SpiritualWiki - Verletzlichkeit

Der französische buddhistische Mönch Matthieu Ricard ("der glücklichste Mensch der Welt") benannte zehn schwächende Einstellungen und Verhaltensmuster, die uns davon abhalten, unser innewohnendes Potenzial zu leben.

༺༻	Harmful behavior – reducing vibrancy (aura)
1.	Ein ausgeprägtes Gefühl der Selbstherrlichkeit zu kultivieren
2.	Ständig über die Vergangenheit zu grübeln
3.	Zukunftsangst zu haben
4.	Nicht im Gewahrsein des gegenwärtigen Augenblicks verweilen zu können
5.	Sein Bestreben auf äußere Glücksbedingungen [wie die körperliche Erscheinung, Reichtum, Ruhm und Macht] zu richten
6.	Die inneren Bedingungen für Freude [Seelenfrieden, innere Freiheit, altruistische Liebe und Mitgefühl] nicht beachten und nicht kultivieren
7.	Glück nicht auch für andere, sondern nur für sich selbst anzustreben
8.	Sich egozentrisch auf das Leid anderer zu beziehen, statt selbstlos zu lieben und mitempfinden
9.	Wohl- oder Unwohlgefühlen, Gewinn und Verlust, Lob und Kritik, Ruhm und Anonymität übermäßige Beachtung zu schenken
10.	Verzerrte Realitätswahrnehmung durch ständiges mentales Projizieren auf andere und die Außenwelt

Quelle (engl.): ► Gelöschter Blogeintrag The ten things that make us vulnerable [Zehn selbstschädigende Einstellungen], präsentiert von Matthieu Ricard (*1946) französischer Molekularbiologe, buddhistischer Mönch, Fotograf, Autor, 28. Mai 2012

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Das verletzte Gute und das verteidigende Böse umarmen

Wenn das Böse dir gegenüber steht, dann schau ihm fest ins Auge.
Schaue solange hin, bis du im Spiegel der Augen deines Feindes dein eigenes Böses erkennen kannst.
Und dann ziehe dich zurück. Und schaue deinem eigenen Bösen fest ins Auge.
Schaue solange hin, bis du hinter ihm dein verletztes Gutes erkennen kannst.
Dann schließe sie beide, das verletzte Gute und das verteidigende Böse
so fest in die Arme deines Herzens wie du kannst
und kümmere dich nicht um den Feind.
Danke ihm im Stillen und lass ihn seine Wege gehen.
Sie werden die deinen nicht mehr kreuzen.
Solange du jedoch im Bewusstsein deines Rechts verharrst, wird dein Feind dein Feind bleiben.

Quelle: ► Safi Nidiaye (*1951) deutsche Meditationslehrerin, Zeitschriften- und Fernsehjournalistin, Dichterin, Schriftstellerin,
Die Stimme des Herzens. Der Weg zum größten aller Geheimnisse, Bastei Lübbe, 9. Auflage 25. April 2000

Siehe auch: ► Negativität und ► Spiegel

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Zitate zum Thema Verletzlichkeit / Vulnerability

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Zitate allgemein

Wer unbedacht schwatzt, der verletzt wie ein durchbohrendes Schwert; die Zunge der Weisen aber ist heilsam.
Sprüche 12, 18 (AT)

Empfehlung

Geh dorthin, wo du verletzt bist, wo deine Sehnsucht sitzt, wo du Schmerz spürst. Bleibe damit, mach keine Bewegung davon weg. Geh nicht in die Gedanken; bis es zu einem totalen Stillstand in dir kommt. Dann findet dort eine neue Bewegung statt. Lass den Schmerz, die Sehnsucht, das Verletztsein sich ausweiten in dir. Du kannst nichts tun. Geh dorthin, wo du hilflos bist, wo du ohnmächtig bist, lass dich tragen, habe Vertrauen. Wenn es ganz ausgeweitet ist, wenn alles Platz hat, ist die Liebe da. Lass sie zu dir kommen, lass sie da sein. Du hast sie ein Leben lang gesucht, überall, mit allen Mitteln, in den Beziehungen, im Sex, in der Sucht, in der Arbeit. ⚡ Samuel Widmer (1948-2017) Schweizer Facharzt für Psychiatrie und Psychotherapie, Psychokultführer, Autor, Im Irrgarten der Lust. Abschied von der Abhängigkeit oder Die Geburt der Freude. Eine Liebesgeschichte, Editions Heuwinkel, 2. Ausgabe 1. Januar 1997

Verletzlichkeit ist nicht Schwäche. Ich definiere Verletzlichkeit als emotionales Risiko, Ausgeliefertsein, Unsicherheit. [...] Verletzlichkeit ist unser genauestes Maß von Mut. Videovortrag von Dr. Brené Brown (*1965) US-amerikanische Professorin für Sozialarbeit, Scham-, Verletzlichkeit- und Empathieforscherin, Universität Houston, Referentin, Autorin, Auf die Scham hören [Listening to shame], präsentiert von TED Talks, Minute 4:40, 20:38 Minuten Dauer, eingestellt 16. März 2012

Die Lebensstufen (Strandszene in Wiek), ~1834
Caspar David Friedrich (1774-1840) deutscher Maler

Das Zurückgewinnen des verletzten Kindes in Ihnen erinnert an ein Zen-Erlebnis. Kinder sind von Natur aus Zen-Meister, ihre Welt entsteht in jedem Augenblick wieder völlig neu. Für das nicht verletzte Kind ist das Staunen natürlich. Das Leben ist ein Mysterium, das gelebt werden will. Die Heim-
kehr ist die Wiederherstellung des Natürlichen. Eine solche Wiederherstellung ist nicht grandios oder dramatisch, son-
dern zeigt einfach nur, wie das Leben sein sollte.
John Bradshaw (1933-2016) US-amerikanischer Philosoph, Theologe, Psychologe, Autor, Das Kind in uns. Wie finde ich zu mir selbst, S. 87, Droemer Knaur Verlag, München, 14. August 2000

Ein Krieger des Lichts glaubt. Weil er an Wunder glaubt, geschehen auch Wunder. Weil er sich sicher ist, dass seine Gedanken sein Leben verändern können, verändert sich sein Leben. Weil er sicher ist, dass er der Liebe begegnen wird, begegnet ihm diese Liebe auch. Manchmal wird er enttäuscht, manchmal verletzt. Aber er weiß, dass es sich lohnt. Für jede Niederlage gibt es zwei Siege. Alle die glauben, wissen das. Paulo Coelho (*1947) brasilianischer esoterischer Erfolgsautor, Krieger des Lichts, Umschlagtext, Diogenes Verlag, Zürich, 11. Auflage März 2001

Tiefgreifende Veränderungen anstreben, heißt, Lösungen zu suchen, die v e r l e t z l i c h machen – und genau das lehnen die meisten Menschen ab. [...] Paradoxerweise wirkt genau das, was scheinbar zu nichts führt. [...] Die Ermu-
tigung, sich anderen Menschen gegenüber verletzlich zu zeigen, bietet einen Ausweg aus der Scham.
Dr. Patrick Carnes (*1944) führender US-amerikanischer Sexsuchtexperte und -therapeut, Minneapolis, Autor, Wenn Sex zur Sucht wird, S. 254, Kösel, München, 1992

Verletzlichkeit ist irgendwie sexy in spirituellen Kreisen, weshalb ich Hilflosigkeit verwende. Hilflosigkeit ist brutal. Interview mit Abdi Assadi, US-amerikanischer Akupunkteur, Heiler, spiritueller Berater, New York City, Die Fallen der Spiritualität, präsentiert von der Schweizer Zeitschrift Sein, April 2011

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Buchbesprechung:

