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Zitate zum Thema Männer und Männerliteratur / Men and Men's literature

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Die fünf wesentlichen gravierenden Wahrheiten der männlichen Initiation (im Westen) sind:

Zitate von Warren Farrell (US-amerikanische Männerbewegung)


DOMINANZ / UNTERWERFUNG
Überlebensbedingte Abhängigkeit
Entwicklungsstufe 1

PARTNERSCHAFT
Gleichgewicht zwischen Überleben und
Erfüllung durch gegenseitige Fürsorge

Entwicklungsstufe 2
✰ ✰
Mann und Frau waren Rollen-Partner.Mann und Frau werden Seelen-Partner sein.
Killer-Zerstörer-Beschützer-Mann
Paare aus allen Gesellschaftsschichten
Empathischer netzwerkender redegewandter Mann
Paare aus mittleren und gehobenen Gesellschaftsschichten
Getrenntes Lieben
Arbeitsteilung – Spaltung der Interessen
Frauen betreuten die Kinder. Männer beschafften das Geld.
Vereintes Lieben
Gemeinsame Interessen und Werte – Würde für alle

 

Vergangenheit
50.000 Jahre
Zukunft
seit den 50er Jahren
In der Vergangenheit führte die Entscheidung für einen Killer-Mann zur Idee des 'Überleben des Stärkeren'.1Angesichts der nuklearen Technologie kann die Entscheidung für den Zerstörer-Mann die mögliche Vernichtung der Menschheit in der Zukunft herbeiführen. Somit wurde das, was ehemals funktioniert hat, dysfunktional.
[Die Zukunft ist offen für die Idee der gegenseitigen Fürsorge.]
In der Vergangenheit mussten sich die Männer von ihren Gefühlen abschneiden, ansonsten wären sie nicht dazu zu bewegen gewesen zu sterben, um ihre Familie und Gemeinschaft zu beschützen.
Deshalb mussten sich Frauen in Männer verlieben, die ihrem Wesen nach zur Liebe unfähig waren.
In Zukunft können Frauen es sich leisten, sich immer seltener in den Killer-Beschützer und immer öfter in den Anteilnehmenden-Vermittler zu verlieben.
In der Vergangenheit waren sowohl das Überleben, die Ehe als auch die Familie auf den Killer-Mann angewiesen.In Zukunft werden sowohl das Überleben, die Ehe als auch die Familie auf den gesprächsfreudigen Mann angewiesen sein.

 

Quelle: Audiointerview mit Warren Farrell, Farrell.com, Sprecher der Männerbefreiungsbewegung, Aktivist für Männerrechte, ehemaliger Direktor der National Organisation for Women, zum Thema The Myth of Male Power, Teil 6 von 19,
präsentiert von Simon & Schuster Audio, Gastgeber Tom Howard, Minute 8:38, 10:00 Minuten Dauer, eingestellt 10. Juli 2008

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  • "Men," said the fox, "they have guns, and they hunt. It is very disturbing. They also raise chickens. These are their only interests." [...]
    "My life is very monotonous," the fox said. "I hunt chickens; men hunt me. All the chickens are just alike, and all the men are just alike. And, in consequence, I am a little bored. Antoine de Saint-Exupery (1900-1944) French writer, aviator, The Little Prince and the Fox, chapter 21

 

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Liberating impact of feminism:

Feminist/masculinist movements are liberating democracy from patriarchy.

Zitate (engl.) von Frauen

  • [T]he male wounding is VERY, VERY DEEP. [...] To be a man and to be asked to reclaim the energy of the heart is brutally difficult. It's easier for women to buck their conditioning and stand in their power than it is for men to reclaim the energy of the heart. Lucia René, US American mystic, ordained Buddhist monk, spiritual teacher, woman's activist, author of Unplugging the Patriarchy, excerpted from teleseminar Women on the Edge of Evolution, MP3, spring 2010

 

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Clarification:

Dignity is not right or left, white or black, male or female, superior or inferior, conservative or progressive. It's nonpartisan. The more accurate term for "egalitarian society" is dignitarian society.

  • Women are now on the frontlines of consciousness. Until women reclaim their power, throw off their conditioning of being second class citizens, and really move out on the frontlines men won't have a chance to react to that and to open up the emotional body and to process their reaction to the second class citizen. Now we are coming into equality. [...]
    The oppressed must throw off the yoke and say 'No more! I am going to stand!' [...] If I simply stand and I meet your energy with exactly the right amount of energy that you are projecting at me to counter it... It is very gandhiesque what I am proposing that women simply stand and allow men to react, allow men to process what they need to process in order to reclaim their heart and come into a more humble state of mind where they are ready, willing, and able to come to the table and accept women as equals and to co-create an egalitarian society. [...] Everyone is needed. There's no right and wrong here. We have all bought into this out of balance system. But really, it is women who must make the first move and be strong enough to allow men to then react against that.
    Video interview with Lucia René, US American mystic, ordained Buddhist monk, author, spiritual teacher, woman's activist, Unplugging the Patriarchy, presented by Project Avalon, host Bill Ryan, YouTube film, minute 0:41:25, 1:24:22 duration, posted 27. March 2011

