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Neun Tugenden des Geistes im 9. Buch des Neuen Testaments

Der Geist Gottes dagegen lässt als Frucht eine Fülle von Gutem wachsen, nämlich: Liebe, Freude und Frieden, Geduld, Freundlichkeit und Güte, Treue, Bescheidenheit und Selbstbeherrschung. Gegen all dies hat das Gesetz nichts einzuwenden. Galater 5, 22-23 (NT)

Liebt einander von Herzen als Brüder und Schwestern, und ehrt euch gegenseitig in zuvorkommender
Weise. Römer 12, 10 (NT)

Wünscht denen, die euch verfolgen, Gutes. Segnet sie, anstatt sie zu verfluchen. Römer 12, 14 (NT)

Wenn euch jemand Unrecht tut, dann zahlt es niemals mit gleicher Münze heim. Seid darauf bedacht,
vor den Augen aller Menschen bestehen zu können. Soweit es möglich ist und auf euch ankommt,
lebt mit allen in Frieden. Römer 12, 17-18 (NT)

Seid aber untereinander freundlich, herzlich und vergebet einer dem andern, gleichwie auch Gott in
Christus euch vergeben hat. Epheser 4, 32 (NT)

Eure Worte seien immer freundlich, doch mit Salz gewürzt; denn ihr müsst jedem in der rechten
Weise antworten können. Kolosser 4, 6 (NT)

Persönliche Bekenntnisse

Ann Currie: Was ist das Beste, was Ihnen Ihre Mutter je beigebracht hat?
Barack Obama: Einfühlungsvermögen. Sie hat dafür gesorgt, dass andere die Welt durch die Augen eines anderen sehen können, in den Schuhen von anderen stehen können. Ich denke, das ist die Grundlage für freundliches Entge-
genkommen und Mitgefühl. Fernsehinterview Barack Obama, 44. US Präsident, präsentiert von dem US-amerikanischen Fern-
sehsender NBC, Sendung Today Show, Gastgeberin Ann Curry (*1956) US-amerikanische Journalistin, 1. April 2008

Empfehlungen

Lernt, mit Liebe und Sanftmut zu sprechen. Nicht nur zu Menschen, sondern auch zu Tieren, Blumen, Vögeln, Bäu-
men, zur ganzen Natur, denn dies ist eine ausgezeichnete Gewohnheit. Wer inspirierende, belebende Worte zu spre-
chen weiß, verfügt in seinem Mund über einen Zauberstab; nie wird er solche Worte vergebens sprechen, denn in der Natur ist immer eines der vier Elemente – Erde, Wasser, Luft oder Feuer – da und wartet auf den Augenblick, wo es das vom Menschen Ausgedrückte in eine Form kleiden kann. Möglicherweise geschieht die Verwirklichung weit ent-
fernt vom 'Sämann', aber ihr solltet wissen, dass sie sich immer vollzieht. Genau wie der Wind die Samen fortträgt
und in der Ferne sät, fliegen unsere guten Worte davon, um weit von unseren Augen entfernt wunderbare Ergebnis-
se zu zeitigen. Habt ihr es gelernt, Gedanken und Gefühle zu beherrschen, euch in einen Zustand von Harmonie, Reinheit und Licht zu versetzen, dann erzeugen eure Worte Wellen, die segensreich auf die ganze Natur einwirken.
Omraam Mikhaël Aïvanhov (1900-1986) bulgarischer spiritueller Meister, Philosoph, Pädagoge, Alchemist, Mystiker, Magus, Astro-
loge, Universelle Weiße Bruderschaft, Das Buch der göttlichen Magie, Kapitel 4 "Das magische Wort", Prosveta, Deutschland,
7. Auflage 1. Januar 2006

Ein freundliches Wort kostet nichts und dennoch ist es das Schönste aller Geschenke.
Daphne du Maurier, DBE (1907-1989) englische Schriftstellerin, zitiert in: Zitat von Daphne du Maurier, präsentiert von Gute Zitate

Referenz: de.Wikiquote-Eintrag ► Freundlichkeit

General quotes

Be kindly affectioned one to another with brotherly love; in honor, preferring one another.
Romans 12, 10 (NT) Lamsa Bible, translated by George Lamsa

Let your conversation be always full of grace, seasoned with salt, so that you may
know how to answer everyone. 1 Colossians 4, 6 (NT)

Personal avowals

The other thing that is interesting, now that I'm looking back over many years, it is
- the exquisite gentleness,
- this peculiar combination of qualities,
- this Infinite Presence which is all things, is everywhere, is both the space in the room and the objects in the room. It is both the figure and the ground, simultaneously. It is also exquisitely gentle. Its touch just melts away any 'you' with its exquisite presence. Whatever there was of the individual self is melted by it, dissolved by it.

