SpiritualWiki - Loslassen

Hast Du etwas lieb, so lass es frei.
Kehrt es zu dir zurück, so ist es dein.
Kehrt es nicht zu dir zurück,
so hat es dir nie gehört.
Zugesprochen Konfuzius (551-479 v. Chr.) chinesischer Weiser, Sozialphilosoph, Stifter der chinesischen Staatsreligion, Förde-
rer des Sinns allen Wissens und Lernens in der sittlichen Vollkommenheit, zitiert in: Liebeszitate

Loslassen – Setz dich an einen Bach und sei einfach da. Das Lied des Wassers wird deine Sorgen aufnehmen
und sie hinab zum Meer tragen.
Marcel Proust (1871-1922) französischer Sozialkritiker, Essayist, Romanschriftsteller, zitiert in: Aphorismen.de

Einsicht

Das im Neuen Testament verwendete griechische Wort aphiēmi, das gemeinhin als "vergeben / verzeihen" übersetzt wurde, enthielt ein breites Spektrum von Bedeutungen, unter anderem
⚑ (Schuld/en) zu erlassen,
⚑ (etwas oder jemanden) in Ruhe zu lassen / loszulassen,
⚑ (eine (Miss)Handlung) zu erlauben / durchgehen zu lassen,
⚑ (etwas oder jemanden) gewähren zu lassen,
⚑ sich zu entfernen / zurückzuziehen,
⚑ (etwas oder jemanden) wegzuschicken,
⚑ zu verlassen / aufzugeben und sogar
⚑ die Scheidung einzureichen / sich scheiden zu lassen.

Blogartikel (engl.) von Maria Mayo M.Div., M.A., US-amerikanische Historikerin, Religionswissenschaftlerin, Vanderbilt Universität, Kommunikationskoordinatorin (Gesundheitfürsorge Obdachloser), Autorin, 5 Myths About Forgiveness In The Bible [Fünf Verge-
bungsmythen in der Bibel], präsentiert von der US-amerikanischen linksliberalen Online-Zeitung Huffington Post, 16. August 2011

Der Durchbruch zum göttlichen Licht vollzieht sich meistens in Augenblicken, außerhalb der Meditationszeiten und
stets dann, wenn er nicht erwartet wird. Manch einer wird das Erleuchtungserlebnis zum Beispiel ganz plötzlich und unverhofft während dem ruhigen Verweilen in der Natur zuteil. Gerade in dem Augenblick, wo wir entspannt loslas-
sen oder besser – selbst Loslassen geworden sind – wird uns alles geschenkt.
Zensho W. Kopp (*1938) deutscher spiritueller Meister, Dharma-Nachfolger von Zenmeister Soji Enku, Autor, Zen und die Wiedergeburt der christlichen Mystik, S. 163, Schirner Verlag, Darmstadt, 2004

Der Träumer (Klosterruine Oybin), ~1835
Deutscher Maler Caspar David Friedrich (1774-1840)

Im Kreise von direkten, ehrlichen Menschen fühlen wir uns wohl. Sie sagen ihre Meinung, und wir wissen, woran wir bei ihnen sind.
Indirekte Menschen, die sich scheuen zu sagen, wer sie sind, was sie wollen und was sie fühlen, sind nicht vertrau-
enswürdig. Sie bringen ihre Wahrheit auf andere Weise zum Ausdruck, auch wenn sie sie nicht aussprechen. Und das trifft andere oft überraschend.
Direktheit spart Zeit und Energie. Sie macht unsere Opferhaltung, unsere Märtyrerrolle und Tricks überflüssig; sie trägt dazu bei, dass wir unsere eigene Stärke aner-
kennen; sie schafft respektvolle Beziehungen.
Melody Beattie (*1948) US-amerikanische Autorin von Selbst-
hilfebüchern über Koabhängigkeit, Kraft zum Loslassen, S. 166, Heyne Verlag, München, 1991

Lass los, was du festhälst. Und alles wahrhaft dir Gehörende wird wie durch einen Zauber unmittelbar in deinem Leben erscheinen. Paul O. Williams (1935-2009) US-amerikanischer Sciencefiction-Autor, Haikudichter, Professor emeritus in Englisch, Principia College, Elsah, Illinois, Die Quelle in dir, S. 70, Rowohlt Verlag, Reinbek bei Hamburg, 1991