 

  • You can retrain brain circuits to do a variety of things [...] and all of our lives we can be gender trained to be more one way or the other.
    When they put electrodes on males and show them a gruesome photograph that is supposed to make you cringe and emotional their facial expressions versus the females' actually show more emotional response in the time before it becomes conscious. And right after the one second level when it becomes conscious they start to freeze down their facial muscles for frowning or smiling. Females' facial muscles actually amplify and the males' go down. The hypothesis of scientists is that males have been trained to suppress their emotional feelings. Dr. Louann Brizendine, US American professor in neurobiology, UC Berkeley, Gender Identity. Is Nature vs. Nurture Dead?, presented by ForaTV, aired 31. March 2010, YouTube, minute 2:28, 3:45 minutes duration, posted 3. May 2010

 

  • Yes, men and boys receive privilege and status from patriarchy, but it is a poisoned privilege for which they pay a heavy price. If traditional, patriarchal socialization takes aim at girls' voices, it takes aim at boys' hearts – makes them lose the deepest, most sensitive and empathic parts of themselves. Men aren't even allowed to be depressed, which is why they engage so often in various forms of self-numbing, from sex to alcohol and drugs to gambling and workaholism. Patriarchy strikes a Faustian bargain with men. Jane Fonda, US American Oscar winning actress, political activist, Jane Fonda's Speech at the National Women's Leadership Summit, Washington, D.C., 12. June 2003

 

  • Human males, like many other male primates, are instinctively motivated by a drive for status or dominance. The male social world is saturated with behaviors driven by status seeking. Men jostle with each other daily, if not hourly, to gain as much status as they can and to avoid losing the status they have. Judith L. Hand, US American evolutionary biologist, animal behaviorist (ethologist), novelist, pioneer in the emerging field of peace ethology, author of Women, Power, and the Biology of Peace [2003], The Pivotal Catalyst for Change and Longterm Stability

Zitate (engl.) von Männern

Personal awovals

  • I personally believe that 99.99% of all cocaine and meth use in men is about one thing: sex.
    And 99.99 % of that sex is about one thing: rage. Kevin McCauley, M.D. The Institute For Addiction Study, US American addiction researcher and therapist, Meth Keynote, Meth Action Coalition Meth Summit, 2007, Vimeo video, minute 1:08:40, 1:12:43 minutes duration, posted 2009
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True love is the true authority of a man over a woman.

  • To be a fully integrated male, a man has to assimilate in his body the divine female energies that woman can only release to him through right physical lovemaking. But the man has to be man enough. He has to be able to love her enough; that is, love her selflessly during the actual act of lovemaking. He has to be able to absorb and express sufficient love in his body to reach the highest part of her, and love enough to extract the divine energies from her deepest center. To be able to love in this way is his only true authority over woman. Barry Long (1926-2003) Australian editor, press secretary, writer, spiritual and tantra teacher

 

  • Men need to learn to be "women". They need to learn to surrender. Take eternity as your lover and allow eternity to do with you as it will. Frederick Philip Lenz, III, Ph.D. [Rama] (1950-1998) US American Buddhist spiritual teacher

 

  • Men are afraid to be women. Men make the wars and have interest in hate and killing. They have unstable energy. Men must accept their female side and then there will be balance. Frederick Philip Lenz, III, Ph.D. [Rama] (1950-1998) US American Buddhist spiritual teacher

 

  • [The possibility of the 'wildman' is] the possibility that the deep, nourishing and spirituality radiant energy in the male lies not in the feminine side, but in the deep masculine. [...] Now that so many men are getting in touch with their feminine side, we're ready to start seeing the wildman and to put his powerful, dark energy to use. Robert Bly (*1926) US American poet, author, activist, leader Mythopoetic Men's Movement

 

  • Men have been programmed by society not to be intimate.
    What do men want from women? – Sex.
    What do women want from men? – Security and Money.
    What kind of relationship does that make? – Prostitution.
    We [men] lie a lot. [...] We are gonna fake it. [...] Truthfully what we [men] want is the same that you [women] want. Men are women turned inside out. We are. Audio interview with Dr. Stan Dale (1929-2007) US American sex, love and intimacy expert, founder of Human Awareness Institute on Intimacy [i.e. "into me you see"], May 1993

 