Arno Gruen (1923-2015) deutsch-schweizerischer Psychologe, Psychoanalytiker, Zivilisationskritiker, Schriftsteller, Der Verrat am Selbst. Die Angst vor Autonomie bei Mann und Frau, 1986, Deutscher Taschenbuch Verlag (dtv), Neuauflage 1. Januar 1992

Denn eben, weil es Angst macht, ein eigenes Selbst zu sein, wurde das Selbst ja verraten. Es wiederzugewinnen heißt zunächst, die Gefühle von Hilflosigkeit, Schmerz und Wut zu durchleiden, die einmal so überwältigend waren, dass es ratsam schien, das Selbst zu opfern, um nichts mehr von ihm zu spüren. Anders als jene Reagans, die überall "Fenster der Verwundbarkeit" abzudichten suchen und auf diese Weise den Angstgrund ihres Machtgebarens verraten, findet der zur Autonomie ermutigte Freiheit im Akzeptieren seiner Verwundbarkeit.
Artikel Nur der verwundbare Mensch ist stark, präsentiert von dem deutschen Nachrichtenmagazin Der Spiegel, Hans Krieger, Heft Nr. 32, 5. August 1985

Eine gesunde Liebe basiert auf der Bereitschaft, verletzlich zu sein und den anderen tief in die Seele hereinzulassen, auf einer sehr tiefen Achtsamkeit und dem Wunsch, den Partner glücklich zu machen. Und das wird leichter, wenn wir ein paar Gedanken, Fähigkeiten und professionelle Hilfe hinzugeben.
Interview mit Prof. Robert Epstein (*1953) US-amerikanischer Professor der Psychologie, Redakteur der US-amerikanischen Zeitschrift Psychology Today, Autor, Lieben lernen, präsentiert von der Publikation Texte zur Kunst, Gastgeber Jörg-Uwe Albig, Heft Nr. 52, Dezember 2003

Literaturzitat

Was Macht hat, mich zu verletzen, ist nur halb so stark wie mein Gefühl, verletzt werden zu können.
William Shakespeare (1564-1616) englischer Dramatiker, Bühnenschriftsteller, Lyriker, Schauspieler, zitiert in: Aphorismen.de

Filmzitat

Menschen, die einmal verletzt wurden, können gefährlich sein, denn sie wissen, dass man überleben kann.
Leos Carax (*1960) französisch-amerikanischer Filmregisseur, Gesellschaftskritiker, Schriftsteller; zitiert in dem französischen Film
Die Liebenden vom Pont Neuf, 1991

Gedicht

Ich bin dir ganz nah gekommen,
obwohl ich es nicht wusste,
als ich kam, um dich zu verletzen.
Ich erkannte dich zuletzt als meinen Meister an,
als ich gegen dich kämpfte und unterlag.
Ich habe nur meine lästige Schuld vor dir getan,
als ich dich heimlich ausraubte.
Ich kämpfte in meinem Stolz gegen dich,
nur um all deine Kräfte in meiner Brust zu spüren.
Rebellisch löschte ich das Licht in meinem Haus,
und dein Himmel überraschte mich mit seinen Sternen.
Rabindranath Tagore (1861-1941) indisch-bengalischer Philosoph, Maler, Komponist, Musiker, Dichter, Schriftsteller, Nobelpreisträger für Literatur, 1913, zitiert in: Crossing, Vers 23

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Zitate von David R. Hawkins

⚠ Achtung Siehe Power vs. Truth (engl.) Januar 2013

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Stichwort:

Angriff aus feinstoffliche Ebenen

Spirituell hoch entwickelte Menschen bilden eine ernsthafte Gefahr für jene Kräfte, die Gott entgegenwirken. Daher kann es sein, dass sie feinstofflich angegriffen werden an Stellen, wo sie verletzlich sind und bei Positionalitäten, denen sie noch anhaften. Dr. David R. Hawkins, Quelle unbekannt

Die Hauptstützen des Egos sind Stolz / Unwissenheit, Wunsch seinen Fortbestand sicherzustellen und Angst vor dem Tod. Von diesen ist die Angst die ursprünglichste, weil die Verletzbarkeit des Egos darin besteht, dass seine scheinbare Wirklichkeit illusorisch ist und daher als Illusion entlarvt werden kann.
Dr. David R. Hawkins, Licht des Alls. Die Wirklichkeit des Göttlichen, S. 283, 2006

Realität ist radikal und schmeichelt nicht solchen Verhaltensweisen, die als Nett-Sein beschrieben werden. Das Zen der Wahrheit ist direkt und konfrontiert betrügerische Falschheit auf eine sehr präzise Weise. […] Die Straße
zur Erleuchtung ist nicht für blökende Schafe geeignet.
Dr. David R. Hawkins, Licht des Alls. Die Wirklichkeit des Göttlichen, S. 431, 2006

Wenn man sich verletzt fühlt, zeigt das, dass man sich verteidigt, was selbst wiederum das Festhalten an Unwahr-
heiten offenbart. Wahrheit benötigt keine Verteidigung und ist deshalb keine defensive Haltung. Wahrheit hat nichts
zu beweisen und ist nicht verletzbar, wenn man sie um eine Antwort fragt.
Dr. David R. Hawkins, Licht des Alls. Die Wirklichkeit des Göttlichen, S. 431, 2006

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Queensberry-Boxkampfregeln vs. Faustrecht

Für Bezwingende ist Verwundbarkeit sehr anziehend. Das lässt sich ablesen am Stil der Kriegsführung in westlichen Staaten, von denen sich manche an die Marquis von Queensberry-Boxkampfregeln halten, während andere das Faustrecht des Straßenkampfs praktizieren.
Dr. David R. Hawkins, Sedona Seminar Identification and Illusion, 3 DVD-Set, 14. August 2004

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General quotes

Personal avowals

I do not believe that sheer suffering teaches. If suffering alone taught, all the world would be wise, since everyone suffers. To suffering must be added mourning, understanding, patience, love, openness and the willingness to remain vulnerable. Anne Morrow Lindbergh (1906-2001) pioneering US American aviator, spouse of fellow aviator Charles Lindbergh, author, Hour of Gold, Hour of Lead. Diaries And Letters Of Anne Morrow Lindbergh, 1929-1932, S. 3, Houghton Mifflin, 1st edition
12. March 1973, 1993

I certainly do [feel a certain vulnerability]. My sensitivity would'nt be there if I didnt feel it. I have to stay close to the ground. I have to get hurt. You don't get hurt, if you’re calloused, you become more cynical. Cynicism is my enemy, it always has been. It’s predominant in our culture. It's killing us, that negativity. […] I don't want to be dishonest, be-
cause there is something about it that bothers me. It makes me callous. [...] Cynicism would breed in me. I don't
want cynicism to come, because it will be the end of me.
Video interview with Oliver Stone (*1946) US American film director, producer, screenwriter, author, Oliver Stone interview on Charlie Rose (1997), presented by the US American TV station PBS, interview show Charlie Rose, host Charlie Rose,
YouTube film, minute 21:28 and 24:45, 31:17 minutes duration, posted 21. July 2016

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Novak refers to critics of a Hitchcock film noir psychological thriller.