There is no violence, it is like one just dissolves. It is like one is sugar and you put it in water – one just dissolves and becomes one with All That Is. Interview with ⚡ David R. Hawkins, Dialogues on Consciousness and Spirituality, transcript on "Advanced States of Consciousness", part 2, S. 23, spiral-bound, Veritas Publishing, Sedona, Arizona, 1. January 1998
Transcript removed from Veritas Publishing's sale offer in mid 2013

I don't have a 'religion.' My religion is kindness.
H.H. 14th Dalai Lama Tenzin Gyatso (*1935) Tibetan monk, leader of the Gelug or "Yellow Hat" branch of Tibetan Buddhism, Peace Nobel Prize laureate, 1989, Jeffrey Hopkins, author, Elizabeth Napper, author, Kindness, Clarity, and Insight, Snow Lion Publications, 2nd edition 1. September 1984

Ann Currie: Best thing your mom ever taught you?
Barack Obama: Empathy. Making sure that you can see the world through some-
body else's eyes, stand in their shoes. I think that's the basis for kindness and com-
passion. TV interview Barack Obama (*1961) 44th US president, presented by the US American commercial broadcast television network NBC, program The Today Show, host Ann Curry (*1956) US American television news journalist, co-anchor at NBC, 1. April 2008

Recommendations

Misattributed to:

Plato (427-347 BC) Ancient Greek pre-Christian philosopher and Philo (20 BC-41 AD) [Philo of Alexandria, "Philon", Philo the Jew] Egyptian Hellenistic Jewish Biblical philosopher, member of the Therapeutae sect

Be kind. Everyone you meet is carrying a heavy burden.
- Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle.

Ian Maclaren [Rev. John Watson] Scottish preacher, author of Beside the Bonnie Brier Bush, 1897

Treat everyone you meet as if he or she were going to be dead by midnight. Extend to them all the care, kindness, and understanding you can muster, and do so with no thought of reward. Your life will never be the same.
Augustine "Og" Mandino II (1923-1996) US American recovering alcoholic, author, The Greatest Salesman in the World,
Book Notes. The Greatest Salesman in the World, heading "The 10 Scrolls", Bantam, reissue, 1. January 1983

Conclusion

We are wired to be super-kind.
Lynne Isbell, Ph.D., US American professor of anthropology, UC Davis, cited in: Video presentation Are We Wired To Be Kind?, presented by the 2007 Wonderfest: Bay Area Festival of Science, YouTube film, 1:21:43 duration, posted 23. February 2008

Insights

Kindness in words creates confidence.
Kindness in thinking creates profoundness.
Kindness in giving creates love.

Attributed [distributed in self-help books and on social media] to Lao Tzu (604-531 BC) Chinese sage, philosopher, founder of
Daoism, author of Tao Te Ching [The Book of the Way] 6th century BC, cited in: Goodreads Quotable Quote

Kind words can be short and easy to speak, but their echoes are truly endless.
Mother Teresa of Calcutta (1910-1997) Albanian-born Indian Catholic nun, saint, missionary, humanitarian, founder of the Order
of the Missionaries of Charity, Nobel Prize for Peace laureate, 1979, cited in: Goodreads Quotable Quote

At the most fundamental level our nature is compassionate, and that cooperation, not conflict, lies at the heart of the basic principles that govern our human exis-
tence. H.H. 14th Dalai Lama Tenzin Gyatso (*1935) Tibetan monk, leader of the Gelug or "Yellow Hat" branch of Tibetan Buddhism, Peace Nobel Prize laureate, 1989, cited in: SF Love Dojo, 18. August 2019

The simple recognition that everyone else wants to be happy and not to suffer, just as I do, serves as a constant re-
minder against selfishness and partiality. It reminds us there is little to be gained from being kind and generous while hoping to win something in return. Actions motivated by a desire to earn a good name for ourselves are still selfish, even if they appear to be acts of kindness. H.H. 14th Dalai Lama Tenzin Gyatso (*1935) Tibetan monk, leader of the Gelug
or "Yellow Hat" branch of Tibetan Buddhism, Peace Nobel Prize laureate, 1989, Facebook comment, 22. August 2010

Caritas, 1895
Stanisław Wyspiański (1869-1907) polnischer Künstler

To be kind, honest and have positive thoughts; to forgive those who harm us and treat everyone as a friend; to help those who are suffering and never to consider ourselves superior to anyone else: even if this advice seems rather simplistic, make the effort of seeing whether by following it you can find greater happiness. H.H. 14th Dalai Lama Tenzin Gyatso (*1935) Tibetan monk, leader of the Gelug or "Yellow Hat" branch of Tibetan Buddhism, Peace Nobel Prize laureate, 1989, Facebook comment, 23. September 2010

Softer than the flower where kindness is concerned;
stronger than the thunder where principles are at stake.
ParamahansaYogananda [Mukunda Lal Ghosh] (1893-1952) Bengalian Indian Hindu sage, yogi, philosopher, author, translator of The Bhagavad Gita, Autobiography of a Yogi, Self-Realization Fellowship, Thus,
1st edition 12. December 1946

