• Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one getting burned. Buddha [LoC 1000] (563-483 BC) Indian Avatar, teacher of enlightenment, central figure of Buddhism, source unknown

• You will not be punished for your anger; you will be punished by your anger. Buddha [LoC 1000] (563-483 BC) Indian Avatar, teacher of enlightenment, central figure of Buddhism, source unknown

• It is better to be violent, if there is violence in our hearts, than to put on the cloak of nonviolence to cover impotence. Mahatma Gandhi Mohandas Karamchand [LoC 760] (1869-1948) Indian sage, spiritual activist leader, humanitarian, lawyer, nonviolent freedom fighter, source unknown

• Prisoners never committed a crime. And you know what? They didn't. If you work with them for very long you can see a second aura hanging out over them. And if you make them mad enough then the second aura replaces the first aura. And that's who you deal with. And if they calm them back down then they are back. Audio presentation by Rev. Rosalyn L. Bruyere (*1946) US American spiritual teacher, energy healer, aura reader, presented by "The Asilomar Conference Center", Pacific Grove California, deleted MP3, minute 28:04, 83:18 minutes duration, 7. August 1988

• Anybody can become angry – that is easy. But to be angry with the right person, and to the right degree, and at the right time, and for the right purpose, and in the right way – that is not within everybody's power and is not easy. Aristotle [LoC 498] (384-322 BC) classical Greek pre-Christian philosopher, physician, scientist, misogynist, source unknown

• Each egoic structure is a containment of consciousness. Anger contains the strength of your being. Don't try to get rid of the anger. Rather recognize it as a container. Acknowledging the container, bringing love to it, causes it to dissipate. This is alchemy. Pamela Wilson, South African US American Advaita teacher, source unknown

• Anger is like gasoline. If you spray it around and somebody lights a match, you've got an inferno. [But] if we can put our anger inside an engine, it can drive us forward. Video presentation by Scilla Elworthy (*1943) Scottish peace builder, founder of the NGO Oxford Research Group for effective dialogue between nuclear weapons policy-makers worldwide and their critics, 1982, executive director of the ORG (1982-2003), member of the World Future Council, Fighting with non-violence, presented by TEDxExeter Talks, Exeter, Devon, England, minute 7:21, 15:48 minutes duration, filmed April 2012, posted August 2012

• It takes 90 seconds for any emotion to come into your body, flush through your body and surge out of your body. Any emotion.
  If you feel yourself becoming angry I encourage people to 'Don't get hooked up in your anger, but feel the anger in your body, and then look at your watch, and then recognize that after 90 seconds it is totally gone from your body. And yet if you stay angry for longer than 90 seconds it is because you have consciously chosen to think the thoughts that bring you back into running the anger loop. [...]
  I call it the 90 Seconds Rule. People are always shocked on it. It's absolutely amazing. [...] And actually it works. [...]
  You are biologically designed to experience the moment, experience a thought, experience an emotion. Surge it through your body for 90 seconds, have your reactivity, and then move on to something else, come back to the present moment. Audio interview with Jill Bolte Taylor, M.D. drjilltaylor.com (*1959) US American neuroanatomist, expert in the postmortem investigation of the human brain, A Brain Scientist's Personal Journey – My Stroke of Insight, presented via the broadcaster Blogtalkradio, program Bennie Randall Show, host Bennie Randall, minutes 48:15-53:10, 5. October 2007

• The Warrior archetype is hard-wired into our brain structure. Socialization means repression, which only keeps aggressiveness in an all the more volatile, compressed, and explosive form. But aggression is not, in and of itself, a bad thing. In many ways legitimate aggression contributes vitally to our lives. In aggression we find our drives for life, career, social contact, self-definition, and service. Perseverance and fidelity are products of the Warriors determination. Though the Lover initiates a relationship, it is the Warrior who maintains it – without the Warrior the Lover is merely promiscuous. The answer then is not to banish any of the archetypes, but to work on achieving the maturity necessary to manage them. Robert Moore, Ph.D. (1942-2016) US American Jungian psychoanalyst, professor of psychology, consultant, theorist, author, Douglas Gilette, US American author, The Warrior Within. Accessing the Knight in the Male Psyche, William Morrow & Company, 1st edition August 1992