  • Women read 90% of all the relationship books that are published and initiate about 70% of divorces and breakups. On the other side men suffer much more when they are left financially and emotionally and if they are in a relationship benefit from being in the relationship more, but frequently care less about what makes love work. So I figured it helps both sexes the most if men get more educated about relationships because it takes two people to cocreate a relationship but only one person to end it. Martin Ucik, German general manager, entrepreneur, integral relationship evolutionary, author, Allan Combs and Martin Ucik talk about Martin's book, "Integral Relationships, a Manual for Men", YouTube film, minute 1:30, 4:47 minutes duration, posted 15. August 2011

 

  • Men throughout the world have unconscious wishes to return to infancy, longings to suckle at the breast, to return to the womb, the powerful temptation to surrender one’s masculine autonomy to the omnipotent mother of childhood fantasy. David Gilmore, Ph.D., US American professor of anthropology, State University of New York, Stony Brook, author, Misogyny. The Male Malady, Anthropologist, University of Pennsylvania Press, 11. May 2001

 

  • Any development, at any stage, that strives toward patriarchal consciousness, toward the sun, looks on the moon spirit as the spirit of regression, as the terrible mother, as a witch. Erich Neumann (1905–1960) German psychologist, writer, The Origin and Evolution of Consciousness

 

  • All men are frauds. The only difference between them is that some admit it. I myself deny it. H. L. Mencken (1880-1956) US American journalist, essayist, magazine editor, satirist, critic of American life and culture

Zitate (engl.) von Fr. Richard Rohr – Männerinitiation / Male spirituality and Initiation

  • The Five Promises (essential tough truths) of Male Initiation are:
    1. Life is Hard.
    2. You Are Not Important.
    3. Your Life Is Not About You.
    4. You Are Not in Control.
    5. You Are Going to Die.
Father Richard Rohr, OFM, Adam's Return. The Five Promises of Male Initiation, Table of Contents (five chapters), The Crossroad Publishing Company, 2004

 

  • The males of most cultures will ordinarily define themselves by external performance, self created ordeals, and ego affirming tasks – unless they are offered a very real inner world and larger outer world that is even more alive and challenging. […] Older cultures seemed to assume that unless the male is led on deliberate journeys of powerlessness, he will normally seek and abuse power. The only external power that you can trust is in men who have also found their real inner power. Power it seems is the key fascination in the male soul and in every male archetype.
    It does not go away by churchy preaching or cultural poverty. It just takes disguised and different forms and finally comes back to defeat most worthwhile projects or worse, keeps them from ever getting started. If the male does not experience his power and his possibilities, if he does not let others educate it and tame it, power needs/ego needs tend to control his whole agenda. It does not go away. Primal cultures understood this to an amazing degree, and they took steps to insure that it would not keep happening and subverting their community. Father Richard Rohr, OFM, Made not Born: Men and Power, presented by Malespirituality.org, July 2003

 

  • Masculine spirituality is not just for men, although it is men who are most likely going to have to rediscover and exemplify it. Strangely, it is an approach that many women are more in touch with today than men. Women have been encouraged and even forced to work on their inner life more than men in our culture. Father Richard Rohr, OFM, Masculine Spirituality, September-October 1988

 

  • In the Chinese view of the universe, it is the yang, or active masculine principle, that is always the necessary complement to yin, the passive feminine principle. For the Judaeo-Christian tradition it is half of the image of God: “God created humanity as a self-image, male and female God created them” (Genesis 1:27). Father Richard Rohr, OFM, Masculine Spirituality, September-October 1988

 

  • Conversion to what? Conversion to what we might call the no-me.
    By that I mean conversion to the other, the alien, the would-be enemy that we must learn to love.
    In other words, men must be converted to the feminine, women to the masculine.
    Maybe that is why God made sexual attraction so compelling.
    If we are converted to this non-self, everything changes. Father Richard Rohr, OFM, Masculine Spirituality, September-October 1988

 

  • A masculine spirituality would emphasize action over theory, service to the human community over religious discussions, speaking the truth over social graces, and doing justice over looking nice. Without a complementary masculine, spirituality becomes overly feminine (which is really a false feminine!) and characterized by too much inwardness, preoccupation with relationships, a morass of unclarified feeling, and endless self-protectiveness. Father Richard Rohr, OFM, Masculine Spirituality, September-October 1988

 

  • Such a man has life for others and knows it. He does not need to push, intimidate, or play the power games common to other men because he possesses his power with surety and calm self-confidence. He is not opinionated or arrogant, but he knows. He is not needy or bothered by status symbols because he is […] his identity is settled and secure – and within. He possesses his soul and does not give it lightly to corporations, armies, nation-states, or the acceptable collective thinking. Father Richard Rohr, OFM, Masculine Spirituality, September-October 1988

 

  • Saints are people who are whole.
    They trust their masculine soul because they have met the Father. He (sic!) taught them about anger, passion, power and clarity. He told them to go all the way through and pay the price for it. He shared with them his own creative seed, his own decisive Word, his own illuminating Spirit. They are comfortable knowing and they are comfortable not knowing.
    They can care and not care without guilt. They can act without success because they have named their fear of failure. They do not need to affirm or deny, judge or ignore. But they are free to do all of them with impunity. The saints are invincible. They are men! Father Richard Rohr, OFM, Masculine Spirituality, September-October 1988