Quote from ACIM¹: "This is what is meant by 'the meek shall inherit the earth.' They will literally take it over because of their strength."
Gentleness – not brute force – is the power that ultimately will triumph. When we are tough, do we get our needs met? Or is it when we are kinder that we get our needs met? The ego says attack [...] will get us somewhere, but the Spirit knows better. Only love produces miracles.
Marianne Williamson (*1952) US American spiritual teacher, political activist, visionary, lecturer, author, Facebook entry, 15. January 2011

There is not a flower that opens, not a seed that falls into the ground, and not an ear of wheat that nods on the end of its stalk in the wind that does not preach and proclaim the greatness and the mercy of God to the whole world. There is not an act of kindness or generosity, not an act of sacrifice done, or a word of peace and gentleness spoken, not a child's prayer uttered, that does not sing hymns to God before his throne, and in the eyes of men, and be-
fore their faces.
Thomas Merton (1915-1968) Anglo-American Catholic Trappist monk, mystic student of comparative religion, social activist, poet, writer, autobio-
graphy The Seven Storey Mountain, Harcourt Brace, 11. October 1948

It pays to be good. Dacher Keltner, Ph.D. (*1962) US American professor of psychology, University of California, Berkeley, altruism researcher, director of the Greater Good Science Center, author, Born to Be Good. The Science of a Meaningful Life, S. 247, W.W. Norton & Company, 12. January 2009

The emotions that promote the meaningful life are organized to an interest in the welfare of others. Compassion shifts the mind in ways that increase the likelihood of taking pleasure in the improved welfare of others. Awe shifts the very contents of our self-definition, away from the emphasis of personal desires and preferences and toward that which connects us to others. Neurochemicals (oxytocin) and regions of the nervous system related to these emotions promote trust and long-term devotion. We have been designed to care about things other than the gratification of desire and the maximizing of self-interest. Dacher Keltner, Ph.D. (*1962) US American professor of psychology, University of California, Berkeley, altruism researcher, director of the Greater Good Science Center, Born to Be Good. The Science of a Meaningful Life, W.W. Norton & Company, 12. January 2009

This new science of altruism and the physiological underpinnings of compassion is finally catching up with Darwin's observations nearly 130 years ago, that sympathy is [humanity's] strongest instinct. […]
Sympathy is indeed wired into our brains and bodies; and it spreads from one person to another through touch. Dacher Keltner, Ph.D. (*1962) US American professor of psychology, University of California, Berkeley, altruism researcher, director
of the Greater Good Science Center, author of Born to Be Good. The Science of a Meaningful Life, W.W. Norton & Company,
12. January 2009, cited in: Article 'Survival of the Kindest' – Sympathy is Strongest Human Instinct, presented by the publication impactlab.com, 9. December 2009

Urge to kill

The very emphasis of the commandment "Thou shalt not kill" makes it certain that we are descended from an endlessly long chain of generations of murderers, whose love of murder was in their blood as it is perhaps also in ours.
⚡ Sigmund Freud (1856-1939) Austrian neurologist, deep psychologist, founder of psychoanalysis, critic of religion, author, A. A.
Brill, translator, Alfred B. Kuttner, translator, Reflections on War and Death, Moffat, Yard & Company, New York, 1918

The only way to tell the truth is to speak with kindness. Only the words of a loving man can be heard.
Henry David Thoreau (1817-1862) US American historian, philosopher, leading transcendentalist, naturalist, abolitionist, surveyor,
tax resister, development critic, poet, author, cited in: Goodreads Quotable Quote

Kindness is the language which the deaf can hear and the blind can see. Mark Twain [Samuel Langhorne Clemens] (1835-1910) US American humorist, Freemason, author, unsourced in: David Graham, The Philosophy of Mark Twain. The Wit and Wisdom of a Literary Genius, CreateSpace Independent Publishing Platform, paperback, 29. September 2014

Sympathy [compassion] is our strongest [human] instinct. Charles Darwin (1809-1882) English naturalist, author of
the biological theory of evolution, cited in: article Social scientists build case for 'survival of the kindest', presented by the University
of California, Berkeley, published by , presented by the US American press release distribution ScienceDaily, 9. December 2009

Kindness extended, received or observed beneficially impacts the physical health and feelings of everyone involved.
Dr. Wayne Dyer (1940-2015) US American self-help advocate, spiritual lecturer, author, Facebook entry, 25. January 2011

The smallest act of kindness is worth more than the grandest intention.
Oscar Wilde (1854-1900) Irish dramatician, poet, writer, cited in: Oscar Wilde, presented by Quotespedia