Vertigo (1958)

I always have been vulnerable and I always wanted to stay vulnerable because that's what makes you enjoy life too. If you give that up you give up being open to the joy and beauty of life. So I choose not to make my skin thick. If I could go back now I would probably not read the reviews. But it's hard not to because you want to improve. You feel like, well, they must know. Unfortunately, they don't always know. History has proven they're not right necessarily.
Feature interview with Kim Novak (*1933) retired US American film and television actress, visual artist, Kim Novak tells all, presented by the English daily newspaper The Daily Telegraph, Richard Rushfield, 3. March 2014

Shame makes us vulnerable and what makes us vulnerable makes us beautiful.
When I feel shame and really stay with it makes me much more connected to what we need.
Sharing what is shameful for me, in a vulnerable way, makes me available and I have learned that being vulnerable
is being safe.
We can not decide to run away from shame without at the same time running away from joy, unity and creativity.
Interview with Liv Larsson, Swedish certified trainer in Nonviolent Communication, "The Center for Nonviolent Communication",
April 2011

Recommendations

Poem from "Fables for the Frivolous", S. 82, 1898
"The Sycophantic Fox and the Gullible Raven"
by Guy Wetmore Carryl, illustrated by Peter Newell

Don't tell yourself you're sick, you're wounded. Get over it.
You have two choices: Get bitter or get better.
Audio keynote address by Wiki.Caroline Myss Myss.com (*1952)
US American spiritual teacher, mystic, medical intuitive, bestselling author, Living a Fearless Life: Why Not Risk It All?, MP3, sponsored by Ome-
ga Conference, archived by CMCMED Institute, New York City, New York, part 2, 27:44 minutes duration, 31. March-2. April 2006

Whatever you do, don't shut off your pain; accept your pain and remain vulnerable. However desperate you become, accept your pain as it is, because it is in fact trying to hand you a priceless gift: the chance of discovering, through spiritual practice, what lies behind sorrow. ⚡ Sogyal Rinpoche (1947-2019) Tibetan Dzogchen lama of the Nyingma tradition, founder and spiritual director of Rigpa, exposed sexual offender, Andrew Harvey (*1952) Indian-British religious scholar, Rumi translator and explicator, teacher of mystic traditions, architect of Sacred Activism, editor, poet, novelist, author, Patrick Gaffney, editor, Tibetan Book of Living and Dying, chapter 19, Harper Collins, 1992, Harper, San Francisco, revised edition 26. June 2012

Be soft.
Do not let the world make you hard.
Do not let the pain make you hate.
Do not let the bitterness steal your sweetness.
Take pride that even though the rest of the world may disagree, you still believe it to be a beautiful place.
Iain Thomas, I Wrote This For You, 20. December 2011, misattributed to Kurt Vonnegut Jr. (1922-2007) influential US American writer of the 20th century

Appeals

We do not deliberately hurt each other just for the fun of it.
We are often unaware of the ways we routinely and subtly violate each other's dignity.
If we continue to ignore the truth and consequences of [dignity] violations we will remain in an arrested state of emotional development. Donna Hicks, Ph.D., US American psychologist, facilitator during international conflicts, associate at
the Weatherhead Center for International Affairs, Harvard University, public educator, author, Dignity. Its Essential Role in Resolving Conflict, Yale University Press, 6. September 2011, reprint edition 29. January 2013

We owe our children, the most vulnerable citizens in our society, a life free of violence and fear.
Nelson Mandela (1918-2013) South African anti-apartheid activist, prisoner for 27 years during apartheid, first black president of South Africa (1994-1999), cited in: Etienne G. Krug (editor), World Report on Violence and Health, volume 1, "Foreword", S. ix,
World Health Organization, Geneva, 2002

Conclusion

Only the being whose robe is torn by great heartbreak will be given the purity and power of Divine Love. […]
In the broken-open heart you will find a fountain of deathless passion that will never run dry.
Jalal ad-Din Muḥammad Rumi (1207-1273) Persian Muslim Sufi mystic, theologian jurist, poet, excerpted from a poem, cited in: Andrew Harvey (*1952) Indian-British religious scholar, Rumi translator and explicator, teacher of mystic traditions, architect of Sacred Activism, editor, poet, novelist, author, Seymour Bernstein, The Hope. A Guide to Sacred Activism, S. 100, Hay House,
2009

Insights

Vulnerability, humility, softness, and resignation are vital. If you try to hang on to what you believe to be true
about yourself, it hurts. In the end, you have to agree to your death and resurrection. That’s the journey of the initiate.
Stuart Wilde stuartwilde.com (1946-2013) British music producer, humorist, lecturer, scriptwriter, essayist, lyricist, writer on metaphysics and consciousness, source unknown

The healing of our present woundedness may lie in recognizing and reclaiming the capacity we have to heal each
other, the enormous power in the simplest of human relationships:
➤ the strength of a touch,
➤ the blessing of forgiveness,
➤ the grace of someone else taking you just as you are and finding in you an unsuspected goodness.

Everyone alive has suffered. It is the wisdom gained from our wounds and from our own experiences of suffering
that makes us able to heal. Becoming expert has turned out to be less important than remembering and trusting the
wholeness in myself and everyone else. Expertise cures, but wounded people can best be healed by other woun-
ded people. Only other wounded people can understand what is needed, for the healing of suffering is compassion,
not expertise. Rachel Naomi Remen, M.D. (*1938) US American clinical professor of family and community medicine, UCSF school of medicine, co-founder and medical director of the Commonweal Cancer Help Program, storyteller, author, Kitchen Table Wisdom. Stories That Heal, S. 158, Riverhead Trade, 10th anniversary edition 1. August 2006

We're never so vulnerable than when we trust someone – but paradoxically, if we cannot trust, neither can we find love or joy. Walter Anderson (*1944) US American painter, chairman and CEO of Parade Publications (2000-2009), cited in: Satish Modi, In Love With Death, S. 27, Birlinn, 2010, 2014

Vulnerability or invulnerability is the result of your own thoughts. Nothing except your thoughts can attack you. Nothing except your thoughts can make you think you are vulnerable. And nothing except your thoughts can prove to you this
is not so. ⚡ A Course in Miracles (ACIM) workbook, Lesson 26, 1976, revised 1996

Grief can be the garden of compassion. If you keep your heart open through everything, your pain can become your greatest ally in your life's search for love and wisdom. Jalal ad-Din Muḥammad Rumi (1207-1273) Persian Muslim Sufi mystic, jurist, theologian, poet, cited in: Rumi Quotes and Rumi Poems

Everybody is vulnerable. The real risk is to sabotage yourself.
Audio keynote address by Caroline Myss Myss.com (*1952) US American spiritual teacher, mystic, medical intuitive, bestselling author, Living a Fearless Life: Why Not Risk It All?, MP3, sponsored by the Omega Conference, archived by CMED Institute,
New York City, New York, part 2, 27:44 minutes duration, 31. March-2. April 2006

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Healing from wounds

We are not meant to stay wounded. We are supposed to move through our tragedies and challenges and to help each other move through the many painful episodes of our lives. By remaining stuck in the power of our wounds, we block our own transformation. We overlook the greater gifts inherent in our wounds – the strength to overcome them and the lessons that we are meant to receive through them. Wounds are the means through which we enter the hearts of other people. They are meant to teach us to become compassionate and wise. Caroline Myss Myss.com (*1952) US American spiritual teacher, mystic, medical intuitive, bestselling author, Why People Don't Heal and How They Can, Harmony, 1st edition
23. September 1998, chapter 1, S. 15, Bantam House, Crown Publishing Group, 4. September 2013

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Vulnerability to love

See also: Peaceful Warrior – The journey (Words of Wisdom), YouTube film, 3:44 minutes duration, posted 11. Juli 2009

You're most vulnerable when you're experiencing love. Beyond love is unity, where vulnerability and invulnerability become one.
1. Love is the first emanation, the first particularization of the supreme reality, which is unity. The first expression, the first breath of the unity is divine universal love, with its sweetness and delicacy. That is where you are the most vulnerable, before your vulnerability becomes invulnerability. When you're loving, you still feel at the mercy of everything.
2. The step beyond that is to become even more vulnerable, and then you're completely invulnerable.

