide variety of situations, it encourages the roots of status-focused anger. Martha Nussbaum (*1947) US American law and ancient Greek/Roman philosophy professor, University of Chicago, specialized in political philosophy, feminism, ethics, animal rights, author, Anger and Forgiveness. Resentment, Generosity, Justice, Oxford University Press, 2. May 2016

Men in particular think that they have achieved something if they can make a woman mad, particularly if she is calm and intellectual. Often, they use the attempt to make you mad as a way of flirting, no doubt thinking that unlocking the pent-up emotions of such a woman is a sexual victory. (And note that they assume these emotions are pent up in general, not merely unavailable to them!) This exceedingly tedious exercise shows that they have few or no interesting resources for flirting (such as humor or imagination), and it really has the opposite effect from the one intended, boring the woman, who has certainly seen this before, and making them look very silly. Martha Nussbaum (*1947) US American law and ancient Greek/Roman philosophy professor, University of Chicago, specialized in political philosophy, feminism, ethics, animal rights, author, Anger and Forgiveness. Resentment, Generosity, Justice, Oxford University Press, 2. May 2016

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Aggression in male mice is linked to the brain's reward centers much as food, sex, and drugs are.

Aggression occurs among virtually all vertebrates and is necessary to get and keep important resources such as mates, territory and food. We have found that the 'reward pathway' in the brain becomes engaged in response to an aggressive event and that dopamine is involved. Video presentation by Craig Kennedy, Ph.D., US American professor of special education and pediatrics, Vanderbilt College, Male Aggression and Reward in the Brain, YouTube film, 2:01 minutes duration, posted by Vanderbilt University, 5. March 2008

Anger is a necessary part of the dance of love. Think of clean anger as the voice of the wise serpent on the early American flag who says, "Don't tread on me."
Without anger we have no fire, no thunder and lightning to defend the sanctuary of the self.
No anger = no boundaries = no passion. Sam Keen, US American professor of religion and philosophy, universities Harvard and Princeton, source unknown

Between 75% and 80% of anger-rousing events are interpersonal, so it's your spouse, your kids and your coworkers who are getting it. Jerry L. Deffenbacher, Ph.D., US American behavioral psychologist, Colorado State University, cited in: Stephen J. Johnson, Ph.D., MFT, US American psychotherapist, marriage and family consultant, educator, founder and director of Men's Center of Los Angeles, It's A Mad, Mad, Mad Men's World, by Benedict Carey, undated

Literary quotes

Heaven has no rage like love to hatred turned
Nor hell a fury like a woman scorned.
William Congreve (1670-1729) English playwright, The Mourning Bride, 1697
Often erroneously attributed to William Shakespeare

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Quotes on anger by the Dalai Lama

Question: Do you ever feel angry or outraged?
Answer: Oh, yes, of course. I'm a human being. Generally speaking, if a human being never shows anger, then I think something's wrong. He's not right in the brain. [Laughs.] H.H. 14th Dalai Lama Tenzin Gyatso [LoC 570] (*1935) Tibetan monk, leader of religious officials of the Gelug or "Yellow Hat" branch of Tibetan Buddhism, 10 Questions for the Dalai Lama, presented by the US American weekly news magazine TIME, 14. June 2010

Sometimes, when we are discouraged by a difficult situation, anger does seem helpful, appearing to bring more energy, confidence and determination. And while it is true that anger brings extra energy, it eclipses the best part of our brain: its rationality. So the energy of anger is almost always unreliable. It can cause an immense amount of destructive, unfortunate behavior. H.H. 14th Dalai Lama Tenzin Gyatso [LoC 570] (*1935) Tibetan monk, leader of religious officials of the Gelug or "Yellow Hat" branch of Tibetan Buddhism, Facebook comment 11. October 2010

Anger cannot be overcome by anger. If someone is angry with you, and you show anger in return, the result is a disaster. On the other hand, if you control your anger and show its opposite – love, compassion, tolerance and patience – not only will you remain peaceful, but the other person's anger will also diminish. H.H. 14th Dalai Lama Tenzin Gyatso [LoC 570] (*1935) Tibetan monk, leader of religious officials of the Gelug or "Yellow Hat" branch of Tibetan Buddhism, Facebook comment, 27. May 2011