The great secret of morals is love, or a going out of our nature, and the identification of ourselves with the beautiful which exists in thought, action, or person, not our own. Percy Bysshe Shelley (1792-1822) major English Romantic lyric
poet, cited in: article Shelley's "A Defence of Poetry", presented by georgiasouthern.edu, Tiffany Yancey, 2016

Kindness is in our power, even when fondness is not. Samuel Johnson (1709-1784) English moralist, literary critic, biographer, editor, lexicographer, poet, essayist, author, cited in: Goodreads Quotable Quote

Kindness enhancing effect of drugs

Under a psychologist's care in 1984 to treat PTSD stemming from an abusive relationship, at age 52

With MDMA [active ingredient in the drug ecstasy], you not only see your fear but trust yourself to go past it. It shows you how to be kinder to yourself, and how much you're capable of. It allows you access to a place in your mind that's compassio-
nate and full of love. You might have abandoned that place, but it never abandoned you. Marcela Ot'alora, US American therapist, Colorado, cited in: Article PTSD and MDMA Therapy – Medical Uses of Ecstasy, presented by the US American monthly magazine O, The Oprah Magazine, Jessica Winter, 15. February 2011

Evolution has bequeathed humans with a sense of empathy – an ability to treat other people's interest as comparable
to one's own. Unfortunately, by default we apply it only to a very narrow circle of friends and family. People outside
that circle were treated as subhuman and can be exploited with impunity. But over history the circle has been ex-
panded. […] from village to the clan to the tribe to the nation to other races to other sexes […] and other species.
Peter Singer, Ph.D. (*1946) Australian Ira W. DeCamp professor of bioethics, Princeton University, philosopher, author,
Expanding Circle, Plume, 1981, paperback, 1. April 1982

References: en.Wikiquote entries ► Friendliness and ► Kindness

Literary quotes

Kindness is the golden chain by which society is bound together.
Johann Wolfgang Goethe (1749-1832) German polymath, poet, playwright, dramatist, novelist, cited in: Goodreads Quotable Quote

When power becomes gracious and descends into the visible – such descent I call beauty. And there is nobody from whom I want beauty as much as from you who are powerful: let your kindness be your final self-conquest. Of
all evil I deem you capable: therefore I want the good from you. Verily, I have often laughed at the weaklings who
thought themselves good because they had no claws.
Friedrich Wilhelm Nietzsche (1844-1900) German classical scholar, critic of culture, philosopher of nihilism, author, Thus Spoke Zarathustra [Also sprach Zarathustra], part II, chapter 13, "Those Who Are Sublime", Ernst Schmeitzner, Chemnitz, 1883-1891

Random acts of kindness

Some believe that it is only GREAT POWER that can hold evil in check. But that is not what I've found. I found it is the SMALL THINGS. Every day deeds by ordinary folk that keeps the darkness at bay.
J. R. R. Tolkien (1892-1973) English professor of philology, poet, writer, character Gandalf in: The Lord of the Rings, 3 volumes (1937-1949), Allen & Unwin, United Kingdom, 29. July 1954, 11. November 1954, 20. October 1955

But remember, boy, that a kind act can sometimes be as powerful as a sword.
Rick Riordan (*1964) US American author, fantasy-adventure novel based on Greek mythology The Battle of the Labyrinth, Hyperion Books for Children, 3. July 2008

Among couples who not only endure, but live happily together for years and years, the spirit of kindness and generosity guides them forward. Article Masters of Love, presented by the US American magazine The Atlantic, Emily Esfahani Smith, Swiss-Canadian instructor in positive psychology, University of Pennsylvania, journalist, writer, 12. June 2014

Negative statements – purporting self-interest and low values
State of war of every man against every man

The life of man, solitary, poor, nasty, brutish, and short. Thomas Hobbes (1588-1679) English political philosopher on the social contract theory, Leviathan, chapter XIII, "Of the Natural Condition of Mankind, as concerning their Felicity, and Misery", 1651

Paraphrased: "Sympathy is "weak and blind" [subjective and therefore unreliable]."

But the kindly passion is nevertheless weak and is always blind. [...] Now as soon as this feeling is raised to its proper universality, it is sublime, but also colder. Immanuel Kant (1724-1804) German philosopher at the end of the 18th century Enlightenment, cited in: article The Development of Kant's Theory of Moral Feeling El desarrollo de la teoría kantiana del sentimiento moral, presented by ConTextos Kantianos, Zhengmi Zhouhuang, Institute of Philosophy of Beijing Normal University, China, pub-
lished by the International Journal of Philosophy, S. 58-74, No. 5, June 2017

For of men it may generally be affirmed, that they are thankless, fickle, false studious to avoid danger, greedy of gain, devoted to you while you are able to confer benefits upon them, and ready, as I said before, while danger is distant,
to shed their blood, and sacrifice their property, their lives, and their children for you; but in the hour of need they turn against you. Niccolò Machiavelli (1469-1527) Italian civil servant of the Florentine Republic, humanist, historian, diplomat, political philosopher, founder of modern political science, writer, The Prince, Antonio Blado d'Asola, chapter XVII, "Of Cruelty and Clemency, and Whether It Is Better To Be Loved or Feared", 1532