 

Zitate (engl.) – Warren Farrell (US-amerikanische Männerbewegung / men's movement)


DOMINANCE / SUBJUGATION
Survival based dependency
Stage 1

PARTNERSHIP
Balance between survival and
self-fulfillment by mutual caring

Stage 2
✰ ✰
Men and women were Role mates.Men and women will be Soul mates.
Man as killer-destroyer-protector2
Couples from any class
Man as communicative nurturer-connector
Couples of the middle/upper class
Segregated Loving
Division of labor – Division of interest
Women raised the children. Men raised the money.
Women were valued for their fertility, men for their disposability.
Transition to United Loving
Common interest and common values – Dignity for all
Women and men share raising a family and earning a living.

 

This is really the first time in human history that the qualities it takes to survive
as a species are compatible with the qualities it takes to love.

Audio interview with Warren Farrell, Farrell.com, US American spokesman of men's liberation

P A S T
50,000 years
F U T U R E
Since the 50ties
In the past choosing the killer male led to the 'survival of the fittest'.3In the future – with nuclear technology – choosing the killer
(destroyer) male
leads to the potential destruction of everyone.
So what was functional has become disfunctional.
[The future is open for the idea of mutual caring.]
In the past men had to be cut off from their feelings or they would not have been led to die to protect the family and community.
So women had to fall in love with people who were inherently incapable of loving.
In the future women can afford to fall in love less and less with the killer-protector and more and more with the nurturer-connector.
In the past survival, marriage, and the family all required the killer male.In the future survival, marriage, and the family will all require the communicative male.

 

Source: Audio interview with Warren Farrell, Farrell.com, US American spokesman of men's liberation, men's rights activist, former director of the National Organisation for Women, on The Myth of Male Power, part 6 of 19, presented by Simon & Schuster Audio, host Tom Howard, minute 8:38, 10:00 minutes duration, posted 10. July 2008

 

Women have already begun to move from stage 1 to stage 2 en masse, beginning with the women’s liberation movements of the 50’s and 60’s,
while men have largely remained "stuck" in much the same condition women were in before the rise of feminism. And this cultural "stuckness" not only reinforces many of the same unhealthy dynamics feminism was originally conceived to address, but also makes it much more difficult for women to fully grow from stage 1 to stage 2 in a complete and authentic way.
Warren Farrell and Ken Wilber, Does Feminism Discriminate Against Men? Beyond Feminism and Masculism. Redefining the Relationships Between Men and Women, written by Corey W. deVos

Personal avowal

  • Ultimately I am really not in favor of either a men's movement or a women's movement. I am in favor of a gender transition movement. However, I oppose skipping past a men's movement until men have equally articulated our perspective. I think then and only then we'll be able for a synthesis. Audio interview with Warren Farrell, Farrell.com, US American spokesman of men's liberation, men's rights activist, former director of the National Organisation for Women, on The Myth of Male Power, part 2 of 19, presented by Simon & Schuster Audio, host Tom Howard, minute 4:31, 10:00 minutes duration, posted 10. July 2008

History of gender relationships

  • This is really the first time in human history that the qualities it takes to survive as a species are compatible with the qualities it takes to love. Audio interview with Warren Farrell, Farrell.com, US American spokesman of men's liberation, men's rights activist, former director of the National Organisation for Women, on The Myth of Male Power, part 6 of 19, presented by Simon & Schuster Audio, host Tom Howard, minute 8:38, 10:00 minutes duration, posted 10. July 2008

 

Stages of male role models

  • Traditional women went from father to husband to God, the Father.
    And men competed to be their fathers in the form of either priests or ministers or rabbis.
    New Age women went from father to husband to guru.
    And men competed to be their guru. Audio interview with Warren Farrell, Farrell.com, US American spokesman of men's liberation, men's rights activist, former director of the National Organisation for Women, on The Myth of Male Power, part 14 of 19, presented by Simon & Schuster Audio, host Tom Howard, minute 7:20, 10:01 minutes duration, posted 10. July 2008

 

  • Both sexes made themselves slaves to the other sex in different ways.
    For thousands of years most marriages were in stage 1. They were survival focused marriages.
    After World War II marriages increasingly flirted with stage 2, a self-fulfillment focus. Audio interview with Warren Farrell, Farrell.com, US American spokesman of men's liberation, men's rights activist, former director of the National Organisation for Women, on The Myth of Male Power, part 5 of 19, presented by Simon & Schuster Audio, host Tom Howard, minute 4:38, 10:01 minutes duration, posted 10. July 2008

 