Freiheit und Glück bestehen im Loslassen, nicht im Sam-
meln und Bewahren. Wolfgang Joop (*1944) deutscher Modedesigner, zitiert in: Gute Zitate

Das Loslassen habe ich jetzt fest im Griff. Humoristisches Paradoxon

Referenzen: de.Wikiquote-Einträge ► Loslassen

Gedicht

Ich ließ meinen Engel lange nicht los,
und er verarmte mir in den Armen
und wurde klein, und ich wurde groß:
und auf einmal war ich das Erbarmen,
und er eine zitternde Bitte bloß.

Da hab ich ihm seinen Himmel gegeben,
und er ließ mir das Nahe, daraus er entschwand;
er lernte das Schweben, ich lernte das Leben,
und wir haben langsam einander erkannt.
Rainer Maria Rilke (1875-1926) böhmisch-österreichischer Dichter, Lyriker, Engellieder

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Zitate von David R. Hawkins

⚠ Achtung See Power vs. Truth, Januar 2013

Sobald die innere Absicht besteht, die Liebenswertigkeit aller Dinge zu sehen, zeigt sich, dass alles, was existiert, seine eigene Reinheit und Identität besitzt, und dass alles gleichermaßen für seinen Dienst an der Menschheit geehrt zu wer-
den verdient. [...] Wir lernen, dass das Loslassen aller Denkpositionen uns erlaubt, den Wert alles Bestehenden zu erkennen und das Liebenswert-Sein in all seinen Ausdrucksformen zu würdigen. Ob die Maus, die an der Seite der Mülltonne entlang läuft, als anbetungswürdig oder widerwärtig angesehen wird, hängt vom Betrachter ab.
Dr. David R. Hawkins, Licht des Alls. Die Wirklichkeit des Göttlichen, S. 79, 2006

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General quotes

Recommendations

Let go and let God. US American proverb

Insights

To let go does not mean to get rid of. To let go means to let be. When we let be with compassion, things come and go on their own.
Jack Kornfield jackkornfield.com (*1945) leading US American teacher in the vipassana movement of Theravada Buddhism, meditation teacher, author, The Art Of Forgiveness, Loving Kindness And Peace, S. 155, Rider, Bantam, reprint edition 29. April 2008

All that God asks you most pressingly is to go out of yourself – and let God be God in you.
Meister Eckhart O.P. (Eckhart of Hochheim) (1260-1328) German mystic, Dominican theologian, philosopher, citing in: AZ Quotes

Differentiating goodbye from letting go

Data that goes into the subconscious during a trauma cannot be released from the subconscious until a shift of the same magnitude or intensity is again attained. As a result, though we might be able to recall the traumatic event, we cannot change any attitude we may have toward the experience (trauma). Neither can we alter how we feel or release the experience until we reach the amplitude of the original traumatic event again.
Rev. Rosalyn L. Bruyere (*1946) US American spiritual teacher, white honorary medicine woman, energy healer, aura reader, Wheels of Light. Chakras, Auras, and the Healing Energy of the Body, Touchstone, 1st edition 12. April 1994

God is only where you let Him in.
Menachem Mendel of Kotzk [Kotzker Rebbe] (1787-1859) Polish Chasidic rabbi and leader, cited in: AZ Quotes, reference: Aryeh Kaplan Innerspace. Introduction to Kabbalah, Meditation and Prophecy‎, S. 160, Moznaim, 1990

The ultimate aim of the quest must be neither release nor ecstasy for oneself, but the wisdom and the power to serve others. Joseph Campbell, Ph.D. (1904-1987) US American mythologist, expert in comparative mythology and comparative religion, six part PBS television documentary The Power of Myth, interviewing host Bill Moyers, referencing the eponymous book dd 1987, 21-26 June 1988

[D]etachment means letting go and nonattachment means simply letting be.
Stephen Levine (1937-2016) US American teacher on death and dying, poet, author, A Year to Live. How to Live This Year as If It Were Your Last, S. 95, Bell Tower, 14. April 1998