Objectivist ethics, in essence, hold that man exists for his own sake, that the pursuit of his own happiness is his
highest moral purpose, that he must not sacrifice himself to others, nor sacrifice others to himself.
⚡ Ayn Rand (1905-1982) Russian-American philosopher, playwright, screenwriter, novelist, Atlas Shrugged, 1957²

If any civilization is to survive, it is the morality of altruism that men have to reject.
⚡ Ayn Rand (1905-1982) Russian-American philosopher, playwright, screenwriter, novelist, Faith and Force. The Destroyers
of the Modern World, lecture, Yale University, 17. February 1960, published as a pamphlet, Nathaniel Branden Institute, 1967,
published also in the posthumous collection of essays Philosophy. Who Needs It, Bobbs-Merrill, 1982

The natural world is "grossly immoral." […] Natural selection can honestly be described as a process for maximizing short-sighted selfishness. George Christopher Williams (1926-2010) US American professor of evolutionary biology, author,
cited in: Paul Davies, Niels Henrik Gregersen, Information and the Nature of Reality. From Physics to Metaphysics, S. 277,
Cambridge University Press, University Press, 2010, 2014

Lyrics of songs

In the end only kindness matters
I won't be made useless
I won't be idle with despair
I will gather myself around my faith
For light does the darkness most fear.
Jewel Kilcher (*1974) US American singer-songwriter, musician, producer, actress, poet, author,
single Hands, released from Kilcher's second album, "Spirit", 1998

Quotes by David R. Hawkins

⚠ Caveat See Power vs. Truth, January 2013

Be kind and loving to all living creatures at all times and in all their expressions – without exception, no matter what.
Dr. David R. Hawkins, source unknown

Simple kindness to one's self and all that lives, is the most powerful transformational force of all. It produces no backlash and no downside, and never leads to loss or despair. It increases one's own true power without exacting
any toll. But to reach maximum power such kindness can permit no exceptions, nor can it be practiced with the ex-
pectation of some selfish reward. And its effect is as far reaching as it is subtle.
Dr. David R. Hawkins, Power vs. Force. The Hidden Determinants of Human Behavior, Hay House, February 2002

All society is subliminally and subtly influenced by every kind and loving thought, word, or deed. Every forgiveness is a benefit to everyone. The universe notes and records every action and returns it in kind. Karma is actually the very nature of the universe because of the innate structure and function of the universe itself. In the universe time is measured in eons. Beyond that, it does not even exist at all. Every kindness is therefore forever.
Dr. David R. Hawkins, The Eye of the I From Which Nothing Is Hidden, chapter 13 "Explanations", S. 268, Veritas Publishing,
revised edition 2002

Happily, a loving thought is enormously more powerful than a negative one. Were it not so, there would be
no one left on this planet to tell the tale. Dr. David R. Hawkins, The Eye of the I From Which Nothing Is Hidden, Kindle
locations 6313-6314, S. 317, Veritas Publishing, revised edition 2002

Question: What can we actually do to be helpful to the world?
Answer: Make a gift of your life and lift all mankind by being kind, considerate, forgiving, and compassionate
at all times, in all places, and under all conditions, with everyone as well as yourself. That is the greatest gift anyone can give.
Dr. David R. Hawkins, The Eye of the I From Which Nothing is Hidden, chapter 17, S. 333, 2001, S. 257, revised edition 2002

Attitudes that may just seem merely 'nice' to ordinary mind become very powerful tools when aligned with spiritual intention and commitment. For instance, to strictly live by the dictum of 'good will to all life' is transformative when energized by the Spiritual Will. The decisions to 'be kind to all of life' or to respect the sacredness of all that exists are powerful attitudes in spiritual evolution, along with the virtues of compassion, the willingness to forgive, and seeking to understand rather than to judge. By constant surrendering, perceptions dissolve into discernment of essence.
Dr. David R. Hawkins, Discovery of the Presence of God. Devotional Nonduality, S. 62, 2007

The decisions to "be kind to all of life" or to respect the sacredness of all that exists are powerful attitudes in spiritual evolution, along the virtues of compassion, the willingness to forgive, and seeking to understand rather than to judge. By constantly surrendering, perceptions dissolve into the discernment of essence. Dr. David R. Hawkins, Along the Path
to Enlightenment. 365 Reflections from David R. Hawkins, edited by Scott Jeffrey, Reflection of June 1st, S. 82, January 2011

Every advance that we make in our awareness benefits unseen multitudes and strengthens the next step for others to follow. Every act of kindness is noticed by the universe and is preserved forever. Dr. David R. Hawkins, Along the Path to Enlightenment. 365 Reflections from David R. Hawkins, edited by Scott Jeffrey, Reflection of June 7th, S. 85, January 2011