  • The biology of women in a survival-focused world was the child raising and that left the social role of men to raising the money to support the biological role of women. And it’s not been until industrialized societies had enough income to help society progress from what I call a
    • Stage 1, which is survival-focused to
    • Stage 2, which is focused on the balance between survival and self-fulfillment,
that we could produce people who were able to focus on what rights and opportunities they had.
Interview with Warren Farrell, presented by MenWeb.org, J. Steven Svoboda, 12. June 2008
Warren Farrell and Ken Wilber, Does Feminism Discriminate Against Men? Beyond Feminism and Masculism, Redefining the Relationships Between Men and Women, written by Corey W. deVos

 

  • At first, the rigid gender roles of men and women were born from necessity, and reflected a conscious choice on behalf of both genders to separate the world into public and private spheres, with men tending to the public, and women tending to the private. These roles became increasingly reinforced throughout history, as biological necessity determined that women would be valued for their fertility, and men for their disposability. Warren Farrell and Ken Wilber, Does Feminism Discriminate Against Men? Beyond Feminism and Masculism, Redefining the Relationships Between Men and Women, written by Corey W. deVos

 

Mutuality

  • When one sex loses, both sexes lose. When just one sex appears to win, both sexes lose. Audio interview with Warren Farrell, Farrell.com, US American spokesman of men's liberation, men's rights activist, former director of the National Organisation for Women, on The Myth of Male Power, part 13 of 19, presented by Simon & Schuster Audio, host Tom Howard, minute 8:10, 10:01 minutes duration, posted 10. July 2008

 

Victimhood

  • Historically, women as victim attracts men. Men as victim repulses women.
    Historically, women dropped hankerchiefs (as if they played victims) as a way of discovering where the saviors are located. Audio interview with Warren Farrell, Farrell.com, US American spokesman of men's liberation, men's rights activist, former director of the National Organisation for Women, on The Myth of Male Power, part 14 of 19, presented by Simon & Schuster Audio, host Tom Howard, minute 2:28, 10:01 minutes duration, posted 10. July 2008

 

  • Women's strength is their facade of weakness,
    men's weakness is their facade of strength. Audio interview with Warren Farrell, Farrell.com, US American spokesman of men's liberation, men's rights activist, former director of the National Organisation for Women, on The Myth of Male Power, part 16 of 19, presented by Simon & Schuster Audio, host Tom Howard, minute 2:37, 10:01 minutes duration, posted 10. July 2008

 

Lost innocence

  • When a man falls in love with an innocent woman, he "falls in love" because her "innocence" allows him to get a reunion within himself with the part in himself that got lost in the process of protecting her innocence. Audio interview with Warren Farrell, Farrell.com, US American spokesman of men's liberation, men's rights activist, former director of the National Organisation for Women, on The Myth of Male Power, part 12 of 19, presented by Simon & Schuster Audio, host Tom Howard, minute 3:18, 10:01 minutes duration, posted 10. July 2008

 

Violence

  • Violence is almost always the outgrowth of powerlessness not power. People become criminals when they experience powerlessness not power. Audio interview with Warren Farrell, Farrell.com, US American spokesman of men's liberation, men's rights activist, former director of the National Organisation for Women, on The Myth of Male Power, part 14 of 19, presented by Simon & Schuster Audio, host Tom Howard, minute 1:09, 10:01 minutes duration, posted 10. July 2008

 

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Boy abuse:

Tax payers and spectators pacify themselves by calling it education.
Violence against men is seen as entertainment. Violence against women is seen as a crime.

  • Junior High School American football is cash payer subsidized boy abuse. Audio interview with Warren Farrell, Farrell.com, US American spokesman of men's liberation, men's rights activist, former director of the National Organisation for Women, on The Myth of Male Power, part 8 of 19, presented by Simon & Schuster Audio, host Tom Howard, minute 0:05, 10:01 minutes duration, posted 10. July 2008

 

  • Girls are encouraged to cheer for violence against men. Our team winning really meant our society protected. Audio interview with Warren Farrell, Farrell.com, US American spokesman of men's liberation, men's rights activist, former director of the National Organisation for Women, on The Myth of Male Power, part 8 of 19, presented by Simon & Schuster Audio, host Tom Howard, minute 0:05, 10:01 minutes duration, posted 10. July 2008

 

  • The disconnection from feelings that it required to be willing to be shot on the battle field or to be hurt on the football field does not a loving man make.
    The athletes for whom women cheer are also the athletes who are involved in one third of the campus' sexual assaults. Audio interview with Warren Farrell, Farrell.com, US American spokesman of men's liberation, men's rights activist, former director of the National Organisation for Women, on The Myth of Male Power, part 8 of 19, presented by Simon & Schuster Audio, host Tom Howard, minute 0:05, 10:01 minutes duration, posted 10. July 2008

 

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Non-violence:

Male gods were primary when protection was the primary need.
They were not primary when protection was not the primary need.