One note about resistance to the idea of letting go in general, is that many people consider their emotions, desires, dreams, lusts and even thoughts to be the most intimate things they know. They identify with these phenomena, and believe them part of their true self. […]
Only by letting go of the desire can you remove the distortion that allows you to get that which you no longer desire! Larry Crane, US American representative of the Sedona Method, An Introduction to the Larry Crane Tradition Release Technique and ⚡ Lester Levenson's Teachings on Love

Releasing feelings and desires leads to firsthand understanding of the fantasy nature of thinking, emotions and desires. All these occur only in our minds, are completely subjective, and have only the most tenuous existence in the moment. Only our belief in that they are real and the importance of thinking, feelings and desires gives them any reality.
⚡ Lester Levenson (1910-1994) US American physicist, enterpreneur, founder of the Release Technique/Sedona Method, cult
leader, No Attachments, No Aversions. The Autobiography of a Master, Lawrence Crane Enterprises, January 2003

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Quotes by David R. Hawkins

⚠ Caveat See Power vs. Truth, January 2013

One's reluctance to letting go of thought is the illusory identification of the thoughts not only as 'mine', but also as being the 'me'. The mind tends to be proud of its thoughts as though it were preserving a great treasure.
Dr. David R. Hawkins, The Eye of the I, S. 104, 2001

A person who is familiar with this will feel the compressed energy and begin to release it without waiting for the mind to create an excuse that justifies it's release. The more sophisticated mind does not need an outside event to release it's angriness. It just knows that it is building up some suppressed angriness and sits down and says, "I had better look at this." It then starts letting go of the energy of it before the mind gets around and creates something 'out there' to relieve itself. It is as though the events in our lives are almost like safety or release valves, providing a way to decompress this energy tank. Dr. David R. Hawkins, Healing and Recovery, chapter 3 "Handling major crisis", S. 241, 2009

To accept the inner core of one's existence as a self-existent reality requires letting go of any definitions of oneself as a "who," and instead see oneself as a "what." Dr. David R. Hawkins, Jeffrey, Scott, Dissolving the Ego, Realizing the Self. Contemplations from the Teachings of David R. Hawkins, M.D., Ph.D., chapter 4 "Subjectivity", S. 83, quote 1, Hay House, August 2011

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Fallacious concept of property

The 'letting go' of materialism and worldly gain is facilitated by the realization that everything belongs to God, and that humans have only temporary custody or stewardship. Thus, in reality, there is no 'my' anything. In fact, nobody even 'owns' their own body, for it belongs to the world and returns to the world from whence it came. As a paradox, it will be noted that the ego/self believes that it has ownership of its possessions and properties but, upon examination, the opposite
is true, that is, one is owned by their possesssions and properties, not the reverse.
Dr. David R. Hawkins, Discovery of the Presence of God. Devotional Nonduality, S. 193, 2007

How long are you going to hold onto? About one second. That. I'll tell you how long to keep it. Let it go – just let it go (snaps). Surrender it the instant it happens completely and totally to God, the instant it happens. Why? Because you develop the capacity to do that. So the reason for spiritual training then is you develop a powerful capacity to let go of anything and you never know when it's going to come up. 'So and so just died'. (claps hands once). You just let it go
the minute – you let it go (snaps). Dr. David R. Hawkins, Sedona Seminar Devotion: The Way to God Through the Heart,
DVD 1 of 3, minute ~40:40, 27. September 2002

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When discouraged and believing that surrender doest seem to work

So you try to let go of it. It doesn't always let go right away. But the very fact you were willing to surrender it, and that you did actually go through the process, is already a karmic merit. So that eventually you're building up. [...] One might say, undoing the negative karma. And now, all of a sudden, one day you let it go and it disappears.
Dr. David R. Hawkins, Sedona Seminar Devotion: The Way to God Through the Heart, DVD 2 of 3, minute 1:45, 27. September 2002

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Letting go required to go to the extremes.