So we're seeing how love can lead always to complete vulnerability and thus to invulnerability. Love is the highest, the deepest, the most intense, the most expansive possibility of feeling. Love is the heart. Beyond love is the supreme reality, which is beyond feeling or no feeling. So vulnerability is vulnerability to love, and extremely deep vulnerability is love. If you really are vulnerable, you’re loving. You can't help but be loving. And if you're very lo-
ving, you can’t help but feel vulnerable. If you allow yourself to feel, your heart is completely open. A.H. Almaas, Ph.D. diamondapproach.org (*1944) Kuwaitian physicist, spiritual teacher, founder of the therapeutic Diamond Approach, author, Being and the Meaning of Life (Diamond Heart, Book 3), S. 206, Shambhala Publications, 5. September 2000, 4. June 2013

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State of defenselessness

When one finally allows the state of vulnerability, it can manifest as a state of defenselessness. This indicates the dropping of the defensiveness of ego. Such letting go means the abandonment, usually transitory, of certain deep identification systems. These constitute the core of the defensive structures of ego. The result is again the manifestation of emptiness, this time vast and of immeasurable depth. It is a deeper dimension of space. A.H. Almaas, Ph.D. (*1944) Kuwaitian physicist, spiritual teacher, founder of the therapeutic Diamond Approach, author, The Pearl Beyond Price. Integration of Personality into Being. An Object Relations Approach, S. 382, Diamond Books, 1st edition 5. September 2000

"Click accelerators" for connecting with people are:
1. Vulnerability
  Open up about topics that capture people’s attention and enable them to empathize with you. People will reciprocate and open up as well. Appearing strong and in control is no means to click.
2. Proximity
  Being close to your community. Show up at events. Due to multiple exposures people are going to like you better.
3. Resonance / Flow
  Be and stay present and flow. Ask questions, express genuine interest.
4. Similarity
  Similarity is hard wired into the human psyche. Discover about seven or eight topics of joint similar interest.
5. Safe place / Environment
  Belong to a clearly defined community. The context 'we are in it together' is a critical factor.
6. Engagement
7. Chemistry / Magic

Video interview with Ori Brafman, Israeli entrepreneur in business, government, and the nonprofit sector, leader of political and advocacy campaigns, How To Click With People, presented by web radio podcaster Mixergy, host Andrew Warner, 57:04 minutes duration, posted 17. June 2010

[T]he source of evil and of things going wrong in women's lives is often a failure to deal with and get over hurt feelings. Dr. Marie-Louise von Franz (1915-1998) Swiss Jungian psychologist, Jungian scholar, author, Feminine in Fairy Tales, Shambhala, Boulder, Colorado, 1993, revised edition 1. May 2001

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Programmed for fake invincibility

[Women] were falling in love with men who appeared to be invulnerable.
The ability to kill always requires the vulnerability of being exposed to being killed.
The irony of male allegeability is that it is created by vulnerability that is masked as invulnerability. And to this day this is the male tragedy.
Removed audio interview with Warren Farrell Farrell.com (*1943) US American political scientist, author, spokesman of men's liberation, men's rights activist, former director of the National Organisation for Women, speaker, author, The Myth of Male Power, presented by the podcast platform Simon & Schuster Audio, host Tom Howard, deleted YouTube film, posted 10. July 2008

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Daring greatly: What counts is the man in the arena – not the critic.

It is not the critic who counts: not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles or where the doer of deeds could have done better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood, who strives valiantly, who errs and comes up short again and again, because there is no effort without error or shortcoming, but who knows the great enthusiasms, the great devotions, who spends himself for a worthy cause; who, at the best, knows, in the end, the triumph of high achievement, and who, at the worst, if he fails, at least he fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who knew neither victory nor defeat. Theodore Roosevelt (1858-1919) 26th US president (1901-1909), speech "Citizen-
ship in a Republic", presented at University Sorbonne, Paris, France, 23. April 1910

Petrified log
Petrified Forest National Park, Arizona, United States

Maybe to be powerful is to be fragile. Ai Weiwei (*1957) leading Chinese artist, curator, architectural designer, cultural and social commentator and activist, Twitter feed by @AiWW, 25. January 2012

Our vulnerability allows us to be hurt. But our vulnerability allows us to be loved. If we were tough and totally in control there is no space for love, no intimacy, no softness. The same vulnerability that allows us to be hurt allows us to be intimate, connected and loved. Video presentation by Frederic Luskin, Ph.D., US American health psychologist, director of the Stanford Forgiveness Project, author of Forgive for Good, The Choice to Forgive, presented by the Greater Good Science Center, UC Berkeley, California, YouTube film, 3:22 minutes duration, posted 11. August 2010

To live with ambiguity is to accept vulnerability.
Robert Jay Lifton, M.D. (*1926) US American psychiatrist, researcher of the psychological causes and effects of war and political violence, developer of the theory of thought reform, cited in: A New Slant on Vulnerability: Courage Not Conformity, presented by the US American bimonthly magazine Psychology Today, Robert W. Firestone Ph.D., 8. March 2012

It is almost always the case that whatever has wounded you will also be instrumental in your healing.
Robert A. Johnson (1921-2018) US American Jungian analyst, lecturer, author, She. Understanding Feminine Psychology, 1976, Harper Perennial, revised edition 1. November 1989

Using another as a means of satisfaction and security is not love. Love is never security; Love is a state in which there is no desire to be secure; It is a state of vulnerability. Jiddu Krishnamurti (1895-1986) Indian spiritual teacher, theosophist, philosopher, author, What Are You Doing with Your Life? Books on Living for Teenagers, Volume One, S. 207, Krishnamurti Foundation of America, 2001

Cartoon To Love at All, presented by the blogspot patheos.com, James Ford, 15. October 2013

To love at all is to be vulnerable. Love anything, and your heart will certainly be wrung and possibly broken. If you want to make sure of keeping it intact, you must give your heart to no one, not even to an animal. Wrap it carefully round with hobbies and little luxuries; avoid all entanglements; lock it up safe in the casket or coffin of your selfish-
ness. But in that casket-safe, dark, motionless, airless – it will change. It will not be broken; it will become unbreak-
able, impenetrable, irredeemable. The alternative to tragedy, or at least to the risk of tragedy, is damnation. The
only place outside of Heaven where you can be perfectly safe from all the dangers and perturbations of love is Hell.
C. S. Lewis (1898-1963) Irish British literary scholar, novelist, The Four Loves, Geoffrey Bles, Ireland, 1960, HarperOne, paperback issue 14. February 2017

Few really get to the core of their wounding and work through it because of what such an undertaking asks of them,
not the least of which is the courage to fully be in a state of prerational or preverbal vulnerability.
⚡ Robert Augustus Masters, Ph.D. robertmasters.com (*1947) Canadian psychologist, psychotherapist, cult leader of Xanthyros community, author, Facebook comment, 20. December 2011

Write straight into the emotional center of things.
Write toward vulnerability.
Don't worry about appearing sentimental.
Worry about being unavailable;
worry about being absent or fraudulent.
Anne Lamott (*1954) US American bestselling author, recovering conversed alcoholic, Bird by Bird. Some Instructions on Writing and Life, Pantheon Books, 5. May 1994, Anchor, 1st edition 1. September 1995

The average child gets 432 negative messages to 32 positive messages every single day.
We are buffeted with that kind of violence – the negative messages.
Once you become vulnerable truly you become very potent, very powerful because you don't have anything to hide.
We are programmed not to feel good about ourselves. We generally don't [...] love ourselves because we are programmed not to.
Cynicism is a way to protect ourselves. [...] It is almost like we have become warriors and have an armor.
Audio interview with Stan Dale (1929-2007) US American sex, love and intimacy expert, transactional analyst, founder of the
Human Awareness Institute (*1968), recipient of the Mahatma Gandhi peace medallion, radio broadcaster, teacher, author, Intimacy [i.e. "into me you see"], 2003

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Narcissistic personality disorder is a mental disorder in which people have an inflated sense of their own importance and a deep need for admiration. They believe that they're superior to others and have little regard for other people's feelings. But behind this mask of ultra-confidence lies a fragile self-esteem, vulnerable to the slightest criticism. Definition by Narcissistic personality disorder, presented by Mayo Clinic, 18. November 2017