  • Men quickly become non-violent when three conditions are met.
    When there was plenty of food and water and no threat of attack men did have to be (off) killing so they could be part of a partnership at home. Audio interview with Warren Farrell, Farrell.com, US American spokesman of men's liberation, men's rights activist, former director of the National Organisation for Women, on The Myth of Male Power, part 8 of 19, presented by Simon & Schuster Audio, host Tom Howard, minute 0:05, 10:01 minutes duration, posted 10. July 2008

 

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Conflict:

87% of the US men and three quarters of the US women voted for entering Gulf War II.

  • War is caused by our primal fear of not surviving. That is a two sex fear. Audio interview with Warren Farrell, Farrell.com, US American spokesman of men's liberation, men's rights activist, former director of the National Organisation for Women, on The Myth of Male Power, part 12 of 19, presented by Simon & Schuster Audio, host Tom Howard, minute 2:21, 10:01 minutes duration, posted 10. July 2008

 

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Sexuality and dating patterns:

Resocialising women to initiate sexually and risk rejection as well and to take responsibility for saying what they do want, not only what they don't want.
Resocialising men to accept a woman's NO for a no.

  • We need to be resocialising both sexes simultaneously, not just blaming men. We need to encourage both sexes to take different types of sexual responsibilities than we've trained in the past. Audio interview with Warren Farrell, Farrell.com, US American spokesman of men's liberation, men's rights activist, former director of the National Organisation for Women, on The Myth of Male Power, part 17 of 19, presented by Simon & Schuster Audio, host Tom Howard, minute 1:36, 10:01 minutes duration, posted 10. July 2008

 

Dirty jokes

  • We're often told that dirty jokes are the male method of intimidating women.
    In fact, men tell dirty jokes to peers to bond to peers not to intimidate peers.
    When a boss tells a dirty joke it's often his unconscious way of getting to say not to take him so seriously and therefore not being intimidated. Audio interview with Warren Farrell, Farrell.com, US American spokesman of men's liberation, men's rights activist, former director of the National Organisation for Women, on The Myth of Male Power, part 17 of 19, presented by Simon & Schuster Audio, host Tom Howard, minute 2:24, 10:01 minutes duration, posted 10. July 2008

 

Hazing

  • Men always tested men [by hazing them] before they trusted men.
    We must realize that male hazing was not an outcome of men being powerful but it is an outcome of men making themselves part of the machine, part of the team (like in the military). And not taking things personally [and disconnecting them from their feelings] was a part of that.
    Historically, the defenses that men created to be able to handle hazing was their armor, but it was armor to other people not to wear armor. Audio interview with Warren Farrell, Farrell.com, US American spokesman of men's liberation, men's rights activist, former director of the National Organisation for Women, on The Myth of Male Power, part 17 of 19, presented by Simon & Schuster Audio, host Tom Howard, minute 4:18, 10:01 minutes duration, posted 10. July 2008

 

Selfesteem (disposability)

  • The wound that unifies all men is really the wound of our disposability. Audio interview with Warren Farrell Farrell.com, US American spokesman of men's liberation, men's rights activist, former director of the National Organisation for Women, on The Myth of Male Power, part 17 of 19, presented by Simon & Schuster Audio, host Tom Howard, minute 9:48, 10:01 minutes duration, posted 10. July 2008

 

Communicating

 

  • We as men have not spoken up. We can't expect the world to hear what men have not said. We haven't spoken up in part because training to be a man is training to cut ourselves off from feelings so we don't get in touch with what we want to speak about. Audio interview with Warren Farrell Farrell.com, US American spokesman of men's liberation, men's rights activist, former director of the National Organisation for Women, on The Myth of Male Power, part 19 of 19, presented by Simon & Schuster Audio, host Tom Howard, minute 1:30, 3:57 minutes duration, posted 10. July 2008

 

  • In the future survival, marriage, and the family will all require the communicative male. Audio interview with Warren Farrell Farrell.com, US American spokesman of men's liberation, men's rights activist, former director of the National Organisation for Women on The Myth of Male Power, part 6 of 19, presented by Simon & Schuster Audio, host Tom Howard, minute 8:38, 10:00 minutes duration, posted 10. July 2008

 

Vulnerability

  • [Women] were falling in love with men who appeared to be invulnerable.
    The ability to kill always requires the vulnerability of being exposed to being killed.
    The irony of male allegeability is that it is created by vulnerability that is masked as invulnerability. And to this day this is the male tragedy. Audio interview with Warren Farrell Farrell.com, US American spokesman of men's liberation, men's rights activist, former director of the National Organisation for Women, on The Myth of Male Power, part 8 of 19, presented by Simon & Schuster Audio, host Tom Howard, minute 0:05, 10:01 minutes duration, posted 10. July 2008

 