I'm dismayed that it takes so much to bring the ego to the level of letting go.
Dr. David R. Hawkins, Sedona Seminar Karma and the Afterlife, 3 DVD set, October 2002

So here is the ultimate sacrifice. – You can do it at home folks. So you let go of wanting to change or control, or derive, or experience the experiencer. Dr. David R. Hawkins, Sedona Seminar Alignment, DVD 2 of 3, 16. April 2005

Control is trusting the linear. Letting go of control is trusting the field.
Dr. David R. Hawkins, Sedona Seminar Transcending Barriers, very beginning of CD 3 of 4, 18. June 2005

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Letting go the stack of grieving over losses over lifetimes

Question [Posed by a mother who had lost her father and her only son]: I ask God to relieve the pain. Trying to relieve the pain. It has been there since three years.
Answer: What are you getting out of the grief?
Reply Questioner: I can't let him go.
Answer: You have a program that says you can’t let him go. It means you won’t. If I said to you, "If you don't let go of
it, I am going to kill you this instant!" […] You would let it go. You are working it for all the juice you are getting out of it.
You are feeding off the grief. You are getting hooked on it. You are living off of that juice of that grief. I want you to give
it up. Surrender the grief to God so you can be of service. […] your narcissistic self-indulgence. It is normal, but it is
also normal to reach a state of satiation and say, "I have got to do something now for other people." What is the best way to bless that situation except to say, "In His name, I will alleviate the grief of others." What you do in their name
[…] forget the Memorial Services and all that crap. Do something for others instead of being selfish and self-centered. Do something for someone else in their grief. Dedicate your life in the name of that child to others […] your willingness to surrender that to God […].
If God said from Heaven, "I WANT YOU TO LET GO OF THAT NOW! SAY, 'I HAVE HAD ENOUGH!'" There is more than one lifetime on this. You have had lifetimes of losses. Let it just continuously run. Let it run. Let go resisting it. Let go labeling it "grief." You feel inner sensations and emotions. Don't label it "grief." You are feeling a painful feeling. It doesn’t need a name on it. It is just a painful feeling. Sit with the painful feeling. Be at one with that feeling without resisting it. Just be with it completely, 100%, and that is how you eventually disappear the stack. Then you have the energy to work on other things. This is a stack coming up from not just this lifetime. You say, "It is because I am a parent." Everyone is a parent! In previous times, losing most of your kids was routine. I would say these are stacks suppressed from other lifetimes. Sit with it and let it go. Loss is part of the human condition. It is biological. Elephants feel it. It is a biological instinct going way back in time. Elephants push the bones of their former mate around, grieving. I have had to sit on stacks for months or years that just ran and ran. Then it suddenly lets go and
I am a free man. Dr. David R. Hawkins, Sedona Satsang Q&A, Sedona Creative Life Center, 2 CD set, 13. September 2006

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Englische Texte – English section on Letting go

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Seven steps for overcoming one's ego's hold

Stop being offended.
Let go of your need to win.
Let go of your need to be right.
Let go of your need to be superior.
Let go of your need to have more.
Let go of identifying yourself on the basis of your achievements.
Let go of your reputation.

Source: ► Dr. Wayne Dyer (1940-2015) US American self-help advocate, spiritual lecturer, author, 2008

See also: ► Ego and ► Pride and ► Vulnerability

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Letting go – Poem

Letting Go

To let go doesn't mean to stop caring;
It means I can't do it for someone else.
To let go is not to cut myself off.
It's the realization that I can't control another.

To let go is not to enable,
but to allow learning from natural consequences.

To let go is to admit powerlessness,
which means the outcome is not in my hands.

To let go is not to try and change or blame another,
I can only change myself.

To let go is not to care for, but to care about.

To let go is not to fix, but to be supportive.

To let go is not to judge,
but to allow another to be a human being.

To let go is not to be in the middle arranging all the outcomes,
but to allow others to affect their own outcomes.

To let go is not to be protective,
It is to permit another to face reality.

To let go is not to deny, but to accept.

To let go is not to nag, scold, or argue,
but to search out my own shortcomings and correct them.

To let go is not to adjust everything to my desires,
but to take each day as it comes and cherish the moment.

To let go is not to criticize and regulate anyone,
but to try to become what I dream I can be.

To let go is not to regret the past,
but to grow and live for the future.

To let go is to fear less and love more.

Source: ► Author Unknown

See also: ► Poems

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Not tied or bound

* * *

If I could only let it go

Drop what's in my hand, without a second thought.
But with layers, layers, layers of frustration, hold on with all I've got.
Take the anger. Grip it tighter. Grip it tighter yet.