Simple kindness to one's self and all that lives is the most powerful transformational force of all. It produces no back-
lash, has no downside, and never leads to loss or despair. It increases one's own true power without exacting any toll. But to reach maximum power, such kindness can permit NO exceptions, nor can it be practiced with the expectation of some selfish reward. And its effect is as far-reaching as it is subtle. Dr. David R. Hawkins, Along the Path to Enlightenment. 365 Reflections from David R. Hawkins, edited by Scott Jeffrey, Reflection of June 8th, S. 86, January 2011

To be as loving as you can be towards all of life and all of its expressions [...] I mean that is enough for a lifetime.
Okay. That'll keep you busy for a lifetime. Even to those that don’t deserve it! [Laugther.]
Dr. David R. Hawkins, Prescott Seminar Overcoming Doubt, Skepticism and Disbelief, 3 DVD set, 9. August 2008

Englische Texte – English section on Kindness

Jen science on humanity – Dacher Keltner

Classical
Indian architecture

Confucius describes rén (spoken jen) as humanity expressed in cardinal moral values. Rén means complete virtue.

Jen is the central idea in the teachings of Confucius, and refers to a complex mixture of kindness, humanity, and respect that transpires between people. A person of Jen brings the good things of others to completion and does not bring the bad things of others to completion. Jen is felt in that deeply satisfying moment when you bring out the goodness in others. Dacher Keltner, Ph.D.

A person of jen, Confucius observes, "wishing to establish his own character, also establishes the character of others." A person of jen "brings the good things of others to completion and does not bring the bad things of others to completion." Jen is felt in that deeply satisfying moment when you bring out the goodness in others. Dr. Dacher Keltner

Jen science […] is founded on the study of emotions such as compassion, gratitude, awe, embarrassment, and amusement, emotions that transpire between people, bringing the good in each other to completion. Dr. Dacher Keltner

Sources featuring Dacher Keltner, Ph.D., US American professor of psychology, University of California, Berkeley, altruism researcher,
director of the Greater Good Science Center, author
► Book Born to Be Good. The Science of a Meaningful Life, W.W. Norton & Company, 12. January 2009
► Article Born to Be Good, presented by the US American daily newspaper The New York Times, S. 1 of 6, 18. January 2009
► Slide collection Jen Science, presented by the Greater Good Science Center, UC Berkeley, California, undated

See also: ► Confucius and ► virtue and ► Respect and ► Dignity and ► Compassion and ► Gratitude and ► Joy and ► Soul

Having a lover and friends who look at you as a true living breathing entity, one that is human but made of very fine and moist and magical things as well [...] a lover and friends who support the criatura [creature] in you [...] these are the people you are looking for. They will be the friends of your soul for life. Mindful choosing of friends and lovers, not to men-
tion teachers, is critical to remaining conscious, remaining intuitive, remaining in charge of the fiery light that sees and knows.
Clarissa Pinkola Estés,, US American Jungian psychoanalyst, author, Women Who Run With the Wolves. Myths and Stories of
the Wild Woman Archetype, Ballantine Books, 1st edition November 1992, updated with new material 1996

Friendliness and the willingness to help are cascading 1:3.

Each additional contribution a subject makes to the public good in the first period is tripled over the course
of the experiment by other subjects who are directly or indirectly influenced to contribute more as a conse-
quence. These results show experimentally that cooperative behavior cascades in human social networks.
James H. Fowler, Ph.D. (*1970) US American social scientist specializing in social networks, cooperation, political participation, and genopolitics, professor of medical genetics, professor of political science, University of California, San Diego, Nicholas A. Christakis, M.D., Ph.D., MPH (*1962) Greek American professor of social and natural science, Harvard Medical School, Boston, Massachussetts, Yale University (*2013), New Haven, Connecticut, physician, author, Cooperative behavior cascades in human social networks, Politi-
cal Science Department, University of California, San Diego, La Jolla, California, and Harvard Faculty of Arts and Sciences and Harvard Medical School, Boston, Massachussetts, edited by Daniel Kahneman, Ph.D. (1934-2024) Israeli-American professor of psychology, founder of behavioral economics, Nobel laureate in economic sciences, 2002, Princeton University, New Jersey, approved 25. January 2010, published by PNAS online before print 8. March 2010

The author Haidt is researching: ➤ the spread of loneliness, ➤ empathy, ➤ centralized "smart center" networks ⇔ smart edges,
➤ group selection, ➤ the work of happiness and elevation, ➤ ways to construct networks of uplift.