Men's fathers and feelings (the two F’s)

  • When a man is able to connect with his feelings, he is able to care more. When he is able to connect with the father that was missing, he’s able to both care more and recognize the importance of being a good father. When you care about being a good father, you start caring more about your own children and the type of father you are. Interview with Warren Farrell Farrell.com, US American spokesman of men's liberation, men's rights activist, former director of the National Organisation for Women, presented by MenWeb.org, J. Steven Svoboda, 12. June 2008

 

Foundation of Civilising women

  • By taking care of the killing for women it can be said that men civilized women. Audio interview with Warren Farrell Farrell.com, US American spokesman of men's liberation, men's rights activist, former director of the National Organisation for Women, on The Myth of Male Power, part 8 of 19, presented by Simon & Schuster Audio, host Tom Howard, 10:01 minutes duration, posted 10. July 2008

 

Hero

  • If you were willing to sacrifice yourself, you would be called a hero. The Greek word for hero was “serow,” from which we get our words servant, slave, and protector. All come etymologically out of the word hero. This tells in one word the entire story of masculinity. Interview with Warren Farrell Farrell.com, US American spokesman of men's liberation, men's rights activist, former director of the National Organisation for Women, presented by MenWeb.org, J. Steven Svoboda, 12. June 2008

 

Opression – Survival

  • Men don’t oppress women any more than women oppress men. The whole concept of men and women oppressing each other is ridiculous. That’s a fabrication of the feminist movement. What is true is that both sexes have roles that can legitimately be considered oppressive, but those roles are not roles designed by men or women, they were designed by biological necessity and the necessity of survival. Survival was the oppressor. And in order to survive, you didn’t teach people to focus on rights, you taught them to focus on responsibilities, you taught them to focus on obligations. Interview with Warren Farrell ['The Gloria Steinem of Men’s Liberation' [The Chicago Tribune]], US American founding member of The Integral Institute, author of the international best-sellers Why Men Are the Way They Are and The Myth of Male Power, the only man in the US elected three times to the Board of Directors of the National Organization for Women, New York City, served on the boards of three national men’s organizations, presented by MenWeb.org, J. Steven Svoboda, [1997] 12. June 2008

 

Definition of power

  • To me power is about control over one’s life. Warren Farrell Farrell.com, US American spokesman of men's liberation, men's rights activist, former director of the National Organisation for Women, Is Feminism Favoritism? Q&A, presented The Atlanta Journal-Constitution, Maureen Downey, 21. October 2007

 

Errors of feminism

  • The fundamental feminist false assumption: Female powerlessness meant male power. Warren Farrell Farrell.com, US American spokesman of men's liberation, men's rights activist, former director of the National Organisation for Women, Why Men Are the Way They Are, 1. September 1988

 

 

  • So frequently today I see our daughters, who are interested [...] humanistic issues, go off to school and take Women's Studies courses, and then they come out angry at men – and these are oftentimes the brightest, the most intelligent, and the most potentially loving women, coming out of their university classes with an extension of Marxist feminism that says that the males are oppressing women. And that's just a misunderstanding of the gender development over the millennia. Warren Farrell ['The Gloria Steinem of Men’s Liberation' [The Chicago Tribune]], US American founding member of The Integral Institute, author of the international best-sellers Why Men Are the Way They Are and The Myth of Male Power, the only man in the US elected three times to the Board of Directors of the National Organization for Women, New York City, served on the boards of three national men’s organizations,

 

Evolution – gender transition

  • I discovered that, when women earn about $100,000 per year, they say, “I have enough money; I need time — for my family, friends, myself, to travel, and for exercise.” Men need to learn this from women. Psychologically, men are about where women were in the 1950s. We need to help our sons question the traditional male definition of power — feeling obligated to earn money someone else spends while he dies sooner. That’s powerlessness. Warren Farrell Farrell.com, US American spokesman of men's liberation, men's rights activist, former director of the National Organisation for Women, Is Feminism Favoritism? Q&A, presented The Atlanta Journal-Constitution, Maureen Downey, 21. October 2007

 

  • However, the moral, ethical, and technological advancements commonly associated with modernity have begun to change the rules entirely, accelerated by both men’s and women’s destinies being liberated from their biology – especially as muscle-power began to be increasingly replaced by mechanical and microchip-driven power, and as birth control offered women much more control over pregnancy. These evolutionary developments have enabled a considerable amount of women to migrate from the private sphere into the public, for the first time in history.
    How can men make a similar transition from the "brute power" of the public sphere to the "invisible powers" of compassion, connection, introspection, and sexuality traditionally associated with the private sphere? Warren Farrell and Ken Wilber, Does Feminism Discriminate Against Men? Beyond Feminism and Masculism, Redefining the Relationships Between Men and Women, written by Corey W. deVos

 