This feeling of discomfort; closed as a fist can get.
I open up my sweaty palm and roll the object 'round.
Notice that it's not attached; that I'm not tied or bound.
I am it, or I have it.
Why struggle to hold on?
If I could only let it go, my hurting would be... G o n e.

Find my comfort. Focus Inward. Live with open hand.
I needn't grip things any longer, blown away like sand.
At core I'm silent, I'm at Peace.
Air in a bubble, finds r e l e a s e.

No more with pain or darkness, no longer hurt by lies.
No longer blinded by scales, which once covered my eyes.
This is what the wind feels like. Unhindered by confine.
Set free all my frustrations; they're here but they're not mine.

Rob Slanina, Canada

See also: ► Poems

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If you love someone let them go.

If you love someone let them go.
If they stay away then they were never yours to begin with.
If they come back then they are yours to keep.
Unknown

See also: ► Relational levels and ► Poems

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Links zum Thema Loslassen / Letting go

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Literatur

Melody Beattie (*1948) US-amerikanische Autorin, Kraft zum Loslassen, Heyne Verlag, München, 1991
Chuck Spezzano (*1949) US-amerikanischer Gründer von "Psychology of Vision", Visionär, Seminarleiter, Autor, 50 Wege los-
zulassen und glücklich zu sein, Verlag Via Nova, Dezember 2003
Michael Ganesh Becker, Zur Harmonie in dir, BoD, Norderstedt, 2006
Meister Han Shan, Wer loslässt, hat zwei Hände frei. Mein Weg vom Manager zum Mönch, Luebbe Verlagsgruppe, 1. Auflage 28. November 2009
Bärbel Wardetzky (*1952) deutsche Psychotherapeutin, Psychologin, Pädagogin, Autorin, Loslassen & dranbleiben. Wie wir Veränderungen mutig begegnen, Kösel Verlag, München, 28. Oktober 2019

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Literature (engl.)

Philip Roth (1933-2018) US American short-story writer, novelist, novel Letting Go, Random House, 12. June 1962
Patricia Carrington, Ph.D., US American associate clinical professor, department of psychology, Princeton University, UMDNJ-Robert Wood Johnson Medical School, Piscataway, New Jersey, The Power Of Letting Go. A Practical Approach to Releasing the Pressures in Your Life, Vega, 30. March 2002
Hale Dwoskin, US-amerikanischer Geschäftsführer von Sedona Training Associates Hale Dwoskins, Autor, Die Sedona Metho-
de. Wie Sie sich von emotionalem Ballast befreien und Ihre Wünsche verwirklichen. 5 einfache Schritte Vak-Verlag, März 2006,
5. unveränderte Auflage September 2010, 15. Dezember 2015

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Externe Weblinks

Wikipedia-Einträge Ablösung

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External web links (engl.)

Wikipedia entries

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Audio- und Videolinks

Bärbel Wardetzky (*1952) deutsche Psychotherapeutin, Psychologin, Pädagogin, Autorin, Loslassen & dranbleiben. Wie wir Veränderungen mutig begegnen, Kösel Verlag, München, 28. Oktober 2019
Videointerview mit Bärbel Wardetzky (*1952) deutsche Psychotherapeutin, Psychologin, Pädagogin, Autorin, Im Gespräch: Bärbel Wardetzki ("Loslassen & dranbleiben"), präsentiert von der deutschen Online-Plattform für investigativen Journalismus KenFM, Gastgeber Gastgeber Ken Jebsen (*1966) deutsch-iranischer Fernseh- und Radiomoderator, freischaffender Reporter (*2011), PeerTube Film, 1:35:41 Dauer, eingestellt 2. Januar 2020

Linkloses Medienangebot

Video Fernsehinterview mit Meister Han Shan, deutscher Ex-Millionär, Bettelmönch, Master Han Shan, präsentiert von dem deutschen öffentlich-rechtlichen Fernsehsender SWR / ARD, Sendung "Landesschau Baden-Württemberg", 20. November 2009

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Audio and video links (engl.)

Video interview with Guy Finley (*1949) US American former professional songwriter, musician, philosopher, founder of the nonprofit organization Life of Learning Foundation, spiritual teacher, author of self-help books, Guy Finley on Letting Go of Fear, presented by the US American Conscious Media Network via Gaia TV, host Regina Meredith, 34:38 minutes duration, posted June 2008 Subject to fee

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