Evidence shows that social networks propagate happiness in a contagious fashion 7% to 9% more powerfully than unhappiness. Jonathan Haidt, Ph.D. (*1963) US American professor of social, cultural and moral psychology and ethical leadership, New York University Stern School of Business

Further reference: ► Video interview and dialog with James H. Fowler, Ph.D. (*1970) US American social scientist specializing in social networks, cooperation, political participation, and genopolitics, professor of medical genetics, professor of political science, University of California, San Diego, Research of happiness, obesity, drinking based on the Framingham Heart Study data, UC San Diego Faculty Club, sponsored by the video series "Conversations with Tom", presented by the hosts Tom Munnecke, host, Heather Wood, host,
videographed by Robert Foxworth, 52:59 minutes duration, recorded 6. January 2009

See also: ► Principle 3:1

Siehe auch: ► Hilfsbereitschaft und Freundlichkeit pflanzt sich 1:3 weiter.

Forbidden fruits

Why Wine Is Forbidden

When the Prophet's ray of intelligence
struck the dim-witted man he was with,
the man got very happy, and talkative.
Soon he began unmannerly raving.
This is the problem with a selflessness
that comes quickly, as with wine.
If the wine drinker
has a deep gentleness in him,
he will show that, when drunk.
But if he has hidden anger and arrogance,
those appear,
and since most people do,
wine is forbidden to everyone.

Source: ► Jalal ad-Din Muḥammad Rumi (1207-1273)
Persian Muslim Sufi mystic, jurist, theologian, poet

See also: ► Poems

Links zum Thema Freundlichkeit / Kindness

Literatur

Literature (engl.)

Robert Frank, US American Cornell economist, Passions Within Reason, 1988

The health of long-term bonds depends upon high jen emotions like compassion, gratitude, and love.

Tor Nørretranders / Noerretranders (*1955) Danish non-fiction author of popular science, The Generous Man. How Helping Others is the Sexiest Thing You Can Do, Da Capo Press, 1st translated edition 29. September 2006
Dacher Keltner (*1962) US American professor of psychology, UC Berkeley, Born to Be Good. The Science of a Meaningful Life, W.W. Norton & Company, 12. January 2009
- Embarrassment (an ethic of modesty)
- Smile (as social chocolate)
- Laughter (the first step to nirvana)
- Tease (the perspective of others)
- Touch (an inexhaustible resource of rewards)
- Love (back to the birds and the bees)
- Compassion (a progenitor of courageous acts)
- Awe (unites us all)
  - Born to be Good by Dacher Keltner, presented by the television channel BookVideosTV, YouTube mini film,
    1:47 minutes duration, 24. November 2008
Nicholas A. Christakis, M.D., Ph.D., MPH (*1962) Greek American professor of social and natural science, Harvard Medical School, Boston, Massachussetts, Yale University (*2013), New Haven, Connecticut, physician, author, James H. Fowler, Ph.D. (*1970) US American social scientist specializing in social networks, cooperation, political participation, and genopolitics, professor of medical genetics, professor of political science, University of California, San Diego, Connected. The Surprising Power of Our Social Networks and How They Shape Our Lives, Little, Brown and Company, London, 28. September 2009

Externe Weblinks

Wikipedia-Einträge Freundlichkeit

External web links (engl.)

Wikipedia entries Kindness
Merriam-Webster entry Jen (Chinese term) meaning "humaneness" or "humanity" or "benevolence" – Confucian and Neo-Confucian value; a crucial, immensely complex, concept

Article The Paradox of Confucianism, presented by the publication lotsofessays.com, undated
Article The rich are different – and not in a good way, studies suggest. The 'Haves' show less empathy than 'Have-nots' , presented by the US American broadcast network MSNBC, Brian Alexander, 10. August 2011
Article The Evolutionary Benefits of Altruism, presented by the US American bimonthly magazine Psychology Today, Christopher Bergland, 25. December 2012

Audio- und Videolinks

Audio and video links (engl.)

Video interview with Peter Russell, M.A., D.C.S. (*1946) British physicist, eco-philosopher, awakened visionary futurist, producer of three films on consciousness, author, Looking for Love, presented by the US American Conscious Media Network via Gaia TV, host Regina Meredith, 26:08 minutes duration, posted July 2005 Subject to fee
Video animaton Random Acts of Kindness, Enya, quotes on friendliness, YouTube film, 4:30 minutes duration, posted
18. May 2009

Linkless media offerings

Video interview and dialog with James H. Fowler, Ph.D. (*1970) US American social scientist specializing in social networks, cooperation, political participation, and genopolitics, professor of medical genetics, professor of political science, University of California, San Diego, Research of happiness, obesity, drinking based on the Framingham Heart Study data, UC San Diego Faculty Club, sponsored by the video series "Conversations with Tom", presented by the hosts Tom Munnecke and Heather Wood, videographed by Robert Foxworth, 52:59 minutes duration, recorded 6. January 2009

Evidence shows that social networks propagate happiness in a contagious fashion, 7% to 9% more powerfully than unhappiness; the spread of loneliness, empathy research, centralized "smart center" networks ⇔ smart edges, group selection, the work of happiness and elevation by Jonathan Haidt, Ph.D., ways to construct networks of uplift.