It is childhood trauma that makes individuals most vulnerable to unhealthy levels of narcissistic traits, and that allows narcissistic behavior to take hold and flourish. The incidence of childhood trauma has increased by more than 40 percent over the past twenty years, and as a result, we are all feeling the effects of a generation with deep narcissistic wounds.
Drew Pinsky, M.D. (*1958) US American internist, addiction medicine specialist, assistant clinical professor, Keck USC School of Medicine, radio and television personality, author, S. Mark Young, Ph.D., US American professor of accounting and management, journalism and communication, The Mirror Effect. How Celebrity Narcissism Is Seducing America, S. 143, Harper, 1st edition 17. March 2009

The intimacy that arises in listening and speaking truth is only possible if we can open to the vulnerability of our own hearts. Breathing in, contacting the life that is right here, is our first step. Once we have held ourselves with kindness, we can touch others in a vital and healing way.
Tara Brach, Ph.D. tarabrach.com (*1953) US American psychologist, political scientist, proponent of Buddhist meditation, author, True Refuge. Finding Peace and Freedom in Your Own Awakened Heart, Bantam House, 22. January 2013

Fear of vulnerability is suppression of emotion, not control. This is a deep-seated flaw in our culture. The sup-
pression of emotion is that which causes so much of humanities’ dysfunction, not the control of emotion.
Removed radio show "Thinking Matters" by host Annette Jahnel (*1962) South African photographer, artist, world traveller, public speaker, author, Love 2, presented by the South African Whale Coast Radio 96 fm, minute 18:09, 30:40 minutes duration, aired
25. April 2016, posted 27. April 2016

Reference: en.Wikiquote entry ► Vulnerability

Poetry

I said: what about my eyes? He said: Keep them on the road.
I said: What about my passion? He said: Keep it burning.
I said: What about my heart? He said: Tell me what you hold inside it?
I said: Pain and sorrow. He said: Stay with it. The wound is the place where the Light enters you.
Unsourced quote by Jalal ad-Din Muḥammad Rumi (1207-1273) Persian Muslim Sufi mystic, jurist, theologian, poet, cited in: Goodreads Quotable Quote

No, I do not want to be loved unconditionally.
I want to be shown when I am treating you less than you deserve.
I want you to leave it I ever start making you promises I do not see through.
Love me for my flaws, yes, but don't you dare ever allow them to hurt you.
Beau Taplin, Australian self-publishing author, A little known fact of longing, undated

Movie quote

If I asked you about women you'd probably give me a syllabus of your personal favorites. You may have even been laid a few times. But you can't tell me what it feels like to wake up next to a woman and feel truly happy. [Y]ou've never looked at a woman and been totally vulnerable. Knowing someone could level you with her eyes. Feeling like God put an angel on earth just for you [...] who could rescue you from the depths of hell. And you wouldn't know what it's like to be her angel and to have that love for her to be there forever. Through anything. Through cancer. You wouldn't know about sleeping sittin’ up in a hospital room for two months holding her hand because the doctors could see in your eyes that the term visiting hours don't apply to you. Transcript from the movie Good Will Hunting, written by Matt Damon and Ben Affleck; scene: psychiatrist Sean and young genius Will sitting together on a park bench in Boston. Good Will Hunting – Park Scene, YouTube film, minute 1:20, 4:46 minutes duration, posted 23. July 2007

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All humans and societies are vulnerable and imperfect.

In cruel societies missing out on human dignity vulnerability is seen as weakness, imperfection is seen as inadequacy. Many humans buy into the idea to be "less than", not worthy of belonging.

It is the struggle for worthiness and belonging that leads to bullying. […]
[A]s our fear, uncertainty, and feelings of vulnerability increase, cruelty becomes an acceptable way for us to discharge our pain and discomfort. Rather than doing the difficult work of embracing our own vulnerabilities and imperfections, we expose, attack, or ridicule what is vulnerable and imperfect about others. […] We must open our hearts and minds to a new way of thinking about vulnerability and imperfection. Vulnerability may be at the core of fear and uncertainty, but it is also the birthplace of courage and compassion – exactly what we need to help us stop lashing out.
Interview with Brené Brown, Ph.D., LMSW (*1965) US American shame, vulnerability, empathy researcher, Graduate College of Social Work, University of Houston, public speaker, author, The Cruelty Crisis. Bullying Isn't a School Problem, It's a National Pastime. Exclusion, humiliation, gossiping, and name-calling – we can't get enough!, presented by the US Ame-
rican bimonthly magazine Psychology Today, 1. November 2010

To love someone fiercely, to believe in something with your whole heart, to celebrate a fleeting moment in time, to fully engage in a life that doesn't come with guarantees – these are risks that in-
volve vulnerability and often pain. But, I'm learning that recogni-
zing and leaning into the discomfort of vulnerability teaches us
how to live with joy, gratitude and grace.
Brené Brown, Ph.D., LMSW (*1965) US American shame, vulnerability, empathy researcher, Graduate College of Social Work, University of Houston, public speaker, author, The Gifts of Imperfection. Let Go of Who You Think You're Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are, Hazelden, 1st edition 27. August 2010

The thing that I have learned is that vulnerability is at the center of fear and shame, but it is also at the center of joy and gratitude and love and belonging. If we continue to wake up every day and put our game faces on and think that invulne-
rability is the way to be [...] then we pay the price, because I don't know that we would ever fully experience joy and love and belonging. Interview with Brené Brown, Ph.D., LMSW (*1965) US American shame, vulnerability, empathy researcher, Graduate College of Social Work, University of Houston, public speaker, author, Professor Encourages Openness to Vulnerability, presented by the University of Houston, undated

We need to share with those who have earned the right to hear it and people who are invested in the friendship. Social media has given us this idea that we should all have a posse of friends when in reality, if we have one or two really good friends, we are lucky. Sharing and hearing intimate stories is also not most people's "default setting," since we tend to
self-protect from hurtful things. If someone drops a shame bomb on me, I am likely to give a non-compassionate res-
ponse if my own resources feel scarce.
Blog article featuring Brené Brown, Ph.D., LMSW (*1965) US American shame, vulnerability, empathy researcher, Graduate College of Social Work, University of Houston, public speaker, author, Author Brené Brown Discusses Embracing Our Ordinariness, presented by the US American liberal-oriented online newspaper Huffington Post, Martha Rosenberg, 21. February 2011, updated 17. November 2011

Our secrets definitely keep us addicted, which is probably why there are online sites where people can divest them-
selves of their secrets, anonymously. But because shame happens between people, there is no substitute for telling on ourselves, so to speak, to someone else and making ourselves vulnerable. Vulnerability is the birthplace of connection
and the path to the feeling of worthiness. If it doesn't feel vulnerable, the sharing is probably not constructive. Blog article featuring Brené Brown, Ph.D., LMSW (*1965) US American shame, vulnerability, empathy researcher, Graduate College of Social Work, University of Houston, public speaker, author, Author Brené Brown Discusses Embracing Our Ordinariness, presented by the US American liberal-oriented online newspaper Huffington Post, Martha Rosenberg, 21. February 2011, updated 17. November 2011

Vulnerability is the birthplace of innovation, creativity and change. Video presentation by Brené Brown, Ph.D., LMSW (*1965) US American shame, vulnerability, empathy researcher, Graduate College of Social Work, University of Houston, public speaker, author, Listening to shame, presented by TED Talks, YouTube film, minute 5:58, 20:38 minutes duration, posted 16. March 2012

Sterbender Achill, Garten des Achilleion, Korfu, 1884
Ernst Herter, deutscher Bildhauer

Vulnerability is not weakness. [...] Vulnerability is our most accurate measurement of courage.
Video presentation by Brené Brown, Ph.D., LMSW (*1965) US American shame, vulnerability, empathy researcher, Graduate College of Social Work, University of Houston, public speaker, author, Listening to shame, presented by TED Talks, minute 4:40, 20:38 minutes duration, posted
16. March 2012

