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David von Michelangelo
Die fünf wesentlichen gravierenden Wahrheiten der männlichen Initiation (im Westen) sind:
DOMINANZ / UNTERWERFUNG Überlebensbedingte Abhängigkeit Entwicklungsstufe 1 ✰ | PARTNERSCHAFT Gleichgewicht zwischen Überleben und Erfüllung durch gegenseitige Fürsorge Entwicklungsstufe 2 ✰ ✰ |
| Mann und Frau waren Rollen-Partner. | Mann und Frau werden Seelen-Partner sein. |
| Killer-Zerstörer-Beschützer-Mann Paare aus allen Gesellschaftsschichten | Empathischer netzwerkender redegewandter Mann Paare aus mittleren und gehobenen Gesellschaftsschichten |
| Getrenntes Lieben Arbeitsteilung – Spaltung der Interessen Frauen betreuten die Kinder. Männer beschafften das Geld. | Vereintes Lieben Gemeinsame Interessen und Werte – Würde für alle |
| Vergangenheit 50.000 Jahre | Zukunft seit den 50er Jahren |
| In der Vergangenheit führte die Entscheidung für einen Killer-Mann zur Idee des 'Überleben des Stärkeren'.1 | Angesichts der nuklearen Technologie kann die Entscheidung für den Zerstörer-Mann die mögliche Vernichtung der Menschheit in der Zukunft herbeiführen. Somit wurde das, was ehemals funktioniert hat, dysfunktional. [Die Zukunft ist offen für die Idee der gegenseitigen Fürsorge.] |
| In der Vergangenheit mussten sich die Männer von ihren Gefühlen abschneiden, ansonsten wären sie nicht dazu zu bewegen gewesen zu sterben, um ihre Familie und Gemeinschaft zu beschützen. Deshalb mussten sich Frauen in Männer verlieben, die ihrem Wesen nach zur Liebe unfähig waren. | In Zukunft können Frauen es sich leisten, sich immer seltener in den Killer-Beschützer und immer öfter in den Anteilnehmenden-Vermittler zu verlieben. |
| In der Vergangenheit waren sowohl das Überleben, die Ehe als auch die Familie auf den Killer-Mann angewiesen. | In Zukunft werden sowohl das Überleben, die Ehe als auch die Familie auf den gesprächsfreudigen Mann angewiesen sein. |
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Liberating impact of feminism: |
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Feminist/masculinist movements are liberating democracy from patriarchy. |
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Clarification: |
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Dignity is not right or left, white or black, male or female, superior or inferior, conservative or progressive. It's nonpartisan. The more accurate term for "egalitarian society" is dignitarian society. |
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Personal awovals
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True love is the true authority of a man over a woman. |
DOMINANCE / SUBJUGATION Survival based dependency Stage 1 ✰ | PARTNERSHIP Balance between survival and self-fulfillment by mutual caring Stage 2 ✰ ✰ |
| Men and women were Role mates. | Men and women will be Soul mates. |
| Man as killer-destroyer-protector2 Couples from any class | Man as communicative nurturer-connector Couples of the middle/upper class |
| Segregated Loving Division of labor – Division of interest Women raised the children. Men raised the money. Women were valued for their fertility, men for their disposability. | Transition to United Loving Common interest and common values – Dignity for all Women and men share raising a family and earning a living. |
This is really the first time in human history that the qualities it takes to survive
as a species are compatible with the qualities it takes to love.
Audio interview with Warren Farrell, Farrell.com, US American spokesman of men's liberation
| P A S T 50,000 years | F U T U R E Since the 50ties |
| In the past choosing the killer male led to the 'survival of the fittest'.3 | In the future – with nuclear technology – choosing the killer (destroyer) male leads to the potential destruction of everyone. So what was functional has become disfunctional. [The future is open for the idea of mutual caring.] |
| In the past men had to be cut off from their feelings or they would not have been led to die to protect the family and community. So women had to fall in love with people who were inherently incapable of loving. | In the future women can afford to fall in love less and less with the killer-protector and more and more with the nurturer-connector. |
| In the past survival, marriage, and the family all required the killer male. | In the future survival, marriage, and the family will all require the communicative male. |
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Personal avowal
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History of gender relationships
Stages of male role models
Lost innocence
Violence
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Boy abuse: |
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Tax payers and spectators pacify themselves by calling it education. |
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Non-violence: |
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Male gods were primary when protection was the primary need. |
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Conflict: |
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87% of the US men and three quarters of the US women voted for entering Gulf War II. |
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Sexuality and dating patterns: |
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Resocialising women to initiate sexually and risk rejection as well and to take responsibility for saying what they do want, not only what they don't want. |
Dirty jokes
Hazing
Selfesteem (disposability)
Vulnerability
Men's fathers and feelings (the two F’s)
Foundation of Civilising women
Opression – Survival
Definition of power
Errors of feminism
Evolution – gender transition
In a society in which men are expected to be strong, independent, aggressive, and impervious to emotional
stress, it is inevitable that men’s health will suffer.
• Boys are nine times more likely than girls to suffer from hyperactivity.
• Young men are five times more likely to commit suicide than young women.
• Men have far higher rates of substance abuse and antisocial personality disorder than women.
William S. Pollack, Ronald F. Levant, New Psychotherapy for Men, John Wiley & Sons; 1st edition, 15. January 1998
The Man Box mentality is drummed into virtually all men and boys while being socialized into a male dominated culture. Locked into the brain circuits it led many men to disrespect, mistreat and abuse women and each other.
US American educator and activist to end violence against women Tony Porter shares how he was socialized into the Man Box, how he had suffered in it, how he had pressed it onto to his 5-year-old son, how he had succumbed to the man box call pretending to sexually abuse a 16 year old mentally ill girl to be accepted as a "real" man in the gang, how ashamed he was about not being able to speak the truth and to act honorably, to act as a gentle man. After he grasped the tragedy of a world in violence and abuse – he is promoting a gentle world for both men and women.
Tony Porter makes a call to men everywhere: Don't "act like a man." Break free of the "man box."
Video interview with Tony Porter, US American educator and activist to end violence against women on A call to men, presented by TED Talks,
11:14 minutes duration, filmed and posted December 2010, YouTube film, posted 10. December 2010
Links zum Thema Männer und Männerliteratur (engl.) / Men and Men's literatureMännerliteratur
Männerliteratur (engl.)
Externe Weblinks
Externe Weblinks (engl.)
Audio und Videolinks (engl.)
[kostenloses Webradio-Programm zu Männerthemen, Manaliveradio.com, Gastgeber Michael Pisacane und Sally Bickford]
Videolinks (engl.) – Status der modernen Männer / Status of modern men
Videolinks (engl.) – Heilung der Männer / Healing men
Audio und Videolinks (engl.) – Dr. Warren Farrell
Audio und Videolinks (engl.) – Black HUMOR
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Englisch Wiki
Hawkins
1 Die zwei Versionen der Darwinschen Evolutionstheorie nach Dr. David Loye ⇑
3 Two versions of Darwin's Evolutionary Theory – Dr. David Loye ⇑