• A new consciousness leader also knows the difference between outrage and rage.
  • I think of outrage as holy anger – strong emotional responsiveness to the pain of others, to injustice, to ignorance.
    Outrage is fierce but it never dehumanizes. It fills a leader's sails with the winds of action but it also fills her heart with compassion and discernment.
  • Rage on the other hand is like a forest fire. It burns everything in its path. It is impatient and vindictive and shortsighted. A new consciousness leader uses the energy of outrage to persuade and guide and include and create.

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• [M]ost research now says that catharsis – "letting it all out" – isn't helpful and, in fact, may increase a person's hostility. Brad J. Bushman, Ph.D., US American professor of psychology and mass communication, Ohio State University, and colleagues, study results (1999) presented by the monthly peer-reviewed APA scientific journal Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, Volume 76, No. 3 cited in: Jennifer Daw Holloway, Advances in anger management, presented by APA online, Volume 32, No. 3, March 2003

• Imagine you are walking in the woods and you see a small dog sitting by a tree. As you approach it, it suddenly lunges at you, teeth bared. You are frightened and angry. But then you notice that one of its legs is caught in a trap. Immediately your mood shifts from anger to concern: You see that the dog’s aggression is coming from a place of vulnerability and pain. This applies to all of us. When we behave in hurtful ways, it is because we are caught in some kind of trap. The more we look through the eyes of wisdom at ourselves and one another, the more we cultivate a compassionate heart. Tara Brach, Ph.D. tarabrach.com (*1953) US American psychologist, political scientist, proponent of Buddhist meditation, author, True Refuge: Finding Peace and Freedom in Your Own Awakened Heart, Bantam House, 22. January 2013

• Humility doesn't come easily to selfish, self-centered, self-absorbed, narcissistic men. [...]
  1. It's right to be wrong.
  2. It is wrong to be right.
  3. I'm better off being wrong, because when I am right I am dangerous.

• The word anger covers many different related experiences. There is a range of angry feelings, from slight annoyance to rage. There are not just differences in the strength of angry feelings, but also differences in the kind of anger felt.
  Indignation is self-righteous anger,
  sulking is passive anger;
  exasperation refers to having one’s patience tried excessively.
  Revenge is a type of angry action usually committed after a period of reflection about the offense.

• When the least little thing goes wrong or could be trouble, the brain zooms in on it with a kind of tunnel vision that downplays everything else. […] In a relationship trust is easy to lose and hard to regain. Something bad about a person is better remembered than something good. Rick Hanson, Ph.D. (*1949) US American neuropsychologist, co-founder of The Wellspring Institute for Neuroscience and Contemplative Wisdom, author, Hardwiring Happiness. The New Brain Science of Contentment, Calm, and Confidence, Harmony, new issue 8. October 2013

• The engine of aggression is frustration. Behind every violent act, word or feeling is pent-up frustration, unrecognized, undeclared but powerful. The adolescent erupting in hostile speech or behaviour either against himself or others has no clue about the nature of his frustration or its basic causes. The immediate target is incidental. Blog article Are Violent Teens Suffering 'The Rage Of The Unparented'?, presented by the website Dr. Gabor Maté, Stephanie Lee, 15. November 2014

• All too often, anger becomes an alluring substitute for grieving, promising agency and control when one’s real situation does not offer control. […] Anger is often well-grounded, but it is too easy for it to hijack the necessary mourning process. Martha Nussbaum (*1947) US American law and ancient Greek/Roman philosophy professor, University of Chicago, specialized in political philosophy, feminism, ethics, animal rights, author, Anger and Forgiveness. Resentment, Generosity, Justice, Oxford University Press, 2. May 2016