Vulnerability is the best measure of courage.
Video presentation by Brené Brown, Ph.D., LMSW (*1965) US American shame, vulnerability, empathy researcher, Graduate College of Social Work, University of Houston, public speaker, author, Brené Brown on the Best Way to Measure Courage, presented by the US American daytime self-help talk show Super Soul Sunday, host Oprah Winfrey (*1954) US American actress, talk show host, billionaire entrepreneur, visionary philanthropist, 1:31 minute duration, aired 4. October 2015

Faith minus vulnerability and mystery equals politics, or worse, extremism. Spiritual connection and engagement is
not built on compliance, it's the product of love, belonging, and vulnerability.
Brené Brown, Ph.D., LMSW (*1965) US American shame, vulnerability, empathy researcher, Graduate College of Social Work, University of Houston, public speaker, author, Daring Greatly. How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live,
Love, Parent, and Lead, Gotham, 1st edition 11. September 2012

Vulnerability is not weakness. Vulnerability is the core, the heart, the center of meaningful human experiences.
Brené Brown, Ph.D., LMSW (*1965) US American shame, vulnerability, empathy researcher, Graduate College of Social Work, University of Houston, public speaker, author, Daring Greatly. How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live,
Love, Parent, and Lead, Gotham, 1st edition 11. September 2012

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Wholeheartedness

[Partially paraphrased]

Love and belonging is an irreducible need. We all need it.
Those who feel a deep sense of love and belonging [...] feel loveable. They believe they are worthy of being loved.
A strong belief in our worthiness doesn't just happen. It must be cultivated.
The main concern of Wholehearted men and women is living a life defined by courage, compassion, and connection.
The Wholehearted identify vulnerability as the catalyst for courage, compassion, and connection. The willingness to be vulnerable is the single most important factor shared among the Wholehearted.

Brené Brown, Ph.D., LMSW (*1965) US American shame, vulnerability, empathy researcher, Graduate College of Social Work, University of Houston, public speaker, author, Daring Greatly. How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live,
Love, Parent, and Lead, Gotham, 1st edition 11. September 2012

Vulnerability is not winning or losing; it's having the courage to show up and be seen when we have no control over
the outcome. Vulnerability is not weakness; it's our greatest measure of courage.
Brené Brown, Ph.D., LMSW (*1965) US American shame, vulnerability, empathy researcher, Graduate College of Social Work, University of Houston, public speaker, author, Rising Strong. The Reckoning. The Rumble. The Revolution, Spiegel & Grau,
25. August 2015

I define vulnerability as uncertainty, risk and emotional exposure. With that definition in mind, let's think about love. Waking up every day and loving someone who may or may not love us back, whose safety we can't ensure, who may
stay in our lives or may leave without a moment's notice, who may be loyal to the day they die or betray us tomorrow – that's vulnerability. Brené Brown, Ph.D., LMSW (*1965) US American shame, vulnerability, empathy researcher, Graduate College
of Social Work, University of Houston, public speaker, author, Daring Greatly. How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the
Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead, Avery, reprint edition 7. April 2015

See also: ► Empathy: Quotes by Brené Brown and ► Shame: Quotes by Brené Brown

Siehe auch: ► Zitate über Scham – Brené Brown

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Quotes by David R. Hawkins

⚠ Caveat See Power vs. Truth, January 2013

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Sensitiveness reveals one's weakness.

Anything one is sensitive about is something one hasn't acknowledged yet.
Dr. David R. Hawkins, source unknown

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Psychic attacks – pointed to vulnerable spots.

Highly spiritually advanced people become a serious threat to the God opposing forces. That's why they can experience psychic attacks in their vulnerable spots and positionalities still held.
Dr. David R. Hawkins, Sedona Seminar Thought and Ideation, 3 DVD set, 28. February 2004

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Shame

People at the emotional level [of Shame] are vulnerable to all the other negative emotions. They wish they were invisible. Banishment is a traditional accompa-
niment. It is destructive to health. Shame leads to cruelty to self and others and often results in paranoia, delusions, and psychosis. Dr. David R. Hawkins, source unknown

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Pride

Pride is defensive and vulnerable because it's dependent on external conditions, without which it can suddenly revert to a lower level. The inflated ego is vulnerable to attack. [...] Pride is divisive and gives rise to factionalism; the consequences are costly. [endless wars] [...] The downside of Pride is arrogance and denial. These characteristics block growth.
Dr. David R. Hawkins, Power vs. Force. The Hidden Determinants of Human Behavior, chapter 4, S. 82-83, Hay House, February 2002

Humor is important to the maturation process whereby we learn how to not take ourselves so seriously and learn to laugh at ourselves, thus decreasing narcissistic defensiveness. To be prone to "hurt feelings" is egocentric and a form of social paranoia. When we admit our downside and learn to laugh at it, we are no longer vulnerable to slights and insults. It is beneficial to list all of one's human foibles and limitations and make peace with them in order to be at
peace with oneself.
Dr. David R. Hawkins, Truth vs. Falsehood. How to Tell the Difference, chapter 9 "Social Structure and Functional Truth", S. 112, 2005

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The anarchist ego the attack the vulnerable.

The core of the ego is a rebellious anarchist, atheist, and exhibitionist that expects life to be an endless Roman orgy, including intoxicating abandon and polymor-
phous, perverse sexuality that permits abuse of the naive and vulnerable.
Dr. David R. Hawkins, Truth vs. Falsehood. How to Tell the Difference, chapter "Truth: The Pathway to Freedom", S. 253, 2005

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Divisive pride and ego are defensive and vulnerable.

Pride feels good only in contrast to the lower levels. Because "Pride goeth before a fall;" it is defensive and vulnerable as it is dependent upon external conditions, without which it can suddenly revert to a lower level. The inflated ego is vulnerable to attack. Pride remains weak because it can be knocked off its pedestal into Shame, which is the threat that fires the fear of loss of pride. Pride is divisive and gives rise to factionalism, resulting in costly consequences. Man has habitually died for Pride for which armies still regularly slaughter each other.
Dr. David R. Hawkins, Discovery of the Presence of God. Devotional Nonduality, chapter 8, S. 147, 2007, also in: Transcending Levels of Consciousness. The Stairway to Enlightenment, chapter 8, S. 147, 2006

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⚠ Trap/necessity/integration of desiringness

Note: Seven primary emotional systems – Jaak Panksepp

Vulnerability persists as long as there are still desires for gain, pride, vanity, control, wealth or sensual pleasure. With spiritual maturity, perception is repla-
ced by vision that reflects essence and spiritual truth, resulting in the capacity to see through self deception. Vision is associated with spiritual wisdom, which makes clear that exploitation leads to loss and descent rather than progressive ascen-
dancy.
Spiritual purity is the consequence of self-honesty, which is a result of true devotion. To be a servant of God is to align with Divine Guidance that leads to looking to the Self rather than catering to self or the world. Dr. David R. Hawkins, Transcending Levels of Consciousness. The Stairway to Enlightenment, section V "Overview" S. 316 [318], 2006

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Externalized happiness leaves you vulnerable.