Question: Is any anger acceptable in Buddhism?
Answer: Buddhism in general teaches that anger is a destructive emotion and although anger might have some positive effects in terms of survival or moral outrage, I do not accept that anger of any kind as a virtuous emotion nor aggression as constructive behavior. The Gautama Buddha has taught that there are three basic kleshas at the root of samsara (bondage, illusion) and the vicious cycle of rebirth. These are greed, hatred, and delusion – also translatable as attachment, anger, and ignorance. They bring us confusion and misery rather than peace, happiness, and fulfillment. It is in our own self-interest to purify and transform them. H.H. 14th Dalai Lama Tenzin Gyatso [LoC 570] (*1935) Tibetan monk, leader of religious officials of the Gelug or "Yellow Hat" branch of Tibetan Buddhism, cited: by Lama Surya, Transforming Anger. Even the Dalai Lama gets angry. The trick is what you do with it., first published in The Urban Dharma Newsletter, 9. March 2004

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Englische Texte – English section on Anger

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Expressions of anger

Features of ANGER

Passive anger		Aggressive anger
Dispassion	Giving the cold shoulder, phony smiles, looking unconcerned, distancing oneself, substance abuse, overeating, oversleeping, not responding to another's anger, frigidity, indulging in sexual practices that objectify partners	Bullying	Threatening people directly, persecuting, pushing or shoving, using power to oppress, shouting, using a car to force someone off the road, playing on people's weaknesses
Evasiveness	Turning one's back in a crisis, avoiding conflict, not arguing back, becoming phobic or paranoid	Destructiveness	Destroying objects, harming animals, destroying a relationship between two people, reckless driving, substance abuse
Ineffectualness	Setting oneself and others up for failure, choosing unreliable people to depend on, being accident prone, underachieving, sexual impotence, expressing frustration at insignificant things but ignoring serious ones	Grandiosity	Showing off, expressing mistrust, not delegating, being a sore loser, wanting center stage all the time, not listening, talking over people's heads, expecting kiss and make-up sessions to solve problems
Obsessive behavior	Needing to be inordinately clean and tidy, making a habit of constantly checking things, over-dieting or overeating, demanding that all jobs be done perfectly-'	Hurtfulness	Physical violence, verbal abuse, biased or vulgar jokes, breaking a confidence, using foul language, ignoring people's feelings, willfully discriminating, blaming, punishing people for unwarranted deeds, labeling others
Psychological manipulation	Provoking people to aggression and then patronizing them, provoking aggression but staying on the sidelines, emotional blackmail, false tearfulness, feigning illness, sabotaging relationships, using sexual provocation, using a third party to convey negative feelings, withholding money or resources	Manic behavior	Speaking too fast, walking too fast, working too much and expecting others to comply, driving too fast, reckless spending
Secretive behavior	Stockpiling resentments and expressing them behind people's backs, giving the silent treatment, breath mutterings, avoiding eye contact, putting people down, gossiping, anonymous complaints, poison pen letters, stealing, conning	Unjust blaming	Accusing other people for one's own mistakes, blaming people for one's own feelings, making general accusations
Self-blame	Apologizing too often, being overly critical, inviting criticism	Unpredictability	Explosive rages over minor frustrations, attacking indiscriminately, dispensing unjust punishment, inflicting harm on others for the sake of it, using alcohol and drugs, illogical arguments
Self-sacrifice	Being overly helpful, making do with second best, quietly making long-suffering signs but refusing help, lapping up gratefulness	Vengeance	Being over-punitive, refusing to forgive and forget, bringing up hurtful memories from the past
		Selfishness	Ignoring other's needs, not responding to requests for help, queue jumping
		Threats	Frightening people by saying how you could harm them, their property or their prospects, finger pointing, fist shaking, wearing clothes or symbols associated with violent behavior, tailgating, excessively blowing a car horn, slamming doors

Sources:
► Article Anger, presented by lewispsy.org, undated
► Blog article Passive and Active Anger, presented by gdrake, July 2011
► Article How to recognize and deal with anger, presented by the American Psychological Association (APA) 2016

See also: ► Violence

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Overcoming anger

President Abraham Lincoln who struggled with his depression held together the opposites of darkness and light in his own psyche as well as his country at his time.
At a special prayer day he had asked the troops of the north to pray also for the south troops. To his critics who felt that this is undermining the moral of the troops he said:

"We need to be able to remain human even though we are fighting this war."