• Anger is not always, but very often, about status-injury. And status-injury has a narcissistic flavor: rather than focusing on the wrongfulness of the act as such, a focus that might lead to concern for wrongful acts of the same type more generally, the status-angry person focuses obsessively on herself and her standing vis-à-vis others. […]
  We are prone to anger to the extent that we feel insecure or lacking control with respect to the aspect of our goals that has been assailed – and to the extent that we expect or desire control. Anger aims at restoring lost control and often achieves at least an illusion of it. To the extent that a culture encourages people to feel vulnerable to affront and down-ranking [rankism] in a wide variety of situations, it encourages the roots of status-focused anger. Martha Nussbaum (*1947) US American law and ancient Greek/Roman philosophy professor, University of Chicago, specialized in political philosophy, feminism, ethics, animal rights, author, Anger and Forgiveness. Resentment, Generosity, Justice, Oxford University Press, 2. May 2016

• Men in particular think that they have achieved something if they can make a woman mad, particularly if she is calm and intellectual. Often, they use the attempt to make you mad as a way of flirting, no doubt thinking that unlocking the pent-up emotions of such a woman is a sexual victory. (And note that they assume these emotions are pent up in general, not merely unavailable to them!) This exceedingly tedious exercise shows that they have few or no interesting resources for flirting (such as humor or imagination), and it really has the opposite effect from the one intended, boring the woman, who has certainly seen this before, and making them look very silly. Martha Nussbaum (*1947) US American law and ancient Greek/Roman philosophy professor, University of Chicago, specialized in political philosophy, feminism, ethics, animal rights, author, Anger and Forgiveness. Resentment, Generosity, Justice, Oxford University Press, 2. May 2016

• Aggression occurs among virtually all vertebrates and is necessary to get and keep important resources such as mates, territory and food. We have found that the 'reward pathway' in the brain becomes engaged in response to an aggressive event and that dopamine is involved. Video presentation by Craig Kennedy, Ph.D., US American professor of special education and pediatrics, Vanderbilt College, Male Aggression and Reward in the Brain, YouTube film, 2:01 minutes duration, posted by Vanderbilt University, 5. March 2008

• Anger is a necessary part of the dance of love. Think of clean anger as the voice of the wise serpent on the early American flag who says, "Don't tread on me."
  Without anger we have no fire, no thunder and lightning to defend the sanctuary of the self.
  No anger = no boundaries = no passion. Sam Keen, Ph.D. samkeen.com (*1931) US American professor of religion and philosophy, Harvard University, Princeton University, author, source unknown

• Between 75% and 80% of anger-rousing events are interpersonal, so it's your spouse, your kids and your coworkers who are getting it. Jerry L. Deffenbacher, Ph.D., US American behavioral psychologist, Colorado State University, cited in: Stephen J. Johnson, Ph.D., MFT, US American psychotherapist, marriage and family consultant, educator, founder and director of Men's Center of Los Angeles, It's A Mad, Mad, Mad Men's World, by Benedict Carey, undated

• Men are born angry. That fury is a secret covenant. A foundational agreement. If the patriarchy were a visible religious organization complete with berobed priests every newborn boy would be baptized with the words "Thou shalt raise thy voice for thou art wrathful."
  Our anger is sacred.
  This single, lonely emotion unites men of all classes, creeds, and races. It is the primary perk of my gender: silent permission to rage at that which frightens, or frustrates. Society makes space for male anger, which is why more men aren’t more embarrassed post-outburst. Men who are successful are allowed to get angry at those who defy them. Men who are failures are also allowed to get angry at those who defy them. This is the deal. No matter a man’s lot in life he is entitled to yell. And the world is supposed to cower, or endure, the spittle-flecked gibberish. […]
  In the fine print of the male social contract are cruel terms. A man must project strength. A man cannot show weakness. A man who cries is weak. A man who despairs is weak. Do not feel. Instead, get angry because anger is fear with boxing gloves. Blog article The Powerlessness Of Male Anger, John DeVore, presented by the stories outlet and conversation about masculinity and pop culture Medium · Humungus, 12. July 2019