All the negative energy fields are based on placing the source of our happiness externally. This results as being vulnerable and also being the potential, hopeless victim. Being a victim means perceiving a cause as being outside of ourselves. […] It is only by owning ourselves as the source of happiness, as the experience of our existence, independent and beyond that which happens within the world, that we become immune to depressive episodes.
Dr. David Hawkins, Healing and Recovery, chapter 12 "Depression", S. 366-367, 2009

We can use this anger by turning it into anger at the vulnerability. One can say, "Now it is time to be angry at the real cause, which is that I was brought up in a world that taught me to think this way. I was taught that this is the right way to think." That is what we need to be angry about – that we were taught how to think in a way that sets us up as potential victims – to think that something or someone outside ourself is the source of happiness. The usual projected fantasy is that 'success' is the source of happiness, is it not? Will success bring us happiness?
I used to live on the East Coast near a community of millionaires, and despite their affluence, occasionally someone committed suicide or took a drug overdose. They were not at all immune to the human vulnerabilities. Therefore, world-
ly success (e.g. celebrity status) does not bring immunity. What we need to be angry at is what caused us to sell our-
selves out and then learn how we do it. Then we can take pride in the fact that we are willing to look at this now and move up to the level of Courage to tell the truth about it. The truth is that something within our consciousness sets us up to be vulnerable. Dr. David Hawkins, Healing and Recovery, chapter 12 "Depression", S. 375-376, 2009

A self-honest person is not prone to having his or her feelings hurt or "having a bone to pick" with others. Honest insight has an immediate benefit in the reduction of actual as well as potential emotional pain. A person is vulnerable to emo-
tional pain in exact relationship to the degree of self-awareness and self-acceptance.
Dr. David R. Hawkins, Along the Path to Enlightenment. 365 Reflections from David R. Hawkins, edited by , Reflection of May 27th,
S. 79, January 2011

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Humor enhances the maturation process.:

Humor is important to the maturation process, whereby we learn how to not take ourselves so seriously and to laugh at ourselves, thus decreasing narcissistic defensiveness. To be prone to "hurt feelings" is egocentric and a form of social paranoia. When we admit our downside and learn to laugh at it, we are no longer vulnerable to slights and insults.
Dr. David R. Hawkins, Along the Path to Enlightenment. 365 Reflections from David R. Hawkins, edited by Scott Jeffrey, Reflection
of August 9th, January 2011

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Exploitable innocence

The most exploitable product or aspect of life is man's intrinsic innocence. The real charlatan knows that within the person there is that vulnerability of innocence and all they have to do is figure out how to get to it. Interview Dr. David R. Hawkins, A Conversation with Knowingness, part I of II, presented by the dissolved US American Four Corners Magazine, Pamela Becker, April/May 2007

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Not taking bullying personally

Recontextualizing the human condition expressed as inconsiderate behavior

To quit taking things personally means to become detached. That allows your perception of the person to be corrected. Also, it dawns on you they're not being that way with you, they are just being that way because that's who they are. They are that way with themselves. You stop feeling being hurt because they are that way. Some people are gruff, mean and horrid. They don't mean anything by it. They are just gruff, mean and horrid. [Ha ha.] Dr. David R. Hawkins, Sedona Seminar Positionality and Duality: Transcending the Opposites, 3 DVD set, April 2002

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Love is open and vulnerable.

Lovingness is a condition. It's a way of being. [...] What love is is an openness and a vulnerability. […] Part of love is trust. The more loving we are, the more capable we are of trust. That's the way we get out of the negative.
Dr. David R. Hawkins, Sedona Seminar Perception and Illusion: Distortions of Reality, 3 DVD set, 4. May 2002

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Owning one's [projected on] downside

If someone calls you a liar, tell 'em, 'Ya I am, I’m the best liar on the planet. Ya wanna hire me? I'm worth a fortune.' […] 'Every time I wake up in the morning I call 911 because I’m so ugly.' Hahaha […]. You see, when you accept the possible downside of everything, nothing can offend you. 'You're greedy.' 'Ya I'm greedy, I'm Mr. Greedy, man. Give me what I want.' No what I mean, just become what people say you are. 'You're impervious.' 'There is nothing you can say. Uh huh.' So we can not make neurotism the law of the land. You're not going to be able to not offend somebody. See. Because some people are going to be offended if you do and some people will be offended if ya don’t. Consequently, you're always going to offend somebody. So live with it. Hahaha […]. Dr. David R. Hawkins, Sedona Seminar Devotion: The Way to God Through the Heart, 3 DVD set, 27. September 2002

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Vulnerable linear love

Only 4% of the population ever gets to 500 or beyond. Beyond 500, love is no longer an emotion. Before 500, love is dualistic – the source and happiness are "out there". Therefore, before 500 love is vulnerable, can be lost. At 500 love becomes a way of BEING, the way we ARE with the world and with ourselves. We don't allow others to abuse us, and we don’t abuse ourselves.
Dr. David R. Hawkins, Seminar The Realization of the Presence of God, Houston, Texas, 11. October 2003

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Forceful entities and people are attracted to the vulnerable.

Vulnerability is very attractive to force. The history of Western wars is that one side uses Marquess of Queensberry Rules and the other side uses street rules.
Dr. David R. Hawkins, Sedona Seminar Identification and Illusion, 3 DVD set, 14. August 2004

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Avoidance of questionable energies

When you work with people with questionable energies, they will sense for your vulnerability, whichever chakra it is, whatever is involved with your karma. As Jesus taught, avoid these energies. Dr. David R. Hawkins, Sedona Seminar Witnessing and Observing, 3 DVD set, 16. October 2004

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Tears, a relief valve of the changing brain

Question: When I am in the presence of beauty or love, often tears come up. Is there a line between that and emotionality?
Answer: No, it’s a stage you go through and it may last for years. It has nothing to do with gender. You can look at two people looking at each other with a loving look and you begin to cry – or a beautiful aria from an opera – any kind of stunning beauty. It's a sensitivity to beauty that arises, and as you get in the 500s, it becomes almost continuous. You have to desist from certain activities because you break down and cry all the time. It may last some years. If people at work ask about it, just tell them the truth – that beauty makes you cry. It's normal. It's not emotion – because neurologically your brain changes. There's a concept called neuroplasticity. Experience changes the chemistry of your brain physiology. The neuronal connections are always constantly changing. So crying is part of that shift of the energy balance and your brain is putting out endorphins. If you are loving, you put out endorphins. Someone who is upset all the time is putting out adrenalin. You walk into a great cathedral and you break into tears. You see what it took to create it.
Dr. David R. Hawkins, Sedona Satsang Q&A, CD 2 of 2, 10. January 2007

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Tenet of the 12-step programs

"Justified resentments"

The Twelve-step programs teach that there is no such thing as a justified resentment. All that was yesterday. You don't get to bask in feeling sorry for yourself. Dr. David R. Hawkins, Prescott Seminar Overcoming Doubt, Skepticism and Disbelief, 3 DVD set, 9. August 2008

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Behavioural patterns that make one vulnerable – Matthieu Ricard

The French Buddhist monk Matthieu Ricard is known as 'The Happiest Man in the World'. The former geneticist, humanitarian and bestselling author named ten attitudes that keep us from living our potential.

༺༻	Schädliches Verhalten, das die Schwungkraft der Aura lähmt
1.	Cultivating an exascerbated sense of self-importance
2.	To keep ruminating on the past
3.	Being anxious about the future
4.	Being unable to rest in the awareness of the present moment
5.	Pinning all of one's hopes on the outer conditions of happiness [physical appearance, wealth, fame, and power]
6.	Neglecting to cultivate the inner conditions of happiness [inner peace, inner freedom, altruistic love and compassion]
7.	Seeking happiness only for oneself, and not for others
8.	Relating to the suffering of others in a self-centered way, but not with altruistic love and compassion
9.	Being overly concerned with pleasant or unpleasant feelings, gain and loss, praise and criticism, fame and anonymity
10.	Distorting reality by constantly superimposing mental projections upon others and the outside world

Source: ► Removed blog entry The ten things that make us vulnerable, presented by Matthieu Ricard (*1946) French molecular biologist, Buddhist monk, photographer, author, 28. May 2012

Siehe auch: ► Selbstschädigende Einstellungen und Verhaltensmuster – Matthieu Ricard

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Anyway – Attitudes of imperturbability

Paradoxical commandments

༺༻	Ordinary way	Anyway
1.	People are illogical, unreasonable, and self-centered.	Love them anyway.
2.	If you do good, people will accuse you of selfish ulterior motives.	Do good anyway.
3.	If you are successful, you will win false friends and true enemies.	Succeed anyway.
4.	The good you do today will be forgotten tomorrow.	Do good anyway.
5.	Honesty and frankness make you vulnerable.	Be honest and frank anyway.
6.	The biggest men and women with the biggest ideas can be shot down by the smallest men and women with the smallest minds.	Think big anyway.
7.	People favor underdogs but follow only top dogs.	Fight for a few underdogs anyway.
8.	What you spend years building may be destroyed overnight.	Build anyway.
9.	People really need help but may attack you if you do help them.	Help people anyway.
10.	Give the world the best you have and you'll get kicked in the teeth.	Give the world the best you have anyway.