There was one of Lincoln's very rare outbursts of anger in 'Soldiers Home', a cottage in the country on a high hill, where Lincoln ruminated on emancipation proclamations and more.
An officer came to him in need as his wife had drowned in a ferry boat in the Potomac River. Lincoln reacted infuriated due to the disturbance:

"Why do you bring that up to me?
Go have someone else in the White House deal with it!"

Following night Lincoln could not sleep all night. He sat up that night and recognized his mistake. The next morning he took care to find the hotel where the officer stayed in. He knocked at the door and apologized to the man assuring him:

"We will find your wife!"

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Index: Aggression, Wut, Zorn / Anger – Bücher D. Hawkins

Buch 1, S. 75
Buch 2 (Skala) S. 443
- Aggression/en, S. 90
- Aggressiv/en, S. 362, 341
Buch 3 (Skala) S. 553
- Aggression/en, S. 207, 280, 521
- Aggressiv/en, S. 57, 205, 333, 406, 522, 546
- Aggressivität, S. 57, 326
Buch 5, Kapitel 7 Ärger, S. 149ff

Englische Werke

Buch 1E Hay House, S. 68 (Skala)
Buch 2E, S. 66-67, 107-108
Buch 3E, S. 45, righteous anger+indignation=moralistic inflations of positionalities and expectations of others; chapter 12, S. 197-198, 310
Buch 4E, MoC, S. 412
Buch 5E, S. 143, chapter 7 Anger, S. 135-145, 140, chart The Dualities of Anger, S. 145, 2006, 213, 216-217, 333
Buch 8E, chapter 9 Worry, Fear and Anxiety S. 263-298

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Index: Audio- und Videomedien (engl.) von und mit D. Hawkins

Seminar April 2004, DVD 1 of 3, track 12, min 54:44-56:20
Seminar February 2005, DVD 2 of 3, track 10-11, min 54:19-56:28 and 56:56-58:13
Video Sedona Seminar Alignment, 3 DVD set, 16. April 2005
Seminar November 2005, DVD 3 of 3, track 11, min 56:39-58:03
Satsang, January 2006, DVD 1 of 3, track 4, min 3:33-5:17 and 5:53-6:33
Seminar October 2006, DVD 1 of 3, track 16-17, min 57:35 - 59:47
Seminar October 2007, DVD 2 of 3, track 8, 34:30-35:10

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Links zum Thema Wut und Zorn – BW 150 / Anger resolution

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Literatur

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Literature (engl.)

Thich Nhat Hanh [LoC 460] (*1926) Vietnamese France based Buddhist monk, peace activist, teacher, author, poet, Anger. Wisdom for Cooling the Flames, Riverhead Books, 3. September 2002

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Externe Weblinks

Wikipedia-Einträge Wut

Blogartikel Wie Zorn Deine Sicht auf die Welt und Dein Gehirn verändert, präsentiert von My Monk, August 2016

Traurigkeit findet im Hippocampus statt, dem kognitiven, denkenden Bereich des Gehirns (Abruf und Interpretation von alten Erfahrungen), eher geringe Körperreaktionen.
Ärger findet in der Amygdala statt, dem Reptiliengehirn. Adrenalin wird ausgeschüttet, Puls und Blutdruck steigen unmittelbar.

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External web links (engl.)