  • Society is something like a boat, with gender roles rigidly assigned so that men row predominantly on one side of the boat, and women row on the other, more or less assuring that the boat keeps moving forward.
    However, since the rise of the enormously beneficial women’s liberation movement, women have begun to learn how to row on both sides of the boat — exploring many of the roles traditionally associated with men — who, unfortunately, have not experienced a similar sort of "men’s liberation" movement, and are thus still rowing on the same side they always have. What happens, of course, is that rather than continuing to move the boat forward, the boat begins to move in a circle, seriously compromising any sort of meaningful progress for humanity as a whole. We are very much in this boat together, and must therefore learn how to consciously transform both genders, culturally and individually. Warren Farrell and Ken Wilber, Does Feminism Discriminate Against Men? Beyond Feminism and Masculism, Redefining the Relationships Between Men and Women, written by Corey W. deVos

 

  • So what can we do to help men learn how to row on the other side of the boat? Unfortunately, there exist virtually no role models for men to guide this sort of transition, no rites of passage or cultural road signs to help remind men that there are indeed higher and deeper levels of masculine maturity yet to be explored and developed. Warren Farrell and Ken Wilber, Does Feminism Discriminate Against Men? Beyond Feminism and Masculism, Redefining the Relationships Between Men and Women, written by Corey W. deVos

Englische Texte – English section on men's issues and men's literature

Men's health within the domination system

In a society in which men are expected to be strong, independent, aggressive, and impervious to emotional
stress, it is inevitable that men’s health will suffer.
• Boys are nine times more likely than girls to suffer from hyperactivity.
• Young men are five times more likely to commit suicide than young women.
• Men have far higher rates of substance abuse and antisocial personality disorder than women.
William S. Pollack, Ronald F. Levant, New Psychotherapy for Men, John Wiley & Sons; 1st edition, 15. January 1998

The content of the Man Box of unconscious men

The Man Box mentality is drummed into virtually all men and boys while being socialized into a male dominated culture. Locked into the brain circuits it led many men to disrespect, mistreat and abuse women and each other.

  • Be a protector.
  • Show outer strength.
  • Show outer courage.
  • Show aggression (anger).
  • Act tough.
  • Be athletic.
  • Make decisions on your own.
  • Exercise control over ...
  • Demonstrate dominance – especially over women.
  • View women as property.
  • Treat women as objects.
  • Be heterosexual.

  • Don't cry openly or openly express emotions – with the exception of anger.
  • Do not show weakness or fear.
  • Do not ever ask for help.
  • Do not be like a woman (sissy).
  • Do not be like a gay man.

 

US American educator and activist to end violence against women Tony Porter shares how he was socialized into the Man Box, how he had suffered in it, how he had pressed it onto to his 5-year-old son, how he had succumbed to the man box call pretending to sexually abuse a 16 year old mentally ill girl to be accepted as a "real" man in the gang, how ashamed he was about not being able to speak the truth and to act honorably, to act as a gentle man. After he grasped the tragedy of a world in violence and abuse – he is promoting a gentle world for both men and women.
Tony Porter makes a call to men everywhere: Don't "act like a man." Break free of the "man box."

 

Video interview with Tony Porter, US American educator and activist to end violence against women on A call to men, presented by TED Talks,
11:14 minutes duration, filmed and posted December 2010, YouTube film, posted 10. December 2010

 

Links zum Thema Männer und Männerliteratur (engl.) / Men and Men's literature

Männerliteratur

Männerliteratur (engl.)

Externe Weblinks


Externe Weblinks (engl.)


Audio und Videolinks (engl.)

  • Man alive!, freely accessible web radio program for men's topics, Manaliveradio.com, hosts Michael Pisacane und Sally Bickford

[kostenloses Webradio-Programm zu Männerthemen, Manaliveradio.com, Gastgeber Michael Pisacane und Sally Bickford]


Videolinks (engl.) – Status der modernen Männer / Status of modern men

Videolinks (engl.) – Heilung der Männer / Healing men

Audio und Videolinks (engl.) – Dr. Warren Farrell

Audio und Videolinks (engl.) – Black HUMOR

  • Video presentation by George Carlin, US American comedian, The Male Disease, YouTube film, 6:31 minutes duration, posted 17. November 2009
    All the problems in the world, repeat, all the problems in the world, can be traced to what fathers do to their sons. minute 1:22
  • Video presentation by George Carlin, US American comedian, Testosterone, YouTube film, 3:23 minutes duration, posted 1. September 2009
  • Video presentation by George Carlin, US American comedian, Women, YouTube film, 4:28 minutes duration, posted 3. September 2009

 

Interne Links

Englisch Wiki

Hawkins

 

 

1 Die zwei Versionen der Darwinschen Evolutionstheorie nach Dr. David Loye

2 The content of a Man Box

3 Two versions of Darwin's Evolutionary Theory – Dr. David Loye