Video by ⚡ Dr. David R. Hawkins, Discussion Series What You Are Changes the World, session #2, 60 minutes duration, spring 2012

Audio and video links (engl.) – Dacher Keltner

Audios and videos on matters of innate human goodness featuring Greater Good Science Center / Dacher Keltner, Ph.D. (*1962) US American professor of psychology, University of California, Berkeley, altruism researcher, director of the Greater Good Science Center, UC Berkeley, California, researcher of human emotion turning the Hobbesian view of human nature
["Life is nasty, brutish, and short."], author / cohosts

Type	Offering	Heading	Sponsor ♦ Location ♦ P-Date	Minutes duration	Release date
YouTube video	Audio lecture	*Audio Podcast Lecture Series*	Educational podcast service Learn out Loud, edition "Human Happiness", "Human Emotion" 2006		Starting August 2009
YouTube video	Video presentation	*Are We Wired To Be Kind?* Copresenter Lynne Isbell, Ph.D., US American professor of anthropology, UC Davis	Wonderfest Bay Area Festival of Science, 2007	1:21:43	Posted 23. February 2008
Quote by Lynne Isbell: "We are wired to be super-kind."
YouTube video	Audio interview	*Born to Be Good, Your Jen Ratio and Cro-Magnon CEOs* episode 83/episode 84	US American free web audio channel Personal Life Media, program Dishymix, host Susan Bratton, CEO, Personal Life Media	41:21 ~40:00	2009
YouTube video	Video presentation	*Dacher Keltner on the Science of Trust*	Arts and Letters, Berkeley, California Filmed by Fora.tv	1:02:32 2:53	21. January 2009 2. January 2015
YouTube video	Video presentation	*The Evolutionary Benefits of Altruism*	Sustainable Brands, Sustainable Brands Conference	20:18	31. May-4. June 2009
YouTube video	Audio interview	*Happiness and Health* psychology podcast #217	US American web radio station Shrink Rap Radio, host David Van Nuys, Ph.D., US American professor emeritus, Psychology Department, Sonoma State University, California	16:27	Aired 28. August 2009
YouTube video	Video presentation, dialogue and Q&A	*Does Darwin Illuminate Emotion and Spirituality?* excerpt The Evolution of Emotions – Dacher Keltner Dialog partner Paul Ekman, Ph.D. paulekman.com (*1934) US American professor of psychology, anthropologist, pioneer in the study of emotions and facial expressions, UCSF, author	Wonderfest, recorded by the event video production company Fora.tv	1:26:05 4:13	Aired 8. November 2009 Posted 18. November 2009
YouTube video	Video presentation	*Born to be Good. The Science of a Meaningful Life*	Google Tech Talk	1:05:34	Aired 9. December 2009 Posted 10. December 2009
Deleted video	Video dialogue, interview and Q&A	*In Conversation* Excerpted clip Is Technology Changing Our Brains?	"Public Library", Los Angeles and publisher W. W. Norton, filmed by Fora.tv	43:19 2:26	Aired 5. February 2010 Posted 20. February 2009
YouTube video	Audio interview	*Survival of the Kindest*	Canadian web radio station CBC Radio Tapestry, host Mary Hynes, Canadian journalist	54:01	Aired 28. February 2010 30. January 2011
Vimeo video	Presentation and Q&A	*The Compassionate Instinct: A Darwinian Tale of the Survival of the Kindest*	Stanford Compassionate University Project	59:36	Posted October 2011
References made to Ayn Rand Minute 34:05 Cynical suggestions on human nature Minute 34:05 Mention of Richard Wilkinson's epidemiological study results, Minute 37:11 Social income inequality Minute 38:00 Two Stanford studies on 1) Competition ⇔ cooperation 2) "Bond traders are more aggressively competitive than sociopaths." Minute 50:22 //check//
YouTube video	Presentation	*Bringing Out the Good*	The Center for Spirituality & Healing (UMNCSH)	10:41	9. June 2015
Ancient Confucian concept of "jen" is wired in the human nervous system.
YouTube video	Video presentation	Dacher Keltner – Survival of the Kindest	Private nonprofit scientific foundation Mind Science Foundation (MSF)	53:56	15. July 2015
YouTube video	Presentation	*Dacher Keltner: "The Power Paradox: The Promise and Peril of 21st Century Power"*	Talks at Google, Los Angeles, California	56:15	14. October 2016

Source: ► Happiness research: Audio and video links (engl.) – Dacher Keltner

Movies and music links (engl.)

Video Kindness: The World We Make | Ripple Effect | Pay It Forward | Kindness Video, YouTube film, 2:34 minutes duration, posted 29. October 2019