Originator: ► Kent Keith, 1968

See also: ► Let's see and ► Paradox

Note: ► Mother Teresa changed the original somewhat and had it engraved at the wall
of her children home in Calcutta, India. Since then the poem has been adjudged.

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Links zum Thema Verletzlichkeit / Vulnerability

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Literatur

Safi Nidiaye (*1951) deutsche Zeitschriften- und Fernsehjournalistin, Meditationslehrerin, Dichterin, Schriftstellerin, Die Stimme des Herzens. Der Weg zum größten aller Geheimnisse, Bastei Lübbe, 9. Auflage 25. April 2000
Paulo Coelho (*1947) brasilianischer esoterischer Erfolgsautor, Krieger des Lichts, Diogenes Verlag, Zürich, 11. Auflage März 2001
Dr. Brené Brown (*1965) US-amerikanische Professorin für Sozialarbeit, Scham-, Verletzlichkeit- und Empathieforscherin, Universität Houston, Referentin, Autorin, Verletzlichkeit macht stark. Wie wir unsere Schutzmechanismen aufgeben und innerlich reich werden [Rising Strong, August 2015], Kailash, 26. August 2013, Goldmann Verlag, München, Taschenbuch,
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Literature (engl.)

Brené Brown, Ph.D., LMSW (*1965) US American shame, vulnerability, empathy researcher, Graduate College of Social Work, University of Houston, public speaker, author, Women & Shame. Reaching Out, Speaking Truths and Building Connection,
3C Press, 1. May 2004
Laura Kipnis, Ph.D. (*1956) US American professor of media studies, Northwestern University, cultural and media critic, video artist, author, The Female Thing. Dirt, envy, sex, vulnerability, Vintage, paperback, 9. October 2007
Brené Brown, Ph.D., LMSW (*1965) US American shame, vulnerability, empathy researcher, Graduate College of Social Work, University of Houston, public speaker, author, Thought It Was Just Me (but it isn't). Telling the Truth About Perfectionism, Inadequacy, and Power, Gotham, 27. December 2007
Drew Pinsky, M.D. (*1958) US American internist, addiction medicine specialist, assistant clinical professor, Keck USC School of Medicine, radio and television personality, author, Dr. S. Mark Young, The Mirror Effect. How Celebrity Narcissism Is Seducing America, Harper, 1st edition 17. March 2009
Ori Brafman, Israeli entrepreneur in business, government, and the nonprofit sector, leader of political and advocacy campaigns, Rom Brafman, Click. The Magic of Instant Connections, Broadway Business, 8. June 2010

"Click accelerators" are: vulnerability, proximity, flow, similarity, environment, engagement, a little magic

Brené Brown, Ph.D., LMSW (*1965) US American shame, vulnerability, empathy researcher, Graduate College of Social Work, University of Houston, public speaker, author, Daring Greatly. How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead, Gotham, 1st edition 11. September 2012

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Wikipedia-Einträge Demütigung, Scham, Schuld, Verlegenheit, Verletzlichkeit

Beitrag Warum ist Verletzlichkeit so wichtig in unserem Leben?, präsentiert von der kalifornischen Frage-und-Antwort Webseite Quora, Elfriede Ammann, 95 Aufrufe · 1 Like, 18. September 2019

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Wikipedia entries Embarrassment, Guilt, Humilation, Shame, Vulnerability

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Audiointerview mit Ute Welty (*1964) deutsche Journalistin, Wenn schon Worte weh tun, präsentiert von dem öffentlich-rechtlichen, werbefreien Rundfunksender Deutschlandfunk (DLF), Sendeformat Deutschlandradio Kultur, Gastgeberin Maria Richter, gesendet 20. Oktober 2018

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Video presentation by June Price Tangney, Ph.D., US American professor of psychology, George Mason University, Fairfax, Virginia, Shame and Guilt: The Good, the Bad, and the Ugly, presented by the George Mason University and the US American educational cable television network Research Channel, "The Vision Series", host George Mason, YouTube film,
1:12:12 duration, posted 9. February 2008

Research indicates that guilt (linked with empathy) is the more adaptive emotion as it can motivate people to behave in a moral, caring, socially responsible manner. Shame (about the self) (linked with aggression) can easily go awry.

Video presentation by Frederic Luskin, Ph.D., US American health psychologist, director of the Stanford Forgiveness Project, author of Forgive for Good, The Choice to Forgive, presented by the Greater Good Science Center, UC Berkeley, YouTube film, 3:22 minutes duration, posted 11. August 2010

Letting go of grudges

Video presentation by Frederic Luskin, Ph.D., US American health psychologist, director of the Stanford Forgiveness Project, author of Forgive for Good, The Sea of Vulnerability, presented by the Greater Good Science Center, UC Berkeley, YouTube film, 6:48 minutes duration, posted 11. August 2010
Audio interview with Samara Gaev, US American educator, social justice activist, theatre director of Truthworker Theatre Company, performer, Creating Change Through Vulnerability, presented by Future Primitive podcasts, host Joanna Harcourt-Smith (1946-2020) Swiss-born British psychedelic activist, lover of Timothy Leary, founder of Future Primitive Podcast, poet, author, 17:33 minutes duration, aired-posted 4. January 2014
Video interview Brené Brown, Ph.D., LMSW (*1965) US American shame, vulnerability, empathy researcher, Graduate College of Social Work, University of Houston, public speaker, author, Vulnerability and Power, presented by the British podcast "Under The Skin", host Russell Brand (*1975) English comedian, actor, activist, radio host, author, produced by Jenny May Finn, YouTube film, 1:22:44 duration, posted 23. June 2019

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Audio and video links (engl.) – Brené Brown

Audios and videos featuring Brené Brown, Ph.D., LMSW (*1965) US American shame, vulnerability, empathy researcher, Graduate College of Social Work, University of Houston, public speaker, author

Type	Offering	Heading	Sponsor ♦ Location ♦ P-Date	Duration Minutes	Release date
YouTube video	Presentation	*Shame and Empathy*	stevealley1970	8:39	17. April 2007 23. March 2016
Brené Brown's new psychoeducational shame-resilience curriculum; the destructive nature of shame and the healing power of empathy
Audio	Interview	*1/13 Creating Healthy Balance Everyday*	Removed blog Ordinary Courage, Blogtalk radio show "Creating Healthy Balance Everyday", host Elizabeth Irvine	30:00	13. January 2009
Video	Interview	*The Price of Invulnerability*	TEDxKC Talk, Houston, Texas	15:57	Recorded 12. August 2010 Posted 11. Dec 2016
YouTube video	Presentation	*The power of vulnerability* The power of vulnerability	TEDxHouston Talks, University of Houston	20:45 20:49	Recorded June 2010 6. October 2010 3. January 2011
Wholeheartedness emerges from "I'm enough", loving without guarantee, acting from authenticity and worthiness, cultivating courage, compassion, and the connection needed to embrace one's imperfections.
YouTube video	Presentation / Q&A	*RSA Replay – The Power of Vulnerability*	RSA Animate RSA Royal Society for the encouragement of Arts, Manufactures and Commerce, London, GB	1:01:27	4. July 2013