Wikipedia-entries Anger, Methods of anger management Directness * Honor * Focussing * Courage * Humility * Forgiveness * Listen * Thankfulness

Article Pay It Backwards: An Act Of Coffee Kindness, presented by the US American liberal-oriented online newspaper The Huffington Post, Arthur Rosenfeld, 23. December 2008
Article Classification of Corporate Psychopaths, presented by softpanorama, Dr. Nikolai Bezroukov, in service to the UN Sustainable Development Networking Programme (SDNP), updated 3. December 2011

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Audio and video links (engl.)

Audio interview with Dave Talamo, US American founder of men's circles Wilderness Reflections, presented by Coaching the Life Coach, episode 8, presented by Personallifemedia.com, host Jason McClain, excerpts minute 24:27+, date unknown
Video interview with Thich Nhat Hanh [LoC 460] (*1926) Vietnamese France based Buddhist monk, peace activist, teacher, poet, author, Embracing Anger with mindfulness, presented by State of the World Forum, host Ram Dass [Richard Alpert], September 1995, YouTube film, 9:42 minutes duration, posted 29. May 2007
Video presentation by Jacob Needleman, Ph.D. jacobneedleman.com (*1934) US American professor of philosophy and religion, UCSF, author, Why Can't We Be Good?, presented at and sponsored by Authors@Google, YouTube film, 52:22 minutes duration, posted 30. April 2007
Video presentation by Craig Kennedy Ph.D., US American professor of special education and pediatrics, Vanderbilt College, Male Aggression and Reward in the Brain, YouTube film, 2:01 minutes duration, posted by Vanderbilt University, 5. March 2008
Video interview with André Smith, US American practicing Buddhist, teacher of the Liberation Prison Project and anger-management based on compassionate thought and compassionate living, Forgiveness, sponsored by Happiness and Its Causes Conference, San Francisco, 23. November, 2008, presented by the US American Conscious Media Network via Gaiam TV, host Regina Meredith, 31:44 minutes duration, posted December 2008 Subject to fee
Video presentation by Dr. Larry Iverson, US American founder of The Institute for Advanced Development, Learn the 6 Steps to Coping with Anger and How To Overcome Anger Triggers, YouTube film, 7:48 minutes duration, posted 22. May 2010
Video presentation by Brad Bushman, Ph.D., US American professor of communication and psychology, The Ohio State University, VU University, Amsterdam, Don't get hangry: feed your brain healthy food, presented by TEDxColumbus, Columbus, Ohio, 7. November 2014, YouTube film, 18:56 minutes duration, posted 26. November 2014

Selfcontrol and intelligence are the two keys for success in life. Violent behavior is poor selfcontrol. The leading cause of murder is anger. Hangry students and spouses under test – do better when their brains are well fed and watered.
Selfcontrol can be trained (waiting for two Marshmallows, exercise, using the non-dominant hand, speaking in complete sentences, forego arguments over dinner).

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Audio and video links (engl.) – Newton Hightower

Video interview with Newton Hightower, US American psychotherapist, director of the Center for Anger Resolution (for Men), 1993, Anger Resolution for Men, presented by Houston PBS, program "Living Smart", #202, host Patricia Gras (*1960) US American television anchor, reporter, journalist, recorded ~July 2006, YouTube film, 26:50 minutes duration, posted 21. March 2011

Healing the anger within

Video interview with Paul Ekman, Ph.D. paulekman.com (*1934) US American professor of psychology, anthropologist, pioneer in the study of emotions, UCSF, author, host Newton Hightower, US American psychotherapist, director of the Center for Anger Resolution (for Men), 1993, YouTube film, posted 29. December 2012
- Anger Profile of President Obama, part 1 of 2, 10:45 minutes duration

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Movie links (engl.)

US American drama film 12 Angry Men 1957 Full Movie (en.Wikipedia entry), first issued 1957, 1997, YouTube film, 1:19:57 duration, posted 29. January 2017

Twelve angry male jurors from different backgrounds, and races are shut away in a court room for finding a unanimous verdict on a young black man's life under trial. In the beginning 11:1 jurors plead him GUILTY for murder. In the end of an angry debate all twelve – having shed their prejudices one after the other – plead him NOT GUILTY.

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